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Title: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: stephaniec on July 11, 2015, 03:13:29 PM

I'm realizing how difficult it is to lose people. I don't have family that I acknowledge which is fine and doesn't bother me much except when I have to go to the hospital like I just did a few days ago for an operation. It's the one time in my life that bums me out because I have to go through the inquisition about having someone to take care of me in order to release me from the hospital or the inevitable why don't you have anyone? I had a niece that found me on Facebook a couple of years ago then found out I'm trans and said goodbye without using those words, but just not communicating with me any more. I'm cool with it all because I view myself as a tough little camper. My therapist is my friend and I depend on her a lot. Is it hard for others to move on when family rejects you for being trans or are you able to overcome with inner strength and self love.

Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 12:48:38 AM

I guess it didn't matter on forgiveness because I didn't assign them any blame. They are who they are. They may still come around, but, even if they don't, as long as I can live my life and they live theirs. I'm OK. It still hurt but it will pass.

Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 12:57:18 AM

normally I just live my life, but whenever I have to deal with the hospital and being admitted and the 20 questions of why I have no family , it awakens the pain. I continue and live my life, it's just those moments that cause pain. I ended up yelling at one hospital person because they couldn't comprehend that I had no family.

Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 01:00:16 AM

Never had a hassle about that, I just told them to contact a friend or brought the friend with.

For that matter, you can claim anyone as family medical wise. They don't check and take your word for it.

Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 01:02:28 AM

I guess I'm unique , I have no one except God.

Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 01:11:01 AM

I guess it would be pretty cool though if God showed up to take me home from the hospital

Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 01:23:05 AM

That it would.

Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 01:25:22 AM

Quote from: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 01:23:05 AM
That it would.

your making me laugh too hard my surgery wound is killing me every time I laugh

Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 01:30:20 AM

OH no! ...but I heard that laughter is good medicine.

Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 01:52:27 AM

I think in this situation I prefer morphine

Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 02:33:16 AM

I can understand that. I've had more than my share of major surgeries. Sadly, not one related to transition.

Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2015, 02:39:50 AM

at least I get an idea of the pain I'd encounter. it feels like they ripped apart all my stomach muscles and sewed them back together backwards.

Title: Re: for those who have lost family, have you been able to forgive and move on
Post by: LordKAT on July 12, 2015, 02:43:40 AM

Ye, it felt like I had to hold the guts together when I would go walking.

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