Hi ho neighbors, Moni here! Screw the New Years resolutions since they are always forgotten anyway. I would like to see if you have a challenge going into the next year? It could be for yourself, a friend here on Susan's (much humor here perhaps), or you could challenge me (oh gosh, dumb Moni dumb)! I am having a flashback here...wait...it's coming...yes, I see it, a make...a makeover for a certain lovable moderator comes to mind from our deep dark pasts.
I have been thinking that I have tackled a number of things in my crazy journey but have left others to be dealt with in their own time. I have gotten very comfortable in many ways living female the last year and a half. I still have not learned eye make up or colored my hair or danced at an adult event, or changed my original ear studs. I think sometimes I need a push. So now that I made that confession and as I formulate my challenge for a lucky one of you, what ya got?
Moni (Now squinting for what may be yet to come. Do I dare hit 'post'?)
Oh crap, I did!!!
Yes you did!!! I wanna be challenged too
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My Challenge this year is two fold....lose 9 kilos' of weight so I can have my GRS in November...second challenge having GRS in November LOL
How about I put to you Mooooneee that you have a makeover (sorry Laurie I know you hate that word as much as "plan") yourself and get the eye makeup sorted out...how about we start there!!
In a year, not asking; Why did I even bother to try....? :'(
I challenge myself to get to my ideal weight of under 140 by the end of February. I also challenge myself to go full time by the end of the year. I challenge myself to knit a jughead riverdale hat, and continue to do one a month for cancer patients.
I challenge Nora Kayte to lose her beard before I do. I challenge others to also choose something they can do to benefit a charity.
Bari Jo
To be out.
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To move out of here, to Atlanta, and start really living the life I should have always been! Also work up the nerve to pick up some girl jeans in person at a store sooner than later. I want real jeans and don't trust ordering that kind of stuff online. :-X
Plus a laundry list of other things like weight loss.
Quote from: HappyMoni on December 30, 2017, 06:26:20 PM
or danced at an adult event
As opposed to... like, a high school prom? ;D
To be full time and happy.
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Quote from: ElizabethK on December 30, 2017, 06:34:16 PM
My Challenge this year is two fold....lose 9 kilos' of weight so I can have my GRS in November...second challenge having GRS in November LOL
How about I put to you Mooooneee that you have a makeover (sorry Laurie I know you hate that word as much as "plan") yourself and get the eye makeup sorted out...how about we start there!!
Liz, I challenge you to get out from under the evil influence of a certain nameless moderator (Laurie) and say my name right. lol I don't worry about your motivation on the weight loss.
Moanie Moni
Allison, I don't know you yet, but hope to. Give me some hints.
Joanne, I hope you do try. Sometimes it seems that we beat our heads against the wall for no reason but what else can we do. Giving in or giving up is no option.
The things we challenge ourselves to do are challenges because fear holds us back. I guess we have to think of what is realistic. Well, we can take a step can't we, a single step, maybe followed by another?
Roll, what I meant was not at a school event where I dance with my students who can be in wheel chairs. I am scared to dance at like a wedding. The thought that a guy might ask me to dance is terrifying. In the spirit of a small step, I am wearing leggings to work next week. It is small, but I think I am readying myself for something bigger. Still looking for ideas. Not sure I want to steal Laurie's dream of a make over. She is so territorial.
Moni
I challenge each and every one of you to help someone. It's a two for one deal, you'll be helping yourself, too. :)
Hugs, Devlyn
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on December 31, 2017, 10:39:03 AM
I challenge each and every one of you to help someone. It's a two for one deal, you'll be helping yourself, too. :)
Hugs, Devlyn
I love it.
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on December 31, 2017, 10:39:03 AM
I challenge each and every one of you to help someone. It's a two for one deal, you'll be helping yourself, too. :)
Hugs, Devlyn quote]
This too and I challenge myself not to feel ashamed of myself ever
bobbisue
Moni, you pushed me over the edge. And that's a good thing :)
You see, 30 years ago I studied ballet for about 3 years. Started it for sports reasons and ended up really enjoying it. Being the only hetero male in the Academy had its benefits.
Ballet helped me get to the professional level in my sport then I blew out a knee.
Anyways have often thought of going back to it.
This morning I searched my area and found a great place offering adult classes for all levels.
I will start up again in a few weeks.
Thanks for the push.
Devlyn, I belong to a international civic group and we do amazing things all around the world for people everyday.
This particular organization is actually just finishing forming a LGBT fellowship group as we speak.
If anyone wants info Pm me
Quote from: Angela49 on December 31, 2017, 01:09:53 PM
Moni, you pushed me over the edge. And that's a good thing :)
You see, 30 years ago I studied ballet for about 3 years. Started it for sports reasons and ended up really enjoying it. Being the only hetero male in the Academy had its benefits.
Ballet helped me get to the professional level in my sport then I blew out a knee.
Anyways have often thought of going back to it.
This morning I searched my area and found a great place offering adult classes for all levels.
I will start up again in a few weeks.
Thanks for the push.
Devlyn, I belong to a international civic group and we do amazing things all around the world for people everyday.
This particular organization is actually just finishing forming a LGBT fellowship group as we speak.
If anyone wants info Pm me
Angela,
Fantastic, that is so good to hear. I have thought a lot about dance as good exercise and also to allow my body to become more graceful, more feminine and relaxed. Good on you for taking such a positive step.
Bobbisue,
It is so easy to logically know we shouldn't feel shame. Emotionally, it can be harder to get there. Our society doesn't make it easy, but we can do it, right Hon? I'm pulling for you.
Moni
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on December 31, 2017, 10:39:03 AM
I challenge each and every one of you to help someone. It's a two for one deal, you'll be helping yourself, too. :)
Hugs, Devlyn
You are on!!!
I want to be a facilitator for our weekly meetings at Ingersoll. To be able to help the kids so they do not have to go through the things we did. Mostly work on their self esteem, education and ability to get a good paying job. Thanks for the challenge Monica.
I challenge all here to let go of the things within them that do not serve them well...
Fears, negative opinions about what their future holds, self image that causes distress may be amongst these things ... Let the weight of these uneeded things drop away... Gather up hope instead... Keep it in your heart so it will always be there when you need to give some to others...
Onward we go...
Ashley 💗😀🌸
I challenge everyone to drink 1 glass of water a day. Good health is the goal!
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Moni, easy peasy
Orgasm.
Sell lots of my glass ben wa balls, give away some also.
That latter works well with this:
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on December 31, 2017, 10:39:03 AM
I challenge each and every one of you to help someone. It's a two for one deal, you'll be helping yourself, too. :)
Hugs, Devlyn
I sold quite a few
ben wa balls (cleverly disguised artistic marble pairs) at an annual holiday sale and just got the ok to bring some for sale to an annual sex themed party.
Helping as many women as possible to reach orgasm in 2018 feels good.
I'll challenge myself to find a way to have a more social life without having those I love try to stop me. No, I don't plan to cheat on the hubby. My own mother wants me around her constantly, since she is aging fast. This makes it difficult to be around friends and acquaintances.
Ahh Lady Sarah you remind me I'd just been talking with my new lesbian friend about just that so adding to the list:
Be more social, spending more time with women, lesbian and otherwise :-) this isn't exactly a chip shot for me being out on the asd spectrum.
Orgasm.
Sell lots of my glass ben wa balls, give away some also.
Helping as many women as possible to reach orgasm in 2018 feels good.
To lose 30 LB ( put 7on over holls,woops) . Not to lose my "temper" (or get ratty) over simple things , hope the HRT will help with this. Finish my VW panel van so I can "road trip" and to be more DAVINA
Lose 30 pounds and eat kito.
Sadie, how much for your balls, LOL. Seriously, I would like to buy a set of ben wa balls. I have seen your glass bowl and it is beautiful.
I too need to master eye makeup. I need to add eyeliner; I have mascara and eye shadow down. I need to try adding to my brows too.
April is when I will have my hair cut and colored. The hair dresser I know wants me to let my hair from my second grafts to grow for 3 months prior to color.
Monica, how about I challenge you to get your hair colored by April 30, 2018.
I really like the mix of challenges to help others and personal improvement challenges. I have a friend who is coming out and I really want to be there for her and her partner. I hate that so many of us still must hide how we feel. After my own experience, it really hurts to see someone bottling up their true self. If I can help anyone with this, I would love it. I would also like to do something to help a significant other. I have challenged myself to help my students at work to be more functional by being more creative in my approach. I want to refocus my efforts.
As far as transition related things, I want to lessen the limitations I put on myself. In a sense, in order to transition, I allowed myself a safe zone so as not to get overwhelmed by everything. I think it served me well, but as my confidence grows, I need to spread my wings a bit more. It's funny how I almost have to break down the male model walls that I built up over 60 years. I sometimes go, "Oh yeah, I can do that now." Maybe some of you relate to this. I would love to color my hair like a chestnut brown but don't know how it might effect getting transplants. Also if I am a bit thin up top, does the darker hair highlight the thin areas? Need more answers but love your idea Rachel. I have no excuse but fear for not going to Ultra (?) and learning makeup. I have fought against my shyness all my life, but it still creeps in as my default. Well, I come on here and preach kicking fear in the teeth. "Do it even though you are afraid." So, I guess I need to step up my game.
As the OP I appreciate every one of your posts. I won't mention everyone's, but I am hopeful that we all strive to make things better. Spread the love and, yes orgasm, Sadie! lol
Moni
Oh boy my partner just added, wear a necklace. Yikes!
Okay I'm back. I figured out who I want to challenge from this site. This is not meant to embarrass her by any means. As soon as I finished my post, I read a thread by Julia. It is the one about resolutions for all trans people. I love the post, every word I agree with and it is really a rallying cry for standing up for our dignity as trans people. Julia, you are such an intelligent, caring person and I have a lot of respect for you. I have seen your posts on how you feel about being trans. I guess I see how much you have stated your hatred for being trans and wonder what that means for you being happy. I guess I would challenge you to think about what you wished for other trans people in your post and apply some of it to yourself. Maybe think about coming closer to being at peace with being trans. I am not immune to hating being trans, I have my days. If I did that every day, I don't know how much happiness I could find being me.
Moni
If I am out of line, I'm sorry. It was not meant to be mean or critical.
Quote from: Allison S on December 31, 2017, 07:30:13 PM
I challenge everyone to drink 1 glass of water a day.
OK, I'm all over that one. Thanks, spiro. :-\
Quote from: HappyMoni on January 01, 2018, 09:40:26 AM
Oh boy my partner just added, wear a necklace. Yikes!
Quote from: HappyMoni on December 30, 2017, 06:26:20 PMor changed my original ear studs.
Yes and yes, Moni. You have to wear dangly earrings and necklaces! Wearing jewelry is one of the joys of being a woman. Simple, classy, or gaudy, they are all good!
I challenge myself (and I invite anyone else to join me) to be less of a wallflower and more outgoing in real life.
Can anyone second this challenge? Rachel, I challenge you to show us a more revealing avatar this year. I am probably one of the few who knows what you look like, well, at least the six month ago version of you. What ya think?
Kathy, I don't know why, but I have never liked jewelry, especially those dangley earrings. It was a battle for me to pierce my ears. Don't know why, call me weird.
Might have to learn how to face my dancing fears. My son just showed me the engagement ring he just bought. Yippee the family is about to get bigger.
Moni
Ok, I will post an avatar when I have my hair done by April 30th or sooner ( I want it done very soon). It is just that I do not look good and feel pretty self conscious.
I had gone to the hair dresser that works where I work 3 days a week and he said to wait till April. I think he was leery about the transplants. You need to wait 4 to 6 weeks after transplants to color your hair. Transplanted hair falls out after 6 to 8 weeks than 12 to 16 weeks resting then small fine hairs grow and get thicker. So July 25 was the 2nd graph session and I expect hair sprouts December 25th to January 25th. I am still waiting. I want to do a 3rd graft session by June 30, 2018 because my deductible is paid and my cost will be nothing. Maybe a glottoplasty by June 30th and April 4 GCS V2 (can I squeeze a brow lift in April 4th??? please).
Rachel,
You are too hard on yourself. I thought you were cute when I saw you in June.
Moni
I absolutely don't want anyone to accept this challenge unless they are comfortable.
Pay a random person's grocery bill.
You are in the queue at the checkout, someone is hassled and lonely. Reach over and use your credit card, or say, it's OK put that bill on my account.
When the look upset and startled you say. It's OK, I've just won some money and I want to share it. You have a lovely day.
Might as well keep this thread going as we start doing our challenges. I bought yarn to make the jughead hats. Two for me, two for cancer patients. I have no idea how to knit though, so this will be new. I joined a local knitting meet-up group to help me learn. I'm on my way for this challenge!
Bari Jo
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I challenge myself to keep this trans bus moving forward and not let fear or uncertainty slow me down again.