Hi. (Didn't want to say "good evening" because I live in France and it's about 1:15 a.m. here and it's an english-speaking forum...)
I don't know where to start... So, let's start with the beginning.
I'm a french boy (so, sorry if I don't perfectly speak english). I have ever been considered like a feminine one because I'm very sensible and I never want to be and do like other boys (yay, punk forever ! ^•^ ) and I think people reactions and speeches about myself slowly changed me...
Since months now (or perhaps one or two years) I discovered Male-To-Female (scuse me if I dont use appropriate words) topics, people, etc on the web and, while reading some people that changed their appearance's stories, I thought I was reading my own story. I'm not gay, I like women and I even already had a short love story with a girl, but I really want to become one. I mean, I want to look like a woman, but I want to keep my sex. If so, I would maybe finally be happy, because my actual life is a hell for me. I have no friends and I seem weird for many ones due to my bad reputation with boys and girls, and due to the fact that I spoke to a former friend of mine that I was interested in ->-bleeped-<-. I dont really know how to explain all of this because I'm not english, but I think this forum's community will understand how I feel and what I think I am. I'm... feeling like a trapped girl in a boy body and like nobody understand me and I want to be that girl in me... I'm not meaning I'm gay, I said it, I love women, but I'm kinda excited by transexual women and I want to be one...
Hoping you'll understand and help me.
~A disturbed boy.
Of course we ll understand you :)
Pretty much everyone here has similar experiences and thoughs :angel:
Welcome and good luck with your transition, hhhhm I dont know if you feel ready to do it yet , but you are super young if you were to do it now you d become an awesome girl,,,
Bonjour Lonely French
Welcome to our family here at Susan's. I'm sure that once you look through the many forums, I'm sure that you'll be a little more comfortable with who and what you are.
Hi LonelyFrench, welcome to Susan's Place! I live near Boston. Glad you found the site, hugs, Devlyn
Hi Lonely French :icon_wave:
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Hugs
V M
Welcome to Susan's. There is a lot of information here to help sort your thoughts. We even have another French lady as I recall.
Thanks for the help you will give to me. I'm reading the rules and the other important topics (and dont worry I know my age can be an important and dangerous topic, V M ...).
I don't think I'm "ready for the transition" yet, I just told a friend some things about it and nobody in family know my feelings... My friend told me I should speak to a psychologist first...
I'm not even sure coming to this forum was the first thing to do... (I found Susan's Place while searching for "how to become ladyboy" on google for the fact... ??? )
Merry Chrismas
~A lonely french boy
Quote from: LonelyFrench on December 24, 2013, 06:36:33 PM
Thanks for the help you will give to me. I'm reading the rules and the other important topics (and dont worry I know my age can be an important and dangerous topic, V M ...).
I don't think I'm "ready for the transition" yet, I just told a friend some things about it and nobody in family know my feelings... My friend told me I should speak to a psychologist first...
I'm not even sure coming to this forum was the first thing to do... (I found Susan's Place while searching for "how to become ladyboy" on google for the fact... ??? )
Merry Chrismas
~A lonely french boy
Sure enough, I googled that and we're the top listing. We don't have a lot of members who identify as ladyboys, but we sure have plenty of room! Hugs, Devlyn
Hi Lonely French, :icon_wave:
Welcome to our little family. Over 9038 members. That would be one heck of a family reunion.
Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams. Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.
But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another sister. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-3.gif&hash=f49e2f86761323f2abd9c33941920389dbb3b10f)
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-5.gif&hash=cfc7a68438be4575d8493dfbe65d1b3586f10b81)
Janet )O(
Thanks for your replies :)
I don't know if the word "ladyboy" is very respectuous, so ... I'll dont use it but... is "transsexual" more correct ? Please tell me I'm new ^^'
Good night, it's 2:15 in France...
Have a good year ending !
~That new disturbed boy
Joyeux Noël, M. French
Hi Lonely French and welcome to Susan's.
:)
A big warm welcome to the family! Starting your new journey here is not a bad thing. It lets you know several things such as you are not alone, you are not strange or unusual, you can get the courage to proceed, you can discover the transition process and all that is required and finally, you have support, understanding and compassion from us. Even if you never transition you have a whole new group of family to talk to, dream with, rant, vent or share the good in your life. Sounds like a good thing. doesn't it? Please feel at home while you are here! :)
Welcome in Susan's Place :)
You are my best chrismas gift ever :angel:
Quote from: LonelyFrench on December 23, 2013, 06:14:47 PM
Hi. (Didn't want to say "good evening" because I live in France and it's about 1:15 a.m. here and it's an english-speaking forum...)
I don't know where to start... So, let's start with the beginning.
I'm a french boy (so, sorry if I don't perfectly speak english). I have ever been considered like a feminine one because I'm very sensible and I never want to be and do like other boys (yay, punk forever ! ^•^ ) and I think people reactions and speeches about myself slowly changed me...
Since months now (or perhaps one or two years) I discovered Male-To-Female (scuse me if I dont use appropriate words) topics, people, etc on the web and, while reading some people that changed their appearance's stories, I thought I was reading my own story. I'm not gay, I like women and I even already had a short love story with a girl, but I really want to become one. I mean, I want to look like a woman, but I want to keep my sex. If so, I would maybe finally be happy, because my actual life is a hell for me. I have no friends and I seem weird for many ones due to my bad reputation with boys and girls, and due to the fact that I spoke to a former friend of mine that I was interested in ->-bleeped-<-. I dont really know how to explain all of this because I'm not english, but I think this forum's community will understand how I feel and what I think I am. I'm... feeling like a trapped girl in a boy body and like nobody understand me and I want to be that girl in me... I'm not meaning I'm gay, I said it, I love women, but I'm kinda excited by transexual women and I want to be one...
Hoping you'll understand and help me.
~A disturbed boy.
Fear not! We have a number of Members in France, as well as many French-speaking Members from Quebec and other places in the world. If you wish to post in French, the membership can use Google Translate to read your post.
Ok ^^
But I prefer to use english because Google Translate isn't exact and so it won't translate my exact feelings...
Quote from: LonelyFrench on December 29, 2013, 04:38:38 PM
Ok ^^
But I prefer to use english because Google Translate isn't exact and so it won't translate my exact feelings...
Which is cool because practicing another language helps it stick and your English is actually really good.
Thanks LordKAT ^^
I'm often speaking on the internet with strangers so I have to know how to speak english ^^
Shouldnt I post in another thread now ? I just saw my presentation one is long now.
Good idea, jump into the BAN thread and start banning people.
Hi Lonely French, :icon_wave:
As you can see, you're not alone. I think Jessica hit all the important points. You are free here to be whoever you are, there's no wrong way to be you. We're here to help when and where we can. Come on in, relax, stay awhile. There's no limit to these threads, post here, or somewhere else, or many places. Go where you feel comfortable. :icon_hug:
What do you mean LordKAT ?
Thanks Magdalena ;)
I've many things to say and to do... I want to be another person. But even in french I don't know how to explain this...
(~ And happy new year to all the community !)
I mean that there is a fun thread where you ban each other for funny stuff,...like the weather.
KATs like to play games. :)
Uh... I see... :laugh:
But more seriously, where can I talk and ask questions about... more sensitive points of ->-bleeped-<- ? Can I do it here ? Or should I go in another thread ?
There are different boards regarding different aspects, you can find them from the title page. When you first click on forums there is a list of the different boards. First search and see if your question is out there in a recent thread. If not, start your own.
You can ask questions here to if you wish.
Thanks, my Lord ;)
First, what does mean "KAT" please ? Is it a variant for "kathoey" ? ???
Nope, just my initials.
Oh, ok. Sorry for the mistake ! :-\
Oh I'm now "Newbie", what does that mean ? (I have read the forum's rules etc but I don't understand the difference)
Quote from: LonelyFrench on January 01, 2014, 05:10:00 PM
Oh I'm now "Newbie", what does that mean ? (I have read the forum's rules etc but I don't understand the difference)
Newbie - Someone who is new
Thanks V M :laugh:
Ok I've read it again, it means I've posted enough to get the right to send private messages and ... that's all ? No ?
and post an avatar if you like, I think s couple more
Mon français n'est pas très bon
Mais oui, vous pouvez envoyer des messages personnels et mettre en œuvre un avatar dans votre profil
Peut-être qu'il est temps de s'aventurer dans de nouveaux domaines d'intérêt pour le site? Déployez vos ailes et voler comme un oiseau et rencontrer de nouveaux amis
LordKaT et moi et plusieurs autres seront là pour vous aider sur le chemin
étreintes
V M
Quote from: V M on January 01, 2014, 08:41:02 PM
Mon français n'est pas très bon
Mais oui, vous pouvez envoyer des messages personnels et mettre en œuvre un avatar dans votre profil
Peut-être qu'il est temps de s'aventurer dans de nouveaux domaines d'intérêt pour le site? Déployez vos ailes et voler comme un oiseau et rencontrer de nouveaux amis
LordKaT et moi et plusieurs autres seront là pour vous aider sur le chemin
étreintes
V M
Suis vraiment impressionnée VM. Comme je ne pense pas que tu sois canadienne, où est-ce que tu as appris à t'aussi bien exprimer dans la langue de Molière? Pour ta gouverne, afin d'éviter des têtes à tête en français dans les forums, j'ai pris contact avec notre très jeune amie par message personnel. Son cas m'a d'autant plus touché que je devais avoir son âge quand j'ai moi aussi commencé à me poser beaucoup de questions, sans trouver de réponse à l'époque hélas!
Bises
Très perspicace Donna, j'ai grandi en Californie et étudié un peu le français à l'école mais aussi appris à partir d'un couple d'amis
Un ami était en fait canadienne, l'autre ami a grandi à Paris. C'était une sorte de compromis, j'aide avec l'anglais et ils m'ont enseigner le français
Mais c'était il ya des années, il est donc un peu difficile de se rappeler
J'espère que je ne fais pas trop mal
Tu parles bien français pour une Californienne ! ;)
Je ne manquerai pas de parcourir le forum et pour l'avatar, je ne sais pas encore quoi mettre.
I will read and post elsewhere too, and for the avatar, I don't know yet what I'll use.
@ Donna :
C'est la première fois qu'on utilise le féminin de manière non péjorative en parlant de moi... je me suis senti un peu bizarre..... Merci... :')
Quote from: LonelyFrench on January 01, 2014, 04:40:19 PM
Thanks, my Lord ;)
Oh great! We will never hear the end of this, huh Cindy? ;D
Quote from: Jessica Merriman on January 02, 2014, 06:04:49 PM
Oh great! We will never hear the end of this, huh Cindy? ;D
I don't understand... :(
Quote from: LonelyFrench on January 02, 2014, 06:14:39 PM
I don't understand... :(
You will when you get to know him better. Let's just say he is very sure of himself! *giggle* Nothing but love, KAT! :-*
I don't get it...
I don't know KAT very much, too... ^^
Quote from: LonelyFrench on January 02, 2014, 06:49:35 PM
I don't get it...
I don't know KAT very much, too... ^^
No worries, us KATs are just special is all.
Quote from: V M on January 02, 2014, 05:22:37 PM
Très perspicace Donna, j'ai grandi en Californie et étudié un peu le français à l'école mais aussi appris à partir d'un couple d'amis
Un ami était en fait canadienne, l'autre ami a grandi à Paris. C'était une sorte de compromis, j'aide avec l'anglais et ils m'ont enseigner le français
Mais c'était il ya des années, il est donc un peu difficile de se rappeler
J'espère que je ne fais pas trop mal
Tu t'en sors remarquablement bien, a fortiori si ton apprentissage s'est fait il y a des années. Bravo donc et maintenant que tu as repris le service, il n'y plus qu'à continuer...non? ;)
Bises
Donna
Hi LonelyFrench,
Welcome to the site which is a mixture of lunacy and fun with a lot of help thrown in. Just join in when you wish. You can ask any questions you wish anywhere. Mods will move them to appropriate areas as needed. The forum areas are a guide for various topics that you may be interested in.
Many of us are close friends that have found each other here and we like to have a laugh and a joke between us so don't get put off by it!
Hugs
Cindy
Welcome to the forum.. I mean, the family ;)
l also feel most of that you say, I also like girls and want to become a girl, just like you. I know, it's not easy, it's not being easy to me too.
By the way, I liked your english, but I'm from brasil, so this doesn't mean much ::)
So you re welcoming her after 3 posts?
I though I was the only one who would do something that wierd :P
what a joke machine I am :laugh: ...
Thanks to all :)
Yeah I understand LordKAT is special :laugh:
Luana, welcome too ;D
So. Now I know. Or I think I know. Thank to FalsePrincess who just opened my eyes. (Love you, sis :-* )
I know what I want, who I want to be and I've never felt so good. I know that I want to become a transwoman and that I now want to accept myself as I am. Now I have to find the force to tell it to my "real" family but now I think I'll find it. It'll may now be hard to find the way, because my "real" family is not always that comprehensive and I'll have to face kind of racism from idiot peoples who'll know who I was born but I'll find the force to face it and to find my way. I don't have yet all the informations that I'll may need during my "journey" but I'm sure I'll find them in the Family's threads ;)
Thanks to Donna E too and to Jessica Merriman too ; speaking with you really helped me a lot in my decision :)
Thanks to the others who welcomed me too ; I didn't imagined that I'll be welcomed that good :)
Now if anyone has been doing his/her transition during his/her puberty, I need advises ^^
~ (Not so) LonelyFrench !
I'm so happy for you. :eusa_clap: The first steps can be hard, but it's your life. You get to decide how you live it. We're all cheering you on!
Again, thanks. :)
I know it will be hard but I made a choice, I now have to do it. :)
I think the hardest thing will to speak to my "real" family ^^`
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I think the hardest thing will to speak to my "real" family ^^`
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That was true for almost all of us here. :)
So I'm "normal" ;D :laugh:
Good night, it's 2:28 a.m. in France ;)
~ L.
Quote from: LonelyFrench on January 03, 2014, 07:27:13 PM
So I'm "normal" ;D :laugh:
Very normal. It usually feels really good once you figure out who you are. You are right that it is hard to tell family and close friends. Whatever happens when you get the courage to do so, we will be here to help you through it. Sometimes it is useful to write out what you want to say. It can help your family to understand if you have a web site they can go to for information, or if you include a book that explains things. One site which can be helpful for families is http://community.pflag.org/page.aspx?pid=256.
It is an American organization but if your family can understand English, it might help. Maybe there are French places like it.
Nope they dont speak english at all ^^'
Yet I haven't told my family. I had a bad day today at home... My parents always shout for nothing and says I'm not "normal" due to my behavior... So, again, I didn't find the courage to tell them... I'm a bit desperate about their comprehension. :-\
Quote from: LordKAT on January 04, 2014, 03:41:57 AM
Very normal. It usually feels really good once you figure out who you are. You are right that it is hard to tell family and close friends. Whatever happens when you get the courage to do so, we will be here to help you through it. Sometimes it is useful to write out what you want to say. It can help your family to understand if you have a web site they can go to for information, or if you include a book that explains things. One site which can be helpful for families is http://community.pflag.org/page.aspx?pid=256.
It is an American organization but if your family can understand English, it might help. Maybe there are French places like it.
Hi Kat
I have sent our young friend links to a couple of specialized French language sites that target families and suggested she go through them first herself to sort out some of her own thoughts. As she comes across as a particularly bright young person, I find it hard to imagine that her parents can be too dumm either so maybe if she herself finds the right words, she can quickly initiate a constructive dialogue with them.
Hugs
Donna
Again thanks Donna :)
Is there in Susan's Place anyone who started her/his transition during her/his puberty ? (S)he could help me a lot.
EDIT : I'll ask FalsePrincess
Just had a long discussion with my former best friend... :'(
He doesn't support me in my feelings and thinks I'm doing stupid things. He thinks I'm just getting in my adolescent crisis and that I'll guilt all my life if I do my "dumb idea" (as he said) and that I can't decide now. But even when I said him I was thinking about it for months or years he said it won't be a definitive idea and that I'm narrow-minded and that Susan's Place's members are manipulating the peoples who come here because those who come are weak or insane...
I now got a pain in my heart of loosing this friend who always helped me in the past and who now says I'm insane and need to wait or see therapists...
You are not weak! No one is weak who faces their fears.
We support all in the transgender community, including those who do not transition, or who detransition.
"Support" means, in part, getting you as much information as YOU need to make decisions for YOUR own life.
Your friend may be concerned for you, but he is the one being manipulative. Invite him to come here. I would be happy to discuss the issues surrounding gender dysphoria with him, and how they are affecting the lives of trans people.
Quote from: LonelyFrench on January 04, 2014, 08:26:45 PM
Just had a long discussion with my former best friend... :'(
He doesn't support me in my feelings and thinks I'm doing stupid things. He thinks I'm just getting in my adolescent crisis and that I'll guilt all my life if I do my "dumb idea" (as he said) and that I can't decide now. But even when I said him I was thinking about it for months or years he said it won't be a definitive idea and that I'm narrow-minded and that Susan's Place's members are manipulating the peoples who come here because those who come are weak or insane...
I now got a pain in my heart of loosing this friend who always helped me in the past and who now says I'm insane and need to wait or see therapists...
Im really sorry you had to hear those words ,that friend of yours sounds really ignorant and really careless...its obvious that he doesnt have a single idea about what being transgender means...it might be hurtful...but you are better off without this kind of people...
and dont let this get you down...as I said to you , people who love you will accept you...
Basically you just got rid of a very mean person the way I see it...I wouldnt want to have a friend who thinks that trans people are insane...would you?
Really dont worry though, most people dont see it that way...
and to make you feel better let me tell you ...I too have delt with that kind of words...but know this...its your decision, only you know wether something will make you happy or not , you decide your happiness...
So forget these mean words you heard and go on, nobody said it will be easy, I know you are strong , you are actually stronger and wiser in a sense than most of us here...we were too scared to deal with it or too stupid to realise...thats why we didnt do it at such a young age...and thats why it hurt us a lot more, thats why Im encouraging you to move forward, no matter what you decide at the end,because I dont wont you to go through all the pain of growing up as a guy...Id rather wish that you would see the joy of growing up as a girl :)
I want you to be happy , everyone here wants you to be happy
You are our youngest sister and we ll be here for you no matter what :)
約束よ
お姉さんがいつもあなたのそば
Quote from: Jamie D on January 04, 2014, 11:21:39 PM
You are not weak! No one is weak who faces their fears.
We support all in the transgender community, including those who do not transition, or who detransition.
"Support" means, in part, getting you as much information as YOU need to make decisions for YOUR own life.
Your friend may be concerned for you, but he is the one being manipulative. Invite him to come here. I would be happy to discuss the issues surrounding gender dysphoria with him, and how they are affecting the lives of trans people.
I said him to come and even only read a thread and he just doesn't want to see what he thinks it is. In other words he believes what he sees but he doesn't want to see it to keep his actual thoughts about Susan's Place.
Quote from: FalsePrincess on January 05, 2014, 10:54:58 AM
Im really sorry you had to hear those words ,that friend of yours sounds really ignorant and really careless...its obvious that he doesnt have a single idea about what being transgender means...it might be hurtful...but you are better off without this kind of people...
and dont let this get you down...as I said to you , people who love you will accept you...
Basically you just got rid of a very mean person the way I see it...I wouldnt want to have a friend who thinks that trans people are insane...would you?
Really dont worry though, most people dont see it that way...
and to make you feel better let me tell you ...I too have delt with that kind of words...but know this...its your decision, only you know wether something will make you happy or not , you decide your happiness...
So forget these mean words you heard and go on, nobody said it will be easy, I know you are strong , you are actually stronger and wiser in a sense than most of us here...we were too scared to deal with it or too stupid to realise...thats why we didnt do it at such a young age...and thats why it hurt us a lot more, thats why Im encouraging you to move forward, no matter what you decide at the end,because I dont wont you to go through all the pain of growing up as a guy...Id rather wish that you would see the joy of growing up as a girl :)
I want you to be happy , everyone here wants you to be happy
You are our youngest sister and we ll be here for you no matter what :)
約束よ
お姉さんがいつもあなたのそば
有難うございます :)
I'm sad because he was always helping me and now says I'm doing crazy things due to my puberty and that I'm insane...
But I don't think I should keep a friend who thinks this way.
I too want all of us to be happy (and the whole world too) even if it can be difficult.
I just need to find the force and the good moment to tell my family about this. It'll be the hardest thing to do but it will deliver me from the closet and from my pain. But if you say I'm strong, so I'll can do it ! :)