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Community Conversation => Support groups => Topic started by: Madison (kiara jamie) on December 16, 2013, 12:56:45 AM

Title: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on December 16, 2013, 12:56:45 AM
is there anyone on this forum that goes to the calgary trans meeting at the outlink centre ? just wondering
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on December 16, 2013, 09:10:24 PM
ya for sure ive been thinking about going to the meeting because i haven't started my RLE yet and i am still in the closet, so i really don't have any friends i can talk to that know what is really going on in my life because im kind of living two lives that cannot intersect, blahhh nevermind im a mess, just run away while you still can lol
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on December 16, 2013, 09:30:45 PM
ya i would def like to text and trust me i am so excited to chat with someone local also, as much as i love this forum i still kind of feel disconnected a little, i'll pm you my number
Title: calgary
Post by: ErinM on December 25, 2013, 03:52:37 PM
Odd that I ended up in this sub-form at this time purely by accidental click :).

I try to go as often as possible. We meet on the third Friday and first Sunday of each month. I make most of the Friday groups, but Sunday is tricky for me at times due to work.

Feel free to PM me as well.
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: MadeleineG on December 25, 2013, 04:02:38 PM
Good to see a little YCC community forming. Now if only the Saskatoon crown would step forward.  :-\
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Erica_Y on February 22, 2014, 08:14:05 PM
Hello I am local and just joined Susan's today. I have been observing for a while here and decided it was time. I am in a similar situation in that I am leading 2 lives and I feel the same loneliness for sure. I have not made the group meeting yet do to travel or family obligations. I am planning on the March hopefully. Have you attended the meetings since your post?

Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on February 22, 2014, 10:43:58 PM
Quote from: Erica_Y on February 22, 2014, 08:14:05 PM
Hello I am local and just joined Susan's today. I have been observing for a while here and decided it was time. I am in a similar situation in that I am leading 2 lives and I feel the same loneliness for sure. I have not made the group meeting yet do to travel or family obligations. I am planning on the March hopefully. Have you attended the meetings since your post?

i just attended the meeting last night for the first time
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Erica_Y on February 23, 2014, 10:12:13 AM
Thats good did you have a good meeting and find people to relate to?
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on February 23, 2014, 10:44:07 AM
yep, i was all shy the first couple minutes but after a while i felt comfortable telling others that i was trans, i just turned into an open book
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Erica_Y on February 23, 2014, 11:25:55 AM
That's great Kiara I need to make sure I make the next meeting schedule allowing. If want to connect let me know as I to am looking for others to relate to. Are you out and about as Kiara?

Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on February 23, 2014, 12:12:43 PM
nah im still in boy mode all the time but im feeling close to going out part time
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Alyssa L. on February 23, 2014, 05:38:41 PM
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Post by: Alyssa L. on February 23, 2014, 05:40:15 PM
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Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Danielle Emmalee on February 23, 2014, 06:14:12 PM
oooh more Calgary people.  I'm the one who deleted my posts and made Kiara look like she was talking to herself in the first few posts.
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Danielle Emmalee on February 23, 2014, 06:16:39 PM
I'll try to make myself go to the March 21st meeting.
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on February 23, 2014, 08:35:20 PM
Quote from: AlyssaL on February 23, 2014, 05:38:41 PM
Hey Kiara,

I was glad to meet you and a few of the other girls at the meeting on Friday. I signed up to Susan's that night, but apparently I have to have X number of posts before I could private message you. We talked for a few minutes after the meeting and I got your info.

Look forward to talking to you more.

Alyssa.

P.S. is your avatar a picture of you all done up? If so, you look amazing!

aw thnx for the compliment, maybe one day i will have the courage to go out like some of the pictures i posted in the fabulous thread, that sux that you can't pm me until 15 post but meh keeps the ->-bleeped-<-s away hopefully lolz,sorry for not remembering since i was all nerves all night, but i didn't remember anyones name, were wearing the green sweater?


Quote from: Caysee Danielle on February 23, 2014, 06:16:39 PM
I'll try to make myself go to the March 21st meeting.

you better girl, it'd be nice to meet you finally, i think im gonna go to every Friday meeting that i can make from now on
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Jamie D on February 23, 2014, 08:54:24 PM
Quote from: kiara jamie on February 23, 2014, 12:12:43 PM
nah im still in boy mode all the time but im feeling close to going out part time

LOLZ - your avatar is pure "male fail"!!!!!!!!!

Bundle up over your femme attire and get out and circulate!
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on February 23, 2014, 08:58:59 PM
Quote from: JdlR on February 23, 2014, 08:54:24 PM
LOLZ - your avatar is pure "male fail"!!!!!!!!!

Bundle up over your femme attire and get out and circulate!

ya im getting to the point when i just look in the mirror and wonder why i am scared of going out in public
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Erica_Y on February 23, 2014, 09:20:50 PM
Has any one here done the New Directions social on the Sunday. I am curious how that event works and what to expect. I think there is one coming up shortly.
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Alyssa L. on February 23, 2014, 09:23:06 PM
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Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Alyssa L. on February 23, 2014, 09:24:42 PM
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Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on February 23, 2014, 09:47:25 PM
Quote from: AlyssaL on February 23, 2014, 09:23:06 PM
Kiara,

Maybe it is the name, but you have a resemblance to Keira Knightley. You look night and day in that picture from how your were dressed at the meeting. I hope you attend every friday meeting going forward, i know I will be.

I was the one in the purple sweater and grey wool coat. Think the one with the drag queen eyebrows :P

15 posts wont be too hard, I am already digging this site a lot.

Alyssa

aww thnx i don't look like keira knightly my profile pic is a strange angle that just favored me in that picture, i look more like this

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi930.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fad144%2Finfinitepure%2Fprofile5.jpg&hash=1a3113af9f85969f7904197a41a10a232f4a6cd8) (http://s930.photobucket.com/user/infinitepure/media/profile5.jpg.html)

glad to see you liking the site, i have found susans to be a huge information hub for myself,
and also i remember your grey peacoat, i was eyeing it and thinking "i want a coat like that, cuz mine is black but now grey looks better"lol

Quote from: Erica_Y on February 23, 2014, 09:20:50 PM
Has any one here done the New Directions social on the Sunday. I am curious how that event works and what to expect. I think there is one coming up shortly.

i am also interested in how the sunday group goes because i haven't gone full female in public yet, but i like your bike there erica, is that a ducati 1199? i have an 05 R1,

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi930.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fad144%2Finfinitepure%2F123.jpg&hash=8445ba5e69ae20b8ece13138ed8ea9b1712ad3b4) (http://s930.photobucket.com/user/infinitepure/media/123.jpg.html)

we should have a "New Directions bike ride"
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Jamie D on February 23, 2014, 09:56:37 PM
Quote from: kiara jamie on February 23, 2014, 08:58:59 PM
ya im getting to the point when i just look in the mirror and wonder why i am scared of going out in public

My guess, as good as you look, it will be liberating.

Besides, I think TiffanyT has a crush on you!  ;)
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on February 23, 2014, 10:08:42 PM
Quote from: JdlR on February 23, 2014, 09:56:37 PM
My guess, as good as you look, it will be liberating.

Besides, I think TiffanyT has a crush on you!  ;)

ya i think im gonna be all nerves and then its just gonna click and i'll be like "wow nothing bad is happening and people aren't staring"

and TiffanyT is so adorable, i definitely have a crush on her
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Danielle Emmalee on February 23, 2014, 10:08:53 PM
Quote from: JdlR on February 23, 2014, 09:56:37 PM
Besides, I think TiffanyT has a crush on you!  ;)

I might have one too :P
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Jamie D on February 23, 2014, 10:15:43 PM
That makes three! 

And Caysee, that goes for you two.  I have seen your femme avatars.  There is no reason with your soft features you couldn't pass right off the bat.
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Erica_Y on February 23, 2014, 10:18:56 PM
Quotewe should have a "New Directions bike ride"

I would be up for that for sure. Your 05 R1 is a nice ride. I had a 01 R1 and had to give up biking for a few years when the kids came along. I loved my R1. When I decided to get a bike again I decided on a Duc I always wanted a V-Twin sport bike. I ended up getting a 07 1098 (Red) although I am strongly thinking about switching it to pink like the one in the picture which is a 1098R. That would be to much bike for this girl now ;D. I think a chic on a pink bike would be cool the Hello Kitty would be a bonus. The DUC has allot of emotional spirit to it just like me now so it is a good match!

I am planning on attending the next Sunday at this point unless something unexpected comes up like the kids getting sick or something.
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Jamie D on February 23, 2014, 10:20:42 PM
Kiara Jamie, I just noticed something little, that make a big difference.  Look at your eyebrow arch in your picture and your avatar - side by side:

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi930.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fad144%2Finfinitepure%2Fprofile5.jpg&hash=1a3113af9f85969f7904197a41a10a232f4a6cd8)(https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php?action=dlattach;attach=24992;type=avatar)

To me, the avatar seems more feminine.  Am I crazy?
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on February 23, 2014, 10:22:35 PM
Quote from: JdlR on February 23, 2014, 10:15:43 PM
That makes three! 

And Caysee, that goes for you two.  I have seen your femme avatars.  There is no reason with your soft features you couldn't pass right off the bat.

amigosh im gonna be a heart breaker soon!!! lolz im just happy to have made friends with some of the ladies on this forum, and Caysee i think if you have the confidence you will pass better than i will, im a little bit of a shy one in person
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Danielle Emmalee on February 23, 2014, 10:24:24 PM
Quote from: kiara jamie on February 23, 2014, 10:22:35 PM
amigosh im gonna be a heart breaker soon!!! lolz im just happy to have made friends with some of the ladies on this forum, and Caysee i think if you have the confidence you will pass better than i will, im a little bit of a shy one in person

I'm probably more shy than you.  Thanks though. 
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on February 23, 2014, 10:24:36 PM
Quote from: JdlR on February 23, 2014, 10:20:42 PM
Kiara Jamie, I just noticed something little, that make a big difference.  Look at your eyebrow arch in your picture and your avatar - side by side:

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi930.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fad144%2Finfinitepure%2Fprofile5.jpg&hash=1a3113af9f85969f7904197a41a10a232f4a6cd8)(https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php?action=dlattach;attach=24992;type=avatar)

To me, the avatar seems more feminine.  Am I crazy?

no your not crazy, i raised my eyebrow in the avatar picture and due to the fuzziness its not noticeable, cannot wait for FFS, maybe i will have eyebrow arches like that in a rested state
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Alyssa L. on February 25, 2014, 08:28:33 AM
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Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on February 25, 2014, 10:22:11 PM
Quote from: AlyssaL on February 25, 2014, 08:28:33 AM
Hey Kiara,

Will you be going to the Sunday support group?

i don't know if i will, from what they were saying about the group on sunday, it sounds like they go out in public and i don't know if im ready for a public scene as of yet, im really thinking about going femme to the next friday meeting but im not to sure if i want to be around any cisgender people as of yet, too much of a little scaredy kitty
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Alyssa L. on February 26, 2014, 10:08:40 AM
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Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on February 26, 2014, 08:47:17 PM
me too i don't know if you have seen my pictures but i have the worst eye makeup skills
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on March 02, 2014, 09:54:48 PM
so did anyone go to the meeting today? just wondering how it went?
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Erica_Y on March 03, 2014, 11:35:25 AM
I went to the Sunday social, my first attendance to the New Direction group. There group size was smaller maybe due to the cold. It was a great time with lots of good information exchanged and stories shared amoungst the individuals. Now that my feet are wet I plan on attending many more meetings and socials. There is something comforting about being amoungst people who share similar paths, challenges and rewards. Why I waited so long is a mystery, however the wait is over now. Full steam ahead!
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Alyssa L. on March 03, 2014, 11:51:29 AM
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Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Erica_Y on March 03, 2014, 02:06:41 PM
Hi Alyssa

Thats what they said, one meeting had 3 rows of seating or something like that which would be interesting for sure. I will definitely attend more meetings and I am looking forward to meeting you as well. I hope it is warmer for the next one though the walk was frigid ⛄️
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Alyssa L. on March 03, 2014, 02:47:21 PM
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Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Erica_Y on March 03, 2014, 07:09:56 PM
Sounds like a great opportunity to expand the wardrobe ! Like we ever need an excuse for such things however it is good to have a reason to control the guilt gene.

Title: Re: calgary
Post by: JesseG on March 04, 2014, 11:13:32 PM
Hey all, it's Jesse.
Alyssa and I know each other fairly well. Kiara - you would've seen me as the one in drab sitting on your right in the Feb 21 meeting. Well, guess what - I got the nerves up to come dressed for last Sunday, but the cold kept many people away.

I didn't know that the Sunday group goes out in public - perhaps in the summer; I thought we were going to build a fire in the library! I'd be game for going out... but I think my eyelids froze together on the way from the car to the door.

Lol Erica I knew who you were the moment I saw that pink Ducati avatar... sigh!
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on March 04, 2014, 11:53:59 PM
Jesse, good to see you found us here, grats on going to the meeting dressed, more than i can say but meh i will get there, so was the sunday group any different to the friday group or was it ran the same?
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: JesseG on March 05, 2014, 12:24:13 AM
Hi Kiara,
There was a different moderator on Sunday. From what she explained the Friday meetings are for the 'heavier' stuff, and Sundays are social events.

Still, the two meetings were similar, like a free flow chat session. In a roundabout way we did eventually touch tougher subjects, but there was less of the focused medical talk like Friday. Perhaps with better weather and higher attendance Sundays are more party-like?

I was just happy having a chance to interact with supportive people while dressed.
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Erica_Y on March 05, 2014, 09:48:31 AM
Hey Jesse it was great to meet you and good for you taking that step to come dressed. As the costs of transition escalate I am thinking the bike is going to need to go u

Kiara before you know it you will of stepped out of the house and never look back
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: JesseG on March 06, 2014, 11:26:09 AM
Speaking of stepping out - the Illusions monthly meet&greet is tonight at 7:30 - 11:30. Nervous but excited.

Anyone here ever been to the Illusions clubhouse?
Title: calgary
Post by: ErinM on March 13, 2014, 12:20:45 AM

Quote from: AlyssaL on February 23, 2014, 05:40:15 PM
Hey Erin,

I met you at the last meeting and we talked for a while. Just wanted to see how things are going in your left as we missed you at the meeting this Friday. I was going by Ryan in the meeting, but I finally picked a name that I like :)

Hope all is well.

Alyssa

Sorry Alyssa,

I didn't mean to ignore you for whatever reason I had no idea that there were further posts to this thread. I just happened to wander into the sub forum on a hunch today.

First of all, I love the name! Congratulations!

I missed the last meeting because I had my teeth out the day before. I was on pain killers and trying to learn to talk with my dentures. It has been proving harder than voice training, but thankfully they put in a soft liner today and that has helped enormously.

I was going to go for the Sunday meeting, but was having an extremely difficult weekend.

I'm making it a point to make the next Friday meeting. It's been too long. :(
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Danielle Emmalee on March 18, 2014, 09:33:31 AM
So I'm scheduled to work this Friday, but I'm trying to switch with someone else.  If I do, I'll try to work up the courage to come.
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Alyssa L. on March 18, 2014, 12:20:53 PM
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Post by: Danielle Emmalee on March 21, 2014, 01:20:27 PM
Ok so I'm trying to talk myself out of going....why should I come?  What can I expect?
Title: calgary
Post by: ErinM on March 21, 2014, 01:45:26 PM
You should come because I'll be there. ;)

But seriously, I talked myself out of going for years and I ended up feeling pretty lonely trying to get through this myself.

One of the biggest favours I did for myself was to just give it a try.

On Fridays you can expect a couple hours of group discussion, usually discussing what's going in in our lives.

After that we typically break off into smaller informal groups.

No excuses. I want to see you there!
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Alyssa L. on March 21, 2014, 01:46:15 PM
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Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Danielle Emmalee on March 21, 2014, 01:49:59 PM
Is there going to be pressure to talk in front of a group?
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Post by: Alyssa L. on March 21, 2014, 02:15:58 PM
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Title: calgary
Post by: ErinM on March 21, 2014, 02:22:44 PM
There is no requirement to talk of you don't want to. At most there is friendly encouragement, but you can still say no and no one will judge you.
Title: calgary
Post by: Keira Rosa on March 22, 2014, 01:40:56 AM
Hey girls!

Posting here cuz i might be a little tipsy right now. Its sebastian. This will eventually be my name once i transition. Just to let everyone now my username :)

Title: calgary
Post by: Keira Rosa on March 22, 2014, 01:41:24 AM
Profile picture will be uploaded sometime around april 16
Title: calgary
Post by: ErinM on March 22, 2014, 07:28:16 AM
Beautiful Name!

It was great to see you out there last night.

Title: Re: calgary
Post by: zoezatara on March 22, 2014, 12:28:49 PM
I just joined this site based on the groups recommendations, thanks for the heads up about this site :D

Title: Re: calgary
Post by: JesseG on March 22, 2014, 02:42:15 PM
Caysee, funny you should ask - we had a mini discussion yesterday along the lines of "we're so glad we're not forced to talk and we don't do any of those embarrassing icebreaker games". I'm sure I've seen people in previous meetings that didn't say one word, and they weren't put on the spot because of it. The thing is, after hearing others share their anxieties and stories for an hour+, most people come out of their shell anyway. It starts quiet but by the end everyone is talking and laughing.

We all sit in a circle in a library room with a table in the middle, if you're wondering. You don't go up to a podium or anything. Amy, the facilitator, is like the mom I wish I had.

Heya Sebastian - that makes two Keira's now in our circle (well, Keira / Kiara). Keira Rose has a certain ring to it...

Hi Zoe - welcome! Sorry, my memory is like a sieve - which one were you at the meeting? I was the dork that said I've known my parents my whole life  ::)
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: zoezatara on March 22, 2014, 05:17:57 PM
Hey Jesse, I was the one dressed in black too nervous to say anything. It's only the second time I've gone, I'm very very bad around people in general. I'm really just trying to make some friends though :P
Title: calgary
Post by: Keira Rosa on March 22, 2014, 06:35:38 PM
Yes, for all its worth i had name picked out months ago haha. I always liked keira and it goes well with my last name :)
Title: calgary
Post by: Keira Rosa on March 22, 2014, 06:36:23 PM
Welcome zoe! It was my second time too. But its good group of people :)
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: zoezatara on March 22, 2014, 07:28:11 PM
Everyone seems wonderful. I plan to keep coming back.
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Danielle Emmalee on March 22, 2014, 09:22:19 PM
I'm so disappointed in myself for not going.  I was all ready, dressed up, switched shifts with someone so that I could make it and then at the last minute just didn't leave for the bus. :(

I'll give it another go next meeting.  By then I plan to be out to all of my family and most of my friends, so it's possible I might really need some support.
Title: calgary
Post by: ErinM on March 22, 2014, 09:42:21 PM
I'm sorry you couldn't make it. I know how intimidating it can feel. I put off going for years because I was too nervous to go.

All I can say is that I regret putting it off for so long, it is really a great group of people there and I'm always looking forward to the next meeting.

We'll all be glad to see you there when you're ready to take that step.
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: JesseG on March 22, 2014, 10:40:45 PM
Hi Zoe, aaah, it all makes sense with the avatar. That's a nice pic by the way! Yeah, that's a common sentiment that members of the group express - we're out looking for some community, some friends that understand.

Caysee, if the bus commute is stopping you (nerve racking!), a carpool might suit you better. I drive three empty seats with me from the NW.  ;D
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on March 23, 2014, 05:50:46 PM
i haven't had the strength to show up en femme, but i will still always make the meetings even if i have to go in boy mode, its all about just going as comfortable as you can at first,

caysee i think you should just come in boy mode just to see the meeting first hand and then you can make the leap to come dressed next time, if fear is stopping you from going just reduce the fear
Title: calgary
Post by: ErinM on March 23, 2014, 08:41:31 PM
Madison makes an excellent point. The members at New Directions come from a huge variety in terms of where they are in their transition and comfort level. On the same note it is also a very safe place to experiment with your presentation when you feel ready.

You are completely safe to set your own pace. There is no pressure for you to do anything that you are not comfortable with.

Also one common thing from what I've heard is that most if not all have some degree of fear the first few times they come.
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on March 23, 2014, 09:34:49 PM
but don't worry if your gonna sit next to me im gonna help you come out of your bubble, no matter how much you blush, hehehe, i was a ball of nerves the first time i came and didn't speak much the first 3 hours but no one noticed
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Alyssa L. on March 24, 2014, 08:26:50 AM
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Post by: Keira Rosa on March 24, 2014, 12:24:25 PM
Yes Madison is a cute name. Like it a lot.

And thanks Alyssa! I want to get profile pic done. Got a date with a friend since her parents leave town to go all out. Not gonna lie a bit scared to go full out and do my eyebrows and all. You will all be the first to see it as I will probably upload it right away :)
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Alyssa L. on March 24, 2014, 01:19:02 PM
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Post by: Keira Rosa on March 24, 2014, 03:36:37 PM
Hahaha we will see. I will have to def answer some questions after that day.

And yea you never go full retard haha

Keira ;)
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Alyssa L. on March 24, 2014, 03:47:13 PM
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Post by: Keira Rosa on March 24, 2014, 08:17:29 PM
Hmm it entails shaving my legs (maybe arms) doing my nails, eyebrows, the whole package. And try to come up with girl haircut for my hair.
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: JesseG on March 25, 2014, 02:30:03 AM
Hi Keira Rosa,
Try to practice your new look a day or two before going to the event. Trying to experiment on your big day will make you nervous and if you screw something up, you'll have no backup plan. You don't want to be rushed when plucking your eyebrows, lol!
Title: calgary
Post by: Keira Rosa on April 08, 2014, 02:06:30 PM
Hey Jessee i saw you posted on the gaming forum about elder scrolls online. Have you gotten it? I did. And felt the same way about the non linear exploration in skyrim. Clocked a lot of hours into skyrim.

So far teso did a good job for an mmo at rewarding exploration. But youre still kind of pigeon holed into linear questing. Mobs get hard and without a group they can be a pain. Saying that I was still able to solo my way into the third country skipping the first two so it is doable so explore
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: JesseG on April 08, 2014, 07:43:30 PM
Hey Keira,
Not yet, I thought you needed an invite to get into the ESO beta?
I miss Elder Scrolls. Sigh, sometimes I feel like I could live in Skyrim, riding a horse through the marshes...

Nuts, took an arrow to the knee.  ::)
Title: calgary
Post by: Keira Rosa on April 09, 2014, 05:02:50 PM
Hey game is out already. Been out for like a week. Check it out, and if you join make sure you go daggerfall covenant. Thats where im at ;)

Ps. Best part is no one has taken an arrow to the knee here
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Alyssa L. on April 10, 2014, 08:31:44 AM
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Title: Re: calgary
Post by: JesseG on April 10, 2014, 11:49:00 AM
I missed the launch somehow. Just checked it out; kinda disappointed that they don't offer a trial. The reviews confirm the thing I was suspecting: MMO design style doesn't really mesh with Elder Scrolls open-world. I'm less likely to shell out the money just to try it. With MMOs my feeling is "free to try, pay to stay".
Title: calgary
Post by: Keira Rosa on April 11, 2014, 12:02:57 PM
Hey alyssa!

It got pushed back to next saturday. Ill post it up then :)


And for both of you: the pvp is intense. But you need a good computer. My little macbook pro cant handle the pvp. And yes jessee its not the same as skyrim but MMO wise its the most open world and most iteractive mmo ive played. And Im a mmo whore haha. Ive played a lot of them. You can check youtube videos as a sort of trial view. The game is really not open world because of level zones but inside those level zones it is very open and relaxed. If you are in a group of 4 you can do any quest or dungeon in that zone no problem
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Keira Rosa on April 21, 2014, 01:48:39 AM
Profile picture is finally up! Only one while I got short hair thought :)
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Alyssa L. on April 21, 2014, 11:18:02 AM
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Title: Re: calgary
Post by: JesseG on April 22, 2014, 12:32:17 PM
Hi Keira, looking nice, I'll have to stop calling you 'Sebastian', ha ha.   :D

Welcome to the wonderful and frustrating art of taking feminine selfies. I can't see your face too well, but you appear a lot more girly than I remember you in the meetings!
Title: calgary
Post by: Keira Rosa on April 22, 2014, 11:55:00 PM
Hi!

I guess full body shots dont work to well as profile pic. Alyssa I did eyeliner, foundation, eye shadow, mascara, and lipstick. And dressing up.

And thanks jesse, maybe next meeting during introduction ill bring it up. And the real pain is eye liner. That was first time putting eyeliner on. That is tough to take off.
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Alyssa L. on April 23, 2014, 07:59:47 AM
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Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on April 23, 2014, 06:50:27 PM
keira you need to work on posing more feminine, it takes a lot of mirror hours to get there but when you do your pictures will make you feel more confident, my posture was crazy masculine for the first couple months of selfies i took

also like me you will learn to love black tops since black makes body areas look smaller and vnecks are awesome for making shoulders look smaller while accentuating your chest

i have bought about 5 of these tee's and they are the most flattering at reducing male shoulders, and when im just lounging around home its usually one of these tops or one of my lululemon power Y tanks

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimage.venusswimwear.com%2Fis%2Fimage%2FVenus%2FZ9008BK.4.s%3F%24ProductPage380x532%24&hash=d6587626af7174c81c761dcc16323ba8cb72c0f6) (http://image.venusswimwear.com/is/image/Venus/Z9008BK.4.s?$ProductPage380x532$)
http://www.venus.com/viewproduct.aspx?BRANCH=7~63~&ProductDisplayID=8707
Title: calgary
Post by: Keira Rosa on April 25, 2014, 06:43:08 PM
Yea i need to practice more haha. I was never one to like pictures anyways. Thats something I gotta work on.

Thanks for the tips :)
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: JesseG on April 27, 2014, 07:51:49 PM
Quote from: Madison (kiara jamie) on April 23, 2014, 06:50:27 PM

i have bought about 5 of these tee's and they are the most flattering at reducing male shoulders, and when im just lounging around home its usually one of these tops or one of my lululemon power Y tanks

What's reducing the look of her shoulders is the fact that I'm not looking at her shoulders AT ALL.  >:-)

Joking aside, you gotta share your posing secrets next ND meeting. It should be entertaining for the FtM boys while we contort our bodies.

Keira, if you're in a hurry, baby oil will take off just about any makeup in a pinch, waterproof mascara or whatever - and it doesn't hurt if you get it in your eyes. Just keep in mind makeup experts say baby oil is not good for your face, it can clog pores and cause breakouts. I use it around my eyes because my makeup is heaviest there, and I don't break out around the eyes anyway.

Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Alyssa L. on April 29, 2014, 04:23:11 PM
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Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on April 29, 2014, 11:17:24 PM
i might if the weather is good, but sundays are usually my day off to sleep and recover for the next 6 days of work, i'll probably ride my bike if do go though so i won't be going femme
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Alyssa L. on April 30, 2014, 09:07:23 AM
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Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on April 30, 2014, 09:15:35 PM
Quote from: Alyssa L. on April 30, 2014, 09:07:23 AM
Femme or no-femme, always happy to hang out with a Susan's Celebrity in person! :)

bahahaha thats cute, im glad you think of me as a celebrity on susan's, i think im just one of the regulars, im so dissapointed at the way the weather looks in the 7 day forecast, im so sick of snow, this song is stuck in my head when i realize its gonna snow and i wont be able to ride my bike on the weekend

http://youtu.be/GugsCdLHm-Q
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: JesseG on April 30, 2014, 10:27:11 PM
Oh are we doing this? "Tell us how you feel using a Queen song title."

I'll go next:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gdDNFJpil50

Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on May 17, 2014, 11:53:22 PM
so i don't know if anyone is interested but i will be going to the white party tomorrow night, just wondering if anyone wanted to come with, its gonna be my first time out in public as Madison
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: JesseG on May 18, 2014, 12:31:20 AM
Oh lol funny you should mention it - Krista, Alyssa and I have been talking about the White Party for a while!

Yeah, let's do it! I'll pm you my phone number.
Title: calgary
Post by: Keira Rosa on May 18, 2014, 04:00:36 PM
Hey what is it and at what time is it ?
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Autumn Faith on August 25, 2014, 02:47:59 PM
Hello Calgary,   any chance you have heard of Saskatchewan coming online? It's lonely over here. Lol.
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on August 27, 2014, 01:18:54 AM
Saskatchewan is just inherently lonely, isn't it just a desolate wasteland? lol
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: JesseG on August 29, 2014, 11:55:19 AM
Hi Autumn, if you're lonely, come over to Calgary for Pride this weekend!
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Catherine W. on September 14, 2014, 10:47:27 PM
This is awesome, I never expected to meet some people from where I live on here!  :D I haven't attended one of these yet, however I just worked out a schedule finally at school and now know I can finally come. I will try and go tomorrow if nothing comes up.
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on September 14, 2014, 11:04:37 PM
just to clarify tomorrow is the "inside out youth group", if you were wanting to go to the "new directions" transgender support group that is on Friday the 19th, its first Sunday and third Friday of every month in case that is what your are talking about Catherine, here's the website i check the schedule on http://www.calgaryoutlink.ca/new-directions-trans-group/
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Catherine W. on September 14, 2014, 11:16:19 PM
Oh, I didn't know about that one, however I can only go to the inside out one for now. Sorry about that.
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on September 14, 2014, 11:37:13 PM
no problem, i can only go to the new directions group since im an old fart, i would be interested in how the youth meetings go for you tho, and maybe others would be interested also
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Catherine W. on September 14, 2014, 11:56:39 PM
Alright then, I will try to keep you all posted. Thanks. :)
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: JesseG on September 16, 2014, 09:48:15 AM
Quote from: Madison (kiara jamie) on September 14, 2014, 11:37:13 PM
i can only go to the new directions group since im an old fart

If you're an old fart, I think it's time for me to roll into a ditch and throw some dirt on top of myself :)
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on September 27, 2014, 01:54:20 AM
jesse thats not a very nice thing to say about yourself, i believe your only as old as you act, but if your butt can't fit into a childs car seat then your to old for that lol,
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Keira Rosa on September 29, 2014, 11:15:31 AM
Hi catherine!

I was like you I decided to start with inside out and after sometime of feeling like I was not learning much on what the process was like I decided to give nee directions a try. I suggest you give both a try since inside out is more like a social gathering while new directions is a mix of social and learning the process of transitioning. Good luck with inside out and i hope to see you in new directions! I need more people of my generation as I am constantly missing references :(
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Catherine W. on October 01, 2014, 12:21:16 AM
Hello Keira!

A little update, I have been trying to find a way to get to the group at all, but my parents strictly forbid it. Since they currently control whether or not I am in psychiatry at all, I have to hold back for a while. Sorry about that. I will try again when I have coaxed them to a point where it is possible.
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on October 01, 2014, 02:19:11 AM
im sorry to hear that Catherine, i remember the days of being under my parents rule and it is awful for trans people with non-accepting parents, i just never assumed them to accept me and i was probably right in the case with my mother,

i know it is probably gonna sound like sacrilege, but i am so excited for winter, the weather sucks but atleast im not working myself to exhaustion 6 days a week, i have missed so many meetings since work started picking up but i haven't really had any time for my transition anyways since it has been all focus on work

Keira, have you been making the meetings lately? what have i missed?
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Keira Rosa on October 01, 2014, 09:53:10 AM
Yea my parents didnt find out i was going to meetings till about a year into it. I hope you are able to convince them. For my parents it was a safety issue. My mom thought everyone who went to the meetings must be mentally unstable since they did not conform to their gender (yea I bitched her out haha). She still thinks this to an extent but I told her to attend a trans family meeting where she met Amy (the trans family and new directions coordinator) and Amy is really amazing and my mom liked her. So now my mom is like as long as Amy is there you can go (not that her permission has stopped me from going before). The meetings just consist of about 12-18 people sitting in a room and discussing how the month went and then you can split of to have your own conversations and questions about the topic.. so no nothing dangerous.

Madison!
Yea you have missed me... but other than that not much meeting wise. I did however get my estrogen prescription last night  :)
How are you?
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on October 03, 2014, 12:57:17 AM
well congratulations on your estrogen prescription, its an amazing turn, even as slow as it goes, im 14 months in on hrt and i have barely lost my masculine shape since my work is to physically demanding, but ive been well, hopefully i will be able to make the next friday meeting but i never really know
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Autumn Faith on October 31, 2014, 10:15:40 PM
Im sorry... I didnt realize that you two had responded to me. Sometimes mesgs seem to slip by me. I do appreciate the responses. And yes saskatchewan is at times a lost waste area lol. But the bright side is that I get to come to calgary n beathe weekly. Lol.

Life is hard. Wear a helmet.

Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Autumn Faith on October 31, 2014, 10:20:03 PM
Madison n Jessie... lol Its nice to know there is others like me. Its not so bad to be 45.... lots of life left in this ol girl lol.

Life is hard. Wear a helmet.

Title: Re: calgary
Post by: Danielle Emmalee on November 24, 2014, 10:08:16 PM
Bump! Anybody still around? Any new Calgary peeps?
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: kaidenhendricks89 on March 10, 2015, 02:21:29 PM
I just found this thread I'm in Calgary and looking for other calgary people for support I've just recently come out as FTM and struggling to find current information on how transitioning in calgary works ... would be nice to talk to some local people about all this
Title: Re: calgary
Post by: jessical on March 10, 2015, 05:07:53 PM
I don't live in Calgary at the moment, but I used to for several years.  Part of my family is still living there.  I know there is a support group for friends and family of transgender people.  Has anyone heard if it is good or not?  I am trying to get some of my family to go, but they are currently against the idea.