Well,
I must say.. this is my second date with the same guy.. I like him.. he does not drink at all so I may be a bit wild for him... but he does not mind if I have a drink.
Its an amazing feeling to be at this point.. I have fun flirting with guys.. but then if you catch one its like oh Crap now what..
I am nervous.. but all I have to do to calm myself is realize that this is what I have always wanted and waited for.. so then I can get myself excited and not be nervous.
There is so much a girl has to do to get ready for a date... holy cow.. I have to work today so I do small things on breaks.. i work from home..
I almost called my therapist for a short session.. I just saw her but this date was a last minute deal... he travels a lot..and is never in my area but he made it happen.
No idea why i did this little ramble other that to try to calm my nerves..
OMG.. I am a woman now.. yikes.
Keri
Well that's nice someone can get a second date. I've been on over 40 since starting my transition and I never got a second date.
Edit: maybe my problem is the fact I only go with guys who never fooled wit a transgender and is strictly straight.
Quote from: Keri - formerly known as Dodie on December 11, 2015, 11:56:54 AM
I have fun flirting with guys.. but then if you catch one its like oh Crap now what..
:laugh:
Be careful out there Keri and have fun with your catch.
Great News but...
Don't want to be Debbie Downer but 22 out of 22 guys I chatted with on Grindr yesterday could not prove they were STD free. I was nice enough to show them what a Golden Ticket looked like. Only one guy is going for the ticket. I tweeted about it: https://twitter.com/AnneEdwardz/status/675384774991605762
Good luck, have fun and be safe!
Anne
Quote from: Keri - formerly known as Dodie on December 11, 2015, 11:56:54 AM
There is so much a girl has to do to get ready for a date...
Oh gosh yes! This is a big reason I haven't been going out with anyone recently. Even for a booty-call I'm just like 'ehh, but I still have to shave my legs...' :laugh:
Quote from: Angélique LaCava on December 11, 2015, 12:00:49 PM
Edit: maybe my problem is the fact I only go with guys who never fooled wit a transgender and is strictly straight.
Nope. The problem is likely the men you happen to get with. I've talked to hundreds of straight guys that have been interested. Not all that many have been bi or pan, and regardless most weren't exactly 'inclined' towards trans women. I've been a first for quite a few guys, and they enjoyed their time with me and actually wanted a relationship. Granted, a lot of the guys I've been with or talked to may or may not have been looking for a relationship rather than just sex. It's a mixed bag, but you'll find that with guys whether you're trans or cis. The point is, there are straight men out there who are open minded and willing to have sex with and a relationship with a trans woman, and they're more common than you'd think.
Quote from: OOAnne on December 11, 2015, 01:38:16 PM
Great News but...
Don't want to be Debbie Downer but 22 out of 22 guys I chatted with on Grindr yesterday could not prove they were STD free.
Oookay... well, that's Grindr... ::) What does that have to do with anything? And we should all try to be safe and use protection regardless.
Why u think out of all the guys I've went on a date with none of them wanted a relationship wit me? The ones I happened to have sex with enjoyed it n even tried having sex wit me again but they never wanted a relationship with me.
Edit: if they went with you I'm sure they r inclined to goin with another transgender cause if a guy is ok with it wit 1 pretty one he will be ok wit it if he finds another pretty one. I like to think every guy I've been wit hasn't fooled wit a transgender after me but if they happen to then they won't be touching me ever again.
Quote from: Angélique LaCava on December 11, 2015, 02:55:29 PM
Why u think out of all the guys I've went on a date with none of them wanted a relationship wit me? The ones I happened to have sex with enjoyed it n even tried having sex wit me again but they never wanted a relationship with me.
I can't have all the answers here because I don't know you or them, but it could be that the ones you had sex with only wanted sex. Could also be that you aren't far enough in your transition, and they're being shallow. I mean, I was with a totally straight guy for a year before I ended it. He claims he loved me, but he admitted after it was over that he had his doubts and was confused about whether being with me made him gay (he did have a religious upbringing that played a part in that). So that's why the sex stopped months before... As many guys as I've had interested in me, and even though many were straight, it's still not a guarantee of anything. I know I'm attractive and passable, and it plays a part in all this, but sometimes it's not enough and maybe they think they're open-minded enough to try but can't get over their own issues. And this is all on top of the issues many women face with guys that just can't or won't commit or don't want anything more than sex. It really is a mixed bag and it sounds like you've just had some bad luck, or been looking in the wrong places. But there are men out there...
I've went on a date wit a guy who actually dated a transgender who didn't hav the surgery but had boobs n since I just started hormones I don't really hav any n he told me he wasn't looking to date n then later on he told me it was cause I wasn't on hormones at the time.so that made me insecure af :(
Edit: I thought since I look female n hav a female body shape guys would want me but I guess boobs is a huge issue.
But if u look at my transition as just to female living wise n not body wise.... I'm pretty far considering I've been living as female for 5 years. So maybe it is just boobs.
Quote from: Angélique LaCava on December 11, 2015, 03:11:06 PM
Edit: I thought since I look female n hav a female body shape guys would want me but I guess boobs is a huge issue.
Yep boobs are huge. I hang with a girl that has the perfect set...after market install of course. She gets all the looks. I have to wait until HRT does a little more in the breast area. But you wait and see...they'll be just as perky and supple as hers!
Thank you,
Anne
Quote from: Angélique LaCava on December 11, 2015, 03:13:26 PM
But if u look at my transition as just to female living wise n not body wise.... I'm pretty far considering I've been living as female for 5 years. So maybe it is just boobs.
Think of it this way, if he doesn't want to date you because of your tits, he isn't worth it anyway. :)
Quote from: Angélique LaCava on December 11, 2015, 03:13:26 PM
But if u look at my transition as just to female living wise n not body wise.... I'm pretty far considering I've been living as female for 5 years. So maybe it is just boobs.
Its not only boobs... its boobs too but not only them...
you might try to feel girly... its shows in mannerism and might attract...
personality can make up for a lot, and this way you are a better match than if its only appearance...
and, well, there is not only grindr...
on OKCupid and PlentyOfFish might be accepting people, too...
hugs
Wat u mean try and feel girly? I am girly. I meet guys all the time who don't even know I'm transgender.
Quote from: Angélique LaCava on December 11, 2015, 03:32:19 PM
Wat u mean try and feel girly? I am girly. I meet guys all the time who don't even know I'm transgender.
There was absolutely no offense meant.
It was meant to say you can make up with personality.
Some people try to exude a feeling they have inside... its difficult to describe.
It shows in your mannerism etc how you feel... so it can attract people, too, as much as boobies :)
hugs
Getting ready to dry my hair.. ugh.. so I am going to be short.. but first thanks for all the responses.. So far and forever I plan to be up front about who I am... I am like 56 so cant hide the past.. in fact taking my date to meet my ex and daughter..
So whats cute about him is that he knows I was his first kiss.. and he knows the limits.
He is about my age which is ok but right now I act more like I am in my twenties.. but I am getting there.
Worst part of this is that I had my nails perfect seriously and broke one today.. LOL
As far as CIS men... I have found about 50 percent want to date me the other 50% cant handle it.
And most likely the majority of them are in it for the sex..
So. whats new..
A girl can be in it for her too right?
Love you gals
Keri
The guys I get are kind of strange to me. I don't get guys who simply want to have sex (I'm not ready for that anyways). I get guys who are into intelligent conversation and usually single dads with kids. Weird. One of them is pretty darned relentless in fact. Wants to take me to a dance class. I'm trying hard to say no but...
I mean it's probably nice that I get good guys versus jerks but it makes me wonder if the jerks find me attractive enough to consider me a challenge or worth their time.
Be Bold and have fun!
I dont want to sound too pessimistic. But I am ready to be single forever lol hence I am starting to save some $$$ so I can at least retire fabulously. I am starting to face the fact that why would they settle with me when they can get a cis female.
Anyways, Keri enjoy hugs!
Quote from: April_TO on December 11, 2015, 04:58:11 PM
I am starting to face the fact that why would they settle with me when they can get a cis female.
Nah, I've thought that way before too. But honestly, cis women aren't all that, lol. When it comes down to it, it's all about looks and personality, not just genitals. Many men can be creepy, jerks, and just plain awful. But you have to give a lot of other men credit too, as not all of them are shallow and simplistic. Many can appreciate what you have rather than get caught up over what you lack.
when I finally try out my experiment once I get my perfect black lace low cut dress and sit in my favorite bar , I'll let everyone know how the dating scene is for older women.
Quote from: Ashey on December 11, 2015, 05:27:06 PM
Nah, I've thought that way before too. But honestly, cis women aren't all that, lol. When it comes down to it, it's all about looks and personality, not just genitals. Many men can be creepy, jerks, and just plain awful. But you have to give a lot of other men credit too, as not all of them are shallow and simplistic. Many can appreciate what you have rather than get caught up over what you lack.
In all honesty I've seen hot straight guys go wit transgenders who were ugly n only went wit them for the tits. Like I've even been lied to by guys... They tell me they never fooled wit a transgender n never thought bout it till they met me n then later on I find out they hav been wit many n hav a full blown fetish. so u never know exactly who ur dating/hooking up wit till u actually know.
Quote from: Angélique LaCava on December 11, 2015, 06:04:58 PM
In all honesty I've seen hot straight guys go wit transgenders who were ugly n only went wit them for the tits. Like I've even been lied to by guys... They tell me they never fooled wit a transgender n never thought bout it till they met me n then later on I find out they hav been wit many n hav a full blown fetish. so u never know exactly who ur dating/hooking up wit till u actually know.
Heh, in my experience it's not the tits they fetishize... But yeah, I'm sure a lot of guys lie about a lot of things. I'm just going on what I know. Some of the guys I've been with I could tell they were inexperienced. While my genitals do get fetishized a lot, it's not just that most of the time. Wearing glasses is up there too. Having a 'hot geek' look has gotten me more attention than being trans. In dating profiles, like on POF or OKCupid, I tell people I'm trans but half the time it gets overlooked. Guys will message me based on pictures, which is awkward because then I have to explain I'm trans and some don't even believe me or don't want to believe me. And in situations like that, a lot of the time they ask some questions about it but they're still interested regardless. I have a lot more to offer people than just being trans and they know it. But yes, fetishization does happen, and you have to watch out for it, or even decide if it's something you can or are willing to deal with.
Quote from: Ashey on December 11, 2015, 06:36:17 PM
Heh, in my experience it's not the tits they fetishize... But yeah, I'm sure a lot of guys lie about a lot of things. I'm just going on what I know. Some of the guys I've been with I could tell they were inexperienced. While my genitals do get fetishized a lot, it's not just that most of the time. Wearing glasses is up there too. Having a 'hot geek' look has gotten me more attention than being trans. In dating profiles, like on POF or OKCupid, I tell people I'm trans but half the time it gets overlooked. Guys will message me based on pictures, which is awkward because then I have to explain I'm trans and some don't even believe me or don't want to believe me. And in situations like that, a lot of the time they ask some questions about it but they're still interested regardless. I have a lot more to offer people than just being trans and they know it. But yes, fetishization does happen, and you have to watch out for it, or even decide if it's something you can or are willing to deal with.
a lot of us hav more to offer than being transgender. A lot of us r gorgeous n still can't get guys to stay.in the end it's all bout luck. Guys hav hit on me where I work who didn't know n believe I was transgenders wen I told them cause they didn't think I looked anywhere near a man but did they want to date me? No. So it has nothing to do with looks,ect ect... It's luck. Ur just lucky wit guys u talk to.I've met guys on those dating sites who thought I was hotter than most girls but they still wernt interested cause of my male part.
Thanks for the great advice Ashey, I was eating a butter tart when I was writing my post thinking who needs a bf when you can eat this everyday :) jk.
hugs.
Quote from: Ashey on December 11, 2015, 05:27:06 PM
Nah, I've thought that way before too. But honestly, cis women aren't all that, lol. When it comes down to it, it's all about looks and personality, not just genitals. Many men can be creepy, jerks, and just plain awful. But you have to give a lot of other men credit too, as not all of them are shallow and simplistic. Many can appreciate what you have rather than get caught up over what you lack.
Quote from: Angélique LaCava on December 11, 2015, 06:45:34 PM
in the end it's all bout luck.
Bulls**t. I don't get guys because of luck, that's ridiculous, and it's also belittling. I get guys because I'm awesome and they like me for one reason or another. Am I lucky because of my looks? Partly, yes. It's that genetic lottery. But it seems you don't have a problem with that. I could say you're just as lucky. The rest though, was up to me. My personality, my overall likability or charisma, my intelligence, my interests which happen to be compatible with a lot of men's, my femininity, my confidence... those are all me, and have nothing to do with luck. Maybe you're just going about things the wrong way. Or maybe you're expecting too much in certain situations. Like just because a guy will flirt with you doesn't mean they're interested on going on a date. Also doesn't mean you should try to date every decent-looking guy that flirts with you. I can't say what it is that isn't working for you, but I'm sure there's someone (and more than just one) out there for you, you just have to keep at it.
Quote from: Ashey on December 11, 2015, 07:17:13 PM
Bulls**t. I don't get guys because of luck, that's ridiculous, and it's also belittling. I get guys because I'm awesome and they like me for one reason or another. Am I lucky because of my looks? Partly, yes. It's that genetic lottery. But it seems you don't have a problem with that. I could say you're just as lucky. The rest though, was up to me. My personality, my overall likability or charisma, my intelligence, my interests which happen to be compatible with a lot of men's, my femininity, my confidence... those are all me, and have nothing to do with luck. Maybe you're just going about things the wrong way. Or maybe you're expecting too much in certain situations. Like just because a guy will flirt with you doesn't mean they're interested on going on a date. Also doesn't mean you should try to date every decent-looking guy that flirts with you. I can't say what it is that isn't working for you, but I'm sure there's someone (and more than just one) out there for you, you just have to keep at it.
by luck I didn't mean ur ugly. I meant ur lucky in getting guys who are open to it. Like I said a lot of guys find me attractive but they arnt interested cause I hav male genitalia. So yes u r lucky to find guys that r open minded cause if they wernt they wouldn't talk to u after u said u were transgender.
You're in Louisiana; Ashey is in Florida. Demographics vary so widely from town to town, even more state to state, region to region. You may have an overtly sexually oppressed male population in Louisiana where as you may have tons of kink and open mindedness in Florida.
Locale sometimes makes a big difference.
A lot of guys won't date us because they're looking to settle down and have families (as hard as that is to believe). Matters more when you're older. But after a certain point, you have people divorced with kids who don't want any more who want a partner who maybe doesn't want any more either. It's a different dynamic.
Quote from: Ashey on December 11, 2015, 05:27:06 PM
Nah, I've thought that way before too. But honestly, cis women aren't all that, lol. When it comes down to it, it's all about looks and personality, not just genitals. Many men can be creepy, jerks, and just plain awful. But you have to give a lot of other men credit too, as not all of them are shallow and simplistic. Many can appreciate what you have rather than get caught up over what you lack.
Ashey
Love your attitude. I don't want a shallow man who is phobic in anyway I also don't have to be with the best looking guy ever.. I am not shallow... I can't afford to be.
I had mentioned about 50 percent of men I have had hit on me would date me.. but we are not talking that many guys... Most that said they could not handle it were the very wealthy men.. and for some reason want me for how I look.. not that I am perfect in any way so I am not being stuck up here.. But I am dating professional men that have brains.. who are open minded...
Am I in love... not yet.. am I having fun.. hell yes.. do I like guys.. yep I do.. and I embrace it.
So back from my date and it was romantic and wonderful.. I don't kiss and tell.. but all I can say is that it was very confirming for me.. I am all girl..
I may never find the right guy for me... I am not in a hurry but I have fun..
I have a feeling though I wont be single forever..
Love all you girls responses.. we all have different experiences. I wish us all the best of luck
Keri :)
:police:
Hey girls, lets not get carried away and start being negative.
Keri posted about a nice date with a cute guy.
There is no reason to get all negative!
Guys are guys, some like transgender women, some don't. Some want to know, some don't. From your avatars you are all lovely attractive women so there is no reason to put yourselves down.
Keri have a great date - hope it ends up - lovingly :-*
(within your boundaries of course!!)
Keri, congratulations on your date!
Quote from: OOAnne on December 11, 2015, 01:38:16 PM
Great News but...
Don't want to be Debbie Downer but 22 out of 22 guys I chatted with on Grindr yesterday could not prove they were STD free. I was nice enough to show them what a Golden Ticket looked like. Only one guy is going for the ticket. I tweeted about it: https://twitter.com/AnneEdwardz/status/675384774991605762
Good luck, have fun and be safe!
Anne
Hi Anne
I have been very lucky I have met a strait man and he knows all about me as I told him after the first date. That was in August and we have been seeing a lot of each other. He treats so good like a lady should be treated. He has taken me to met his whole family and all his friends and it has been so nice. I have no idea why I have been so lucky but this is wonderful and I don't want to loose it. I have dated for a lot of times and most of the time when you tell them you are trans they want to run or just use you for you know what. Please be careful and stay in a public place till you know when it is safe. Good luck. :angel:
Hugs
Lyndsey
Quote from: Lyndsey on December 12, 2015, 10:38:55 AM
Hi Anne
I have been very lucky I have met a strait man and he knows all about me as I told him after the first date. That was in August and we have been seeing a lot of each other. He treats so good like a lady should be treated. He has taken me to met his whole family and all his friends and it has been so nice. I have no idea why I have been so lucky but this is wonderful and I don't want to loose it. I have dated for a lot of times and most of the time when you tell them you are trans they want to run or just use you for you know what. Please be careful and stay in a public place till you know when it is safe. Good luck. :angel:
Hugs
Lyndsey
after the date? I tell guys the sec they hit on me because I don't want to waste my time.
Hi Anne
I have to say that I do that too!! It is not worth it to keep it hidden that is how we could get killed. If they still want us then good other wise See you later. And I'm not a one night stand. even If they hit on me it will be hard for them to get to were they want to go. I'm certainly not a whore.
Lyndsey
Quote from: Keri - formerly known as Dodie on December 12, 2015, 02:22:01 AM
Ashey
So back from my date and it was romantic and wonderful.
Glad you enjoyed it! I'm trying to ignore the part earlier when you said you were 56, you look gorgeous. Best of luck and keep having fun!
Quote from: Keri - formerly known as Dodie on December 12, 2015, 02:22:01 AM
I have a feeling though I wont be single forever..
I only dated 3 guys before I met my husband. Best wishes and have fun. :)
Quote from: kittenpower on December 12, 2015, 05:32:01 PM
I only dated 3 guys before I met my husband. Best wishes and have fun. :)
how do y'all manage to get guys to date y'all? Every guy I go on a date with either says they can't deal wit me being transgender or they r ok wit it n just want sex without a commitment. I don't think it's cause of where I live tbh since Ik transgenders near my town who hav had ex boyfriends n even their ex boyfriends hit on me n try to have sex with me but don't want to date.
Quote from: Angélique LaCava on December 12, 2015, 06:57:04 PM
how do y'all manage to get guys to date y'all? Every guy I go on a date with either says they can't deal wit me being transgender or they r ok wit it n just want sex without a commitment. I don't think it's cause of where I live tbh since Ik transgenders near my town who hav had ex boyfriends n even their ex boyfriends hit on me n try to have sex with me but don't want to date.
I don't have an answer for you, but I didn't do online dating.
Way to go Keri. We did this to have a life. Its good.
Hugs
Jen
Quote from: Angélique LaCava on December 12, 2015, 06:57:04 PM
how do y'all manage to get guys to date y'all? Every guy I go on a date with either says they can't deal wit me being transgender or they r ok wit it n just want sex without a commitment. I don't think it's cause of where I live tbh since Ik transgenders near my town who hav had ex boyfriends n even their ex boyfriends hit on me n try to have sex with me but don't want to date.
Well you seem to have a sexy aura :)
You might say you are looking for a long term relationship... also online...
hugs
First of all, congratulations Keri!
I find very interesing the topic about dating. What Angelique says happens way too often, there are many many guys interested in just sex.
I think what Ashey suggested is nice idea, focusing your profile more on the side of your hobbies and interests and not mainly on your looks. I think if you look very good the vast majority of the guys that message you are gonna be interested just because you're pretty and sexy and those are the main features that they seek because they are looking for sex. You could try to give an extensive description on your hobbies (specially those that can be more appealing to men, like practising some sport if you do like running) and suggest "innovative" dates, like go running or go spend some time doing any activity you both enjoy. Men who are looking sex are usually impatient enough to spend time doing those things.
Another thing I do is not to speed things too much. I mean, I just don't give them what they ask as soon as they request it. I try to pay attention to every single detail.
You need also to keep in mind that young men are very promiscuous, and not being able to give them biological descent may be an issue for some.
About boobs... Yes, I think men love boobs (most men love big boobs I think) and they can help you a lot to get guys attention. Even if HRT works nice, I think Breast Augmentation is a very nice investment. Anyway, you look really great (I'm being honest) even if you don't have boobs at all, I'm not really sure if boobs is the key issue here. It is true that a lot of guys love girls with very curvy girls (slim girly girl with big breast implants and big butt implants it's usually a killer combo) so that coud be the thing.
If you found guys that were boys who had previous relationships with TGirls would be nice to know if those girls offered the boy something more.
I think improving your looks is always a great idea and a nice way to spend your time and money. Not just to get guys attention, but to feel good about yourself.
Quote from: kittenpower on December 12, 2015, 08:00:20 PM
I don't have an answer for you, but I didn't do online dating.
I think this is key. I've never really liked online dating. I go out and meet people and it's much better.
Hope all goes well with you and your dating adventures. I have yet to go on a date with anyone either male or female. Maybe I appear scary or come off as threatening. Only people who have approached me are crazies. Quality individuals are hard to come by.
Have fun dating! Enjoy yourself and relax.
Kate - loving the avatar with your hair down. I can see side swept bangs on you.
Quote from: Angélique LaCava on December 12, 2015, 01:10:57 PM
after the date? I tell guys the sec they hit on me because I don't want to waste my time.
All our experiences are different, but I think that's where your going wrong, if I told my husband on our first date I was a trans woman, he probably would have run a mile and we wouldn't be married now, but I didn't, over time we got to know each other, he fell in love with a woman, he only ever knew me as a woman, was a bit of a shock when I eventually told him, but we worked it out, we're now married 5 years.
Quote from: herekitten on December 14, 2015, 09:15:22 AM
Have fun dating! Enjoy yourself and relax.
Best advice ever.
Quote from: pretty pauline on December 14, 2015, 11:55:48 AM
All our experiences are different, but I think that's where your going wrong, if I told my husband on our first date I was a trans woman, he probably would have run a mile and we wouldn't be married now, but I didn't, over time we got to know each other, he fell in love with a woman, he only ever knew me as a woman, was a bit of a shock when I eventually told him, but we worked it out, we're now married 5 years.
Best advice ever.
yea but I'm worried bout getting beat up or killed. A lot of guys I told told me they wouldn't hav been ok wit it later on n they even said they prolly would have been even more mad cause They would feel like they got played.
I honestly feel like ur husband would hav been fine wit it from the start cause I just asked 6 guys who I am friends with if they would date a transgender if she didn't tell them n they fell inlove N every one of them said that they wouldn't date them anymore after that. Could just be location like that one girl said.
Quote from: Angélique LaCava on December 14, 2015, 02:33:18 PM
I honestly feel like ur husband would hav been fine wit it from the start cause I just asked 6 guys who I am friends with if they would date a transgender if she didn't tell them n they fell inlove N every one of them said that they wouldn't date them anymore after that. Could just be location like that one girl said.
Well some people go the middle way.
Not telling from the start because it might shy people away. And people might have no idea what it means.
So after they have shown a few facets of themselves they tell. So they thave a chance to have been seen as a person.
*hugs*
Quote from: Wednesday on December 13, 2015, 04:41:02 PM
First of all, congratulations Keri!
I find very interesing the topic about dating. What Angelique says happens way too often, there are many many guys interested in just sex.
I think what Ashey suggested is nice idea, focusing your profile more on the side of your hobbies and interests and not mainly on your looks. I think if you look very good the vast majority of the guys that message you are gonna be interested just because you're pretty and sexy and those are the main features that they seek because they are looking for sex. You could try to give an extensive description on your hobbies (specially those that can be more appealing to men, like practising some sport if you do like running) and suggest "innovative" dates, like go running or go spend some time doing any activity you both enjoy. Men who are looking sex are usually impatient enough to spend time doing those things.
Another thing I do is not to speed things too much. I mean, I just don't give them what they ask as soon as they request it. I try to pay attention to every single detail.
You need also to keep in mind that young men are very promiscuous, and not being able to give them biological descent may be an issue for some.
About boobs... Yes, I think men love boobs (most men love big boobs I think) and they can help you a lot to get guys attention. Even if HRT works nice, I think Breast Augmentation is a very nice investment. Anyway, you look really great (I'm being honest) even if you don't have boobs at all, I'm not really sure if boobs is the key issue here. It is true that a lot of guys love girls with very curvy girls (slim girly girl with big breast implants and big butt implants it's usually a killer combo) so that coud be the thing.
If you found guys that were boys who had previous relationships with TGirls would be nice to know if those girls offered the boy something more.
I think improving your looks is always a great idea and a nice way to spend your time and money. Not just to get guys attention, but to feel good about yourself.
Wednesday,
I get it.. love the response.. I do feel wonderful about myself.. I am rocking it and having fun.. went to the mall with tight jeans and skin tight long sleeve T last night with my ex.. LOL.. It was fun... Seems women ignore me and men don't.. LOL.. how I suppose it should be.
Anyway, I am trying not to get caught in what I see a lot of CIS women do.. and that is settle because of this or that.. I may have enjoyed my date but I don't think he is the one.. or maybe he is .. who knows.
Its just amazing to be at this point..
Thanks
Keri
I thought I would respond after reading many of the posts.. I like the way the discussion has gone.. and I am one who will tell a man about me before I ever go out with anyone period.
I have a strong bad ass personality and a guy would be lucky to get me as far as I am concerned.
Finding a guy and getting married is not my goal but if it happens with the right man.. and I know it will be right then it happens.
I really have my second wind in life and am just glad to be here.. honestly thought I would be dead by now..
It still blows my mind that I did this..but it was not much of a choice.
As far as dating we do need to be very careful.. at all times. I go to clubs all the time with friends.. all CIS and even though my group loves me.. someone else may find out I am trans from someone and think it would be great to do something horrible..
So just as any woman we need to be on our toes.
I have no idea how I will ever meet anyone locally .. but why worry It will happen but at my age if it doesn't.. well things could be worse.. I have family and friends.
I did find out one thing on my date.. not sure I mentioned it.. but I am a heterosexual girl.. I def like guys a lot..
Love
Keri
Just relax & be yourself. Just do what feels good for you. Men can be very nice to be with. I remember my first date but that was so long ago. I loved a first date, most every men wanted a 2nd, 3rd, permanent relationship. Sometimes it's harder to get rid of a man that it is to find one. They fall in love so easy. WYG girl friend.
Quote from: Laura_7 on December 14, 2015, 03:36:25 PM
Well some people go the middle way.
Not telling from the start because it might shy people away. And people might have no idea what it means.
So after they have shown a few facets of themselves they tell. So they thave a chance to have been seen as a person.
*hugs*
This is how I approach it. Works for me.