So I've always considered myself to be straight, and never really thought much about it.
I mean...I've only ever dated girls. I have done sexual stuff with other guys but I could never feel the emotional attachment.
Anyway, I've been on T for a couple of weeks now and yesterday I realized I'm totally crushing on one of the guys that posts on this site. I think he's physically attractive but it's more than that.
It's not that I think that it's the hormones but could it be that I just don't feel as weird about being attracted to guys now?
I don't know. I think it's strange that this new attraction suddenly developed. I don't know what's going on! ha
Has anyone else realized during transition that you like the same/opposite sex when you never have before?
I am a straight guy, But I have never heard of T changing what your sexual orientation and I would hope not because I love women tooo much haha. Its just like a normal guy going through puberty their sexualities don't change and if your infact born gay then thats not possible if your gay you were always gay same for if your straight.
Quote from: Brandon on August 29, 2014, 09:08:37 PM
I am a straight guy, But I have never heard of T changing what your sexual orientation and I would hope not because I love women tooo much haha. Its just like a normal guy going through puberty their sexualities don't change and if your infact born gay then thats not possible if your gay you were always gay same for if your straight.
Right...like I said, I don't think it is the T. But maybe my outlook on things now that I'm transitioning, that makes it easier for me to accept being attracted to males? If that makes sense.
or idk...maybe it's one of those personality crush things where it's just this guy in particular. I haven't noticed being attracted to any other guys yet...
I know I've seen a lot of this on the MTF side. Girls saying their sexuality broadened or changed during/after transition or hormones. I personally believe it isn't so much that their sexuality "changed," as it is that people are being more honest with themselves and open to feelings they may not have been before. It's sort of what transition is all about, really.
Quote from: kdbrrw on August 29, 2014, 09:10:40 PM
Right...like I said, I don't think it is the T. But maybe my outlook on things now that I'm transitioning, that makes it easier for me to accept being attracted to males? If that makes sense.
I have heard of that from other guys but you can find someone attractive witout being gay though. Of course its easier for a girl to tell another girl she's pretty because its more acceptable for females.
I have always said do what you feel natural doing. I do hate trying to fit a label.
Enjoy life.
Quote from: Brandon on August 29, 2014, 09:17:19 PM
I have heard of that from other guys but you can find someone attractuve without being gay though. Of course its easier for a girl to tell another girl she's pretty because its more acceptable for females.
True, it is a lot more acceptable.
I know that sometimes when I look up to someone it's easy to mistake those feelings of admiration for a crush. I guess that could be it.
idk, it's just very unsettling because I thought my sexuality was one thing I had figured out by now.
And as ->-bleeped-<-ty as it sounds i would rather just be attracted to only girls because I feel like it's easier.
but at the same time I don't want to deny my feelings if I could be bisexual.
Quote from: Brandon on August 29, 2014, 09:17:19 PM
I have heard of that from other guys but you can find someone attractive witout being gay though. Of course its easier for a girl to tell another girl she's pretty because its more acceptable for females.
I know, right? And now that I'm presenting as a girl, I still can't compliment guys 'cause I feel like they'll think I'm flirting with them. And that would be really awkward for me, since I'm a lesbian.
Dude, I honestly wouldn't worry about putting a label on it. Just go with the flow.
Quote from: Pikachu on August 29, 2014, 09:23:14 PM
I know, right? And now that I'm presenting as a girl, I still can't compliment guys 'cause I feel like they'll think I'm flirting with them. And that would be really awkward for me, since I'm a lesbian.
Yea I have been complimented by lesbians haha but I never take it as flirting because you guys like women just like me and I respect that no matter how hot you might be. Know I have seen some really bad lesbians and got mad because they don't date men but Ill never be rude about it lol.
Maybe you feeling like a female (well feeling female in form despite your mental male-ness) caused you to push back your attraction to men. Now that you're on T you probably feel more totally male, and perhaps your mind is letting itself feel the things it wouldn't before?
I am, however, also am straight (though sometimes I feel like a male lesbian =p). Never had feelings for a guy, and T didn't change that. I think though that if I did ever I'd be cool with it. Life is rather fluid.. why fight it?
Quote from: Kyler on August 29, 2014, 09:23:48 PM
Dude, I honestly wouldn't worry about putting a label on it. Just go with the flow.
Exactly. Don't worry about this. You're trans, and therefore beyond queer anyway. If you like someone for whatever reason, just go with it.
Quote from: kdbrrw on August 29, 2014, 09:10:40 PM
Right...like I said, I don't think it is the T. But maybe my outlook on things now that I'm transitioning, that makes it easier for me to accept being attracted to males? If that makes sense.
For what it is worth, this is the most common explanation I have heard as to why guys start to be attracted to guys after they go on testosterone. If it is accurate or not, I don't know. I do think that some transmen, prior to T, shut down their sexuality as much as possible because it was uncomfortable for them because they are female bodied. Now that they are experiencing the right hormones they kind of "wake up", "look around", and notice who they are attracted to. It is like when the guy finally comes into his true self, his sexuality can finally/truly emerge.
It's not uncommon. Since starting T I've noticed my sexuality might be slightly more fluid than I thought. To be with a guy pre-transition, there's so many reminders that our bodies are different and that I'm the girl. It's easier with a girl. Keep my clothes on, focus on her. I see myself ending up in a straight relationship long term, but I don't know where my head will be after top surgery when I'll feel comfortable getting more naked. I still feel fully confident about my attraction to women, the way they make me feel.. no words can explain. But I've been very comfortable exploring my sexuality (I'll just say it.. I'm talkin bout porn). So yea, it's definitely confusing, but it doesn't have to mess with your head if you don't let it.
Quote from: Pikachu on August 29, 2014, 09:16:30 PM
I know I've seen a lot of this on the MTF side. Girls saying their sexuality broadened or changed during/after transition or hormones. I personally believe it isn't so much that their sexuality "changed," as it is that people are being more honest with themselves and open to feelings they may not have been before. It's sort of what transition is all about, really.
That's how it's been speculated in the FTM side as well, at least on one Finnish message board and I think it makes lot of sense.
I guess I'm now more open to the fact that despite being in a steady relationship with a woman I'm pretty damn gay. :D Pre-T, I don't think I would've wanted to be in a relationship with a guy but now I'm more like "sure, why not". xD
I have also pretty much given up with all the sexuality labels because... pfft, I just don't need them so why bother.
Sexuality seems to be a fluid thing for everyone. I have to agree with others and say don't worry about labels. :)
I always liked men and I still do, so I don't think t changes preferences. I think it's a comfort thing. Sexuality is complicated and honestly, we deal with enough labels. I would say just take your time and don't worry so much. It could always be a "with this person I'd be whatever" sort of deal.
Quote from: Maleth on August 30, 2014, 09:35:56 AM
Sexuality seems to be a fluid thing for everyone. I have to agree with others and say don't worry about labels. :)
That I'd have to respectfully disagree with, Some peoples sexualities are fluid and some people know what they like and they are set on that. I have a problem with people who say that. But I agree with the second part somewhat.
Quote from: Brandon on August 30, 2014, 11:14:47 AM
That I'd have to respectfully disagree with, Some peoples sexualities are fluid and some people know what they like and they are set on that. I have a problem with people who say that. But I agree with the second part somewhat.
Maybe I phrased that in an odd way... I did not mean to say that everyone isn't sure about who they like, I simply meant that for many people out there, sometimes they go through a period of experimentation (especially through their youth) and a person doesn't have to always be 100% this or that. Sexuality doesn't have to be a "set" thing in my opinion initially, because people need to somehow reach that point, right? I, for example, didn't know that I was attracted to people of all identities until a while ago. Before then, I thought I was "100% straight" and was convinced until I met a wonderful non-binary person and found I was attracted to them and thus pansexual. Bottom line of what I meant: People should be free to explore what attracts them and I don't think people should limit themselves to labels because sexuality is a beautiful and (sometimes) fluid thing. But that's just my opinion of course. :)
Quote from: mrs izzy on August 29, 2014, 09:18:47 PM
I have always said do what you feel natural doing. I do hate trying to fit a label.
Enjoy life.
This.
Quote from: KamTheMan on August 29, 2014, 10:51:46 PM
It's not uncommon. Since starting T I've noticed my sexuality might be slightly more fluid than I thought. To be with a guy pre-transition, there's so many reminders that our bodies are different and that I'm the girl. It's easier with a girl. Keep my clothes on, focus on her.
That's interesting. It's the opposite for me. Being with a girl pre-transition had too many reminders that our bodies were the same. When I was with a guy, I could just focus on them.
Quote from: Maleth on August 30, 2014, 11:45:50 AM
Maybe I phrased that in an odd way... I did not mean to say that everyone isn't sure about who they like, I simply meant that for many people out there, sometimes they go through a period of experimentation (especially through their youth) and a person doesn't have to always be 100% this or that. Sexuality doesn't have to be a "set" thing in my opinion initially, because people need to somehow reach that point, right? I, for example, didn't know that I was attracted to people of all identities until a while ago. Before then, I thought I was "100% straight" and was convinced until I met a wonderful non-binary person and found I was attracted to them and thus pansexual. Bottom line of what I meant: People should be free to explore what attracts them and I don't think people should limit themselves to labels because sexuality is a beautiful and (sometimes) fluid thing. But that's just my opinion of course. :)
Right, But thats mainly girls who like to experiment all my friends who are girls are bi curious or at one point where. And the second part, how I see it as is if you know what you like you wouldn't even have to question or think about that. Like me and my boys know we love all the terms people use to describe a womans body. And its true you have your own oppinion.
Quote from: Edge on August 30, 2014, 11:53:11 AM
This.
That's interesting. It's the opposite for me. Being with a girl pre-transition had too many reminders that our bodies were the same. When I was with a guy, I could just focus on them.
This makes it seem like your choosing to be gay though as well as other guys here. I thought people were born gay.
Quote from: Brandon on August 30, 2014, 12:10:04 PM
This makes it seem like your choosing to be gay though as well as other guys here. I thought people were born gay.
1. I'm bi/pan.
2. It wasn't a choice.
3. It also wasn't my choice to suddenly be hit with massive amounts of dysphoria when I was trying to be with my then girlfriend. That was really confusing and uncomfortable.
4. It had nothing to do with who I'm attracted to and everything to do with how I felt about my own body.
There is such a thing as bisexuality and there are such a thing as bisexual guys.
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Quote from: Edge on August 30, 2014, 12:35:58 PM
1. I'm bi/pan.
2. It wasn't a choice.
3. It also wasn't my choice to suddenly be hit with massive amounts of dysphoria when I was trying to be with my then girlfriend. That was really confusing and uncomfortable.
4. It had nothing to do with who I'm attracted to and everything to do with how I felt about my own body.
There is such a thing as bisexuality and there are such a thing as bisexual guys.
I am not slow I realize that there are bisexuals, I guess I just don't understand where your coming from, And in your earlier post you just said that being with a girl gave you constant reminders which idk how. And that you pretty much didn't want that. So yes you technically made a choice there and once again I am not dumb I know what a bisexual is.
What choice? I didn't choose to have gender dysphoria and I didn't choose who I'm attracted to so what, exactly do you think was a choice?
Quote from: Brandon on August 30, 2014, 12:06:23 PM
Right, But thats mainly girls who like to experiment all my friends who are girls are bi curious or at one point where. And the second part, how I see it as is if you know what you like you wouldn't even have to question or think about that. Like me and my boys know we love all the terms people use to describe a womans body. And its true you have your own oppinion.
In my experience I've known plenty of guys that are curious to experiment but maybe that's due to being in a city where people are generally more liberal and understanding.. But I understand where you're coming from, Brandon. I think in a way, labels make it easie sometimes and I use them too, but other times I just don't really pay mind to them. But again, I understand what you mean. ^_^
Quote from: Edge on August 30, 2014, 12:52:17 PM
What choice? I didn't choose to have gender dysphoria and I didn't choose who I'm attracted to so what, exactly do you think was a choice?
Not the gender dysphoria obviously I have that myself so that was kinda dumb to say. I am talking about your first post you made it seem like your attraction to guys is a choice all because you say being with a woman makes your dysphoric which again I don't get how. How you worded it most people would see it as a choice
Quote from: Maleth on August 30, 2014, 12:54:47 PM
In my experience I've known plenty of guys that are curious to experiment but maybe that's due to being in a city where people are generally more liberal and understanding.. But I understand where you're coming from, Brandon. I think in a way, labels make it easie sometimes and I use them too, but other times I just don't really pay mind to them. But again, I understand what you mean. ^_^
And I understand what you mean to though.
Quote from: Brandon on August 30, 2014, 01:24:48 PM
Not the gender dysphoria obviously I have that myself so that was kinda dumb to say. I am talking about your first post you made it seem like your attraction to guys is a choice all because you say being with a woman makes your dysphoric which again I don't get how. How you worded it most people would see it as a choice
No, most people wouldn't. I have no idea how you made that leap at all.
Quote from: Edge on August 30, 2014, 02:38:08 PM
No, most people wouldn't. I have no idea how you made that leap at all.
Go back and read your post and most people who are heterosexual would say it sounds like you made a choice to be gay again its how you worded it, saying being with a women made you dysphoric so thats why your bi does infact sound like you made a choice.
Quote from: Brandon on August 30, 2014, 01:24:48 PM
Not the gender dysphoria obviously I have that myself so that was kinda dumb to say. I am talking about your first post you made it seem like your attraction to guys is a choice all because you say being with a woman makes your dysphoric which again I don't get how. How you worded it most people would see it as a choice
Brandon,
I think what Edge was trying to say (correct me if I am wrong, Edge), is that before transition, his body looked like any other woman's body. So, when he was naked with a woman and saw how they had the same bodies, it reminded him he was born female. This made him feel dysphoric (because he is a man).
Does that make sense?
Quote from: Brett on August 30, 2014, 03:16:14 PM
Brandon,
I think what Edge was trying to say (correct me if I am wrong, Edge), is that before transition, his body looked like any other woman's body. So, when he was naked with a woman and saw how they had the same bodies, it reminded him he was born female. This made him feel dysphoric (because he is a man).
Does that make sense?
No I realize that obviously but thats not a reason to be gay or bi if he wasn't before. Your gonna be dysphoric at times no matter who you date, And you would think a gay trans man would be more dysphoric than a straight transman just a though.
I think everyone needs a break from this topic.
Locking for 24 hrs will reopen then.
Take the time to look back over what was written.
Name calling and belittling is not accepted. One can make a point in a gentleman manor.
So relax
Everyone calm now I hope.
Let's keep it calm and to the topic.
Unlocked.
Izzy
Quote from: Brett on August 30, 2014, 03:16:14 PM
Brandon,
I think what Edge was trying to say (correct me if I am wrong, Edge), is that before transition, his body looked like any other woman's body. So, when he was naked with a woman and saw how they had the same bodies, it reminded him he was born female. This made him feel dysphoric (because he is a man).
Does that make sense?
Yep, that's it exactly. Thanks, Brett.
Quote from: Brandon on August 30, 2014, 03:36:55 PM
No I realize that obviously but thats not a reason to be gay or bi if he wasn't before.
I was bi before.
Dang I didn't mean for any controversial conversations to happen.
I was just wondering if anyone else found that transitioning allowed them to be more comfortable exploring their sexuality. It's fine to say that you're "100%" something but I think that to imply that most people do not have ANY fluidity in their sexuality would be inaccurate.
Quote from: kdbrrw on August 31, 2014, 06:16:21 PM
I was just wondering if anyone else found that transitioning allowed them to be more comfortable exploring their sexuality. It's fine to say that you're "100%" something but I think that to imply that most people do not have ANY fluidity in their sexuality would be inaccurate.
Transition definitely allowed me be more open. I still just like guys, but I am actually comfortable with sex and my participation in it. After hormones I felt more confident and now after surgery I'm actually willing I try things I never thought I would be able to. I'm also more wiling to talk about a lot of things that fall under the sexuality umbrella, simply because I feel comfortable with myself.
My sexuality is definitely fluid and does change. just go with the flow :P....I dont like to label my self.
My sexuality is more fluid than it was before, in the sense that I sometimes feel like making out with dudes, even if I still don't feel sexually attracted to them. It definitely has to do with validation on some level, as I'm pretty sure I could never be interested in a straight guy.
I think I'll throw my two cents into the mix.
I'm a pansexual MTF, before I started my transition I might have felt female inside but I could not ignore what was on the outside, I had a male body and hence when having sex with a male partner it was clearly gay sex which is very different from hetero sex.
As my transition progresses my body becomes more female and at some point if I were to have sex with a guy it would be hetero sex, sex with girls will become lesbian sex.
People always seem to focus on the partners gender or sex, for me it makes more sense to think about the act and activity, which role you play is another question all together.
It seems to be a pretty common phenomenon. Not one that I personally experienced, but I will say that T changed certain aspects of my sexuality despite my orientation remaining the same. By that I just mean that I became comfortable with things that I never had been before... It was a really big change in how I viewed my own sexuality, and my attitude towards sex in general. I think almost everyone experiences this type of change when starting T, so it makes sense to me that for some, this could include a shift in orientation as well.
I don't relay know what to say. I am Bi and I find myself attracted to guys more than ever before. I still find females attractive and some more than just attractive but would rather have and am more attracted to guys . Now a female or another MTF in a ménages' tois with a guy don't seem to far of reach as what it used to be. :embarrassed:
i don't know how transition might change my sexuality in the future, but it has already been acting up, doing weird stuff when i least expect it. none of it unpleasant when i just managed to accept it for what it is.
what edge said about feeling uncomfortable with a woman, makes sense to me. there would probably be very different triggers from person to person, for me the worst was when a guy would insist on focusing on my chest. but i've never been with a woman, mostly because i don't want to be in a lesbian relationship. never. though i love women, so that's not my reason. it's more like taking on a lesbian identity would be a much too big step towards feministic womanhood and other things that i really don't want to be associated with. i'm not enough woman to dare do that. can't even imagine a butch identity just to get some. wouldn't work for me.
so i suppose all i can do is transition, and see if things won't be a little easier after that.
The subject has come up before and I recall several guys saying that they were probably always somewhat bi but that they suppressed their gay side because they felt so much pressure to be a "typical" guy, to be accepted as a guy. It wasn't even a particularly conscious thing. But once they started consistently passing and everyone accepted them as a guy, they were more comfortable acknowledging some gay feelings. It seems to keep coming back to feeling confident and secure. You're no longer feeling like you have to prove anything. I think most gay or bi guys, cis or trans, go through that to some degree. It's all about reaching a place where you realize "It's okay for me to be this. This is a valid and honest expression of me."
Quote from: dalebert on September 01, 2014, 11:19:36 AM
The subject has come up before and I recall several guys saying that they were probably always somewhat bi but that they suppressed their gay side because they felt so much pressure to be a "typical" guy, to be accepted as a guy. It wasn't even a particularly conscious thing. But once they started consistently passing and everyone accepted them as a guy, they were more comfortable acknowledging some gay feelings. It seems to keep coming back to feeling confident and secure. You're no longer feeling like you have to prove anything. I think most gay or bi guys, cis or trans, go through that to some degree. It's all about reaching a place where you realize "It's okay for me to be this. This is a valid and honest expression of me."
Society, in my opinion has cause a lot of that Tabooness between guys. I mean Girls "experiment" and there is nothing at all wrong with that, but if a guy "experiments" then he gets labeled as gay or bi. Even though he may not be but was just curious. I guess girls experimenting is female privilege and one privilege that guys can't experience. To me, this really sux and is really kind of unfair.
Transition *can* change your sexual orientation. But i think generally your sexual orientation *label* will change, but you won't. In my case, I think I am still asexual essentially, but might have gone to "romantic" vs aromantic. I feel that I have some attraction, but it is still fairly limited. That's still a bit of a change. I just say I am questioning right now.
--Jay
Sexuality is a very confusing and fluid thing for me. One day, I swear I'm a straight man that will make exceptions for other FTMs because of the fact that we can relate to each other, and I can't stand to think of penetrative sex done to myself, or dating guys because of their sexual organs, but then, I meet a cisguy, and I start feeling attracted to them. It's always more physically than emotionally. I always get way more into a relationship emotionally with a girl. I usually don't cry if I break up with a guy after a rather long-term thing, but I will with girls, etc. If I see a cute girl, I'm way more shy and awkward with them than with my fellow bros. Stuff like that. I always decide on being a "straight" man, then a guy comes along and makes me question myself. I do notice, though, that I've slowly transitioned away from wanting a boyfriend, to wanting a girlfriend. I've gone from a bisexual "female", to a "lesbian," to a bisexual male, to a "straight" male. It feels like every day I start to distance myself further from liking men, but then, like I said, I see a cute guy, and I question myself. I think that I'm just at an age where I'm still trying to figure myself out, especially being pre-everything medical.
Quote from: Jess42 on September 01, 2014, 01:23:56 PM
Society, in my opinion has cause a lot of that Tabooness between guys. I mean Girls "experiment" and there is nothing at all wrong with that, but if a guy "experiments" then he gets labeled as gay or bi. Even though he may not be but was just curious. I guess girls experimenting is female privilege and one privilege that guys can't experience. To me, this really sux and is really kind of unfair.
female privilege?
but then you get to all the guys who insist they can manage to f any lesbian straight.
because all that girls do with each other is only seen as experimenting. and nothing more. they're all expected to end up straight, marrying some guy, bearing children, and all that.
guys at least are taken seriously when they say they are gay. it's seen as proof, that they can have sexual relations with another guy.
girls don't get that privilege.
there's also the case of asia, where in some places it's more accepted that guys play around with each other a little. girls doing the same would just be... really inappropriate. and totally weird.
Quote from: Taka on September 02, 2014, 02:35:54 PM
female privilege?
but then you get to all the guys who insist they can manage to f any lesbian straight.
because all that girls do with each other is only seen as experimenting. and nothing more. they're all expected to end up straight, marrying some guy, bearing children, and all that.
guys at least are taken seriously when they say they are gay. it's seen as proof, that they can have sexual relations with another guy.
girls don't get that privilege.
there's also the case of asia, where in some places it's more accepted that guys play around with each other a little. girls doing the same would just be... really inappropriate. and totally weird.
You know what Taka, your right. Lipstick lesbians are assumed the way you say. And yeah even trans I am definitely the lipstick type, but also the butch type is freakin' awesome too. I'm lipstick bi so.... ??? Where do I fit in?
But girls experimenting is not as near taboo as guys "experimenting". I know I was labeled gay and no I am bi. I am a bisexual woman but when people perceived me especially when I first got home from the Army with short hair, yuck, and so on. I was gay, no matter what. No choice in the matter whether bi or not. ??? To me it is female privilege that we can get to experiment, even transwomen without negative consequences when guys can't. Even if guys assume things. And we all know what assume means. And believe me even my best friend for the longest time assumed because of his wife. Maybe she was right or somewhat anyway. But let me tell you, she was jealous of me and he in no way was my type. Funny how messed up life is sometimes.
But hon, I really don't care too much. Gay, bi, trans, or maybe a little crazy. Words and labels have never hurt me. I think I have been called every negative thing in the book. None of those names ever made me bleed. Never even made me ashamed. if anything it was controversial which was good for me and four or five others. :) The more controversy, the more attention and the more publicity. Even negative publicity is better than nothing. I am definitely who I am and either people can accept me or can go to the hot place and do something with the horse they rode in on. No apologies from me. I am who I am, male female, or just a little green person from outer space.
QuoteTo me it is female privilege that we can get to experiment, even transwomen without negative consequences when guys can't.
Female privilege? I wouldn't call it that, when it comes out of the attitude of a society that just doesn't take women's sexuality seriously. Being able to experiment may be a side benefit, but nothing that comes out of a lack of respect should be labeled "privilege," IMO.
The whole idea of "experimenting" is grounded in a belief that what two women do with each other doesn't count as sex. (Cf. Bill Clinton's "I never had sex with that woman." For many people in this society, if it doesn't involve p-in-v, it's not sex.)
Quote from: Tysilio on September 02, 2014, 04:36:26 PM
Female privilege? I wouldn't call it that, when it comes out of the attitude of a society that just doesn't take women's sexuality seriously. Being able to experiment may be a side benefit, but nothing that comes out of a lack of respect should be labeled "privilege," IMO.
The whole idea of "experimenting" is grounded in a belief that what two women do with each other doesn't count as sex. (Cf. Bill Clinton's "I never had sex with that woman." For many people in this society, if it doesn't involve p-in-v, it's not sex.)
Spot on. Great post.
I feel like i know what ur saying.
I'm also soley attracted to women, romantically and sexually. But there is few exceptions?
I have total guy crush on chris pratt. Not sexually, or romantically either but there's SOMETHING thats setting that off.
Maybe its just a admiration or like someone mentioned a personality crush.
I appreciate this topic. I've been wondering if I'm the only one that has changed in sex preferences. Sex preference, not sexual preference. I've lived my life as a lesbian never attracted to males. Since I've discovered and been exploring my transness I have fantasized about males. I have sex with my wife always penetrating her and never being penetrated. I fantasize penetrating males and being penetrated anally with males, never as a female. This freaked me out a little but I'm understanding it more now I think. For me this seems to go along with the being more open theory, and finally experiencing sex the way it feels normal to me. I am pre everything, never taken T.
I'd like to thank everyone for posting because it has truly helped me understand myself and have given me various ways to think about changing sexuality. Although I'm thinking now that for me I'm not changing sexuality. I'm simply finally discovering what is natural for me.
My sexuality has definitely been fluid and evolving in transition. I've been attracted to guys for as long as I can remember, but the sexual/gender dynamics just felt off when I was female and with straight guys. So back then I gravitated more towards women. But now hooking up with guys everything just feels much more natural/comfortable and I find myself more interested in men than woman. So I think I've always been more attracted to men but not being in the right body complicated all of that. I try not to over-think it and just "go with the flow" but I think society puts a lot of pressure on us to categorize ourselves and we internalize that.