How common is it to change your middle name?
How did your new middle name come about?
Is this easier or harder to decide than your first name?
Just starting a discussion :)
It's fairly common. I certainly wasn't going to keep my old middle name. The new one i was inspired by something else that I read and that lead me to discovering something about the one I chose. It just felt right and from that point forward I knew it would be my middle name which it is legally now. Hugs
Mariah
My new middle name will be Julie
Luanne
I used a feminine version of my male first name as my second name. I've never really understood the need for second names.
I've always gone by my middle name, though my first one is also used, but not by my friends. So if someone calls and asks for me by my first name, I know it's not a friend. (This was more important before caller id.)
I'll answer to either one, though. It's kinda a family tradition.
So for me, it is just as important as my first name.
I'm certainly NOT keeping my middle name. Since I'm a II my dad got the first name and I got stuck with the middle name which probably caused me to be bullied almost as much as being small and slightly effeminate did. My middle name, Ann, is/will be the same as my wife. It was an easy decision for me since I think it works well with Beverly.
Quote from: Ms Grace on February 05, 2016, 01:56:27 PM
I used a feminine version of my male first name as my second name. I've never really understood the need for second names.
In my grandmother's family they always said girls shouldn't be given one because they would get a middle name when they married. So my mom and my aunt neither had middle names as children. My mother always used her maiden name but my aunt, after she divorced when she decided she definitely did not like men, ;D picked Mary as a middle name.
I am trying to figure this out as well. I think the name should flow. If it is a lot of effort to say or is a tongue twister, it probably isn't good. Ann, Marie, and Lee are very common. ( I need something to go with Monica, any ideas?)
Hey how about a baby name book?
If your mother is around you could offer her the opportunity to choose a middle name for you. It was, after all, her prerogative the first time around; she might really love the opportunity to be involved.
That's what I did when I began the process of legally changing my name. My mom was delighted to help.
Love,
Miharu
Quote from: Miharu Barbie on February 05, 2016, 06:46:53 PM
If your mother is around you could offer her the opportunity to choose a middle name for you. It was, after all, her prerogative the first time around; she might really love the opportunity to be involved.
That's what I did when I began the process of legally changing my name. My mom was delighted to help.
Love,
Miharu
Both of my birth parents are still around as I'm a minor still, but I'm not sure if they would get along with the topic.
My first name started with Anna and it sort of evolved a time or two and ended up at Winter. So Winter is now going to be my permanent name. I like it, it seems to fit me well :)
I've thought about middle names a lot and I really want to change mine. Nobody really uses my middle name as of late but that probably has much to do with me not having one I'm comfortable with anymore.
Besides my middle name doesn't have much of a story behind it other than it being the middle name of many from my Dad's side. I don't really know what I want to be yet but friends have said a few names I don't mind that much :)
Maybe I should talk to mom about it... Dad isn't exactly in the best place right now though so I want him to have a say if he cares... Sorry for the wall of text xoxoxo
Quote from: HappyMoni on February 05, 2016, 04:52:02 PM
I am trying to figure this out as well. I think the name should flow. If it is a lot of effort to say or is a tongue twister, it probably isn't good. Ann, Marie, and Lee are very common. ( I need something to go with Monica, any ideas?)
Depending on how it would flow with your last name I think Lee would go well with Monica but spell it Leigh. Although the daughter-in-law has the middle name Lee.
Quote from: BeverlyAnn on February 05, 2016, 08:09:07 PM
Depending on how it would flow with your last name I think Lee would go well with Monica but spell it Leigh. Although the daughter-in-law has the middle name Lee.
Okay THAT'S SCARY Leigh was a name I had in mind for myself!!
Troy wouldn't really be fitting for a second name for a female.
I've had my decision as to keep family tradition for Ann :)
Kate <3
Quote from: Katiepie on February 05, 2016, 09:08:40 PM
Troy wouldn't really be fitting for a second name for a female.
I've had my decision as to keep family tradition for Ann :)
I worked several years with a woman named Troy.
Quote from: DiamondBladee on February 05, 2016, 08:20:48 PM
Okay THAT'S SCARY Leigh was a name I had in mind for myself!!
My son dated a girl named Leigh is why I spelled it that way.
Well I didnt want to conform to a sterioype of feminising my old first name.
I also didnt want to choose a firs nae that would be shared with somebody that I knew.
My middle name? That became what my dad would of chosen for my first. So since its choosing was left to sombody ells It ws definatelly easier on me :)
Quote from: BeverlyAnn on February 05, 2016, 09:17:58 PM
I worked several years with a woman named Troy.
My son dated a girl named Leigh is why I spelled it that way.
My sisters name is Rosaleigh, Leigh just comes up here and there in the old old family tree. We might bring it back
What do you think of "Monica Kayley" with a last name kind of similar to Palmer. I thought it was pretty but not sure if it goes together well. I thought I would give my S.O. a chance to use all three names, so she could let me know I am in trouble. You know, then I say, "Oh crud what did I do?" :)
Moni
Quote from: BeverlyAnn on February 05, 2016, 08:09:07 PM
Depending on how it would flow with your last name I think Lee would go well with Monica but spell it Leigh. Although the daughter-in-law has the middle name Lee.
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It's beautiful and sounds great. Hugs
Mariah
Quote from: HappyMoni on February 06, 2016, 09:31:21 PM
What do you think of "Monica Kayley" with a last name kind of similar to Palmer. I thought it was pretty but not sure if it goes together well. I thought I would give my S.O. a chance to use all three names, so she could let me know I am in trouble. You know, then I say, "Oh crud what did I do?" :)
Moni
My name is gender neutral,I use Terry in male mode and Cheryl in fem mode. Try being a male with the name Terry Sherrell confused the bullies for they thought my name made me weak,guess they never heard Johnny Cash boy named sue..
when i decided on my middle name at first i wanted to use Kacie May as may was my mothers middle name and although my dad was fine with it there were others in the family that thought i was starting world war 3 so i gave up and decided on Lacie Lynne and it just works out that i now retain the same initials i have always had lol
Well I changed my whole name, first, middle and surname, I just thought, why the hell not?
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My middle name is for Anne Nichols, author of 'Abie's Irish Rose'.
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I dont think it's too uncommon. Like me as MtF, Jessilynn Gregory Baker does NOT have quite a ring to it.
I kinda liked Jessilynn Jane because it kinda sounded like it had a bit of a cute country twang to it.
If you want to change it... Just ask friends, and family (at least the ones who are supportive). Look up name meanings and all of that too. See what fits, and see what you are comfortable with :)
Quote from: Danionacloud on February 08, 2016, 08:44:51 AM
Well I changed my whole name, first, middle and surname, I just thought, why the hell not?
Same here. Also my middle name is a male name anyway...
Still deciding. I'm honestly having a harder time choosing a middle name than a first since I had a favorite name ever that I made my first name so that was easy.
Both of my middle names were gendered, and having two was always confusing, so I've already "changed" in my mind and with my people, and will do so legally in the fullness of time.
Plus, now my initials spell "TOP" which is pretty awesome.
I changed my name completely. The only resemblance to my old name is that the initials of my first and last names are the same.
I chose Rachelle as my middle name. I named myself in honour of a lovely sales lady who helped me find some nice clothes that looked and fitted well and allowed me to do it in privacy.
She was very flattered when I told her what I had done!
Love,
Clare
I never had a middle name.
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I had three given names pre-transition, all of which could easily be changed from female to male. I am still looking for another middle name, but I'm quite set on Marius since it matches my old name very well.
The feminized version of my middle name would have been my sister's middle name. She hasn't spoken to me since I came out, so I decided against it. I had my mother pick it instead and she gave me her's.
Assuming I go that far to have a legal name change, I'll be using the name my parents would have named me if they had been told I was a girl at birth. Unfortunately as family lore goes they didn't agree on Catherine or Katherine so I'll have to choose.
My dead middle name is male and making it the female version did not go with Rachel.
Kayley or Kayleigh is Irish and means slender. I love the name and have someone in my family named that.
I changed my middle name as my old one was gendered. I like my first name and is gender neutral. I also wanted to keep my middle initial. I chose a name that is Irish, my heritage, and I love it. It is also unique! All done now! New birth certificate is in my hands.
This started more conversation than I thought. All of these are fun and interesting to read :)
I never had a middle name!? Who does that? I was so excited to pick one out! My niece helped by telling me I should change my first name to Lenore in homage of Edgar Allan Poe. I was already sold on Dierdre, but I think Dierdre Lenore is beautiful! I'm Keepin it!
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I not only changed my very male middle name I added a second one, I have two middle names. My first one is Lee which is an old family middle name. It is the middle name of my uncle who helped raise me and taught me many valuable skills that I still use today. My female cousin's middle name is Lee as was one of my great grandparents. My second middle name is Ann which was my mothers middle name and I wanted to honor her. When I did my legal name change I officially became Jessie Lee Ann. I love my name and the origins from which it came.
I have always fancied Marie for my middle name goes well with my desired first name Azelyn
Quote from: pj on February 09, 2016, 06:58:00 PM
I'll be using the name my parents would have named me if they had been told I was a girl at birth.
Same here. I was either going to be Lewis Charles or Charlotte Louise, and I like the girl names my parents chose for me. :)
Quote from: Shiratori on February 13, 2016, 06:15:22 AM
Same here. I was either going to be Lewis Charles or Charlotte Louise, and I like the girl names my parents chose for me. :)
Unfortunately my sister has this name now and it just wouldn't feel right to copy your sisters name, at least here.
I'm genderswapping one middle name and keeping one ~female middle name. Because I like it. P:
Quote from: Jessie Ann on February 10, 2016, 03:53:12 PM
I not only changed my very male middle name I added a second one, I have two middle names. My first one is Lee which is an old family middle name. It is the middle name of my uncle who helped raise me and taught me many valuable skills that I still use today. My female cousin's middle name is Lee as was one of my great grandparents. My second middle name is Ann which was my mothers middle name and I wanted to honor her. When I did my legal name change I officially became Jessie Lee Ann. I love my name and the origins from which it came.
Agh... I like Lee Ann. It was the name of the first girl I ever had a crush on. I think I was six at the time. It is pretty.
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While I build up courage to come out, I have been thinking a lot more about names. I actually had something picked out, then I forgot to write it down, and now I can't remember what it was.
Anyways, I am planning on changing both my first name and middle name, since my first name doesn't have a good feminine version, and as far as I know, David doesn't either(I also have always hated having that as my second name).
Sadly, I also can't just ask my parents what they would have named me if I was born a girl, since they already told me years ago that they only picked out male names... I did also decide to not choose the names of anyone that I know, because that would just be weird.
My middle name was Ann (after my grandmother, if I'm right) so at my dad's request I kept the A initial and went with Andrew (which I believe I also have a family member w/ the name, lol).
Was never too set on the middle name, nor do I sometimes understand the purpose of middle names. Sometimes I even forget my middle name, and when I work with official documents I have to check beforehand. :D
But eh, it gave me pretty cool initials, so I go with it.
I've had a lot of trouble trying to think of my middle name. My first name was easy enough, when I finally made a decision, and now I'm absolutely certain of going with Nicholas for my first name. But my middle name is a much different thing. I've gone through several different ones, and honestly, I'm considering making my middle name the most ridiculous thing I can think of. My parents want me to go with the masculine form of my first name, which would be Shaun, but I'm not too fond of that. Currently, I actually have two middle names, and they mean something to my parents who chose them. One of my middle names was my paternal grandmother's name, and she died when my dad was eighteen, and the other middle name is a sort of tradition on my mother's side. I've been thinking about going with matching initials, but since they're U and M, I'm having trouble thinking of a name beginning with U.
I would ask what my parents would've called me had I been born male, but considering they chose my first name after seeing it a newspaper and liking it, they hadn't really thought of anything else. I want to keep with two middle names, because I quite like it. I've been thinking of Carlisle for a middle name, but I need another one.
Quote from: GammaHunter on February 19, 2016, 08:27:08 AM
I've had a lot of trouble trying to think of my middle name. My first name was easy enough, when I finally made a decision, and now I'm absolutely certain of going with Nicholas for my first name. But my middle name is a much different thing. I've gone through several different ones, and honestly, I'm considering making my middle name the most ridiculous thing I can think of. My parents want me to go with the masculine form of my first name, which would be Shaun, but I'm not too fond of that. Currently, I actually have two middle names, and they mean something to my parents who chose them. One of my middle names was my paternal grandmother's name, and she died when my dad was eighteen, and the other middle name is a sort of tradition on my mother's side. I've been thinking about going with matching initials, but since they're U and M, I'm having trouble thinking of a name beginning with U.
I would ask what my parents would've called me had I been born male, but considering they chose my first name after seeing it a newspaper and liking it, they hadn't really thought of anything else. I want to keep with two middle names, because I quite like it. I've been thinking of Carlisle for a middle name, but I need another one.
Sometimes those baby name sites spark up ideas... But be sure to use one that lets you choose the name origin! Some people are fond of Hebrew names, others like Sanskrit names. Just a thought. If you don't have one yet, try seeing if there's a particular origin you like :)
xoxoxo Winter
I scrapped the middle name. If I ever marry and decide to take on my partner's last name, I would like to keep my chosen name fully intact, just added to. Removing my middle name entirely was easier than feminizing my masculine middle name. Wayne. Wanda? Winoa? Wilma? Nope, nope, nope!