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I was just wondering how people felt. I having a fierce debate with myself on what to do because I just got a go ahead on GRS and I'm in a middle of a hurricane rite now deciding the proper path. It's my choice and I guess I've wanted it since I was 4, If I could of consciously conceive of GRS at 4. I just trying every nook and cranny to make sure, but all I'll need to do is sign papers and move forward. what path are you taking

I've flipped between yes and no on SRS. I've also been weighing my choice of surgeon.

Right now I'm pretty much settled on getting SRS but I am not sure which surgeon. I have been considering Suporn, Bowers, McGinn or Schaff. I have considered Brassard but I am thinking I may not be eligible due to his criteria (diabetes and high blood pressure). I plan to do this in 2 or more years anyway, so I have time. I am in no rush.  I want to be triple sure. That is also provided some new technique doesn't come along with a better result.

yea, It's a serious thing to do

I had GRS one year after transition (with Schaff). It was always clear that this will be part of my transition because I just define myself as an ordinary woman.

I'm non-op for medical reasons, that said, having thought long and hard about it, I would probably still be non-op even without the medical reasons - it's just not something I need to feel right.

Quote from: Lara1969 on April 29, 2015, 03:12:01 PM
I had GRS one year after transition (with Schaff). It was always clear that this will be part of my transition because I just define myself as an ordinary woman.

I'm a normal woman.. Or so I've been told.

Still new to this and not sure what my long term goals are.  To be blunt and graphic about it though, sure I'd like to know the feeling of someone inside me in a "traditional P2V" kinda way, lol.  It's got a lot of appeal to me, but after expressing myself as male for over 30 years, I have a bit of separation anxiety thinking about it right now, heh.  We'll see how the therapy and hopefully the hormones affects that soon enough.

The bottom line for me was that I didn't want to die without ever knowing how it felt to be female-shaped. I'm glad I went ahead with it.

Quote from: suzifrommd on April 29, 2015, 05:27:21 PM
The bottom line for me was that I didn't want to die without ever knowing how it felt to be female-shaped. I'm glad I went ahead with it.

It's the same for me, I've lived all my life with the misery of being wrong and even though I may have 30 wears left , there's just probably less then that according to our human nature, so as my therapist said last session why not be happy. My life has been all right because I've done things I'm quite proud of , but God I wish I could of been right.

I said yes even as far in the future as it will be for me because for me that's the way I should be just having sort of a female body wont be enough (for some people it will be but not for me) so unless there is some medical issue preventing it I will be doing it.

well, just a few more questions on my forms and I send them in.

Definite yes here. Booked and paid in full, July 22nd. :)

Quote from: LizMarie on April 29, 2015, 08:32:08 PM
Definite yes here. Booked and paid in full, July 22nd. :)

congrats and good luck. I've got my forms all filled out and signed all I have to do is push send

First I want to say !Congratulations! to You for having been resourceful and brave to get to the point of just having to hit a 'send' button.  So now you find yourself with the gun, trigger pulled, ready to fire and commit to the what has always been you to begin with - a physically complete woman.  Society as we know it today, and for the most part defines woman equals vagina, man equals penis.  You and I know that is not true, but maybe society has imprinted on us a bit and we seek physical normalcy.  How many countless times have I looked at my full body in the mirror and pictured a vagina where it should be instead of what I have? Being a perfectionist, it takes a toll on me and if I allow it -- will also bother me to the extent I let it. I always tell my husband how lucky he is to have been born with mind and body matching and I ask him, "what is it like to be physically correct?". Because he loves me so much, he replies "your body is perfect and beautiful to me no matter how you choose it to be". Isn't that nice?  Yet deep inside, that part of me does not make me feel perfect or beautiful -- just kinda incomplete.  So there you are and there I am my dear -- balanced on the sharp edge of a knife. Pull the trigger, have a few months of recuperation and you will be able to sun nude on the right beach if you so choose (not that you could not do that now).

I would have been post-op now had I not experienced a slight hiccup with my passport when going to Belgium years ago. But I am thankful that happened because all those surgeries, in my opinion, were almost always with problems.  One of the responders mentioned life's finality.  That is why I know I will eventually exit this ride with a body which reflects who I am mentally and physically. 

Good luck in your decision. Pray on it for guidance and you won't go wrong. ((Hug))

I live happily as Male some days. There are other days when my femininity is bursting forth, on those days, GRS sounds awesome. I think I could live a happy life w/o surgery, though. I really don't know where life will take me, but for now, no GRS for me.

Everyone's journey is different... I wouldn't decide for or against SRS based on an online poll.  ;)

That said, not only did I look at the benefits of having an "innie", I also imagined myself post-op...would I miss the bulk of tucking? Would I miss penetrating? Would I miss scratching my balls when tired, or absentmindedly flopping the bits around when nude?

No, no, no, and...no.

I want, I need everything that comes with a vjj, good and bad...and I want nothing to do with the male parts.

Quote from: Beth Andrea on April 30, 2015, 02:49:40 PM
Everyone's journey is different... I wouldn't decide for or against SRS based on an online poll.  ;)

That said, not only did I look at the benefits of having an "innie", I also imagined myself post-op...would I miss the bulk of tucking? Would I miss penetrating? Would I miss scratching my balls when tired, or absentmindedly flopping the bits around when nude?

No, no, no, and...no.

I want, I need everything that comes with a vjj, good and bad...and I want nothing to do with the male parts.

well put

thanks Herekitten

my problem is that it's only function for me is to achieve orgasm. I neither hate it or like it. Ever since grade school I wish it wasn't there. When I went through my hippi LSD stage I completely went backwards and my brain wouldn't let me achieve orgasm without it not being there and I had to develop mentally as having a vagina rather than a penis. My brain has refused to let me enjoy orgasm if I think of having a penis. It's been so in bedded in my thought process for so long it really is just a genetic defect that I've been carrying along. surgery would just correct an abnormality .

well, I pushed the button, but I can always reverse wheels until I jump off the cliff.

Quote from: stephaniec on April 30, 2015, 05:30:54 PM
my problem is that it's only function for me is to achieve orgasm. I neither hate it or like it. Ever since grade school I wish it wasn't there. When I went through my hippi LSD stage I completely went backwards and my brain wouldn't let me achieve orgasm without it not being there and I had to develop mentally as having a vagina rather than a penis. My brain has refused to let me enjoy orgasm if I think of having a penis. It's been so in bedded in my thought process for so long it really is just a genetic defect that I've been carrying along. surgery would just correct an abnormality .

What if you are unable to have an orgasm after the surgery?

Quote from: stephaniec on April 30, 2015, 06:24:02 PM
well, I pushed the button, but I can always reverse wheels until I jump off the cliff.

This statement makes it seem like you have doubts; I hope you are 100% sure beyond any doubt before you follow through with this.

that would definitely be a bummer, but I'm 63 years old and I don't know how much time I have , maybe 20 years if I get lucky  I've had a good time with orgasm especially when I was doing LSD. I pretty sure I'll be all right with out it, but it will help if I can find a companion to give pleasure to so at least someone can enjoy it. Having a limited time on the planet helps with that problem. I could always go back to LSD .There is a movement in the psychiatric circles to bringing back LSD as a treatment for severe depression, I'll ask to be enrolled in the program, I'm sure I'll get in with that excuse.

Quote from: kittenpower on April 30, 2015, 06:40:34 PM
What if you are unable to have an orgasm after the surgery?

Major surgery can sometimes go wrong. Also there is the possibility you will poop into a bag for the rest of your life

Quote from: kittenpower on April 30, 2015, 06:45:55 PM
This statement makes it seem like you have doubts; I hope you are 100% sure beyond any doubt before you follow through with this.

that's the thing I still have to have consultation with the surgeon and I have my therapist the  work with totally on this topic, so I have time to be sure and if I'm not sure I can put it on hold till I am.

Quote from: 23 Skidoo on April 30, 2015, 07:00:09 PM
Major surgery can sometimes go wrong. Also there is the possibility you will poop into a bag for the rest of your life

chances that you have to take if you want it done. there a chance I could lose my eyesight if I cross the street and get hit by a bus. as what's his name said in the movie "Knowing" when asked by a student if he believed in fate " sh-- happens."
( Nicholas Cage)

I have wanted that situation down there corected since as long as I can remember. When I found out about the surgery as a teen I knew that I would have it one day. When I reached self acceptance it was the first thing I thought of where my body is concerned. I had it on my mind all the way leading up to self acceptance too.

Also, I have never cared for sex so if I never orgasm again I'd be fine with that. Losing my libido has been one of the best effects of hrt. And on the upside, I have an intestinal situation that may land me with a colostomy anyway so if making me comfortable naked for the first time in my life results in that it is no biggie. I have already accepted pooping in a bag as a possible part of my future.

In the end, I need to never experience anything penile or testicular again (at least not my own) Tucking aint enough. Not looking aint enough. I need to be right, plain and simple.

At one point I thought everyone who transitioned wanted bottom surgery. I know I have every since I knew what it was when I was young. I have a friend who is 100% passible and a gorgeous head turner, but says she has no plans to ever get any GRS.

if you don't need it , you don't need it. I've just live too long with this problem I just need to straighten it out. I was quite sexually active at one time as a male and it makes you think quite seriously if this is the right path. I think for me the time is right to do it. my mind has been dealing with this issue for so long. I woke  up this morning after having my patient paper work emailed and felt a rush of joy that I'm on my way. It's like the unconscious is this hurricane force pushing me to completion and the conscious part is more analytical and cautious .

Quote from: stephaniec on May 01, 2015, 01:16:11 PM
It's like the unconscious is this hurricane force pushing me to completion and the conscious part is more analytical and cautious .

That is kind of how my mind works. It is how I got to where I am now, following my intuition with my conscious mind taking care of the logistics and double checking every decision. I had to teach myself to trust my intuition though, that was the biggest struggle. Learning to take leaps of faith with the only sure outcome being that the place I was headed couldn't be worse and had to be better than where I had been. It hasn't let me down yet. I am just glad that I finally learned how to listen to and trust myself!

I like the idea of being able to trust yourself

Quote from: stephaniec on April 29, 2015, 02:28:39 PM
I was just wondering how people felt. I having a fierce debate with myself on what to do because I just got a go ahead on GRS and I'm in a middle of a hurricane rite now deciding the proper path. It's my choice and I guess I've wanted it since I was 4, If I could of consciously conceive of GRS at 4. I just trying every nook and cranny to make sure, but all I'll need to do is sign papers and move forward. what path are you taking

I've been a post-op for just over 12 years now. I am still happy with my outcome and the surgery was one of the best things I ever did. It had a huge impact on my life, post-surgery. I didn't have any doubts, but if you do, then just walk around the block a few hundred more times before doing it. It's not something that can undone.

well, I'm making sure I don't make a mistake, but at this stage of my life I really don't think I am.