So, I try not to complain. Ever since I lost my little dog 2 months ago, I am having a hard time. You see, ever since I transitioned years ago, I have been on my own. I do speak to my family, but even after 14 years they still refer to me as she. And they basically just tolerate me. Treat me as second class. And friends....well I don't have any. Because they have never been able to deal with the change. And I wonder if anyone else deals with this? Looking to stay connected and having everyone in your life, not be interested. I try my best to be a good person, but I am tired of being told, I can't come home. I am an embarrassment. etc. And yea. the little dog I just lost. He was the only unconditional love I have ever known.
Yeah, animals make a lot more sense and actually more intellegent than most humans. I am truly sorry to hear about your little dog. Do not take being treated as a second class citizen. That is "f"ed up all the way around. Cut ties and live your own life to your own expectations and what will make you happy. Never live for someone else's happiness or level of comfort, just your own.
BTW, you are not an embarassment. You are living life on your own terms and probably have more courage than anyone else in your family to live that way. I don't know you personally but you probably are a good person. It is those that cannot accept us that are not.
Having grown up in two separate, dysfunctional families, I can empathize with feeling separate from your folks. I often found a "second home" in the families of friends, but there was the implicit and respected wish that, whatever shelter they'd offered me if I were ever homeless or in danger, I not be there during holidays. My choices were to brave drama and people who'd physically assaulted me or sit in my room alone.
Leaving something you were born into or grew up with isn't easy, but this is an opportunity for a new family and social circle. There are people out there who can help you heal and will treat you like a human being. There aren't many people who are as loving or as loyal as a pet, but there are still possibilities. I can't remember the last time I turned to a family member other than my father (finally present in my life again at 23), and with the friends I have I probably never will. I'm not their sort-of kid, and they would keep me for Christmas.
I always have and always will advise, if your family does not provide for you then turn elsewhere for love and nurturing. Don't waste away trying to win it from people who don't want to give it.
Quote from: Pitch on May 27, 2014, 04:40:39 AM
I always have and always will advise, if your family does not provide for you then turn elsewhere for love and nurturing. Don't waste away trying to win it from people who don't want to give it.
I like this advice.
Transition is not easy. It's just not. There are so many hills for us to climb and so many things for us to worry about - it's a daunting task.
You have proven that you are far braver than those other people that can't accept you, and you are brave enough and strong enough to live without them in your life - they are dragging you down, they are a negative force in your life. It's probably time to cut ties with the past and with people that don't add anything to your life and move on into your new future.
When you are living as your authentic self quality people will be attracted to you, and you will have true friends that accept you as you are; not friends that require you to be a certain person to make them happy and comfortable.