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Title: Just Came Out
Post by: Sarah Rose on January 08, 2014, 03:41:04 PM
Hey guys..

Well I'm 22 (almost 23) years old and as of today came out to my mother/sister/and a few friends that I wanted to start HRT.
I am currently 'male' but I'm starting to tow that line growing out my hair, shaving, etc...

I had a breaking point last night where I tried to get in touch with a therapist (I really have no idea how to get on HRT).. and I wanted to cut myself so I gave all my knives to my mother to lock up.
My mother is in denial and my father doesn't know.. Thankfully my friends seem supportive.

I knew this was going to be a big year.. now I'm beginning to see how big of a year it's really going to be.
Title: Re: Just Came Out
Post by: DriftingCrow on January 08, 2014, 03:43:16 PM
Welcome DigitalAbyss to Susan's Place! I am glad you have supportive friends, and hopefully your parents will come around soon. Be sure to talk to people here who'e been through similar coming out experiences for love and support.

Good luck :)

Also, make sure to read these:
Title: Re: Just Came Out
Post by: LJP on January 08, 2014, 03:45:02 PM
There is tons of info and helpful ppl on this site. You prob want to start talking to a therapist. Depending on where you are at you need a letter from your therapist or informed consent.
Title: Re: Just Came Out
Post by: Sarah Rose on January 08, 2014, 03:47:35 PM
Quote from: LJP on January 08, 2014, 03:45:02 PM
There is tons of info and helpful ppl on this site. You prob want to start talking to a therapist. Depending on where you are at you need a letter from your therapist or informed consent.

Thanks, I had a feeling I'd need something like that.
I'm already in the process of setting up an appointment.
Title: Re: Just Came Out
Post by: Jessica Merriman on January 08, 2014, 03:52:56 PM
A big warm welcome to the family baby sister! You have come to the right family for answers and guidance. The biggest benefit is support! None of us can do something like this alone, here you have all the help you can handle along with over 9,000 other family members. So glad I don't have to plan that reunion!  ;D Relax, make yourself at home and dig in. I look forward to getting to know you better in the future. When you get 15 post's, don't hesitate to PM me with any questions, rants, vents or anything else. Here is a BIG HUG ( :icon_hug:) to start your new journey off right! :)
Title: Re: Just Came Out
Post by: Sarah Rose on January 08, 2014, 04:19:58 PM
Quote from: Jessica Merriman on January 08, 2014, 03:52:56 PM
A big warm welcome to the family baby sister! You have come to the right family for answers and guidance.

Thank you so much!  :'(
I honestly cried a little when you called me 'baby sister'... Such a great feeling, it really is.
Title: Re: Just Came Out
Post by: FalseHybridPrincess on January 08, 2014, 05:00:18 PM
Welcome :)

Good luck with your transition , its not easy sometimes we all know that ,but in the end its worth it

Hope we can be friends :)
Title: Re: Just Came Out
Post by: Jamie D on January 08, 2014, 06:06:26 PM
Quote from: TheDigitalAbyss on January 08, 2014, 03:41:04 PM
Hey guys..

Well I'm 22 (almost 23) years old and as of today came out to my mother/sister/and a few friends that I wanted to start HRT.
I am currently 'male' but I'm starting to tow that line growing out my hair, shaving, etc...

I had a breaking point last night where I tried to get in touch with a therapist (I really have no idea how to get on HRT).. and I wanted to cut myself so I gave all my knives to my mother to lock up.
My mother is in denial and my father doesn't know.. Thankfully my friends seem supportive.

I knew this was going to be a big year.. now I'm beginning to see how big of a year it's really going to be.

Hey there, hon.  Cutting is only going to give you a temporary reprieve from the pain, and then ugly scars.

Not sure where you are located, or if you have insurance that covers therapy, but if you are in the US or Canada you can use the "Find a Therapist" utility on PsychologyToday.com

You can filter for those therapists that have LGBT and/or transsexual expertise.
Title: Re: Just Came Out
Post by: Sarah Rose on January 08, 2014, 06:10:08 PM
Thanks, I found a therapists on there that has experience with gender identity issues.
Title: Re: Just Came Out
Post by: Jamie D on January 08, 2014, 06:43:22 PM
Glad to hear that.  Feel free to cruise the site and read more about how others have coped, in your same situation.
Title: Re: Just Came Out
Post by: Sarah Rose on January 08, 2014, 07:12:33 PM
I certainly will... I'm currently at work so I've not had much time to get around on here.
Title: Re: Just Came Out
Post by: Jamie D on January 08, 2014, 08:16:30 PM
Work outs are good.  Helps fight depression and keeps you healthy.

I have to walk the dog tonight.  :(
Title: Re: Just Came Out
Post by: TerriT on January 09, 2014, 12:00:13 AM
Well, that was a pretty brave step. Congrats and welcome. You'll find a lot of people here to relate to and seek advice from. I mean, not me, I'm not one of those people that helps or gives good advice, but others will. I have the faith in them :angel:
Title: Re: Just Came Out
Post by: Emmaline on January 09, 2014, 04:26:26 AM
Welcome sister!  A bit of bravery is the first step on the ladder that will get you up and living.  Good luck!
Title: Re: Just Came Out
Post by: amber1964 on January 09, 2014, 05:16:29 AM
First of all welcome and congratulations.

This is a nice place with lots of supportive people.

Ask questions, someone will be able to help you. If you live in Canada I can.

Title: Re: Just Came Out
Post by: Sarah Rose on January 09, 2014, 11:41:56 AM
Thanks everyone, it means a lot.

I was up most of last night talking with a few friends, they seem very supportive. I'm still fairly embarrassed talking about it with them but they haven't given me any crap about it.
I work at home on the computer so today I decided to wear a clear coat on my nails and some lip stick...

My mother could find out but... honestly I almost want her to, she is still in denial and I need to be able to do this conformable at home, or find another one.
Title: Re: Just Came Out
Post by: gennee on January 09, 2014, 11:50:32 AM
Hello and welcome to Susan's.


:)
Title: Re: Just Came Out
Post by: Sarah Rose on January 10, 2014, 01:53:04 AM
Thanks again everyone!

I came out to both my parents tonight and they see how serious I am.
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,157362.new.html#new

Just wanted to post here and let you all know I'm talking with my Uncle and his Boyfriend to find the right place to go for HRT.
His Boyfriend already went through all of this.