Does any pre-op TS have any happy relationship stories to share?
I'm going to celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary this year.
Oh sure! I got a few of them. I am currently in my last LTR in the last year. The person I am with now is so sweet. He is gender fluid (he prefers male pronouns most of the time), which really helps him understand me. We have been dating for over 4 months now! He is also quite intelligent.
As for the previous one...well she turned out to be....special. She was a model, so a bit full of herself regarding her looks. She hated it when I got complimented instead of her. But still, it was such a great experience.
I have also dated quite a few other people over the last few months. No one treated me as a fetish, and none of them ever tried to get me to do anything I didn't want to. They were all super respectful. But after the fourth model I decided to stay away from anyone who relies on their looks for their lively hood.
Quote from: Jill F on January 10, 2014, 07:24:56 PM
I'm going to celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary this year.
congratulations
Quote from: Jill F on January 10, 2014, 07:24:56 PM
I'm going to celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary this year.
That is so wonderful!! Congrats!
no relationship, but a few possibilities.
Quote from: Jill F on January 10, 2014, 07:24:56 PM
I'm going to celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary this year.
Congrats, how did you meet your partner?
Quote from: Brooke777 on January 10, 2014, 07:26:42 PM
Oh sure! I got a few of them. I am currently in my last LTR in the last year. The person I am with now is so sweet. He is gender fluid (he prefers male pronouns most of the time), which really helps him understand me. We have been dating for over 4 months now! He is also quite intelligent.
As for the previous one...well she turned out to be....special. She was a model, so a bit full of herself regarding her looks. She hated it when I got complimented instead of her. But still, it was such a great experience.
I have also dated quite a few other people over the last few months. No one treated me as a fetish, and none of them ever tried to get me to do anything I didn't want to. They were all super respectful. But after the fourth model I decided to stay away from anyone who relies on their looks for their lively hood.
Where did you meet them?
Quote from: NYCTSGirl01 on January 10, 2014, 07:31:12 PM
Where did you meet them?
I met the two LTRs on OKCupid. But the rest just found me while I was out and about. A few of them at bars, one on the bus, and others while just walking around the city. I guess I am approachable.
Quote from: Brooke777 on January 10, 2014, 07:35:12 PM
I met the two LTRs on OKCupid. But the rest just found me while I was out and about. A few of them at bars, one on the bus, and others while just walking around the city. I guess I am approachable.
Wow, did they know you were trans before approaching you?
Quote from: NYCTSGirl01 on January 10, 2014, 07:45:32 PM
Wow, did they know you were trans before approaching you?
The two I met online new because I had it in my profile. But the others had no clue. They were a bit surprised, but ultimately they were okay with it. A few of them were trans themselves, and the rest were cis. Just from my experience, if you have a good personality people can get passed you having something they aren't attracted to. Everyone makes some sort of concession to what they will be okay with, so it isn't that unusual that these women were able to do that with me.
11.5 months ago my wife stated that any surgeries would mean divorce & that she didn't know if she could stomach sharing her bed with another person with boobs.
Yesterday, on her birthday, she told me she was really grateful to be married to me & that she is looking forward to the two of us becoming old women together.
i've been in a relationship for 2 monthes now, we met through facebook, but i also went to school with his bestfriend so it was a mutual friend type thing, he asked if we could meet, and when he said that, i instantly told him, and he was perfectly ok with it. he looks at me as a woman and his father and sister are ok with it as well i told them a month after we started dating. he understand the disphoria and i'm just glad that i met a good guy, he's very sweet and i've never met anyone like him. :)
Quote from: TessaMarie on January 10, 2014, 08:35:47 PM
11.5 months ago my wife stated that any surgeries would mean divorce & that she didn't know if she could stomach sharing her bed with another person with boobs.
Yesterday, on her birthday, she told me she was really grateful to be married to me & that she is looking forward to the two of us becoming old women together.
That is a wonderful turn of events!
I met my SO in April of 1973 after I returned from Vietnam we have had a rocky road as we are both chaotic at times.Thing is we love each other above what is describable and that keeps us together and will for the rest of our lives. Pat
PS I could not live without her and really would not want to.
I have an SO who is going to assist in my transition. I told him i felt he shouldnt have to but he insisted on helping.
Im not even on hormones yet. :)
I came out to my wife shortly before our 9th wedding anniversary; to my immense gratitude, I was lucky enough that she stayed with me throughout transition. 13.5 years married now, and happier than ever. :)
(I am post-op now, but obviously she was with me for the entire time I was pre-op as well.)
TessaMarie : That's so sweet!! I'm so happy for you both.
Sure after my ex left me I jumped into transition with both feet. I found a new girlfriend within a couple months, but that didn't last, and frankly she didn't do well with my accelerated transition, I ended our relationship for numerous reasons.
During the duration of that initial transitional relationship I started chatting, then skyping, then dating with Jennifer. So far so good after 15 months, and five weeks of dates. A significant litmus test of this relationship will be my going post op in a few months, and spenmding a good chunk of recovery time at her place.
Quote from: Brooke777 on January 10, 2014, 09:47:37 PM
That is a wonderful turn of events!
Quote from: Jenna Marie on January 10, 2014, 11:33:11 PM
TessaMarie : That's so sweet!! I'm so happy for you both.
Thank you both for your kind words. I was taken by surprise, and I am very happy that she is happy to be with me no matter what.
Tessa
I'd met some guys out and about and since nobody knew I'm trans, I had problems coming out with the fact that I am, because they were straight. I Just told them I wasn't interested before things went any further than a few kisses. Then I got on a trans site, called TV/TS Dating, and it's pretty comprehensive about what you want from a relationship, be it just sex, open, closed, men, other women, trans, or even marriage. I wrote I wanted a real and monogamous relationship with a straight man, and that although I'm a transwoman, I plan on SRS and if he wants a girl with something extra between her legs, read another ad. I found a guy and first corresponded with him for a few weeks over that site, then we traded e-mail addresses and talked for another week or so, then a few weeks on the phone pretty much every night. After I felt I liked him enough to go out with him (I REALLY liked him!) we met and he took me out to lunch. Then we started dating. That was 15 months ago, not counting our correspondence, and we're very much in love. We had serious problems over a few things, mostly about the amount of time we were able to spend with each other because of his business, but we've worked it out and our love is very, very strong. I don't know if we'll ever live together or marry, but it's a possibility. Gawd, I love him sooo much and it's been worth every second!!! You can find someone to care about and care about you, even love you if that's what you want. I believe someone's out there for all of us if we keep our eyes open, don't give up and don't scare them away. Good luck, sweetie! Hugs, Mira
P.S. Pat, my SO is also a Vietnam Vet who came back in 1972. Unfortunately, he still has to deal with nightmares and PTSD, but if anything he's an even kinder, gentler man because of the pain and death he saw over there.
Quote from: Miranda Catherine on January 11, 2014, 12:05:45 AM
I'd met some guys out and about and since nobody knew I'm trans, I had problems coming out with the fact that I am, because they were straight. I Just told them I wasn't interested before things went any further than a few kisses. Then I got on a trans site, called TV/TS Dating, and it's pretty comprehensive about what you want from a relationship, be it just sex, open, closed, men, other women, trans, or even marriage. I wrote I wanted a real and monogamous relationship with a straight man, and that although I'm a transwoman, I plan on SRS and if he wants a girl with something extra between her legs, read another ad. I found a guy and first corresponded with him for a few weeks over that site, then we traded e-mail addresses and talked for another week or so, then a few weeks on the phone pretty much every night. After I felt I liked him enough to go out with him (I REALLY liked him!) we met and he took me out to lunch. Then we started dating. That was 15 months ago, not counting our correspondence, and we're very much in love. We had serious problems over a few things, mostly about the amount of time we were able to spend with each other because of his business, but we've worked it out and our love is very, very strong. I don't know if we'll ever live together or marry, but it's a possibility. Gawd, I love him sooo much and it's been worth every second!!! You can find someone to care about and care about you, even love you if that's what you want. I believe someone's out there for all of us if we keep our eyes open, don't give up and don't scare them away. Good luck, sweetie! Hugs, Mira
P.S. Pat, my SO is also a Vietnam Vet who came back in 1972. Unfortunately, he still has to deal with nightmares and PTSD, but if anything he's an even kinder, gentler man because of the pain and death he saw over there.
I wanna cry after reading this...
Quote from: Brooke777 on January 10, 2014, 07:49:26 PM
The two I met online new because I had it in my profile. But the others had no clue. They were a bit surprised, but ultimately they were okay with it. A few of them were trans themselves, and the rest were cis. Just from my experience, if you have a good personality people can get passed you having something they aren't attracted to. Everyone makes some sort of concession to what they will be okay with, so it isn't that unusual that these women were able to do that with me.
They were all cis women?
Quote from: TessaMarie on January 10, 2014, 08:35:47 PM
11.5 months ago my wife stated that any surgeries would mean divorce & that she didn't know if she could stomach sharing her bed with another person with boobs.
Yesterday, on her birthday, she told me she was really grateful to be married to me & that she is looking forward to the two of us becoming old women together.
I'm happy for you. Nothing compares with having someone who is with you all the way.
Quote from: latoya. on January 10, 2014, 09:39:37 PM
i've been in a relationship for 2 monthes now, we met through facebook, but i also went to school with his bestfriend so it was a mutual friend type thing, he asked if we could meet, and when he said that, i instantly told him, and he was perfectly ok with it. he looks at me as a woman and his father and sister are ok with it as well i told them a month after we started dating. he understand the disphoria and i'm just glad that i met a good guy, he's very sweet and i've never met anyone like him. :)
Congrats!
I've been with this guy since June 5, when I hit the three month mark on HRT...guess they worked fast lol things are good and will be much better. There are obviously complications since he is straight and really good looking so I dont know why he's with me...i guess im just that sweet jk lol
Quote from: NYCTSGirl01 on January 11, 2014, 01:24:02 AM
They were all cis women?
I have been with 3 post ops trans women, and two pre-op. The other 6 women were cis. I know those sound like high numbers for one year, but I date a lot! I actually turn down more dates than I go on.
I am in the process of transition, already startend HRT and I am still married with my heterosexual wife and she is pregnant with twins. She knew everything when she became pregnant. I March I will have my FFS and I will go fulltime. SRS is scheduled for Winter.
Currently we are happy and we just look what will happen.
Lara
@Brooke & Stephanie, Thank you!
@NYCTSGirl, I met my wife in 1992 at work in Washington, D.C., where she was my immediate boss(!). Love at first sight, soulmates, everything. We got engaged two weeks later and moved back to CA, where we were both raised. We did the stereotypical lesbian thing of moving in together after the first date, although I wasn't aware of that at the time. Well, I sort of knew about the me-being-a-something-of-a-lesbian thing, but not of the stereotypical behavior. I came out in to both of us in November 2012. She wasn't exactly happy about it at first, but she quickly got over it and saw a dramatic improvement in my mood and personality as soon as I started HRT. She's all for me getting whatever surgeries it takes to make me happy and was never a huge fan of PIV sex anyway. We'll say I've spent the last 20+ years eating a lot of taco. We decided that in 5 more years we're having another wedding where I get to wear the dress and she wears the tux.
It seems like a lot of relationships are with women.
Is anyone in/had a long-term relationship with a cis male?
Quote from: NYCTSGirl01 on January 11, 2014, 09:26:20 PM
It seems like a lot of relationships are with women.
Technically, the person I am dating now is bio male. But he is gender fluid and considering transitioning to female full time.
Quote from: NYCTSGirl01 on January 11, 2014, 09:27:32 PM
Is anyone in/had a long-term relationship with a cis male?
For my fantastic record of dating, (not!) 15 months is long term, and yes, he's a cis male. In the same way some other women on Susan's could never see themselves with a man, I couldn't be with anyone but a cis male.
Quote from: NYCTSGirl01 on January 11, 2014, 09:27:32 PM
Is anyone in/had a long-term relationship with a cis male?
Define long term. Define relationship. Define define. I've been with this guy for seven months but we live together and have bascially since day one. Well I stayed over (no sex, just talk) but a month later I moved in. So timewise we may have spent as much time together as say someone who has been dating for a year and half...maybe a year. We're both 31 so we have a lot in common. It's awkward a times because ya knwo, he's straight and cis and ya know, I'm, uh, me.
I've been married 18 years. It has had it's ups and downs, but we're still together. We live much more like room mates than a couple, but we enjoy each others company. We're just a couple of middle aged broads who live together.
Quote from: Brooke777 on January 10, 2014, 07:49:26 PM
Just from my experience, if you have a good personality people can get passed you having something they aren't attracted to.
That's so true!
Quote from: Joanna Dark on January 12, 2014, 09:05:29 AM
Define long term. Define relationship. Define define. I've been with this guy for seven months but we live together and have bascially since day one. Well I stayed over (no sex, just talk) but a month later I moved in. So timewise we may have spent as much time together as say someone who has been dating for a year and half...maybe a year. We're both 31 so we have a lot in common. It's awkward a times because ya knwo, he's straight and cis and ya know, I'm, uh, me.
I guess for me long term would be over a year.
Living together is major. Congrats on that!