A simple question for you guys: Does your height cause you dysphoria? In what ways?
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Yes. I've accepted it (well, can't do much about it now can I?) - but it does bother me. I'm short for a woman!!! It especially bothers me when my SO is wearing high heels! And it annoys the heck out of me when I stand near tall men. It really does make me feel miniscule at those moments. But then I think to myself: there are short Asian guys for example... I always wanted to be tall, even as a child. I used to be - at first - but then all the other girls & boys grew taller......
It helps though that every day I pass by men who are around my height, or not that tall. And I've encountered men shorter than me, so...! But yes, it does annoy me. It's also annoying to be among relatives - can't keep thinking had I been born cis, I'd be their height.
At least I don't have extremely small frame...
Negative - I'm only 5'5". I don't like basketball LOL.
As a "male" I've dated women several inches taller than myself. Height has never been an issue.
Although, years ago a couple of co-worker (brothers) used to call me "little man".
Have no, and never did have desire to be tall.
DeniseGrace
No, I'm 5'4" so average height for a female. It stunk being that height as a guy tho.
My height never caused me dysphoria but it did kind of stress me out a bit before I transitioned because people would comment on it. My dad is 6'2, my brother is 6'4 and my mom is almost 5'11. So people would ask what happened to me. I'm 5'4. I did used to wish I was taller. Especially when my brother would hold something of mine over his head so I couldn't reach it. He also found it funny to pick me up so my feet didn't touch the floor. But he stopped doing that when I pointed out that him picking me up like that put my feet in good range of his balls. I would love to be my mom's height and have long legs. But that's not going to happen so I got over it.
At 6'3, I'm tall for a man. At 6'3 I'm a g** d*** amazon of a woman! It bothered me at first, but now I'm good with it, other than the difficulty in finding long sleeve shirts. :D :D :D
Yes it used to bother me alot but know I am ok with it as 5'7 and there are a lot of cis girls I work with the same size as me or taller so I learned to except my height
I am 5'6" and my wife is 5'9". It just never mattered to either of us, even before i transitioned to female.
No not really. What bothers me more is the inconvenience of not being able to reach stuff on a high shelf. And feeling insecure that I often have to look up at guys to talk to them. Lately I've been thinking if I'd look more attractive if I was taller; because with my stocky build it probably looks more unusual that i'm shorter than average. But I see a lot of cis guys around my height so doesn't really bother me. Not like there's anything I can do about it anyway
I'm 5'10, so around average for male, tall for female. I used to be self conscious I was the shortest "male" in my family(everyone else is 6'1''-6'4''), now I'm extraordinarily grateful I'm only 5'10''. Model height. ;D It also helps me mentally knowing that my 5'7'' sister wishes she was a few inches taller.
Being 6'5 and big sucks , being trans. Gertrude fits.
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Quote from: Daisy Jane on December 12, 2017, 09:11:55 AM
At 6'3, I'm tall for a man. At 6'3 I'm a g** d*** amazon of a woman! It bothered me at first, but now I'm good with it, other than the difficulty in finding long sleeve shirts. :D :D :D
At a little over 6'5", I after meeting cis women taller than me and having other women tell me they wish they had my height, I just rock it and now I'm loving it.
No not at all, I'm totally cool with my height.
I have to say that I have no reason to be in the first place though because I am not a short guy.
Quote from: Corax on December 12, 2017, 12:28:58 PM
No not at all, I'm totally cool with my height.
I have to say that I have no reason to be in the first place though because I am not a short guy.
Lucky you!
Wolf I think this one can go both ways for mtf's and ftm's. Some that start transition as mtf's are really tall 6' and above. I worried about my height until I started comparing cis-women's heights to my own. I am tall for a woman but, not out of the norm. So initially it did give me dysphoria, but now that I have accepted it as normal and average, it's gone away. I can see it causing an issue with both mtf/ftm cause if you are really short, well many guys are not short. Height shouldn't bother us though. People come in all shapes and sizes. I think magazines and other media play a part in this giving us dysphoria. We have this idealized picture of what the other gender looks like. So maybe we should try to break down those stereotypes in our heads.
I am 6'3" so insanely tall. It is actually one thing I loved about being a woman, I was unique. Now I am just another tall guy.
It does help me pass though even with having melons on my chest. People just assume that people my height can't be cis females.
Quote from: Sol on December 12, 2017, 02:26:16 PM
I am 6'3" so insanely tall. It is actually one thing I loved about being a woman, I was unique. Now I am just another tall guy.
It does help me pass though even with having melons on my chest. People just assume that people my height can't be cis females.
And that people my height can't be but that, ;D!
There are a couple of girls at work who have a few inches on my 5'11", it's fun to see them now, really. You think, no one would ever in a million years mistake her for a man, why is that, hmmm? One is thin as a rail and piles on the accessories, she's middle aged like me. Another is really imposing, the tallest, sharp dresser. 6'2" in flats, I'd guess. Another works in the warehouse and is quite girthy, moon shaped face, hair tied back, younger. Watching women like that is an object lesson.
My ultimate goal is to slim down a mile after a few years of HRT, when the primary boob growth is over. I'm already at the right weight for my BMI, but want to eat as little as necessary, but want to have some fat around to get it in the right places.
I am 5'8", average for a man. That makes me a tallish woman, without being so tall that I attract attention. My wife is always reminding me that being tall is good, because I can wear clothes that she couldn't get away with.
I am a bit self-conscious about wearing heels. I have some 2" heels that I have worn in public, but mostly I wear flats.
Im 5'7 and i think my tallest sister is 5'5 and my brother is 5'10. So im right in the middle where i should be!
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6'3ish at 15 when I stopped growing,though I've dropped to 6'1 & 1/2" at 60.Dad was 6'2", Mum 6'. It put me off transition for around 10 years.
Quote from: Daisy Jane on December 12, 2017, 09:11:55 AM
At 6'3, I'm tall for a man. At 6'3 I'm a g** d*** amazon of a woman! It bothered me at first, but now I'm good with it, other than the difficulty in finding long sleeve shirts. :D :D :D
Usually I'm ok with it (I'm 6'3"), but sometimes I get a bit dysphoric when shopping and can't seem to find a fit or if I see something I really love that doesn't even come in a XXL so no chance to even try it on.
Try Old Navy (on line only) for tall sizes. The long sleeves really are.
I've had more issues with pants or leggings being too short than with sleeves. I don't get too many long sleeve tops and I usually roll them up some anyway.
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I was just under 6' 4" when I started HRT but went down to a bit over 6' 1" after 5 years. I was surprised at the height loss but then found out it was fairly normal. Age also was a factor. I was also surprised to pass fairly well from almost the beginning. In the grocery store no one looks at me twice any longer. Sometimes it seems its as much about how you handle yourself as much as what you look like. I also dressed from the beginning to blend in as much as possible. . . .
I actually like being tall, i kind of dont want to shrink height,
The only advantage of getting older for M to F people is shrinking. I am down from 5'9" to 5'7 1/2" Still wears flats for not wanting to look taller.
Moni
I used to have large amounts of dysphoria about my height. I was a very confused kid I kept trying to be a man, but knew I wasn't internally. When I found out if only be 5'6" I cried for weeks. Once I finally accepted myself, I'm happy being this height.
Bari Jo
No, I like being tall.
It used to. When I started using the internet as a teenager I'd look up ways to try and make myself shorter - even looked up potential surgical methods of shaving off fractions of an inch. I had a lot of dysmorphia about my height back when I was convinced I had to play the part of female.
But only just recently have I become much more confident in my height... and when I think about transitioning, I'm actually pretty thrilled that I would get to be smack in the middle for a guy at 5'8". Would make me feel better about switching kink-wise. Once the masculine switch flipped, out of nowhere all the reservations I ever had about being tall 'for a girl' evaporated.
I'm about 5'9 and I've heard you can lose height via the hormones. I've really hoping to get in under 5'7. I was always try to be taller as a guy because I'm just not quite tall in the Male world so in transitioning I'm super comfortable losing any.
5 10 here. I'd love to be just a few inches shorter so I can wear heels
Quote from: SashaHyde on January 25, 2018, 12:10:43 AM
I'm about 5'9 and I've heard you can lose height via the hormones. I've really hoping to get in under 5'7. I was always try to be taller as a guy because I'm just not quite tall in the Male world so in transitioning I'm super comfortable losing any.
The exact same for me, every word.
6'4". Legs. For. Days. Im good with it. :3
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I'm 5'7" or at least I was when I was younger haven't measured my height in years at 51 maybe a little shorter now. I work in the Construction Industry for the last 33years , Almost always the shortest person around. So would get the short jokes all the time I would just smile and own it. My height never bothered me and now transitioning I'm glad that I was not taller.
I'm 5'7'' which is average in my country but small in comparison to other places. It does not bother me at all.
Does your height cause you dysphoria? In what ways?
- Not at all. I'm 5'6" so I'm on the shorter end of things for a man although not super short, but I just feel so comfortable at this height, not too tall, not too short. I like being a short guy. Not sure exactly why but maybe has something to do with not appearing intimidating, and people seem more likely to be sensitive/caring of shorter guys while more expecting more independence and strength from taller guys.
I don't feel inferior to cis men who are taller than me, I just simply see them as taller. I think I'm very aware of that athough my height is rare for men, it most certainly is possible and that being short isn't necessarily a female trait, unlike other traits. So it's been much easier for me to be okay with my traits that are possible occurances in cis men although rare, such as being short, having small hands/feet, a small head, lack of visible muscles, etc.
Sure I wish I had some of those but I think for the most part with those that's not really related to my gender dysphoria but rather just me being a bit vain and wanting to look good according to my own stardands. And that's something very many cis men struggle with as well. Like, for example a cis guy wanting bigger muscles isn't exactly gender dysphoria, and cause I see myself as a guy and have the testosterone for it, I can't see me wanting the same thing as dysphoria either.
When it comes to dating I tend to prefer guys that are around the same height as me but I don't really care if they're taller or shorter. So my own height is redundant when it comes to dating for me.
The only times I feel a little insecure about my height is when I'm with my whole family in public, cause I think it must look a bit weird that I'm shorter than both my mother and my little sister, and much much shorter than my father (I don't even reach up to his shoulders). Although I think it's more likely strangers would think I've had a hormone/growth deficiency while growing up rather than suspect that I'm trans, but still.
I don't have a very small frame either, but it's hard for me to say if I do or don't. From a female perspective it was kind of medium but from a male perspective that does appear rather small. I have wide shoulders and hips, but a small ribcage.
I probably should be... but I just can't be bothered.
My uncles are short dudes, my sister's husband is a short dude, my partner is a short dude... none of them really care. It's only kind of an issue for them if getting into a fight with someone who's huge, apparently. Which they tend not to ever do. Or are sweet on one of those people who say "short men are ugly".
I asked my partner the other day if he had any feelings on being short. He was surprised at the question. As if I'd asked him something he'd never even thought about. I've always wanted to be tall, but I think that's just my nature. Some people aren't as preoccupied as I am with physical defense. Maybe because people don't see them as threatening... but for some reason I often get people interpreting me as threatening when I'm not trying to be. Because of that and a bunch of other experiences, I expect people to be aggressive toward me and so I tend to have a stony approach to anyone I don't know or don't like. It's an unfortunate feedback cycle that hasn't made life easy. I can look at someone the wrong way and they'll just want a fight, even when I looked like a chick. It's that bad with some people.
I'm not bothered about my height because it's shorter than the average male height here, so I don't reckon I can call it dysphoria from a trans perspective. I want to be taller so people will just think twice about screwing with me, that's all.
I think that's why a lot of shorter dudes are more friendly and easy going. They don't want to get into fights with bigger dudes, so they avoid confrontations. I don't have that nature so at some point I expect someone will want to knock my head off.
I had a boss tell me I should sit down when I talk to people. That's a little nutty. Why not ask shorter folks to stand on a box? I never thought of myself as overly tall and not threatening, but contrary to therapy, some believe we are responsible for how others feel...
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A little, but thank God, not too much. The first woman I came out, who is one of my bestest girlfriends, is as tall as I am at 6'3"ish. I adore her and have always loved her, so being like Cara isn't a problem for me, it's a good thing.
Quote from: Gertrude on February 01, 2018, 09:11:42 PMsome believe we are responsible for how others feel...
Totally.
For years people have been telling me to alter myself or my behavior so other people are more comfortable with me, when I was the one who was actually the most intimidated. The stuff I was told as a kid was comical.
Look them in the eyes, it's polite. Don't look them in the eyes, it's threatening. Don't be so quiet. Don't be so animated. Don't be so insular. Smile. Be more confident. But don't speak like a teacher. Don't be so formal. You look too tense. You look too miserable. Don't don't don't.
At this point they can deal with it. I'm legitimately fed up of considering other people's comfort over and above the meager amount of it I have.
I'm cool with a box tho
Quote from: SashaHyde on January 25, 2018, 12:10:43 AM
I'm about 5'9 and I've heard you can lose height via the hormones.
I hope that doesn't happen to me, I'm 5'4.5", although I'm happy about my height, I'm not going to lie, sometimes i envy tall women with long legs. If I get any shorter I won t be able to wear those long boots without them looking like pirate boots.
Well to be fair Feminine of all shapes and sizes are sexy! I've dated tall ones and short ones. I'd love to experience small spoon though and if I were to get in under 5'7 that would be perfect height as men and women are shorter and taller. SO many options ;)
--Sasha
6ft and I guess I could say I am... it's probably the main reason I put any ideas of progressing on the back burner so to speak
Yes! I'm barely 5' and right now it's my biggest paranoia about transitioning ftm.
I'm 5'7" to 5'8", but a majority of my height is in my legs. Pre-transition, I remember how much I wanted to be taller. My dad is about the same height is me, my mom is 5'1", and my brother is 6'3". I have no clue where his height came from, and I was always jealous. Maybe from the mailman. ;D
Now I like my height. I don't need to shop in the petite or tall women's section for jeans, and I can wear heels and not feel like a giant.
Quote from: and5678 on February 05, 2018, 10:57:48 AM
I have no clue where his height came from, and I was always jealous. Maybe from the mailman. ;D
Karl Malone?
Quote from: Roll on February 05, 2018, 11:57:37 AM
Karl Malone?
;D
Well he does have darker hair than the rest of the family too. We're all pretty much platinum blonde to light blonde hair color.
But his face looks like family, there's no question that we look like siblings.
I actually like my height; if I stand straight I'm around 5' 2''. In school I wanted to be taller to fit in the guys, but I like being short. There are so many advantages for my height disadvantage. I can hide in cupboards, during road trips i don't take a lot of space. Also during a survival situation I don't need to eat a lot. Lol. Though, it does suck being lost in a crowd...
I'm 5'7 - 5'8 and ok with my height. My parents are 5'2 and 5'3 my sisters are about an inch shorter or less but little sister thinks she is the tallest.
Anna
6'6"
So yes haha. It's probably the feature I'm most dysphoric about and the feature that made me feel I could never be "passable."
Practically speaking, it severely limits my clothing options.
Quote from: VaxSpyder on February 08, 2018, 02:36:51 AM
6'6"
So yes haha. It's probably the feature I'm most dysphoric about and the feature that made me feel I could never be "passable."
Practically speaking, it severely limits my clothing options.
Try eShakti and sumissura
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Probably the thing I am most dysphoric about. Also the thing people feel the most comfortable talking about. I always wanted to be 6'4, even when I thought I was a girl. Flipping 5'2 is what I got. I don't think I will ever be ok with the way cis males pick on short guys, it just...
I'm 6 ft tall, but I've probably lost a good millimeter since I've been on HRT; I would like to be 5'9, but I'm 6 ft, and loving it 😊
Thank you Gertrude!
Quote from: PurpleWolf on December 12, 2017, 08:46:07 AM
A simple question for you guys: Does your height cause you dysphoria? In what ways?
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Yes. I've accepted it (well, can't do much about it now can I?) - but it does bother me. I'm short for a woman!!! It especially bothers me when my SO is wearing high heels! And it annoys the heck out of me when I stand near tall men. It really does make me feel minuscule at those moments. But then I think to myself: there are short Asian guys for example... I always wanted to be tall, even as a child. I used to be - at first - but then all the other girls & boys grew taller......
It helps though that every day I pass by men who are around my height, or not that tall. And I've encountered men shorter than me, so...! But yes, it does annoy me. It's also annoying to be among relatives - can't keep thinking had I been born cis, I'd be their height.
At least I don't have extremely small frame...
You don't have to do much people watching to observe that there are very short women, very tall women and women of all shapes and sizes. I have been seeing a lot of very tall and beautiful (I assume cis) women that are well over 6 feet tall and I am good friends with women that are less than 5 feet tall. All of this doesn't make them less attractive or more attractive in any way. The statistics are that short women have a wider range of men that think positive about having a shorter girlfriend. In some way I have empathy for the very tall women because some men are so insecure that they do not want a woman to be taller than them. Like and love the person for who they are, not for how tall or what the shape looks like. I know, easier said that done.
At 6'7 the main problem I have is finding clothes that will work for me. I've learned a few tricks though, like wear light colours on the lower half and dark tops - this is supposed to draw the eye down. Of course I'd love to wear skirts and show off my long legs, but my legs suck atm, so I've got some work to do there.
The only other problem that readily comes to mind is that I don't fit in sexy sports cars.
M
Quote from: kitchentablepotpourri on February 08, 2018, 11:40:59 AMI'm 6 ft, and loving it
Ditto! 8) Always admired/aspired to taller, slender women! Was in best shape @ 160lbs when actually working for a living (& exercising) . . . lol swore I'd never seriously date an "elfish" person again!
Yes, at 5'10, I am, dysphoric about my height, last time I measured my height several years go(i.e.but keeps predators at bay). Taller height means your foot size is bigger. My best military friend, used to joke with me, how I used to have Frodo feet(no body hair on me, except privates and scalp, I always thought my feet were fine) and he was 5'7"/5'8", he was a fireplug/bodybuilder build, I used to joke I was more like a gazelle build, he used to laugh/still does at me and I laugh along. Smaller size means you have a smaller shoulder girth, head size(usually) smaller feet(on average), and small pelvic girth. I wish I was 5'8", meaning I could wear women's shoes size 9/10, yayyy, not agonizing into size 10/10 1/2, but good at size 11, uggh :(.
So yes...
Quote from: SonadoraXVX on February 11, 2018, 07:30:48 AM
Yes, at 5'10, I am, dysphoric about my height, last time I measured my height several years go(i.e.but keeps predators at bay). Taller height means your foot size is bigger. My best military friend, used to joke with me, how I used to have Frodo feet(no body hair on me, except privates and scalp, I always thought my feet were fine) and he was 5'7"/5'8", he was a fireplug/bodybuilder build, I used to joke I was more like a gazelle build, he used to laugh/still does at me and I laugh along. Smaller size means you have a smaller shoulder girth, head size(usually) smaller feet(on average), and small pelvic girth. I wish I was 5'8", meaning I could wear women's shoes size 9/10, yayyy, not agonizing into size 10/10 1/2, but good at size 11, uggh :(.
So yes...
5" 10" is not tall for a woman anymore. Look around there are lots beautiful and very tall cis women, many at 6' or taller. Much taller than that then they would have to hang around the basketball courts to find a fella that might be interested! LOL
At least with a shoe size of 10 to 11 you can still find women's shoes in the stores. For larger sizes it is almost always mail order, trial and error.
The best and strappiest/cutest/sexiest shoes, are always size 10 and under. Why I know that, I have shopped far and wide for shoes and the vast majority of designer labels, are up to size 10, and even then size 10's can be smaller then other size 10. For example, Marc Jacobs is notorious for sizing their shoes, smaller than the size labeled. Two or three shoe makers are like that too. Pretty sure that goes for clothes sizes, but everybody knows that every designer label clothes are size differently then what it says.
Dysphoria trigger...
As an intersex woman who was AMAB-ish, it used to really, really bother me when I tried to be boy. Not just that, but my whole body--tiny everything (except butt, hips and chest)--made me feel like a spotlight was on me at all times.
Now, it is great and I'm not self-conscious in the slightest. I am 5'5.5 and I tell people I'm 5'4 lol since I can usually get away with it with my tiny frame that makes me look even smaller. But I hurt my leg and the nurse was like you are totally not 5'4, more like 5'6 missy. Apparently, the .5 does make a difference lol.
For FTMs (which I basically was in a way), it can be annoying but I did realize that I was my own worse critic. As long as your shoulders are wider than 13 inches--my shoulder width--you will be fine. Great even. I think frame size is acutally a bigger deal than anything else.
Since I can't do anything about my height at all, I don't let it bother me. I'm 6'2" tall and I wear 2" to 4" heels pretty much every day. Since I can't change it, I own it! I love being who I am even though it is tough to get clothes every now and then.
I've been quite dysphoric about my height lately. Today while walking around the mall, it seemed like everyone was shorter than me and I felt terrible about it. I didn't think I was that tall, but I guess I am. 5' 7" puts me in the 87th percentile of women in the USA. Only 13% of women are shorter than me...
https://tall.life/height-percentile-calculator-age-country/
YES! I hate it when people around me (who are somewhere around 6'4") complain about their height because apparently they are short for basketball players or something... I always get really dysphoric and hate my body when that happens...
Quote from: echo7 on February 19, 2018, 09:42:39 PM
I've been quite dysphoric about my height lately. Today while walking around the mall, it seemed like everyone was shorter than me and I felt terrible about it. I didn't think I was that tall, but I guess I am. 5' 7" puts me in the 87th percentile of women in the USA. Only 13% of women are shorter than me...
https://tall.life/height-percentile-calculator-age-country/
That's still well within normal range. At 6'3 I'm in the 99.997th percentile. Only 1 in over 31,000 women are taller than me. I can only remember crossing paths with two women that were taller than me ever.
I was 5 foot 8 1/2 (174cm) but was measured as part of a medical over the weekend at 5 foot 7 1/2 (172cm) and for some reason that really helped my height dysphoria. Now I know that I was shorter than many trans women anyway, and I know that being trans I have a tendency to over analyse and fixate on all aspects of what might be feminine, but for some reason the inch reduction actually really helped my height dysphoria. I have no idea why but 5 foot 7 1/2 sounds so much better to me than 5 foot 8 1/2.
I used to be more concerned about my height until I met a transwoman at an event once in London who was around 6 ft 6. But she owned it. No-one ever would have thought that she was trans even with her height. It made me realise that we all have a large number of traits which might be deemed more male, or more female, and so long as there are more of one than the other (and the conclusive gender pointers, such a beard, are not present) people will see you as that gender.
That's great that it helped your height dysphoria!
I would gladly switch heights with you!