Relationship success

[NYCTSGirl01]

Does any pre-op TS have any happy relationship stories to share?

[Jill F]

I'm going to celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary this year. 

[Brooke777]

Oh sure! I got a few of them. I am currently in my last LTR in the last year. The person I am with now is so sweet. He is gender fluid (he prefers male pronouns most of the time), which really helps him understand me. We have been dating for over 4 months now! He is also quite intelligent.

As for the previous one...well she turned out to be....special. She was a model, so a bit full of herself regarding her looks. She hated it when I got complimented instead of her. But still, it was such a great experience.

I have also dated quite a few other people over the last few months. No one treated me as a fetish, and none of them ever tried to get me to do anything I didn't want to. They were all super respectful. But after the fourth model I decided to stay away from anyone who relies on their looks for their lively hood.

[stephaniec]

I'm going to celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary this year.

congratulations

[Brooke777]

I'm going to celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary this year.

That is so wonderful!! Congrats!

[stephaniec]

no relationship, but a few possibilities.

[NYCTSGirl01]

I'm going to celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary this year.

Congrats, how did you meet your partner?

[NYCTSGirl01]

Oh sure! I got a few of them. I am currently in my last LTR in the last year. The person I am with now is so sweet. He is gender fluid (he prefers male pronouns most of the time), which really helps him understand me. We have been dating for over 4 months now! He is also quite intelligent.

As for the previous one...well she turned out to be....special. She was a model, so a bit full of herself regarding her looks. She hated it when I got complimented instead of her. But still, it was such a great experience.

I have also dated quite a few other people over the last few months. No one treated me as a fetish, and none of them ever tried to get me to do anything I didn't want to. They were all super respectful. But after the fourth model I decided to stay away from anyone who relies on their looks for their lively hood.

Where did you meet them?

[Brooke777]

Where did you meet them?

I met the two LTRs on OKCupid. But the rest just found me while I was out and about. A few of them at bars, one on the bus, and others while just walking around the city. I guess I am approachable.

[NYCTSGirl01]

I met the two LTRs on OKCupid. But the rest just found me while I was out and about. A few of them at bars, one on the bus, and others while just walking around the city. I guess I am approachable.

Wow, did they know you were trans before approaching you?

[Brooke777]

Wow, did they know you were trans before approaching you?

The two I met online new because I had it in my profile. But the others had no clue. They were a bit surprised, but ultimately they were okay with it. A few of them were trans themselves, and the rest were cis. Just from my experience, if you have a good personality people can get passed you having something they aren't attracted to. Everyone makes some sort of concession to what they will be okay with, so it isn't that unusual that these women were able to do that with me.

[TessaMarie]

11.5 months ago my wife stated that any surgeries would mean divorce & that she didn't know if she could stomach sharing her bed with another person with boobs.

Yesterday, on her birthday, she told me she was really grateful to be married to me & that she is looking forward to the two of us becoming old women together.

[latoya fox]

i've been in a relationship for 2 monthes now, we met through facebook, but i also went to school with his bestfriend so it was a mutual friend type thing, he asked if we could meet, and when he said that, i instantly told him, and he was perfectly ok with it. he looks at me as a woman and his father and sister are ok with it as well i told them a month after we started dating. he understand the disphoria and i'm just glad that i met a good guy, he's very sweet and i've never met anyone like him.

[Brooke777]

11.5 months ago my wife stated that any surgeries would mean divorce & that she didn't know if she could stomach sharing her bed with another person with boobs.

Yesterday, on her birthday, she told me she was really grateful to be married to me & that she is looking forward to the two of us becoming old women together.

That is a wonderful turn of events!

[justpat]

  I met my SO in April of 1973 after I returned from Vietnam we have had a rocky road as we are both chaotic at times.Thing is we love each other above what is describable and that keeps us together and will for the rest of our lives.  Pat
  PS I could not live without her and really would not want to.

[Emo]

I have an SO who is going to assist in my transition. I told him i felt he shouldnt have to but he insisted on helping.
Im not even on hormones yet.

[Jenna Marie]

I came out to my wife shortly before our 9th wedding anniversary; to my immense gratitude, I was lucky enough that she stayed with me throughout transition. 13.5 years married now, and happier than ever.

(I am post-op now, but obviously she was with me for the entire time I was pre-op as well.)

TessaMarie : That's so sweet!! I'm so happy for you both.

[Missy~rmdlm]

Sure after my ex left me I jumped into transition with both feet. I found a new girlfriend within a couple months, but that didn't last, and frankly she didn't do well with my accelerated transition, I ended our relationship for numerous reasons.

During the duration of that initial transitional relationship I started chatting, then skyping, then dating with Jennifer. So far so good after 15 months, and five weeks of dates. A significant litmus test of this relationship will be my going post op in a few months, and spenmding a good chunk of recovery time at her place.

[TessaMarie]

That is a wonderful turn of events!

TessaMarie : That's so sweet!! I'm so happy for you both.

Thank you both for your kind words.  I was taken by surprise, and I am very happy that she is happy to be with me no matter what.

Tessa

[Miranda Catherine]

I'd met some guys out and about and since nobody knew I'm trans, I had problems coming out with the fact that I am, because they were straight. I Just told them I wasn't interested before things went any further than a few kisses. Then I got on a trans site, called TV/TS Dating, and it's pretty comprehensive about what you want from a relationship, be it just sex, open, closed, men, other women, trans, or even marriage. I wrote I wanted a real and monogamous relationship with a straight man, and that although I'm a transwoman, I plan on SRS and if he wants a girl with something extra between her legs, read another ad. I found a guy and first corresponded with him for a few weeks over that site, then we traded e-mail addresses and talked for another week or so, then a few weeks on the phone pretty much every night. After I felt I liked him enough to go out with him (I REALLY liked him!) we met and he took me out to lunch. Then we started dating. That was 15 months ago, not counting our correspondence, and we're very much in love. We had serious problems over a few things, mostly about the amount of time we were able to spend with each other because of his business, but we've worked it out and our love is very, very strong. I don't know if we'll ever live together or marry, but it's a possibility. Gawd, I love him sooo much and it's been worth every second!!! You can find someone to care about and care about you, even love you if that's what you want. I believe someone's out there for all of us if we keep our eyes open, don't give up and don't scare them away. Good luck, sweetie! Hugs, Mira

P.S. Pat, my SO is also a Vietnam Vet who came back in 1972. Unfortunately, he still has to deal with nightmares and PTSD, but if anything he's an even kinder, gentler man because of the pain and death he saw over there.