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Title: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: eyesk8rboi on August 01, 2017, 12:19:14 PM
Given that I'm going through a difficult time right now I want to take about something happy and positive and romantic.

I want to hear about what would be your dream date, be it with a partner, a friend, a non-romantic life partner, etc...

Just be sure that if the night ends with a little winkwink don't be too graphic, because there are minors present on the forum.  ^-^

Keep in mind, this is DREAM....like assuming you had infinite amount of funds, infinite time, stuff like that...And GO!

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I have a LOT of dream dates, so I'll just start with one of the more out there ones!

I would love to whisk my girl away somewhere without telling her. A nice pretty beach with white sands and cozy weather....I'd try to distract her while I got to the room and lay out a little black dress that fits her style of clothing, and new diamonds and sprinkle the bed with rose petals.
We'd dress up and go to a super fancy restaurant close to the beach and then we'd carry our dress shoes and walk barefoot on the beach after sunset, watching the waves....In the ideal setting the moon would be full and high and light up the sky and lots of stars would be  out. We'd look for seashells and if she got chilly I'd give her my coat.
We'd kiss under the stars before heading back to the hotel. We'd take a nice fancy bubble bath together with chocolate covered strawberries and champagne. Then we'd retire, (No winkwink needed, but always welcome.) and snuggle up and listen to calming music as we drift off.

....I might be a hopeless romantic. I'll tell more as people start to post....But DO IT! TELL ME THE DREAM THINGS!
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: FTMax on August 01, 2017, 03:15:43 PM
We get pizza. Two pizzas. I get my own pizza. It has pineapples and jalapenos. I love it more than I love her for the 15 minutes it will exist.

We watch Netflix. Something with lots of jump scares. She doesn't know that I watched the movie before, and I scream right before each one and ruin it. I find this amusing. She finds it strangely endearing.

I get up to pee and end up playing games on my phone for at least 10 minutes. She asks if I am pooping. I say maybe.

She pets my dog, which is good because then she has no hands free to eat the rest of her pizza. I eat the rest of her pizza. It has mushrooms, and this disappoints me. Liking mushrooms is a huge character flaw.

When the pizza is gone, I take the dog for a walk. When I come back, she is sprawled across the whole couch. I ask her to make room, and she says no. I warn her that if she does not move, I will fart on her. She does not move.

I get tired after all the pizza and screaming and farting, and I go to bed. She comes in, lays down, leans in really close, and whispers "taxation is theft". We high five.

Romantic as heck.
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: Julia1996 on August 01, 2017, 05:14:33 PM
Wow Mac, you are one romantic guy.  Ftmax, um.....yours is....nice.

Julia
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: Devlyn on August 01, 2017, 05:37:01 PM
Right now my dream date would be a message from Steven.  :-*

Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: FTMax on August 01, 2017, 06:40:14 PM
Quote from: Julia1996 on August 01, 2017, 05:14:33 PM
Wow Mac, you are one romantic guy.  Ftmax, um.....yours is....nice.

Julia

So, you don't wanna go out sometime?
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: Dena on August 01, 2017, 06:50:02 PM
Quote from: FTMax on August 01, 2017, 06:40:14 PM
So, you don't wanna go out sometime?
100% all guy. No doubt about it!
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: Julia1996 on August 01, 2017, 07:12:38 PM
Quote from: FTMax on August 01, 2017, 06:40:14 PM
So, you don't wanna go out sometime?
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Oh I didn't say that. It's just that Dena is right, you are all guy. Lol.  Actually your date idea isn't as bad as one date I had. He asked me if I would like some cheese and fruit so I said sure. He gave me an apple and and a Kraft single in it's plastic wrapper. No joke. I couldn't help it, I started laughing. He didn't appreciate it either. So then his dog jumped onto my lap which was ok. But then she peed on me! Ewww.  There was no second date. Lol
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: Julia1996 on August 01, 2017, 07:15:59 PM
FTMax, how can you not like mushrooms?? Who DOESN'T like mushrooms??
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: FTMax on August 01, 2017, 07:28:58 PM
I hope you were like, at his house and he wasn't just carrying around a Kraft single. Actually, I hope he was. That makes the story better. Maybe I will start carrying around cheese slices in case I need an option for a quick romantic gesture.

My dog hasn't peed on anyone since he was a smol pupper, so you're probably safe there.

But the mushrooms. Come on. They are slimy. Their texture is awful. They have no taste by themselves and are therefore useless. And did you know that the FDA legally allows 19 maggots and 74 mites per 3.5oz can of mushrooms? NO THANKS, SISTER. YOU CAN KEEP THEM.
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: Julia1996 on August 01, 2017, 07:33:43 PM
Quote from: FTMax on August 01, 2017, 07:28:58 PM
I hope you were like, at his house and he wasn't just carrying around a Kraft single. Actually, I hope he was. That makes the story better. Maybe I will start carrying around cheese slices in case I need an option for a quick romantic gesture.

My dog hasn't peed on anyone since he was a smol pupper, so you're probably safe there.

But the mushrooms. Come on. They are slimy. Their texture is awful. They have no taste by themselves and are therefore useless. And did you know that the FDA legally allows 19 maggots and 74 mites per 3.5oz can of mushrooms? NO THANKS, SISTER. YOU CAN KEEP THEM.
Lol yes I was at his house. I LOVE mushrooms!  Stuffed, roasted, raw, mushroom soup .YUM.  You're hilarious. You would be a fun date. Lol
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: Dena on August 01, 2017, 07:38:46 PM
Yuuuummmmm mushroms. Slice them thick then gently brown them in butter or olive oil. Use them in an omelet or add them to beef stroganoff. Little morsels of heaven.
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: FTMax on August 01, 2017, 08:02:34 PM
Dena, meet Julia. You both love eating fungus. Clearly this is a perfect match! I am a match maker now. You're welcome.
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: Dena on August 01, 2017, 08:04:27 PM
Quote from: FTMax on August 01, 2017, 08:02:34 PM
Dena, meet Julia. You both love eating fungus. Clearly this is a perfect match! I am a match maker now. You're welcome.
Not really, I am old enough to be Julia's grandmother. Besides that, Julia is into boys and I haven't figured out what I am into.
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: Devlyn on August 01, 2017, 08:05:00 PM
Quote from: FTMax on August 01, 2017, 07:28:58 PM
I hope you were like, at his house and he wasn't just carrying around a Kraft single. Actually, I hope he was. That makes the story better. Maybe I will start carrying around cheese slices in case I need an option for a quick romantic gesture.

My dog hasn't peed on anyone since he was a smol pupper, so you're probably safe there.

But the mushrooms. Come on. They are slimy. Their texture is awful. They have no taste by themselves and are therefore useless. And did you know that the FDA legally allows 19 maggots and 74 mites per 3.5oz can of mushrooms? NO THANKS, SISTER. YOU CAN KEEP THEM.

Childs play compared to the vermin climbing around in that chin spinach.  :laugh:

Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: JB_Girl on August 01, 2017, 08:20:17 PM
Quote from: transguymac on August 01, 2017, 12:19:14 PM

I would love to whisk my girl away somewhere without telling her. A nice pretty beach with white sands and cozy weather....I'd try to distract her while I got to the room and lay out a little black dress that fits her style of clothing, and new diamonds and sprinkle the bed with rose petals.
We'd dress up and go to a super fancy restaurant close to the beach and then we'd carry our dress shoes and walk barefoot on the beach after sunset, watching the waves....In the ideal setting the moon would be full and high and light up the sky and lots of stars would be  out. We'd look for seashells and if she got chilly I'd give her my coat.
We'd kiss under the stars before heading back to the hotel. We'd take a nice fancy bubble bath together with chocolate covered strawberries and champagne. Then we'd retire, (No winkwink needed, but always welcome.) and snuggle up and listen to calming music as we drift off.

....I might be a hopeless romantic. I'll tell more as people start to post....But DO IT! TELL ME THE DREAM THINGS!

That is an awesome date!!!  I've had a few like that and do very much hope for a few more.  You'll find the beach on the leeward side of Kauai'i The diamonds are the sparkle of your eyes as you pour champagne.  Makes me wish I wasn't old enough to be your grandmother.   ;)
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: JB_Girl on August 01, 2017, 08:43:00 PM
My dream date begins on the Grand Canal shortly after dawn in late June with my date feeding me a sugar cube dipped in espresso.  We share bread, coffee, and cheese as Venice comes alive walking hand in hand without an immediate destination.  He kisses me and smiles, as from his jacket he pulls tickets to a private backstage tour of Teatro La Fenice.  While my Italian is sufficient to order a meal and find the bathroom my date translates the history of the Italian Opera as we walk through the dressing rooms, the sets, the sumptuous private boxes.

Before leaving we listen to a rehearsal of La Boheme.  Puccini's arias bring tears to my eyes with their beauty and the majesty of grand opera, even while in rehearsal.  Perhaps more so as the soprano is consumed with the passion of the music and the passion of interpretation and the tenor sings Che gelida manina... with such intensity that tears of joy flow freely down both of our cheeks.

We have a late lunch on the Piasa San Marco, watching the tourists and the dance of youth in love, before retiring for love making and a bath at Santa Maria del Giglio where we have a suite.  As the sun begins to set we dress elegantly and are serenaded by our gondolier as we quietly travel the canals to a midnight dinner and dancing until the coming of another dawn.

Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: FTMax on August 01, 2017, 08:56:33 PM
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on August 01, 2017, 08:05:00 PM
Quote from: FTMax on August 01, 2017, 07:28:58 PM
I hope you were like, at his house and he wasn't just carrying around a Kraft single. Actually, I hope he was. That makes the story better. Maybe I will start carrying around cheese slices in case I need an option for a quick romantic gesture.

My dog hasn't peed on anyone since he was a smol pupper, so you're probably safe there.

But the mushrooms. Come on. They are slimy. Their texture is awful. They have no taste by themselves and are therefore useless. And did you know that the FDA legally allows 19 maggots and 74 mites per 3.5oz can of mushrooms? NO THANKS, SISTER. YOU CAN KEEP THEM.

Childs play compared to the vermin climbing around in that chin spinach.  :laugh:

Hugs, Devlyn

I searched for chin spinach on urban dictionary and I have not stopped laughing since
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: eyesk8rboi on August 02, 2017, 11:02:06 AM
Quote from: FTMax on August 01, 2017, 03:15:43 PM
We get pizza. Two pizzas. I get my own pizza. It has pineapples and jalapenos. I love it more than I love her for the 15 minutes it will exist.

We watch Netflix. Something with lots of jump scares. She doesn't know that I watched the movie before, and I scream right before each one and ruin it. I find this amusing. She finds it strangely endearing.

I get up to pee and end up playing games on my phone for at least 10 minutes. She asks if I am pooping. I say maybe.

She pets my dog, which is good because then she has no hands free to eat the rest of her pizza. I eat the rest of her pizza. It has mushrooms, and this disappoints me. Liking mushrooms is a huge character flaw.

When the pizza is gone, I take the dog for a walk. When I come back, she is sprawled across the whole couch. I ask her to make room, and she says no. I warn her that if she does not move, I will fart on her. She does not move.

I get tired after all the pizza and screaming and farting, and I go to bed. She comes in, lays down, leans in really close, and whispers "taxation is theft". We high five.

Romantic as heck.

Such smooth. So romance. Very gentleman.
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Quote from: Julia1996 on August 01, 2017, 05:14:33 PM
Wow Mac, you are one romantic guy.  Ftmax, um.....yours is....nice.

Julia

Haha! I try. I guess being FTM I just have that whole mentality of how I would like to be treated by Men...even though I prefer being the man and doing the spoiling I still have the mentality. I like going shopping with a girl and buying her makeup and clothes...I'm really good at picking things out too.
My ex, who I'm currently talking too again...
We went to a convention and it was the weekend after Valentines Day (we were long distance at the time)....I got to the hotel before she did so I set everything up. I had a few of the things that I mentioned in my first post, pink petals, a dress (but it was white lace)....the exact lipstick and nail polish she had wanted in a wooden jewelry box and a giant stuffed tiger.
I took her red lobster, because that's where she wanted to go...Figured out I was allergic to shellfish and almost fell asleep in the bubble bath...We got out...I passed out. I felt like a guilty little doo doo head the next day...Good times.
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: Aurorasky on August 02, 2017, 11:11:53 AM
This sounds soooo romantic  :laugh: :-* omg. Wish there were more guys like you, mac!!

Julia and FTMax need to go out together. Lol

My perfect date would be a walk to the beach at sunset, and coffee shop date to talk. Or a movie. I love to discuss movies.
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: Julia1996 on August 02, 2017, 11:17:11 AM
Wow Mac. Your like the perfect guy. From my experiences so far with my dad, brother and boyfriend, a man who's cool expressing his feminine side is rare. Don't underestimate the value of that to a woman. I think all guys have a feminine side to some extent, they just won't admit it and totally would never act on it. The fact you can identify colors is great too. Most guys don't have that ability. To them there are no shades.  Everything is just straight up blue, red, etc. Lol. And if you're willing to actually shop with your girl you are even farther ahead. You have to drag most guys shopping and even if they go they start asking "can we go now" ten seconds after walking in the store. Any girl you date will be lucky.
Julia
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: Julia1996 on August 02, 2017, 11:18:25 AM
Quote from: Aurorasky on August 02, 2017, 11:11:53 AM
This sounds soooo romantic  :laugh: :-* omg. Wish there were more guys like you, mac!!

Julia and FTMax need to go out together. Lol

My perfect date would be a walk to the beach at sunset, and coffee shop date to talk. Or a movie. I love to discuss movies.
Yeah we do. I could slip mushrooms into his food. Lol
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: eyesk8rboi on August 02, 2017, 11:46:43 AM
Quote from: Julia1996 on August 01, 2017, 07:15:59 PM
FTMax, how can you not like mushrooms?? Who DOESN'T like mushrooms??

Quote from: FTMax on August 01, 2017, 08:02:34 PM
Dena, meet Julia. You both love eating fungus. Clearly this is a perfect match! I am a match maker now. You're welcome.

I too enjoy the nomming of fungus....Maybe it should be a triad????  :icon_rockon:
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: eyesk8rboi on August 02, 2017, 11:47:33 AM
Quote from: Julia1996 on August 02, 2017, 11:18:25 AM
Yeah we do. I could slip mushrooms into his food. Lol

Do it....Convert him!
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: Kelly1ca on August 02, 2017, 12:06:20 PM
My dream date is a lovely walk though a park that leads to a picnic in  a secluded area. In the picnic  we have nice bottle of champagne and some lovely strawberries. Than off to home to watch a nice romantic movie while cuddling on the couch. This finally ends with a beautiful tumble in the bedroom.
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: FTMax on August 02, 2017, 12:23:36 PM
Quote from: Julia1996 on August 02, 2017, 11:17:11 AM
The fact you can identify colors is great too. Most guys don't have that ability. To them there are no shades.  Everything is just straight up blue, red, etc. Lol.

My ex-girlfriend and I had a lengthy debate once over the differences between orange, coral, and salmon ;D

Quote from: Julia1996 on August 02, 2017, 11:18:25 AM
Quote from: Aurorasky on August 02, 2017, 11:11:53 AM
This sounds soooo romantic  :laugh: :-* omg. Wish there were more guys like you, mac!!

Julia and FTMax need to go out together. Lol

My perfect date would be a walk to the beach at sunset, and coffee shop date to talk. Or a movie. I love to discuss movies.
Yeah we do. I could slip mushrooms into his food. Lol

The less mushrooms I eat, the more mushrooms for you!
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: eyesk8rboi on August 02, 2017, 04:17:44 PM
Quote from: JB_Girl on August 01, 2017, 08:43:00 PM
My dream date begins on the Grand Canal shortly after dawn in late June with my date feeding me a sugar cube dipped in espresso.  We share bread, coffee, and cheese as Venice comes alive walking hand in hand without an immediate destination.  He kisses me and smiles, as from his jacket he pulls tickets to a private backstage tour of Teatro La Fenice.  While my Italian is sufficient to order a meal and find the bathroom my date translates the history of the Italian Opera as we walk through the dressing rooms, the sets, the sumptuous private boxes.

Before leaving we listen to a rehearsal of La Boheme.  Puccini's arias bring tears to my eyes with their beauty and the majesty of grand opera, even while in rehearsal.  Perhaps more so as the soprano is consumed with the passion of the music and the passion of interpretation and the tenor sings Che gelida manina... with such intensity that tears of joy flow freely down both of our cheeks.

We have a late lunch on the Piasa San Marco, watching the tourists and the dance of youth in love, before retiring for love making and a bath at Santa Maria del Giglio where we have a suite.  As the sun begins to set we dress elegantly and are serenaded by our gondolier as we quietly travel the canals to a midnight dinner and dancing until the coming of another dawn.

That sounds really nice!!! I want to visit Italy so bad one day. Maybe that's a good honey moon destination if I'm nice and rich by then!
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: eyesk8rboi on August 02, 2017, 04:28:53 PM
Quote from: Aurorasky on August 02, 2017, 11:11:53 AM
This sounds soooo romantic  :laugh: :-* omg. Wish there were more guys like you, mac!!

Julia and FTMax need to go out together. Lol

My perfect date would be a walk to the beach at sunset, and coffee shop date to talk. Or a movie. I love to discuss movies.

My generation is the "queer-ist" so there should be plenty of us out there. :P
That sounds like a really nice date too. Coffee and after-movie discussion is always best!

Quote from: Julia1996 on August 02, 2017, 11:17:11 AM
Wow Mac. Your like the perfect guy. From my experiences so far with my dad, brother and boyfriend, a man who's cool expressing his feminine side is rare. Don't underestimate the value of that to a woman. I think all guys have a feminine side to some extent, they just won't admit it and totally would never act on it. The fact you can identify colors is great too. Most guys don't have that ability. To them there are no shades.  Everything is just straight up blue, red, etc. Lol. And if you're willing to actually shop with your girl you are even farther ahead. You have to drag most guys shopping and even if they go they start asking "can we go now" ten seconds after walking in the store. Any girl you date will be lucky.
Julia

My thing is...and I obviously can't speak for everyone, but a lot of FTMs are so concerned with being THE MAN...And I've always had a pretty feminine personality, which is one reason it was such a hard time for me deciding to move forward and accept who I am.
Like I've always been a hopeless romantic as well so that contributes.
The only reason I don't care for shopping with the girl I'm talking too now is that I don't have the money to spoil the living hell of her and buy her everything she adores, because while she knows I don't have the money and she has no problems with me being frugal right now for multiple reasons, it still makes ME feel sad that I can't.
My best friend drags me with her to makeup stores all the time, and as a person who really enjoys all the colors, by the time I leave my entire hand and arm is cover in lipstick, eyeliner, highlighter, you name it! All the shiny things!
Mint green is actually my favorite color and my mom told me that I couldn't be a dude AND like mint green and I was like...WATCH ME! (She was joking of course, but still.)

I also think mani-pedis followed by bakery treats and a coffee at a cute little cafe would be a boss date....I like being pampered. Nothing like having your eyebrows threaded, a sugar scrub on your legs and of course, the hair washing when you get your hair cut.... #femftmandproud-ish
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: RobynD on August 02, 2017, 04:54:43 PM
Mine would be similar to be with my guy in the South Pacific some place with white sand beaches and where your hotel suite or cabin includes its on little dunk pool and is built on docks over the water.
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: Julia1996 on August 02, 2017, 06:07:46 PM
Quote from: transguymac on August 02, 2017, 04:28:53 PM
My generation is the "queer-ist" so there should be plenty of us out there. :P
That sounds like a really nice date too. Coffee and after-movie discussion is always best!

My thing is...and I obviously can't speak for everyone, but a lot of FTMs are so concerned with being THE MAN...And I've always had a pretty feminine personality, which is one reason it was such a hard time for me deciding to move forward and accept who I am.
Like I've always been a hopeless romantic as well so that contributes.
The only reason I don't care for shopping with the girl I'm talking too now is that I don't have the money to spoil the living hell of her and buy her everything she adores, because while she knows I don't have the money and she has no problems with me being frugal right now for multiple reasons, it still makes ME feel sad that I can't.
My best friend drags me with her to makeup stores all the time, and as a person who really enjoys all the colors, by the time I leave my entire hand and arm is cover in lipstick, eyeliner, highlighter, you name it! All the shiny things!
Mint green is actually my favorite color and my mom told me that I couldn't be a dude AND like mint green and I was like...WATCH ME! (She was joking of course, but still.)

I also think mani-pedis followed by bakery treats and a coffee at a cute little cafe would be a boss date....I like being pampered. Nothing like having your eyebrows threaded, a sugar scrub on your legs and of course, the hair washing when you get your hair cut.... #femftmandproud-ish

It's not just trans men who act that way. Most CIS guys are all about proving how manly and masculine they are. If a guy does like something generally considered feminine society tells them it's wrong to like it. People in general associate certain jobs to be for women and if a guy happens to be in one of those jobs they think he has to be gay. Nurses, air stewards, hair stylist,etc. And guys think taking care of certain things makes them feminine. It was a battle to get my boyfriend to let me clean up his eyebrows a little. Forget manicures and pedicures. And society really pushes it on them. There was a commercial for testosterone boosting vitamins.  It showed a guy getting a facial and another one getting a manicure. The commercial urged guys to buy the vitamins before American masculinity was gone. Or something really stupid like that. Anyway, I think it's wonderful that you're secure enough in your masculinity to admit you have some female interests.

Sigh, well I guess the mushrooms were a deal breaker for FTMax. And I was going to shave my ears and knuckles for our date. I was even going to wear my good flip flops. Oh well.
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: FTMax on August 02, 2017, 09:19:24 PM
Quote from: Julia1996 on August 02, 2017, 06:07:46 PM
Sigh, well I guess the mushrooms were a deal breaker for FTMax. And I was going to shave my ears and knuckles for our date. I was even going to wear my good flip flops. Oh well.

Ear shaving has me intrigued. You've got yourself a date.
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: judithlynn on August 03, 2017, 10:18:38 PM
Hi Robyn;
What about Whitehaven beach in the Whitsundays:

https://www.cruisewhitsundays.com/whitehaven-day-cruises/whitehaven-and-hamilton-island-day-cruise (https://www.cruisewhitsundays.com/whitehaven-day-cruises/whitehaven-and-hamilton-island-day-cruise)
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: RobynD on August 06, 2017, 06:31:51 PM
Quote from: judithlynn on August 03, 2017, 10:18:38 PM
Hi Robyn;
What about Whitehaven beach in the Whitsundays:

https://www.cruisewhitsundays.com/whitehaven-day-cruises/whitehaven-and-hamilton-island-day-cruise (https://www.cruisewhitsundays.com/whitehaven-day-cruises/whitehaven-and-hamilton-island-day-cruise)

That looks delightful! I think our first big trip will be Costa Rica
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: N A on August 07, 2017, 10:19:34 AM
In a bathroom, on a lunch break. Then back to our respective offices.

I live on small things.
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: MirandaLove on August 08, 2017, 05:28:53 PM
So this only slightly off topic but related!  My first date with a guy was with this super hot musician.  I went over to his place and he was standing in the house, where I could see him leaning against the kitchen counter drinking from a glass.  He greeted me with a sweet, smooth "hey" and his big arms wrapped around me.  No words for what seemed like ten minutes or more, just holding each other close, feeling each other breathe.  Things escalated from there and he pulled me over to the couch, where he sat and I straddled him.  I'll just leave that there...

We went out to an intimate  little restaurant and then to a movie, where he held my hand sweetly.  We walked around at night then headed back to his place.  We sat out on the back porch and talked and smoked and drank.  It was magical, with pretty lights and a shining moon.  He started playing his instruments and I started dancing.  We were so in sync.  Tired from playing and dancing, we went back to his room and I stretched out on the bed.  He put the perfect music on and we chatted while snuggling and massaging each other.

Everything was perfect.  I was in heaven and could see myself laying there forever.  At least I wanted to lie there forever.

I freaked out.  It all seemed too perfect, like he had done this same routine a million times before.  I freaked out!  I thanked him for the time together and left abruptly, making some excuse as to why I was suddenly uncomfortable.  I tried to find anything wrong with the situation to justify my anxiety.  I blamed my dysphoria, but I didn't really give him a chance to support me through it.

It was perfect, but I freaked out.  I wish had stayed just a bit longer, but I didn't.  I still find myself hoping that he'll reach out to me again, so we can have another shot.  I guess that would be my perfect date at the moment.  A do-over!


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Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: eyesk8rboi on August 09, 2017, 08:51:23 AM
Quote from: MirandaLove on August 08, 2017, 05:28:53 PM
So this only slightly off topic but related!  My first date with a guy was with this super hot musician.  I went over to his place and he was standing in the house, where I could see him leaning against the kitchen counter drinking from a glass.  He greeted me with a sweet, smooth "hey" and his big arms wrapped around me.  No words for what seemed like ten minutes or more, just holding each other close, feeling each other breathe.  Things escalated from there and he pulled me over to the couch, where he sat and I straddled him.  I'll just leave that there...

We went out to an intimate  little restaurant and then to a movie, where he held my hand sweetly.  We walked around at night then headed back to his place.  We sat out on the back porch and talked and smoked and drank.  It was magical, with pretty lights and a shining moon.  He started playing his instruments and I started dancing.  We were so in sync.  Tired from playing and dancing, we went back to his room and I stretched out on the bed.  He put the perfect music on and we chatted while snuggling and massaging each other.

Everything was perfect.  I was in heaven and could see myself laying there forever.  At least I wanted to lie there forever.

I freaked out.  It all seemed too perfect, like he had done this same routine a million times before.  I freaked out!  I thanked him for the time together and left abruptly, making some excuse as to why I was suddenly uncomfortable.  I tried to find anything wrong with the situation to justify my anxiety.  I blamed my dysphoria, but I didn't really give him a chance to support me through it.

It was perfect, but I freaked out.  I wish had stayed just a bit longer, but I didn't.  I still find myself hoping that he'll reach out to me again, so we can have another shot.  I guess that would be my perfect date at the moment.  A do-over!


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OMG THAT SOUNDS SO AMAZING! One of my favorite thing to do with my friends is just sit on a porch and smoke and drink. I have a friend who had a crush on me a while back, but I couldn't return the feelings, however we spent a lot of time on his porch smoking and drinking until the wee hours of the morning and those are honestly some of the best times I've ever had....So doing it for a date sounds amazing!
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: MirandaLove on August 09, 2017, 11:18:46 AM
Quote from: transguymac on August 09, 2017, 08:51:23 AM
OMG THAT SOUNDS SO AMAZING! One of my favorite thing to do with my friends is just sit on a porch and smoke and drink. I have a friend who had a crush on me a while back, but I couldn't return the feelings, however we spent a lot of time on his porch smoking and drinking until the wee hours of the morning and those are honestly some of the best times I've ever had....So doing it for a date sounds amazing!

Totally!  Sitting outside and just letting your minds wander down all sorts of rabbit holes and trusting that the other person will still be there after revealing your fears, dreams, your frustrations and even your most outlandish ideas.  It is its own kind of intimacy.   


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Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: RobynD on August 14, 2017, 02:30:46 PM
Sitting on the patio of a bar with my boyfriend, drinking a bit and talking about everything and nothing in particular. Enjoying the summer evening. That is a perfect date we've had a few times this summer.
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: eyesk8rboi on August 15, 2017, 09:13:33 AM
Once I'm old enough to rent a car (#stillaweebab) I'm going to to rent a truck and fill the bed with pillows and blankets, find somewhere nice under the stars on a cool fall night and take the lady out to star gaze and cuddle in the truck bed....We'll take a thermos of hot chocolate and some sweet treats and lie there for hours!  :icon_love:
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: Julia1996 on August 15, 2017, 09:25:28 AM
Quote from: transguymac on August 15, 2017, 09:13:33 AM
Once I'm old enough to rent a car (#stillaweebab) I'm going to to rent a truck and fill the bed with pillows and blankets, find somewhere nice under the stars on a cool fall night and take the lady out to star gaze and cuddle in the truck bed....We'll take a thermos of hot chocolate and some sweet treats and lie there for hours!  :icon_love:

Wow Mac. You have some really romantic ideas. Someone will be lucky to have you as a SO. My boyfriend's idea of romantic is not farting after he eats chili or that nasty ass vegemite.
Julia
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: eyesk8rboi on August 15, 2017, 12:38:23 PM
Quote from: Julia1996 on August 15, 2017, 09:25:28 AM
Wow Mac. You have some really romantic ideas. Someone will be lucky to have you as a SO. My boyfriend's idea of romantic is not farting after he eats chili or that nasty ass vegemite.
Julia

Psh! I farted in my girls face one day when she got sassy with me....To be far....she got me back...and we both laughed....I am equally as gross and un-romantic sometimes. So I try to make up for it.
Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: MirandaLove on August 17, 2017, 05:01:42 PM
Quote from: transguymac on August 15, 2017, 09:13:33 AM
Once I'm old enough to rent a car (#stillaweebab)...

This sounds like a great idea!  Another dream date is just spending a day at  the beach.  Like all day.  Swimming. Eating. Chatting. Snuggling. Music. Minimal clothing, or none at all. Massage. Maybe a portable grill or a fire pit at night.  Blankets to keep warm. Drinks. Weed.


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Title: Re: Dream Date Discussion
Post by: natalie.ashlyne on August 17, 2017, 06:41:20 PM
Ok my dream date is rather long but would be happy if i could have it split in pieces it starts off with going out for a supper than going out to the movies where we sit in the back, than going for a walk by the water beach Niagara falls, lake,where ever. Than driving home holding each others hand, going to sleep cuddling with each other and me dogs, than eating breakfast together. That would be my dream date pretty simple sort of.