so I've told all my family and friends about me. Now it's time to show them. I've been dressing in private really for about 8 months. I just put on my best look and as soon as I finish writing this.. I'm walking out of my room and going to see my father, uncle and brother in law for the first time like this. I'm expected to cook tonight.. our every thursday burrito night. I hope they accept me and don't laugh too much. I'm pretty open. But being laughed at is my number one fear. YYou can taunt me. Call me names. Probly break my nose.. I can take it. But plz plz plz. Don't laugh :( I hope this goes well. Wish me luck everyone. Luv yall *HUGS*
Good luck Hon.
Be proud of who you are.
Sending Cindy vibes your way
Big hug! Good luck, hon!
Hugs, Devlyn
Knock their socks off!
Mmmmm burrito night...
Goodluck!
Quote from: Rotika on March 12, 2015, 05:44:37 PM
so I've told all my family and friends about me. Now it's time to show them. I've been dressing in private really for about 8 months. I just put on my best look and as soon as I finish writing this.. I'm walking out of my room and going to see my father, uncle and brother in law for the first time like this. I'm expected to cook tonight.. our every thursday burrito night. I hope they accept me and don't laugh too much. I'm pretty open. But being laughed at is my number one fear. YYou can taunt me. Call me names. Probly break my nose.. I can take it. But plz plz plz. Don't laugh :( I hope this goes well. Wish me luck everyone. Luv yall *HUGS*
best of luck, you sexy girl.
I wish I had your courage. You'll do great.
Best of luck to you sweetie. Let us know how it goes.
I wish you the best of luck. You look great.
Ashley
Good luck. Be strong and Dont mess that burrito up!! Followup please on your evening.
Rotika you do look great and should knock their socks off. Please remember that sometimes people will laugh because of their own inadequacies, insecurity or even fear. I had an old acquaintance bust out laughing when I wore a flowered hat to a dance. I stood calmly, fixed him with a condescending glare and simply asked if he was OK. He turned beet red and shut up. I have also had a groups of teens annoy me with snickers and laughs but I have a monster big laugh and used to laugh them off. Their reality and lack of knowledge is not a reflection of who we are, our reality or self worth.
I hope you are completely proud of yourself for standing tall.
Hope it went well for you tonight. Remember, there is a period of adjustment for everyone, but most of all, for you. And although this may be your first time, it become quite liberating once you get past those jitters. It's all about confidence.
Stay warm and dry there...winter should be over in a couple more months!
You got this, girlfriend. I know you do.
Good luck!
And remember, the hardest part is now over! That first step out into The World can be a doozy, but after that it's easier!
And we wait with bated breath!
Good luck, hope it goes well for you, but.you do look good. :)
Work that look, own that look.
Best of luck to you!
Let us know how it went ^_^
OMG I really wasn't expecting so many replies and advice. Thank you all! So i was about scared out of my mind.. My uncle came to my door and asked if I was coming out to start cooking.. I said I'd be out in a minute (was putting the finishing touches on my makeup). I stood in the bedroom with my wifey for almost an hour lol.. shaking and trying to just walk out the door. I finaly did though. Right after I posted here. I walked out into the kitchen. All 3 men sitting at the table.. My father and brother in law noticed me right off the bat and started talking to me. Talking about nothing out of the ordinary. My unclle started chiming in. And when he looked at me. He didn't even skip a beat. It was like I was the only one in the room that knew I was all dolled up. idk.. It wasn't bad. But it also didn't feel good. It was kind've awkward. They all felt the same way I know it. But they wanted to accept me. They tried really hard. In the end. No one except my bother in law said anything.. and all he did was give me a compliment. He said "Yunno Paul, you're probly the hottest girl I've seen in ohio sofar".. I didn't really know how to take it. Maybe sarcasm? I'd like to think he was being honest. But as he said it, my uncle walked out of the room. I could tell that was about as far as he could go in the same room with me. My father was his normal self. Didn't even mention it. Didn't seem to care. Just needed time to adjust. Which I understand. Everyone will.
All in all. A successful evening. Burritos were good. The beer is gone. And no one told me they hated me. I'm happy :D
That my beautiful is a win!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Right on Rotika 8) Sounds like you Rocked it!!! :eusa_dance:
Hugs
Congrats!
Also, very glad you didn't end up crapping your pants! It's never a good look... ;D
Quote from: Rotika on March 13, 2015, 02:52:03 AM
... In the end. No one except my bother in law said anything.. and all he did was give me a compliment. He said "Yunno Paul, you're probly the hottest girl I've seen in ohio sofar".. I didn't really know how to take it. ...
What a great story. And that sounds like an honest but awkward guy-type compliment. I mean, all of Ohio? Seriously hot. :)
Good for you, honey!
Quote from: Eveline on March 13, 2015, 06:40:43 AM
What a great story. And that sounds like an honest but awkward guy-type compliment. I mean, all of Ohio? Seriously hot. :)
Good for you, honey!
He's a southern boy from Georgia. Before I came out.. He was kind've the last person any of us would want for company. His favorite drunken thing to say "we need another Holocaust, but instead of jews lets kill all the queers." I really hate him at heart. I know what his true feelings about our community are/were. I know ppl can change. But He hasn't.These walla are paper thick and he likes to talk. Especialy wheen he's drunk. So anyways.. I'm worried that it wasn't a compliment at all. He talks in riddles when he wants to say something sly so that he can feel "smarter" than they are. I used to be quite confrontational about subjects like this with him. So now it's like he wants to pick on the new girl in the family lol
I do hope you're right though. I don't want all the drama. It just seems to follow me around regardless though.
Quote from: Ms Grace on March 13, 2015, 05:24:09 AM
Congrats!
Also, very glad you didn't end up crapping your pants! It's never a good look... ;D
Yes Ms Grace, the horseshoe of doom is never a good look ;)
Thank you
everyone. For your support, kindness, understanding, compliments and company! There's a lot of you so I'm sorry if I don't list/quote you all. Just know you (yes you reading this) mean so much to me everyday. *HUGS* :)
Quote from: Rotika on March 13, 2015, 07:05:15 AM
He's a southern boy from Georgia. ... I'm worried that it wasn't a compliment at all. He talks in riddles when he wants to say something sly so that he can feel "smarter" than they are. ...
OK, that's different. I grew up in the South, and I know
that type.
It could have been a warning - you be careful around him, especially when he's drinking.
Horseshoe of Doom? :laugh: I just shot unicorns out of my nose!
Hugs, Devlyn
Quote from: Rotika on March 13, 2015, 07:05:15 AM
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lets kill all the queers." I really hate him at heart. I know what his true feelings about our community are/were.
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I'm worried that it wasn't a compliment at all.
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You know how some of the worst haters are actually deeply closeted gays who hate that they feel that way?
Maybe he really was attracted to you, but still, stay clear, it could be dangerous.
Hey Rotika,
Wished I'd clicked on this last night, but I fell asleep in my chair looking at my monitor ::), anyways this is just the coolest!!!
Will read page 2 when I come back from my walk, gosh, again, doing what you needed to do for you is just too cool. Dani