Just wondering if surgery makes things less pleasurable or whatever. I have no need to know at the moment, as I am still a virgin and also don't plan on having my sex changed yet, but I'm considering it maybe in ten or so years.
I would say it feels more "correct" at least in my situation. For years I've felt that I should be at the receiving end and trying it from the other side just felt wrong.
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Oh I'm far far happier with my downstairs stuff now. Honestly I suspect preoccupation with sex before can have a detrimental effect on those that get srs... just my biased opinion, but something I've noticed over the decades talking to post op women. Not always, of course, but often.
I cant wait to have a vagina lol
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I would say it's more fulfilling and more satisfying for me as a woman now having the right plumbing particularly as I'm now a married woman married to a straight man.
Waking up in the middle of the night beside my hunk, with the right equipment I'm now on the receiving from a guy who can certainly give it, then he goes off to sleep again with that satisfied smirk on his face, not so much fun as such, but a great feeling just being a woman in everyway, having that effect on him in that way that only a woman can.
It's been awesome for me, at any rate. :)
It's much, much better. :)
For me, its way more fun.. my vagina was the best money I ever spent.
I only had sex once as a male and it was weird penetrating and not really enjoyable, been penetrated is a different story. The female orgasm is amazing and I do get a little loud.
I am with a straight guy and we have a very active sex life. I love playing the submissive role in sex. My man says the doc did a very good job with my vagina...
Vaginal sex for me is more enjoyable than anal, I experimented when I was pre-op with my ex..
xx
Quote from: Doreen on June 06, 2017, 10:17:55 PM
Oh I'm far far happier with my downstairs stuff now. Honestly I suspect preoccupation with sex before can have a detrimental effect on those that get srs... just my biased opinion, but something I've noticed over the decades talking to post op women. Not always, of course, but often.
So basically you're saying that it's better to mostly wait on the sex until after surgery? Just want to make sure I understand.
Hmm I don't know of it's necessarily better to wait. I think it depends how bad your dysphoria is and your sex drive. Before I transitioned I hooked up with guys and enjoyed it. Actually I was a little hoe when it came to boys. Then about 3 months into hrt my sex drive just crashed. I wasn't that interested in sex like I had been. I really liked kissing and petting with a guy and I would usually suck him but I really didnt care much about getting off myself. I"m dating a guy now and its pretty much the same deal. But I am totally looking forward to vaginal sex.
Quote from: Julia1996 on June 15, 2017, 03:18:41 PM
Hmm I don't know of it's necessarily better to wait. I think it depends how bad your dysphoria is and your sex drive. Before I transitioned I hooked up with guys and enjoyed it. Actually I was a little hoe when it came to boys. Then about 3 months into hrt my sex drive just crashed. I wasn't that interested in sex like I had been. I really liked kissing and petting with a guy and I would usually suck him but I really didnt care much about getting off myself. I"m dating a guy now and its pretty much the same deal. But I am totally looking forward to vaginal sex.
True. My dysphagia isn't as bad as some, but its still obviously ->-bleeped-<-. But the dysphagia is mostly about my body rather than what's down there anyways, so I really wouldn't mind doing things I guess pre-surgery. That way I can decide if I want to keep what's down there or not. Like it is way easier to pee as a male lol
It is easier to pee as a male but after you transition you're gonna pretty much lose that. When you present as female you totally don't want to be in the ladies room and just whip it out. I sit down all the time even when I'm alone. For me standing up to pee would feel really weird at this point.
I personally sit to pee every time even when im presenting as male to me just feels right plus when i do eventually get my surgery it wont be as much of a transition
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I have always been very sexual but since hormones it's the last thing on my mind. I do not care for sex the way I've always had it and I despise the part I can't wait to change even more. I too am very curious as to what sex after surgery will be like. I am in a serious relationship and my lack of interest though not in him just sex all together is causing problems. I just don't know what to think about it
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Quote from: kaytigibbs on June 17, 2017, 12:53:21 AM
I have always been very sexual but since hormones it's the last thing on my mind. I do not care for sex the way I've always had it and I despise the part I can't wait to change even more. I too am very curious as to what sex after surgery will be like. I am in a serious relationship and my lack of interest though not in him just sex all together is causing problems. I just don't know what to think about it
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Is there any way to perhaps stop myself from losing "the drive"? Besides not taking hormones of course lol
I don't know any way to keep the drive without stopping hrt. After hrt my sex drive totally crashed. But its not like a big deal to me. I still hook up with guys. Just not nearly as often as before.
Quote from: Julia1996 on June 17, 2017, 09:47:47 AM
I don't know any way to keep the drive without stopping hrt. After hrt my sex drive totally crashed. But its not like a big deal to me. I still hook up with guys. Just not nearly as often as before.
Aw too bad. I'm 15 so it's basically the sexual peak for men.
Quote from: ErosNightleaf on June 17, 2017, 09:37:40 AM
Is there any way to perhaps stop myself from losing "the drive"? Besides not taking hormones of course lol
If you want to have sex, you still can. The difference is that it's not constantly on your mind.
ErosNL,
My experience was I had a much more rewarding (masculine equipped) sex life in my 40s-50s than I'd had before and my teen years were nothing to write home about, stamina notwithstanding.
Hrt did initially rob my sex drive and what brought it back for me was adding progesterone to my regimen - some women find they need a bit of testosterone. The one thing that's for sure would be that different women respond differently to both HRT and GCS.
I'm at 7 weeks post op and was extremely happy to find myself just yesterday feeling turned on and so I spent some time getting myself off and really enjoyed it. My neocltoris is still far too sensitive to stimulate directly but I have to say at this point the signs are pretty darn good.
Hopefully not
My number one concern is sensation my surgery is in few months and I told my doctor that I want sensation
Anal sex sucks I never liked it there is so many discomfort and pain
Hopefully vaginal sex is different
I have image of what may vaginal sex would feel like
I hope it's true xD
The only bad thing I dislike about having vagina is everyone say it's take longer time to reach orgasm
Which is sucks because most guys will end very fast [emoji29]
Quote from: rose on June 17, 2017, 04:01:04 PM
Hopefully not
My number one concern is sensation my surgery is in few months and I told my doctor that I want sensation
Anal sex sucks I never liked it there is so many discomfort and pain
Hopefully vaginal sex is different
I have image of what may vaginal sex would feel like
I hope it's true xD
The only bad thing I dislike about having vagina is everyone say it's take longer time to reach orgasm
Which is sucks because most guys will end very fast [emoji29]
I take a long time anyways. I hope that becoming female doesnt make it even longer though cause rn I take as long as a regular female would and I've never taken hormones.
Much more fun post op. When I was a male, I was a disaster in everything, let alone sex. I did try sex with two different girls, both times not much action, I did not reach climax nor have I ever cum inside a vagina, so that's the end of that story.
I lived three years full time prior to my downstairs surgery, but never got to a stage where sex was a possibility in a relationship.
After my surgery was completed, my life went ahead to the point where I started a relationship with a wonderful guy. When we got to the sex part, the first few times were horrible, it was all me being too tense and nervous, anyway he stuck around and we worked through my problems and sex became brillant. The girl climax for me is as much a mental feeling as it is through body feeling. With the love and kindness my man constantly shows me, this then stimulates my brain into sexual feelings as we cuddle and kiss, which makes me want to have sex.When he enters me after foreplay, the feeling becomes almost becomes emotional with happiness, when I feel him cum inside me, the satisfaction I feel is as great as the sexual climax.
I am so lucky to have a guy, like this and treats me so well, which has made us so comfortable with our bodies together and our lives together actually. We share everything and can talk openly about anything together, which I feel is why we enjoy our sexual contact together so much, to me it is not physical but so relaxing and I am so satisfied, not only for me, but I love to feel him satisfied, more impotantly
I had a very active sex life as a male and great orgasms. BUT now post op I can say without comparison, I now have the greatest orgasms from clitoral and vaginal (prostate). Aot of this enjoyment is the mental imagination, once you discover, then remember, what makes you orgasm then it all easy.
I believe for each person it's very different, What I post next will be my own personal experience.
For years as a male, I enjoyed sex immensely and produced my beautiful children and now have my grandchildren.
I knew from the day I was born I had a female brain, so after waiting a very long time I finally had my surgery and I followed doctors orders to the letter. I was told to wait 6 months before I could have sex as a female, I was told to dilate every day a few times a day, I was told to slowly increase the size of my dilators till I hit a size I was comfortable with. I went through all of the sizes of my dilators and moved up too larger sex toys till I maxed out what I felt I could stretch it out too. I had no real feeling down there when I dilated, just felt a pressure only.
6 months later I had casual sex with male partners of my choosing and who were all a major disappointment, I think I was also to blame in the inability to orgasm at the time, lack of experience and I have a very dominant personality so I intimidated men I think. As my job kept me busy I had sex less but kept my dilation up and never missed a beat even if it produced little to no orgasms.
2 years later was the first real orgasm, I was blown away, I wanted more, many, many more. I joined a swingers club, why not I was beautiful and hot looking as a woman and men wanted to sleep with me. I tried everything & everyone, a lot of men were very bad in the bedroom, I never heard a guy complain about sex but as an X-man myself and looking back I never complained about sex with a woman either.
As a dominant female, I was never shy about letting a guy know what he needed to do to get me off and make me have multiple orgasms. It would be 5 years post-op that I would have learned just about every trick from the swingers clubs and well worth the lifetime membership I had bought.
15 years later I would give it up and choose to have sex with just women and at the same time looking for a relationship with just one woman. When I found her I found a woman that was wonderful in every way imaginable.
So in closing, I have to say sex is great post-op but you need to be patient and follow your doctor's orders.
I hope this helps you and answers your question.
Quote from: Dena on June 17, 2017, 10:46:22 AM
If you want to have sex, you still can. The difference is that it's not constantly on your mind.
This. In my experience, testosterone is a extremely powerful contributor to many things male - including heightened and constant sex drive. It does strange things to a brain too. HRT does NOT eliminate it. SRS does not eliminate it immediately - my guess - it takes about 1 year for the body to fully recover from being permeated with the stuff. Once past all of that and the system is finally clean - things level out to somewhere significantly less - or I should say "different". "Drive" wouldn't a word I would use to describe it IMO.
Back on topic - "Fun" is relative.
When I went on HRT (actually even a few months before I went on HRT, but still had started to transition), what sex drive I had left pretty much crashed and burned (not that it was great to begin with - I only dated one woman [I was pressured into dating her by a good friend of mine], and the 4 or 5 times we had sex were a disaster [I didn't even climax half the time]). It took me a while even post-op to really get any kind of a sex drive back. Once I did, it was like "wow!! why did I wait so long, to re-start sexual activity?!" In a nutshell, sex is waaaaay more fun post-op than it ever was pre-op or pre-transition - especially since the physical configuration is right (which it wasn't before SRS for me).
Ellen
"Anything you can do I can do better...." lol... that song kinda comes to mind. I can maintain an 'erection' for hours, I can become aroused almost at will, and I can keep it going multiple times a night.
Then again I've always been a weird little nut and the preop stuff was mangled anyways. Lets just say I'm far more happier now. <3 And yes... its more fun, far more fun.
And on the testosterone note, pretty much never had any (not bragging but stating it had no effect on sex drive). I suspect my progesterone levels are feeding it though. Highly suspect.
Honestly my sex life really didn't start until I was Post Op. As a PreOp I was incredibly ashamed of my genitals and felt weird because men wanted me to perform as a man in bed. Total mind-<not allowed>.
Once I had my surgery, my panties flew off and I was DOING the town. ;D :kee kee: :D
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At 9 days out from Surgery this thread is perfect...it instils me with great hope that I may in fact discover what the heck all the fuss is about...as a man I could easily get off and helped produce 2 beautiful children so I guess I was doing something right LOL
I enjoyed the physical contact and the orgasm but mostly I felt weird because I didn't really like to be on top becasue then it was near impossible to to do the mental gymnastics I had to do in oder to get some satisfaction. All the while keeping this from my partner...thats proabaly partly why we have been celibate for so long. Now that I am trasitioning we don't have any sexual physical contact. I am happy with that...I haven't given the sex side of this much thought as its not that important to me...yes I want sensation..absolutely! but sex has never been a huge priority maybe with my new equipment it might be... as the Eurythmics song goes "I need a man" :)
Liz
Quote from: LizK on November 24, 2018, 06:12:25 PM
At 9 days out from Surgery this thread is perfect...it instils me with great hope that I may in fact discover what the heck all the fuss is about...as a man I could easily get off and helped produce 2 beautiful children so I guess I was doing something right LOL
I enjoyed the physical contact and the orgasm but mostly I felt weird because I didn't really like to be on top becasue then it was near impossible to to do the mental gymnastics I had to do in oder to get some satisfaction. All the while keeping this from my partner...thats proabaly partly why we have been celibate for so long. Now that I am trasitioning we don't have any sexual physical contact. I am happy with that...I haven't given the sex side of this much thought as its not that important to me...yes I want sensation..absolutely! but sex has never been a huge priority maybe with my new equipment it might be... as the Eurythmics song goes "I need a man" :)
Liz
Everything will open up :winks:
"You're a woman now" -
Piper Laurie in "Carrie"For me the excitement took a while to wear off. Honestly In my opinion, I don't know how anyone can stay with a partner throughout the transition. I wanted to taste it all. lol
Hell, using a strap on didn't even bother me ONE BIT yet I had hang ups using my own tool. It's weird but the mind and body just came together after the SRS. :D
I find it difficult to answer this question as I only self serviced as a guy to keep from going insane. I never actually had sex until after SRS. I do find sex very pleasureful. I don't have any regrets.
Quote from: GoneGrl on November 24, 2018, 06:31:04 PM
Everything will open up :winks:
"You're a woman now" - Piper Laurie in "Carrie"
For me the excitement took a while to wear off. Honestly In my opinion, I don't know how anyone can stay with a partner throughout the transition. I wanted to taste it all. lol
Hell, using a strap on didn't even bother me ONE BIT yet I had hang ups using my own tool. It's weird but the mind and body just came together after the SRS. :D
Hi Gonegirl
I hear what you are saying and understand perfectly why you say what you did but at my age and 33 years married I cannot leave her, nor do I want to. She knew about my gender issues before marrying me and has stuck by me despite the wreckage my GD caused. Do I want to find a willing partner and try out my new equipment...hell yes but there is no amount of pleasure I could receive that would negate my betrayal after all her support through the years. I have so many wonderful things in my life already. Chasing sex would just screw it all up.
I hear you, re the hangups...mine were pretty weird...but I think we do what ever it is we have too in order to function so no one knows who we really are. It's like the mental gymnastics I used to do, to see myself as the woman when having sex and then the guilt of actually doing it, seeing myself as a woman..double whammy.
Liz
Quote from: LizK on November 24, 2018, 07:40:20 PM
Hi Gonegirl
I hear what you are saying and understand perfectly why you say what you did but at my age and 33 years married I cannot leave her, nor do I want to. She knew about my gender issues before marrying me and has stuck by me despite the wreckage my GD caused. Do I want to find a willing partner and try out my new equipment...hell yes but there is no amount of pleasure I could receive that would negate my betrayal after all her support through the years. I have so many wonderful things in my life already. Chasing sex would just screw it all up.
I hear you, re the hangups...mine were pretty weird...but I think we do what ever it is we have too in order to function so no one knows who we really are. It's like the mental gymnastics I used to do, to see myself as the woman when having sex and then the guilt of actually doing it, seeing myself as a woman..double whammy.
Liz
Well that's fabulous!! Nothing beats a great marriage/relationship! <3