Does anyone else have these days? If I look at my head from the side I feel extremely ugly. The overall shape of my head is ugly. My nose is ugly, my face is ugly. I remember the last time I seriously considered transition I reached this point of feeling so ugly that it made me change my mind because life is easier being an ugly guy than an ugly woman.
Eye of the beholder thing. Your opinion is colored by many things and is often not quite the same to anyone else. I think everyone has those days.
Objects in the mirror may be sexier than they appear...
Quote from: Jill F on January 22, 2014, 09:20:13 AM
Objects in the mirror may be sexier than they appear...
LOL :)
Quote from: Jill F on January 22, 2014, 09:20:13 AM
Objects in the mirror may be sexier than they appear...
That is going on my bathroom mirror. Good one!
Yep, today is one of those days. I've only had 2 "beauty" days, one of which is in my profile pic. The other was last wednesday.
I feel beautiful, until I see a mirror, and all my masculine features are brought out and make me look super ugly.
I used to have these days all the time....I would get up, take care of facial hair, do my hair, do my makeup, get ready to go to work, then look in the mirror and this terrible realization would hit me 'this is the BEST I'm going to look all day.....and I'm already barely passing at a quick glance"
Now that the hormones have had longer to work, I pretty much constantly. I still have remnants of facial hair, and some days I look like a hirsute woman, but that's okay, it's a pretty common condition...and I always look dog tired and don't spend much time on beautification anymore but that's okay too....I'm a mommy now, and when you're carrying a four month old the world seems to give you a free pass for looking like crap.
I still have days where I feel really unattractive, but I've given myself permission to look bad.....some days it's just not worth it to try to impress the world
Sometimes...
Occasionally I have an "I'm not ugly" day. But they're few, far between, and usually involve some amount of sleep deprivation and/or minor hallucination.
Quote from: Sephirah on January 22, 2014, 10:06:44 AM
Occasionally I have an "I'm not ugly" day. But they're few, far between, and usually involve some amount of sleep deprivation and/or minor hallucination.
Even if you looked like this
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fstatic.comicvine.com%2Fuploads%2Foriginal%2F11%2F118136%2F2216490-voldemort01.jpg&hash=4085330b12af87263fbe26b655810b9acb67fb36)
you'd still be the most beautiful thing ever.
And i'm sure you look fine too Gerzen. :)
Quote from: Oriah on January 22, 2014, 09:59:41 AM
I still have days where I feel really unattractive, but I've given myself permission to look bad.....some days it's just not worth it to try to impress the world
As do all cis women, even the ones generally regarded as drop dead gorgeous. It's a sad fact of being human that we are our own worst critics. When I have days like that I'll either force myself to find something I can admit is attractive or avoid the mirror altogether that day!
I'm wondering if maybe I'm too critical of everyone. Even in my own head I think things about others looks. Perhaps it could help to reduce this thought process of evaluation. Also, one wouldn't tell others that they are ugly, so why would I say it to myself. It's about giving ones self the same respect that we give others.
http://becoming-beautiful.com/2011/04/i-feel-ugly-how-to-say-no-to-ugly-days/
Welcome to womanhood...
EVERY girl has "ugly" days where they feel hideous, so they just put their hair up in a ponytail, glob their faces with concealer, hope that nobody can see it, and spend all day hiding from everyone.
If I had a dollar for every single time a trans woman on this site had a bad day where all they could see was a guy in the mirror, and they totally flipped out, I'd be one rich b****.
Welcome to the club!
Quote from: Carrie Liz on January 22, 2014, 12:16:49 PM
Welcome to womanhood...
EVERY girl has "ugly" days where they feel hideous, so they just put their hair up in a ponytail, glob their faces with concealer, hope that nobody can see it, and spend all day hiding from everyone.
If I had a dollar for every single time a trans woman on this site had a bad day where all they could see was a guy in the mirror, and they totally flipped out, I'd be one rich b****.
Welcome to the club!
Congrats, you'd have $6966 from me alone.
Quote from: Genzen on January 22, 2014, 12:04:08 PM
I'm wondering if maybe I'm too critical of everyone. Even in my own head I think things about others looks. Perhaps it could help to reduce this thought process of evaluation. Also, one wouldn't tell others that they are ugly, so why would I say it to myself. It's about giving ones self the same respect that we give others.
Absolutely!
Mirrors are liars! I know that I am a 19-year old hard-body beach babe.
Yeah, I have those days a lot. But then sometimes later on while I am at work, I'll check myself out in the bathroom mirror and tell myself that I'm not all that ugly. Thank goodness the lighting in there sucks...