I'm currently looking through names and I've finding it hard to resonate with any of them. I never really felt like I resonated with my birth name as it is, but all the feminine names I really adore are used within my social circles, and I don't want to 'steal' somebodies name. At the same time, I'm not sure about picking something more obscure/unique (which would fit my personality) since that may make it harder to pass (your name is what?). I've heard the right name can be instrumental in being accepted (would you agree with that?)...
I'm just curious, how did you go about finding your new name? Did you choose something you had always liked? Did you choose something similiar to your birth name to make the transition easier on those around you? Or did you just, by some spiritual voodoo, know deep down? :D
I guess I would qualify for the "spiritual voodoo" ;D When I was 3 or 4 years old, a new girl moved to the neighbourhood and I thought her name (which wasn't Jane ;) ) was the prettiest I had ever heard so I adopted it for myself. That's 60 years ago now and I have never had any doubt that it was the right name for me.
I went with Emilia for quite a while. I just love the sound of it, and I thought it resonated well with me. This was back in the days, pre-everything, when I was still questioning whether or not I was trans at all, and I thought I'd stick by it.
Then four years ago, my cousin had a baby girl and named her... yes, you guessed it. And from there on out I've felt increasingly detached from the name, feeling as thought it belongs to someone else and doesn't really fit me anymore. And now I'm fine with the runner-up name Thea, which is closer to my boy name. And I like it more and more. Still wondering if I should go for the long version (Theodora) or not though...
Elyra is just my preferred online nickname.
I'm keeping my original name as it's unisex and generally used as a girls nickname anyway. My middle name when I get around to changing it will be a feminine version of my grandfather's (Isley/Isla), as he taught me my values and morals. Plus that island is a producer of Scotch Whisky and neither of us drink
Mine was pretty simple... My Boy name is Ron, and my mother always called me Ronnie. Being a fan of the Archie's growing up. (Boy did I just date myself.. LOL) I always liked Veronica... (Swave & Sassy) Also it fits with my birth name which is Martin. So there it is... Cats out of the bag now... LOL. ;D ;D ;D
There is a good section on choosing a name at TSRoadmap.
http://www.tsroadmap.com/reality/nameindex.html
Quote from: Kathryn_:) on April 04, 2014, 06:30:58 AM
There is a good section on choosing a name at TSRoadmap.
http://www.tsroadmap.com/reality/nameindex.html
Very interesting read... Thank you.
My old male name was Thor, I wanted something strong and went with Teela (strong willed) ray was my middle name, came up with reene. and my last name, a tribute to my best friend who helped me through my whole transition. I have her last name.
I was originally using the feminization of my name, as I actually liked my name due to the history my parent's alluded to in it (and the funny debates over whose origin of the idea is the correct one ::)). One problem, my wife could not stand the sound of it. In the end, she came up with a name that would honor my heritage, still be feminine, and close enough to neutral for safety during transition - Mieke. For me it came out of left field, but I have to say I like it and feel it's special since it's another gift my wife has given me in our marriage.
Mine is similar to my boy name, has an abbreviation that happens to be a nickname I already have, and is the name of a girl I knew years ago, someone who at the time I was convinced I was in love with, the whole crazy teenage boy trip, and realized after a bit that it was more of her being completely the type of girl I wanted to be. So much of my "masculine" behavior (which I'm hearing more and more from people was apparently way more androgynous than I thought :P ) was modeled after her on a subconscious level, because she was the first person I ever met who I could identify with. It's ALSO a grandmother's name, haha, so it just kinda seemed pretty much perfect.
And taking my mom's middle name. Figure that'll make up a bit for the whole "sorry 'bout dropping the family name" thing XD
I forgot. It's been 20 years since I started with a better name. I do remember the first Cosmo magazine I received in the mail to Ms. Francis Ann _________. That was way cool back then.
My parents chose Sonia if I was to be born female. I always liked this name, more than my male name...
Now, only my close friend to whom I came out to call me Sonia. My brothers still call by my male name.
Sonia
Kathy and ultimately Katherine grew out of the name I commonly called myself while daydreaming of being a girl, and later a woman. It felt very natural, and came from the Chatty Cathy doll I couldn't have in 1959.
From Finnish ancestry my name meaning is:
Katherine - Pure
Henna - Leader of the home (Feminine version of my original name Henry)
Koski - Rapids (From something like Perrittikoski, supposedly a person, house or mill by the rapids)
A good name will choose you, and will grow from a part of your life. That includes the feminine names many of you chose from your old male names. But since those male names defined who we were in the past some of us find it impossible to use them as a base for our new name.
My name is just the obvious girl version of my birth name, I'm sure others with the male version can confirm that while growing up they were teased and call Michelle countless times by "boys being boys", with me it always just made me smile inside by hearing the name I wanted in the first place.
The last company I worked at had a couple of those smart ass type jokester guys that for the 20 years I worked there would call me Michelle, guys named Pat would get called "Patty" one guy name Joe was always called "Josie" this was at a big tough construction company that I ran the art department for. Not one single time did I mind it but the others were very annoyed for sure.
I chose Allison as my name simply because I have always liked the name. My entire life whenever I wrote a story that had a female character her name was always Allison. It wasn't until I received my new Driver's License and was removing my old one from my wallet that I realized that Allison is a feminine version of my middle name (and my father's first name) Alan.
I wanted something that began with the same first letter as my birth name but didn't sound too much like it, so I thought Ellison, but that sounded too pretentious so I chose the diminutive form of it, hence Ellie. I dunno, kind of fits. By the way, it is not a reference to the Clampett family, I don't even have a see-ment pond.
My name is a little embarrasing, but it stuck. Alessa Gilespie is the primary antagonist in the Silent Hill game series, and her nightmares manafest themselves. I was going through a personal hell, and figured that was my nightmare. So Alessa seemed fitting. Alyssa eventually came out of it when I realized things were going to be okay. Now I respond to Aly, Alyssa, Lyss, etc.
I first picked out Katie-Ann Elizabeth. However, when I got sirius About going forward, I needed to pick a new name since my half sister's name is Kathy.
I always love the name Emily from Clifard the Big Red Dog.
For my middle name, a female friend of mine gave me the nickname Ru. I think it would be a bit of a tribute to what I'm leaving behind.
For last name, just kept my current one.
So....
Emily Ru King
Mine was rather simple to choose, I didn't want a common name, nor did i want something i didn't connect with on some level, then I saw the name (Xhianil) in a furry web comic i like and it belonged to a dragoness, and since my son a is a dragoness and the name sounded cool I chose it and made it my own.
I saw Paige on the office door of someone named Paige. For some reason I took a shine to it.
I'd gone through a bunch of names before the one I selected for reasons of I met someone with the name or someone else took it. Paige still feels like my name. Though it is still sometimes very weird knowing that Paige is my name now, legally and all.
I myself have gone through a few names before I chose Lavinia for a long while I was using a greek name which was Athena but decided that the name didn't suit me too much and I decided to check for names and came up with the Latin name Lavinia which is a roman goddess in ancient times. it is a very old name dating back to the roman empire so that's how I decided on the name I could of kept the greek name but decided not to. Also make sure you chose a name you like since you're name is you're identity and it will be with you for the rest of your life, I may decide to have Athena as my middle name but not sure yet have to see how it sounds maybe someone can tell me if Lavinia Athena sounds unique since I don't want a common name I may even use Eris which is another greek name.
Quote from: BeingSonia on April 04, 2014, 10:22:30 AMMy parents chose Sonia if I was to be born female.
I was adopted as an infant and was 40 when I met my birth mother. She said she was going to name me Sheila if she had kept me. I told her I was glad she gave me up because I HATE that name. My oldest half-sister got stuck with Sheila LOL!
Haha, thanks everyone! ^^ From the sounds of it, for some it eventually just clicks, and hopefully I'll get there as well. I do have a few names that prefer over others, but I think I need to be further along in the transition to really feel comfortable enough with adopting a feminine name without it feeling weird.
Quote from: Misato on April 04, 2014, 05:05:44 PM
I saw Paige on the office door of someone named Paige. For some reason I took a shine to it.
I'd gone through a bunch of names before the one I selected for reasons of I met someone with the name or someone else took it. Paige still feels like my name. Though it is still sometimes very weird knowing that Paige is my name now, legally and all.
Paige,
I have a cousin whose last name is Six. He married a girl named Paige. I'm not joking. :D
Nattie,
As for names, I'm still Questioning, but I will admit that I've fallen in love with my chosen name. I used to fantasize about having a daughter and would always play with names in my head. When I started thinking of a new name for myself, I knew I wanted to keep to keep my initials, which are TWO. The name just came to me fairly easily and I think it flows and fits me well.
Full name: Tegan Willow O-----
I like how Celtic it sounds. It has strength and also grace. I think it's a name to live up to. It translates to beautiful, tall, and slender. I'm already the latter two, and I aspire one day to be the former as well.
Cheers,
Tegan
Quote from: Lavinia on April 04, 2014, 05:37:47 PM
I myself have gone through a few names before I chose Lavinia for a long while I was using a greek name which was Athena but decided that the name didn't suit me too much and I decided to check for names and came up with the Latin name Lavinia which is a roman goddess in ancient times. it is a very old name dating back to the roman empire so that's how I decided on the name I could of kept the greek name but decided not to. Also make sure you chose a name you like since you're name is you're identity and it will be with you for the rest of your life, I may decide to have Athena as my middle name but not sure yet have to see how it sounds maybe someone can tell me if Lavinia Athena sounds unique since I don't want a common name I may even use Eris which is another greek name.
Lavinia Eris has a nice sound to it.
-Teg
I chose Tori because of Susan's.
I was registering and realized I would have to come up with a username.
The name stuck. Eventually, it will be my legal name. Every new person who meets me, meets me as Tori. My mom calls me Tori.
Why did I pick it? Two reasons. 1: it was close enough to my male name. 2: I have never known a Tori who had ruined the name for me.
I am even warming to Victoria.
Do not call me Vickie.
My given name was Randy, and when I transitioned I just feminized it by going by 'Randi' instead. I didn't know it till I transitioned that my parents were going to name me Randi if I was born a girl too, but good cis-girlfriend named Vickie told me "How about Miranda? The nickname for Miranda is Randi anyway! And you'll have a pretty name to go by officially, when Randi sounds too playful." So I changed it, but it took me awhile to really warm to it. Now I love it, and I'm known by Miranda, Mira and Randi, but I like Mira and Miranda even more than Randi. Miranda Catherine Thomson. Catherine is my maternal grandmother's first name, my favorite grandma. I just had my new endocrinologist sign my paperwork to change my name and gender and I'm going next week to change it. I can't wait till the day I get to pull out the license that reflects the real me and my true gender! Hugs, Mira
A holy Goddess appeared in my room hoovering atop a burning pie with her arms outstretch and said "Thou shalt be Virginia!!!"
LOL... It's a long story, but basically it's a name I've always liked after a childhood girlfriend
I tried Carly, Haprer and Melody but none of those name fit me it felt like i was trying to be somone. I picked Patience because it seemed to be the name that fit me the most. I also thought of my parents what would they want and all my sisters had virtue names. So patience felt authentic. I saw the Catwomen movie with Halle Barry in it and ever since i was little i've always loved catwomen and other girl figures. Halle's character name was Patience and i really related to the movie and it helped change my life.
Especially this quote:
"The day I died was the day I started to live. In my old life, I longed for someone to see what was special in me. You did, and for that, youll always be in my heart. But what I really needed was for me to see it. And now I do. Youre a good man, Tom. But you live in a world that has no place for someone like me. You see, sometimes Im good. Oh, Im very good. But sometimes Im bad. But only as bad as I wanna be. Freedom is power. To live a life untamed and unafraid is the gift that Ive been given, and so my journey begins." "
In the movie she dies as insecure girl but is given a second chance and reborn as catwomen.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LY1Jc4g5doU (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LY1Jc4g5doU)
I found it power seeing how i was going through the same thing.
I couldn't see myself living a lie and continuing the road i was on. It would've been depressing and my future would've been none existent. Life is all about change and i needed that change. That's why i physically/Mentally needed to die from being the old scared, depressed, insecure and lifeless boy and being reborn as the confident, full of life girl/ young woman i meant to be now.
Quote from: Sincerely Tegan on April 04, 2014, 07:32:10 PM
Paige,
I have a cousin whose last name is Six. He married a girl named Paige. I'm not joking. :D
Thats just great! *slaps knee*
paige is a nice name, a name is a name mine is Lavinia Eris, thank you tegen i like the name a lot, latin and greek couldn't ask for a better name. anyway paige is a molto bella nome which is a very beautiful name in Italian but make sure u like the name u pick since its a name you will be called for at work, home and friends so just make sure you pick a name u like there are a lot of female names but not all might be appealing to u so look around there are plenty in different languges, Spanish, French, Italian, greek even latin which my first name is from, i would look around online there are websites u can find them, try google and look up baby girl names there are plenty and u can even put a language that you are not familiar with.
I did observe a "problem" with Paige given that I'm often working on a web page for my job.
"We should do this on that page."
"This page needs to be easier to use!"
With my head down in code sometimes I have to pick my head up thinking someone is talking to me!
I stole mine from a Brazilian super model and added a letter.
My middle name is Samara I stole that from the little girl from the movie the ring..lol
I've always loved the name Catherine, so after thinking about it for a number of weeks I figured that it would be a good place to start. There are so many variations of the name, but I eventually settled for Caitlin due to my Irish ancestry and desire for a modern and popular form. I was tempted to feminise my male name (Alexander -> Alexandra/Alexis), but I felt that it is a unisex name that is stereotypically male even in its feminine form. I know it's silly, but I feel that if I was to remain as Alex I just wouldn't be able to move on from being considered male.
I went back and forth with mine for awhile. Originally, growing up long before I told anyone, I was rather fond of Isabella, but that just happens to be the middle name of my girl friend's least favorite grandma, so she really was giving me some resistance on that front, which I can understand. For a little bit I was leaning towards Adriana because it sounded similar to my male name, Drinian, but eventually Ellesmira seemed to stick more. Elly for short, since it's kind of a long name. The name itself is sort of a variation of one from a book series I'm fond of, which seemed fitting since Drinian also came from a book series.
I've always liked the name Isabella and had also thought about taking it 8) Mostly because I had a mad crush on Isabella Rosellini for several years
I think i went to a site, sat down with a glass of coke and searched through 600 names. double checked the list picked 3. Picked the name I liked the most, then whenever a solicitor called I used that name and see how i felt when i said it. Then I decided on Miyah.
I've been meaning to post on this thread for a bit but I never seemed to be able to write a coherent post, mostly just ended up in tears.
I always envied people who's name was at the start of the alphabet, first for everything .....
I love unique names, by definition a name is a unique thing by which to identity someone and a beautiful name that I have not heard before is like a puzzle, what does it stand for, does it mean something, etc.
I wanted a name that worked in a multilingual context, I hated having to spell my name for everyone and then trying to explain how to pronounce rolling R's and clicking L's
I started reading through a list of names, namely the list of approved female names in Australia (they have a pretty comprehensive list regardless of anyone's feelings of the state|country having authority over which names you can use).
I got as far as "A" when I read Antonia, I've only ever known one Antonia and she was the Yin to my Yang but sadly got into hard drugs and passed away.
If I could have named my daughter after her I would have but since that was out of the question I thought ... .. . . ..
I hope she would approve.
Quote from: antonia on April 06, 2014, 10:20:25 PM
I've been meaning to post on this thread for a bit but I never seemed to be able to write a coherent post, mostly just ended up in tears.
I always envied people who's name was at the start of the alphabet, first for everything .....
I love unique names, by definition a name is a unique thing by which to identity someone and a beautiful name that I have not heard before is like a puzzle, what does it stand for, does it mean something, etc.
I wanted a name that worked in a multilingual context, I hated having to spell my name for everyone and then trying to explain how to pronounce rolling R's and clicking L's
I started reading through a list of names, namely the list of approved female names in Australia (they have a pretty comprehensive list regardless of anyone's feelings of the state|country having authority over which names you can use).
I got as far as "A" when I read Antonia, I've only ever known one Antonia and she was the Yin to my Yang but sadly got into hard drugs and passed away.
If I could have named my daughter after her I would have but since that was out of the question I thought ... .. . . ..
I hope she would approve.
Where can you find this list. Just curious because I'm curious as the names in our family are unique for Australia so I would love to see how close they came to the line. At school teachers could always recognize a member of my family just by looking at the first names of the rolls
I honestly can't remember why I chose my current name. Since I was a child I wanted to use my current name (not sure why).
My parents didn't had a female name for me as they knew I would be a "boy" xD (I interrogated my mother to find out what my name would be if I was born a girl)
When I first came to a trans* youth meeting (I didn't even know 100% sure I was trans* back then) they asked how I would like to be called. I panicked and I said that name which I always liked before and it just sticked.
My given boy names were Christopher David. I remember hanging around with a girl when I was about 14-15 - called Tucker, now there's an different girl's name :) - when she flat out told me, you're not a guy, you're really a girl and you need a girl's name. She gave me a watercolor painting with "To Cris" painted on it, and I've used Cris ever since, it's even on my driver's license and passport. Now that I'm transitioning, I needed something for my middle name - I'm keeping Cris and my last name - and I went searching various name databases on the net. I thought about feminizing David, but decided a clean break was important. I ended up picking Zoe which is French for "Life", which I thought was appropriate as I'm starting a new part of my life. Plus it makes me feel a little bit French and sexy :)
BTW, Zoe actually has an acute mark above the 'e' to give it a cute French flair, but I can't figure out how to get it to show up here.
I had been playing Disney's Pirates Online game for abt 7yrs as a female pirate, named Kat Heartbreaker, I LOVED the name Kat (short for Katherine), I have a fav aunt named Cathy, so that may be my attraction to it, but I also created, and played Anne (current avi name).. I was truly able to play, speak, type, emote as my inner self, and I was joyous each time! But sadly the Rat shut the game down on Talk Like A Pirate day..
So last month, when I came out to my mom, knowing she had several miscarriages, and then me.. I asked "this may be hard to answer and I'm sorry if it is,.. but if I was born a girl, what would you have named me?"
She replied, "Paula Christine, but you father nixed that idea as the other Christine he knew at the time (I'm a 50's baby) was Christine Jorgensen, the first TG girl in worldwide news, and he wasn't going to have any kid of his named after that.. "Well", I said.. "Christine, huh? .. perfect.. named after a transgendered person.. that's fitting.. as that's what I am, Mom." The rest, as they say, is a nightmare.. I've been getting used to Paula Christine, and just a few days ago, said to my therapist, that's what I'd like to be called, please.
I also really like Lisa, and Stephanie, Katie, Caitlin (derivatives of Kat), Susan is a very nice one also.. but I think that Paula Christine might be it.. my given first name is a famous apostle, and middle, named after the Angel of hopeless causes (again, very fitting) but there is -no- way to feminize that. I guess I will see if it really grows on me.. a name change will probably be my birthday present. And likely, an avi name change sooner..
I chose honey because I liked the way it sounds and people some times shorten it to hon. It is kind of unusual yes, but I like it.
I go into detail here: https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,161385.msg1400594.html#msg1400594
I chose Monica because she was the only a girl among those I fancy that I couldn't get as a dude and she had the most gorgeous body you could dream of and she became an obsession to me to the point I wanted to be her.
This is kind of funny. Or ironic anyways. I have been thinking of myself as Christine for as long as I can remember and I do not know why. After my wife at the time became more accepting she wanted to make me up and dress me. I agreed (it was my first time totally made up). Then she said I needed a name because mine just didn't fit. I told her since she was being so understanding she could choose and I was just praying it would be something I could live with. She thought about it for a few minutes and finally just said I think Christine fits. I never told her that it was what i was already thinking of myself as. Well I guess Christine it is and I am hoping someday to have the courage to make it permanent.
When I was 23 years old I was in love with one of the loveliest young women I have ever known. One day she told me that she was leaving because I was too feminine, and she wanted to be with a real man. It broke my heart at the time, but had the ring of truth even then. For a long time I remembered her words and thought about it. It became one of the things that helped me come to terms with my own reality. I took her name, both to remember her charm, and to acknowledger her insight. (And because I really like it) Who wouldda thunk?
j
Okkkay, sorry to dredge up a slightly old post, but I did it...
<-- *points to profile name*
I'm very happy with it, it took weeks of figuring out. I needed one that seemed to fit me, that I liked, that I could see other people using, that wouldn't be too difficult to transition with, that didn't sound too nuts or out there but was unique enough that it represented me, and that meant something cool (to at least me).
I was tossing up between a lot of names, mostly lara, lana, sara, sarah, laura, karli, kayleigh, kaylah, lila, fina, aya annnd the list goes on, but I think Kara is a nice middle ground and I think the K suits me (it's weird how some names seem to fit, whilst others don't). Sarah is my favourite female name, but it doesn't suit me at all :P And I love Lara, but I know so many girls with L names it just didn't seem right using it.
Anyway, thank you everyone for the help :) please call me Kara Jayde here on out ^_^ <3
Quote from: JulieBlair on April 16, 2014, 08:03:42 PM
When I was 23 years old I was in love with one of the loveliest young women I have ever known. One day she told me that she was leaving because I was too feminine, and she wanted to be with a real man. It broke my heart at the time, but had the ring of truth even then. For a long time I remembered her words and thought about it. It became one of the things that helped me come to terms with my own reality. I took her name, both to remember her charm, and to acknowledger her insight. (And because I really like it) Who wouldda thunk?
j
I was madly in love with someone I met on the net a few years ago myself. We'd play games all the time and talk to each other. After a few years of both of us sorta drifting through life, she got her shet together and got a real life. I knew what was happening and where we was heading and watched as she moved on without me. After trying to reconnect a bunch of times over a long period of time with her, sending her msg's and being ignored, I sent her a msg a few months ago saying good bye I guess (the super short version of it).
I've always loved her name and have used it before in certain situations but idk if I could use it as my legal name though. She was a great person to me, totally loved her and had many great times with her but it still hurts the way things went.
Oh btw, HI KARA! Sorry I totally derailed your thread.. I did notice that you changed your name before I read this tho!
I had no name until I made the final decisions to transition a year ago. Then I woke up one night with the name Melissa clearly stuck in my head. Mel worked well for work colleagues and because I wanted to protect my real name. Deedpoll last September and new passport with F in January. Life moves fast.
Melissa is derived from French Melisse and also one of Zeus's nannies. The name fits well and I'm happy. I guess when you find the right name you will just know. But it should not be an expedition... If you find it alien talking to yourself using the new name then it is a poor fit.
I didn't. My birth name is androgynous and I see no need to change it. The name I use here, "Dee" is what my mom always called me. It's what I ask my best friends to use. At least I won't have the "using the wrong name" problem when I'm completely out, although I don't doubt I'll have the "wrong pronoun" problem.
Dee
I go by the name Phil these days,I know most people consider it to be a male name but it actually works as a female name too
I mentioned before that since I dont strongly indentify as a woman , maybe a demigirl or something , this name makes me feel comfortable as long as people use female pronouns with it or gender neutral ones.
Because Jills are awesome! Every Jill I have ever met was super cool.
Well, my parents would have named me Juliana but my baby sister got it. Gillian is the anglicized version of that name and is anagrammatic of my given name. In fact, G------ -illia- -------n.
Perfect. Fit me like a glove.
Erin is now taken as a feminine name. Years ago it was considered ambiguous. I sort of like ambiguous at this point.
Then again, in World War One the Royal Navy had a battleship named of all things... Erin (at that point it was a poetic term for Ireland - before the Irish Revolution). So, this satisfies me as a totally odd mixture.
Erin
I went to the largest site for baby names. And literally went through every letter until I had about 5 names I liked the best. Then I just continued making my list smaller until I had a name that I felt fit perfectly.
http://www.westons-cider.co.uk/products/old-rosie-and-traditional/the-product/
Rosie.
I ran across Naomi while browsing the web a few years ago. I loved the name and it just stuck to me. My legal name on the other hand isn't to bad considering its androgynous in nature. If anything I meet more women with my legal name than guys.
Satinjoy? ummmmm....... ;) Guess?
Wife calls me Pagel. Indian for crazy in love, although the wrong gender spelling, it is supposed to be Paglee.
Fine. Its affectionate and I'll take it because its affectionate and from her heart.
Back around age 14, I'd always write stories on my computer late at night about what it would be like if I could somehow turn into a girl by magic. So I started thinking up female names for myself that were basically versions of my birth name, "Charlie."
The first one I thought up was "Cheryl," but that to me sounded like too much of an 'old' name. The one and only time that I ever did a drag show, at a pool party, my name was "Charlene." But that to me just sounded too obvious, too blatantly like nothing but the female version of the name "Charlie," and therefore sounded unfeminine to my ears.
So eventually I settled on "Carrie." And I've been using that name for myself ever since. It sounded cuter, younger, and more feminine than the other names to my ears, so I've always loved it. Then one night, about 3 months into transition, I had a dream where I was crying and a middle-aged woman comforted me by endearingly calling me "Caroline, dear..." So I started gravitating toward using "Caroline" as my official name, and "Carrie" as a nickname. And then what sealed the deal was twofold... first, my aunt Patty criticized me for changing my name, saying "you're named in honor of your great uncle, who died young of cancer. You should keep your name to honor that." And I realized, "Caroline" is the feminine version of "Charles." So really, I was still honoring him. I was still named after him, just a girl instead. And then when I asked my mom whether I should go with "Carrie Elizabeth" or "Caroline Elizabeth," she definitively said "Caroline," it sounded really pretty that way, so that finalized it.
My middle name, that was obvious since day 1. "Elizabeth" was the name of my grandmother, who died mere months before I was born. My mom LOVES that name, and it would have been my middle name had I been born a girl. So go figure... just a mere month from now, my legal name will be "Caroline Elizabeth D******," and I'll be going by "Carrie."
Honestlyy, I am still wondering which name I like the most... "Gabriella" or "Amanda" ... Gabriella would be the feminization of my boy name, HOWEVERR, I find the name "Amanda" SO pretty, both have nice meanings and stuff, this is my biggest struggle with transitioning really :[ .
I would like you peeps to give opinions :3.
Amanda Rodrigues, sound better than Gabriella Rodrigues? My middle name is Rodrigues...
I am afraid if I change my name to "Amanda" my personality may go with it, but Gabriella may be a little giveaway, or maybe not? help meh
If your maab name is Gabriel then Gabriella would certainly make it easier on friends and family, though I personally didn't like the idea of feminizing my male name. I imagined people saying it, and I think it'd remind me too much of my male name/identity. That being said, I think that it depends on the person.
I think both are beautiful names, by the way. :)
Quote from: Amandaww on April 21, 2014, 08:43:00 PM
Honestlyy, I am still wondering which name I like the most... "Gabriella" or "Amanda" ... Gabriella would be the feminization of my boy name, HOWEVERR, I find the name "Amanda" SO pretty, both have nice meanings and stuff, this is my biggest struggle with transitioning really :[ .
I would like you peeps to give opinions :3.
Amanda Rodrigues, sound better than Gabriella Rodrigues? My middle name is Rodrigues...
I am afraid if I change my name to "Amanda" my personality may go with it, but Gabriella may be a little giveaway, or maybe not? help meh
Personally I like Amanda, while both are both are beautiful names me. To me Amanda seems to flow better with Rodrigues as your middle name, but it is YOUR name and you have to feel comfortable with it. If you are worried about your personality disappearing with the change of name, ask yourself
"What's in a name? that which we call a rose By any other name would smell as sweet"I toyed with changing my name on numerous occasions but mine is used as a boys and girls nickname and everyone automaticly would extend my name to one of the female variations since my teens. (maybe they knew something that I wasn't ready to admit yet)
P.S Congratulations on choosing your name Kara Jayde
I've always liked the name Alex and Hunter is inspired by mom's maiden name.
As I move towards better integration of my two selves, my wife suggests a rechristening. My middle name would serve as a two-way name, so I might start going by that no matter how I am presenting. Still not sure, though.
I asked my mother what she would have called me had I been born a girl, she said Susan after my father's mother who died the year before I was born. That just didn't seem to fit.
My brothers have always called me Michelle so at first I went with that.
When I came out with my aunt, she said... well she said a lot. First was that it explained some things. I had forgotten that I had kept my fingernails long my whole junior year. I went as Dorothy on Halloween when I was five and wanted to go as Wonder Woman the next year. That I cried for a week after she made me take off her cheerleading outfit on my eighth birthday. Apparently it's my birthday and I should be able to wear what I want is not a valid argument. Hard to believe how much I had forgotten.
Oops, got sidetracked.
She said I was only third generation American on one side of the family and second on the other, why go with the English version of my name at all. Mikaela is a family name, feels right and it makes me smile when I say it.
I searched a few baby name sites for native american names and gaelic names. The reason i chose to look at the Native American names is that they sometimes have deep meanings that are closely tied with nature and as I love nature and I am part Native American, I thought it was only appropriate to peruse around. I found a few names that resonated but didn't quite have the deep meaning that I was looking for. I then looked at gaelic names as my original name was gaelic. I couldn't really find anything there either. I then decided to look at Greek names as they often sound very sophisticated and are not used all that often. I chose the name Athena because it is very feminine sounding yet sophisticated and strong. The goddess that this name was taken after reminds me a lot of my own personality in some ways as I try to be as knowledgeable as I can about certain topics and value that knowledge highly. I then try to pass on that knowledge to others and attempt to invent new ways of doing something or creating something that would help benefit others. Find a name not for only how it sounds but how the definition of the name resonates with you.