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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: ssneha23 on October 13, 2014, 03:57:20 AM

Title: Question for MTF members..
Post by: ssneha23 on October 13, 2014, 03:57:20 AM
I recently went to a new LGBT support group meet. I did not know anyone there. Anyways for like 30 mins or so before I introduced myself, folks there thought I was FTM. Due to some personal circumstances I had ended up reaching the meeting in full boy mode.

Am not sure if this was a compliment or just a transition fail on my part... How would you react say you are in guy mode and you get the reactions I did?

But you know what, by the end of the meeting I think I made really amazing friends... Thanks to the organizers...
Title: Re: Question for MTF members..
Post by: Ms Grace on October 13, 2014, 03:59:58 AM
If you were in full boy mode it sounds like a reasonable assumption on their part. Glad it went well for you.
Title: Re: Question for MTF members..
Post by: Nicole on October 13, 2014, 04:45:13 AM
Quote from: ssneha23 on October 13, 2014, 03:57:20 AM
I recently went to a new LGBT support group meet. I did not know anyone there. Anyways for like 30 mins or so before I introduced myself, folks there thought I was FTM. Due to some personal circumstances I had ended up reaching the meeting in full boy mode.

Am not sure if this was a compliment or just a transition fail on my part... How would you react say you are in guy mode and you get the reactions I did?

But you know what, by the end of the meeting I think I made really amazing friends... Thanks to the organizers...

If thats you in your display pic, how the hell do you pass in boy mode?
Title: Re: Question for MTF members..
Post by: ImagineKate on October 13, 2014, 07:16:58 AM

Quote from: Nicole on October 13, 2014, 04:45:13 AM
If thats you in your display pic, how the hell do you pass in boy mode?

Lol this
Title: Re: Question for MTF members..
Post by: Leila on October 13, 2014, 07:42:38 AM
Quote from: ssneha23 on October 13, 2014, 03:57:20 AM
I recently went to a new LGBT support group meet. I did not know anyone there. Anyways for like 30 mins or so before I introduced myself, folks there thought I was FTM. Due to some personal circumstances I had ended up reaching the meeting in full boy mode.

Am not sure if this was a compliment or just a transition fail on my part... How would you react say you are in guy mode and you get the reactions I did?

I had a similar experience. I went along to a TG support group dressed in boy mode as I was told I could wear pretty much whatever and boy mode seemed easiest for me at the time. When I got to the meeting I discovered that I was the only TG that wasn't wearing a dress or a skirt or without make up of any sort. A few of the others attending thought I was a cis-woman. I think one also questioned whether if I was thinking of transitioning to being a man. It was also implied that I was a young 'un, but I soon set them straight that I was middle aged.

Overall I took the whole situation as a compliment, but I did feel woefully underdressed during the whole evening.
Title: Re: Question for MTF members..
Post by: ssneha23 on October 13, 2014, 07:53:17 AM
Quote from: ImagineKate on October 13, 2014, 07:16:58 AM
Lol this
I guess without my wig and in full guy formals. I do come across as a guy albeit a feminine looking person. But you are so right. Its becoming more and more to difficult to pass as a guy..
Title: Re: Question for MTF members..
Post by: Eva Marie on October 13, 2014, 08:26:04 AM
When I told my dentist about me being trans I was presenting in male mode and he thought I was a FTM  :laugh:

We reach that intermediate state and sometimes people can't tell. I wasn't offended by it at all.