A lot of my dysphoria comes from my height. I come from a very tall family, I have a cisfemale cousin who is 6'0" tall. I am 6'2" and I never seem to see cisfemale that are my height in my area. A lot of my hesitancy to truly go for transition is that my height may be the thing that always gets me clocked. I'm interested in hearing the experiences of other tall ladies in this forum.
Well a lot of models are 6 ft or taller...
and usually trans women have long legs which people tend to find sexy...
and quite a few people on hrt report being some inches smaller...
it has to do with tissue between the bones changing, and differences in muscles and gait...
many people also said their shoe size decreased... one or two sizes...
hugs
Let me give you some advixe. I'm the same height that you are. And thought no cisfemale is as tall as me. I was wrong once I started looking and noticed a lot are close or the same height as me.
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I am 6'2" as well and when I first transitioned it seemed like I was looking down on everybody. Somewhere after that I took off the 3" heels and I was seeing eye to eye with the men. Lately I am starting to see eye to eye with some of the younger women. I had my hight measured and I am not getting any shorter.
The one thing that eliminate any worry about my hight was when I started to transition I went to a local tall woman's shop and the owner must have had 3 or 4 inches more hight than I had. The most important thing to do when you are tall is stand straight and proud. If you do so, nobody will ever question your hight.
There is already a thread around here about hight and I think some of the taller girls are about 6'7" so I am short compared to them. We all are comfortable with our hight and it isn't a problem.
I am 5'6" and I feel odd being so short. So there is that.
6'3" here...
Do I get looks? Sure. I stand out and deliberately decided to not hide it. Trying to hide my height would only draw attention to me. But I don't think my height gives me away as trans. Sure some people may suspect it but, eh, whatever. All comments from other women about my height are hugely complimentary but no one's asked me if I ever played basketball... I'm probably too short!
Quote from: Ms Grace on August 23, 2015, 06:26:54 PM
6'3" here...
Do I get looks? Sure. I stand out and deliberately decided to not hide it. Trying to hide my height would only draw attention to me.
Just out of curiosity, how does one go about hiding their height?
Slouching over or looking at the ground all the time. They may help get rid of a few inches but it really draws the attention.
As someone who is approaching six feet and has height problems at it is due to my leg condition, this has been something that has been worrying me, however this thread has helped me a little; so I am glad I read it.
184cms here.It used to bother me before I transitioned but now I dont think of it.I cant do anything about it anyway.It means I can easily reach things at the back of supermarket shelves if I need to.My height is more in my back than my legs(see avatar) and I suppose I do envy those whose height comes from longer legs.Anyway its cool,embrace and love your height xx
I'm 5'11 was 6ft when I was younger, not that tall in the grand scheme of things, but still taller the most girls in my area. It does get you attention but it's positive attention in my experience.
I am 6'3" and a half, and I often wear 3 to 4 inch heels. When I going dancing, which I do often, I am usually the tallest person on the floor of either sex. I just expect that I am going to get noticed, and also expect that along with attention, people will figure out my DNA makeup. If somebody close by, stares at me, I just smile at them, and say "Yes I am', and then turn away. I know that my philosophy runs opposite to many here, but I am not terribly worried about being clocked. I certainly would not make any style choices simply to reduce my visibility and exposure.
Quote from: Dena on August 23, 2015, 06:41:55 PM
Slouching over or looking at the ground all the time. They may help get rid of a few inches but it really draws the attention.
I had this weird image of Grace waking around like a pigeon, lol
i am only 5'10" ish but even I was a bit concerned and thought I would avoid heels, they I bought them and decided I did not care if I was too tall. I work with a woman who is 6' her daughter is 6'2" and her daughter is one of the most attractive women I have ever met.
the big important thing to remember is people will ignore any number of things that are out of place if more things are in place. Add hair and breasts and suddenly your way more likely to be seen female regardless of hight. also in a weird way shortish heels may help mask your hight, makeing people think its more due to the shoes than natural.
Serena
As a member of the tree top club I was worried about this too until I spent a day at my local mall watching people, my therapist said it would be a good way to observe how other women walk, talk, act and dress.
The unexpected benefit was seeing how man 6'+ women there are here, I lost count eventually but I'm sure it was near 80+... Either Australian women are above average height or they were all wearing ridiculously high heels.
So of course one of life's ironies is I make this post and then go out to dinner with my wife and see like 7-8 girls my height.
All of my life (at least until last week) I was 70 1/2 inches (5ft. 10 1/2) Had a check-up and they checked my height. It's now 69 inches. (5ft. 9). Pre-transition, I might have been disappointed, but actually I was quite pleased. Only problem is that at my current weight my BMI (body mass index) based upon my new height will probably indicate that I am overweight. C'est la vie!
I'm 6'7" and being a woman that tall, you do get noticed, but it has never outed me. There are plenty of tall women out there. There is a show on TLC right now called "My Giant Life" about women 6'6" and taller. One girl is 6'9" and her mom is my height. Usually I'm the tallest person in the room of any sex, but occasionally there will be someone taller and it's usually a guy. I've personally only met one cis-woman taller than me (she was 6'9") and another cis-woman that was the same height as me.
Just remember that when someone sees a tall women, the last thing on their mind is transgender unless something else clocks you.
I'm 5' 9" ish, with heels, 6' 2". Most of the girls I go out with are right around 5' so I kinda stick out. People have mentioned my height on multiple occasions but it's been observation not suspicion. There are lots of tall girls out there, you just happen to be one of them. When people tell me that I'm tall I just tell them "I'm not tall, I can just reach the top shelves".
Slouching is not very attractive , work on your posture and poise , look forward when you walk not at the ground, women hold their heads high and keep their backs straighter than men. Being tall does not have to be a negative thing own it girl.
6'1" here. In my avatar pic, taken just over a year ago, I'm wearing 3" heals.
Went shopping at Macy's, DSW and Penny's today. I also had lunch and walked through an entire large mall. Not one problem...
Hugs
Jen
Quote from: Stevie on August 23, 2015, 10:12:32 PM
Slouching is not very attractive , work on your posture and poise , look forward when you walk not at the ground, women hold their heads high and keep their backs straighter than men. Being tall does not have to be a negative thing own it girl.
I agree with this. Standing up straight and tall shows confidence and that goes a long way :)
I never thought I'd say this but... I LOVE being a tall woman!
One of my lesbian friends, not mtf, but she's like 6'3". and I didn't think I ever saw her without at least 3 inch heels. And she always looks amazing. She never is not dressed up. I asked her before about it. She said that she loves being so tall, cause everyone will make sure to notice her and her beautiful cloths. I can't see her as being anything but feminine. Being tall can't stop from being pretty, sexy, or beautiful.
Here's another perspective. I'm at the opposite end. 5' 3". I can never see at concerts and have to use steps to reach the top shelves in the kitchen. I'd be delighted to be a bit taller. In guy mode I could never get tall girls to take me seriously. No matter how charming I was. From down here I only see positives from being tall, regardless of gender. All you tall girls are lucky from my POV.
BP
Mmm I was 181 cm, now I'm 179 cm after 3 monthes HRT. Don't know why. Maybe just the endocrinologist miscalculating it.
I'm tall but I think it's quite cool to be tall for a woman. (well, if I was like 200 cm I would feel bad I guess)
My feets are very long which is more of a problem. It's a bit ugly, and it makes it hard to find woman shoes. But well, that's nothing very important either.
I kind of like my height now. I didn't like it when I was in guy mode but as a girl it's fine. Yes I have to reach for things but as a lady people reach them for me. Except at home where my wife is shorter and the kids are, well, kids but we have step ladders and step stools. In any case I've always wanted to be petite. I'm not but it's close enough.
I'm now a little over 6' down from 6'2" and I love wearing heels. I wear 2" to 5" heels almost every day. I can't change my height so I now embrace it and own it. I was concerned at first when I started presenting female in public but then I went to the Beverly Center in LA and noticed how many 6' women there were, and many were in heels. So I decided to not worry about it and haven't looked back. I was in a store the other day and there were a couple of kids playing around and I heard one them say "That's one tall lady." I loved it!
Hello everyone, 6' 3" woman here. A few months ago a very nice, supportive and helpful, very deep stealth trans. woman suggested I get my legs shortened by 4 inches. She drew out a couple of diagrams to show my surgeon how it could be done.
The discussions that lead her to make the suggestion was in response to my issues with passing.
Although to some this seems radical, in my books this concept is no different than FFS.
Unless I want to pass as an amazon woman, my height will clock me every time. The only thing to do is just own it. That's easier said then done.
On Heels: I nearly lost the top of head to a ceiling fan while trying on 6-inch pumps.
Thank you,
Anne
I'm 6'4" and very proud of it. I really love towering over most women and men in my country. I feel confident and respect comes more easily for me. And I somehow love the attention I get. Not that I'm deliberately seeking any :P
6'1" here.
One thing you almost never hear is girls saying they wish they were shorter. Actually, I've never once heard it. But you do hear a 'lot' saying they'd like to be taller.
So, I guess I'd say, step out sister and make the most of it :) x
Quote from: KatelynBG on August 23, 2015, 04:55:36 PM
A lot of my dysphoria comes from my height. I come from a very tall family, I have a cisfemale cousin who is 6'0" tall. I am 6'2" and I never seem to see cisfemale that are my height in my area. A lot of my hesitancy to truly go for transition is that my height may be the thing that always gets me clocked. I'm interested in hearing the experiences of other tall ladies in this forum.
Yeah, I'm 5'9" which I know isn't SUPER tall but still on the tall side for a girl. And I like to wear heels which usually put me at 6'-6'1" depending on how high they are, and I don't think it makes me instantly readable as trans. In fact, yesterday I was out wearing 3.5" heels, so standing at 6'0.5", and I met an older woman at a show who was a mutual friend of the friend I was with. He introduced us and we started talking. At one point she mentioned how she feels like she's the only 60 year old who hasn't had work done, I made a comment about how I would much prefer to age gracefully, and she goes 'you're so gorgeous and so tall and statuesque! Don't do anything to that face!'... Of course I kept mum on my impending FFS in two months haha. And then she followed up with 'I wish I had your height.' Then later in the convo she made a comment saying to me "well, one day you'll get married and get pregnant and you'll understand what I'm talking about." So clearly, if she thought I was getting pregnant at some point in my life, despite standing over 6', she did not read me as trans.
So what I'm getting at is, height is not a deal breaker. I have a friend who's trans who is 6'3" and built broad and she passes wonderfully. Most people don't necessarily read height as a gendered thing and will just look at you and go, that's a tall girl, and then move on with their day. One of my closest family friends, the mother is 6', the oldest daughter is 5'10" and then the youngest daughter is 6'1". So there are PLENTY of tall cis-women too ;-).
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Its funny that most of my friends, both male and female, are short. So I feel like I'm tall with my 175cm, even though I know many ciswoman out there who are much taller.
Yeah I feel you, I am 6'1 and hated it, I wish I was like 5'5 or something. Then I put on stilettos. Holy hell was I tall and I felt so empowered towering over the guys. I think you just have to own it, sure being tall is a stereotypical '->-bleeped-<-' thing but damn does it feel nice to be tall and powerful!
I was totally doing this in a tight red dress too, like seriously what man can tame me?! >:-)
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Hi My Dear:
Passing and being comfortable about it is: 75% mental attitude, 15% presentation you control, and maybe 10% you might not have any control over.
I'm 6'2" in my seventies now, played college football, have an athletic build (still); however, once I gave up that I was 'special' and began to be me I was fine. BTW: I love wearing heals, boots, long dresses and skirts, leather, big jewelry and . . . you probably get what I am saying by now.
Getting there took a little time, ~1yr, and having lots of GGs who accepted me for who I am - I worked at it. I'm very social now, speak publicly a lot, am active politically and raise a lot of money for worthy children causes . . . I don't have time anymore to wonder if I'm a woman - I am.
You aren't me; I get that. Be whoever you are go after what fulfills your life. Being a woman is easy when it's who you are and you go about life accordingly 24x7. Have I been read, yes. Do I care, only to the extent that caring is the feminine thing to do but not enough to have it mess up a great life that I love dearly.
You are a beautiful woman, as soon as you accept that then you are a beautiful woman! ;D
TTFN,
Rachel
I`m 5' 14" ::)
When I transitioned as a spindly-teen in the mid-1970`s, I seemed to tower {self-consciously} over many other women whom were my age.......all that`s changed now, women seem generally taller (and often heavier/well-built) than back then.
These days, nobody seems to identify tall women as being 'different' just because of their height.
Just enjoy the many advantages and practicalities of being tall and elegant. ;)
Quote from: Qrachel on August 26, 2015, 09:09:45 AM
Do I care, only to the extent that caring is the feminine thing to do but not enough to have it mess up a great life that I love dearly.
So well said Rachel!
I'm 5'11". Tall women are seen as strong and confident. That is perfectly fine with me :)
QuoteHi My Dear:
Passing and being comfortable about it is: 75% mental attitude, 15% presentation you control, and maybe 10% you might not have any control over.
I'm 6'2" in my seventies now, played college football, have an athletic build (still); however, once I gave up that I was 'special' and began to be me I was fine. BTW: I love wearing heals, boots, long dresses and skirts, leather, big jewelry and . . . you probably get what I am saying by now.
Getting there took a little time, ~1yr, and having lots of GGs who accepted me for who I am - I worked at it. I'm very social now, speak publicly a lot, am active politically and raise a lot of money for worthy children causes . . . I don't have time anymore to wonder if I'm a woman - I am.
You aren't me; I get that. Be whoever you are go after what fulfills your life. Being a woman is easy when it's who you are and you go about life accordingly 24x7. Have I been read, yes. Do I care, only to the extent that caring is the feminine thing to do but not enough to have it mess up a great life that I love dearly.
You are a beautiful woman, as soon as you accept that then you are a beautiful woman! ;D
TTFN,
Rachel
100% Rachel.
I'm 6ft, with very long legs which kind of makes up for it, but not really; I would love to be 5'8".
I'm taller than the OP by several inches and was deathly afraid of transition due to height and I can say definitively - height, by itself, is a non issue.
My only problem is finding shoes and pants, skirts and dresses that are proportional.
I pass completely and I tower over folks.
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My height is definitely a fear I have for transition, but I'm also not overly tall (about 5'11"). My main cause of dysphoria comes down to things like hand size, foot size, and especially shoulder width...
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on August 23, 2015, 09:58:32 PMJust remember that when someone sees a tall women, the last thing on their mind is transgender unless something else clocks you.
Exactly. Another thing which I noticed in common was that none of those 6 ft ladies look fragile or subtle (not speaking of petite, lol), but they rock it in the good way - they usually have toned and athletic bodies with a tendency of having shoulders on the broader than average female range (maybe that's Nature to compensate for the height?). Anyway, I am 5.9, built like above and still gentlemen (even those who are shorter than me) often tend to assume that I am too weak to carry my stuff around on my own :D.
Agreed. I've worked in all-female staffrooms i.e. those born female and I've seen every shape imaginable from petite pixie types to really androgynous broad-shouldered and tall ladies with very large feet. Sorry if this isn't felicitously expressed but I'm trying to say that natural-born females come in all shapes and sizes so I really don't think it's so much of an issue for those transitioning or who have transitioned? And as someone mentioned, models are really tall: often 6ft+
I'm more concerned about my face shape but I don't want to divert the thread and that's more correctable.
Yes we do get noticed and yes being confident, secure and unapologetic says we own it! I have a BFF who is also trans and she is 6'5." She had some concerns about all of this and then she met her new girl friend (cis) who is 6'2." They are a power couple and I notice no one gives them much guff. :D I am only 5'11" but I like feeling that I can take care of myself and not be intimidated easily. Throw those shoulders back and strut girls!
Hi Katelyn :)
That this has always been a hang up of mine too... As I am almost an inch taller than you. That being said, I was at a club last Saturday and a group of girls (not wearing heels) came up next to my group. One girl was around 6'5, two were about 6'4 and the around 6'2 to 5'11; all were very thin, and didn't have really 'curvy' bodies. They were easily knock you off your feet beauties, and for all intensive purposes, I believed cis. That certainly gave me a confidence boost about my pass ability in regards to my height. Additionally, on a weekly basis it seems like I meet a woman that is around my height (my current student profession leads me to meet many new people a day)... I do think that facial structure and especially hormones and presentation (big time) have a strong role in passability, but for us tall girls I don't feel we should get as worked up on our height as we do.
Ashley
Quote from: AbbyDS74 on August 23, 2015, 10:02:32 PM
When people tell me that I'm tall I just tell them "I'm not tall, I can just reach the top shelves".
Oh my god... Ha ha ha... I'm stealing that one!
I lived with a 6' tall cis girl once. Last year I was in a bar and one of the bar maids was 6'4"! I've never seen a woman that tall before. I'm only 5'5" so she really towered over me!
So they do exist.
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As long as you look somewhat proportional, I don't think you'll be clocked simply for being tall.
Quote from: iKate on September 20, 2015, 01:35:45 PM
As long as you look somewhat proportional, I don't think you'll be clocked simply for being tall.
Does that mean being fat to match the height? My trans friends call me the skinny #$#$*.
Will being tall and thin get me clocked vs. tall and fat?
What does proportional mean?
Thank you,
Anne (AKA Amazon Woman)
6'3 and some change here as well. I haven't gone out as Sarah yet in public. When I am out as Ryan, I generally slouch and hide myself away. Starting to realize that it is a mechanism for not being noticed. Like if I hide and repress myself, it will be easier to keep others out.
But this board has inspired me to stand up and own my height as the tall girl I am.!
:)
a little "brass" + a lot of "class" = "Pass"
Quote from: SarahMarie1987 on September 20, 2015, 08:59:41 PM
6'3 and some change here as well. I haven't gone out as Sarah yet in public. When I am out as Ryan, I generally slouch and hide myself away. Starting to realize that it is a mechanism for not being noticed. Like if I hide and repress myself, it will be easier to keep others out.
But this board has inspired me to stand up and own my height as the tall girl I am.!
:)
Girl, you be you and it'll work out. Try to hide or otherwise disguise yourself and the unnatural queues you will give off become a dead give away. It's much easier to focus on being all the woman you can be (and believe when I say it's a lot!) and let the world know you for who you are.
I live in LA and I see women all the time taller than me (6'2"). Ever go to a girls basketball or volley ball game - I've attended many and I've felt like a scrimp! And still, those gals were terrific looking and so natural.
You are going to be a beautiful woman who stands out; for better or for worse (totally your choice) use it baby, use it. As we say in LA, "the only time to worry is when they spell your name wrong ( 8) ).
TTFN,
Rachel
As the OP, I like what this thread has turned into.
I'm 5'5" and a little bit, I don't even reach 5'6" but I think I'd like to be taller!! Putting on heels raises me up to a more normal level and I can, at least, look other people in the eye. It's not a male or female thing either - there are loads of girls taller than me and a few shorter men. Although they are less common. Weirdly I've often been told that I don't look short (?!?) because I stand up straight and don't slouch. I've heard of taller women being described as unusual but probs only because other people are jealous. I like the tall look.
The other thing I've noticed, for me, is the world seems to be designed for people of average height, weight and size. I'm below all three so encounter funny little difficulties all over the place. My car makes me feel like a child, lost in the middle of a huge seat and having to reach out uncomfortably to change gear!! It's only a Ford Focus too ;) I'd be happier if the controls were closer together.
As well as that I find doors to be a problem - like the bigger metal ones in shops and so on!! They're often too heavy, so I have to stop and sort of brace my feet before opening one. Then some normal looking guy will follow me and, like, throw it open like it was made of cardboard. And don't get me started on gloves!!! Small gardening gloves? On whose terms could they ever be considered small?? Lol!! Oven gloves are too big, supermarket shelves are too high, most things are too heavy.
I'd say, just for me, the problems caused by life as a small person in an average world are far greater than the misconception that tall girls are inherently masculine. Just for me, I don't know because I'll never find out. Unless I get into seriously stacked shoes that is!!! :-*
How heartening to hear from so many tall sisters. I am 6 ft and I used to feel like I was sticking out like a sore thumb every time I was out and about as Miril. Nothing like being tall and self-conscious to insure that you do get noticed! One day a very good, flamboyant and "out there" friend looked at me and asked if I was going to let the uninformed, bigotted opinions of a bunch of drab losers deprive me of the opportunity to express who I really am. I really had no good answer to that. So on went the heels, up went the head and back went the shoulders! I wont say that there isnt occasionally some finger pointing - but I really dont care much anymore.
Love who you are and dont forget to help our vertically challenged sisters get things off of high shelves...! ;D
I'm 6'2". I don't remember the last time I had the feeling I wasn't passing. I don't even think about it anymore.
As a guy I like being tall, but I don't like being 6ft as a girl. Honestly, I'd like to be somewhere between 5ft to 5' 6" but I guess it's not like we can change that so it's best not to worry about it. :P
Who knows, maybe they'll make synthetic bodies and have brain transplants into them someday. :laugh:
I'm 5'11, and while I was once told that i have "freakishly long arms" :'( *sob* my height never really comes up. the first few weeks of my transition, people said it was my voice that gave me away.
I'm 6'1" and have no issues going out. I normally wear short skirts to show off my legs. Try showing off your best asset and going from there. Confidence should follow.
6.2 also, still going for heels!
I know a girl who is 6.5 and she's gorgeous
She also carried some of my friends in dire need on festivals
Tall girls rule ;)
Shoulders back, head held high, give no effs.
Quote from: Qrachel on September 21, 2015, 02:57:13 AM
Girl, you be you and it'll work out. Try to hide or otherwise disguise yourself and the unnatural queues you will give off become a dead give away. It's much easier to focus on being all the woman you can be (and believe when I say it's a lot!) and let the world know you for who you are.
I live in LA and I see women all the time taller than me (6'2"). Ever go to a girls basketball or volley ball game - I've attended many and I've felt like a scrimp! And still, those gals were terrific looking and so natural.
You are going to be a beautiful woman who stands out; for better or for worse (totally your choice) use it baby, use it. As we say in LA, "the only time to worry is when they spell your name wrong ( 8) ).
TTFN,
Rachel
Rachel,
Thank you for these words. I really needed them today. Been doubting myself a lot today, because of different triggers and whatnot. Your words are a nice balm to the wounds I have put on myself. Still a ways to go, but hating myself is going to get me where I want to be, no? :)
Sarah
When gendering you people notice:
1) Your face and hair
2) Your face and hair
3) Your face and hair
4) Your voice
5) idk
6) Your outfit
7) Your body shape
If you pass the above criteria, you could be 90 ft tall and you'd still pass. Being tall only invites more scrutiny, it really doesn't affect passing other than that extra scrutiny.
There are other things that invite just as much scrutiny as being tall, like posture, shifty eyes, fear. So don't add to it. Stand tall and own your presence wherever you go.
Quote from: iKate on August 23, 2015, 06:19:23 PM
I am 5'6" and I feel odd being so short. So there is that.
I don't consider that short. I plan on wearing 3-inch heels, and I am afraid of being 5'9.