Ah! So Tuesday I plan on coming out via social media, so today I'm telling my parents. My dad can be quick to anger at times and overreact, so I figured that an email would be the best way to tell him. here is what I wrote:
"Hey dad. First off, I'd like to say sorry for not telling you all this in person, but you always told me to "think before you speak", so this will help me gather my thoughts and hopefully you can gather yours with your response.
You've done a lot for me over the years, you've always been very supportive of me and have gone out of your way for me to make me happy and enjoy my childhood, and for that I will always be thankful, I love you and I appreciate everything you've done for me. Yet still, there was always something I wasn't happy about, and it led me to depression, which is why I over ate so much and drank every night. I never took care of my body because I didn't enjoy being a male. For a very long time I have secretly wanted to be female.
This is something that I remember feeling as far back as age 6, but I knew it was something I could never talk to anyone about. I have a journal from 4th grade where I wrote about it and then once puberty hit, all of those feelings became amplified. I tried to repress it and live as normal as a life as I could have, but the truth is that I never really fit in.
About a month into my sobriety last year I was having a bad week, and then one day I had an epiphany. I noticed that I was thinking clearer than ever, and if I'm still having this discomfort with my gender when I am mentally on top of things, then it's never going away and I had to do something about it. I came out to a couple friends, and they were really supportive, and that alone was a huge weight off my shoulders. A month later I started seeing a therapist and she saw just after a few sessions that transitioning is what I needed to do. She wrote a letter on my behalf to a doctor's office that specializes in Hormone Replacement Therapy. She told me that she will talk to you at no charge to help you cope and get a better understanding of what I'm going through, and my doctor also said that he would talk to you if you'd like. I started taking medication on my birthday that blocks testosterone and then another medication that gives me estrogen. I've been preparing for this for a while, and I think I'm ready. As of this coming Tuesday I am going to start presenting as a female in public.
There's a couple things that I need to stress. One is that this has nothing to do with your parenting or how I was raised, this is something that I was born with. Another thing is that this is what I needed to turn my life around and be happy. This was the motivation to stay sober and get healthy and finally take care of my body. If not for this then I probably would have started drinking again after the gout went away, and I'm sure that all that drinking would have led me to an early death, and I would have been miserable until I got there. I would also still probably weigh 300lbs. I'm happier than ever and I hope that is important to you, I'm trying really hard to be the best me I can be. I really do feel like this has saved my life.
I'm sure you have some questions so I'll do my best to answer some things before you ask them. This has nothing to do with sexuality. I am still attracted to women but this is the reason I never tried to date, I was just very uncomfortable with myself so I didn't put myself out there. Another thing is that I probably won't ever get the big surgery. Some trans women can't live with having male genitals, and while I'm not the biggest fan of them I can deal with it, the hormones have done enough to make me happy and ease my dysphoria. As for work, that's one place where I do plan on presenting as a male for a while, so I won't be living as a women 100% full time just yet. My work with AJG ended on Friday and I need a little time off to settle into things, but next week I am going to start applying to places for a new job. I plan on telling mom later tonight, but I told Jennie pretty recently and she was supportive. She really is a great big sister. Oh yeah, and my female name is going to be Madeline, or "Maddie" for short.
I know this is going to upset you, and I really am sorry about that, but this is something that I NEED to do. I know it's going to take time to get used to things but I do hope that you will accept me and we can still be part of each other's lives. I'm still your child and I still love you, this doesn't change the past and what we've been through, but I'm hoping that this will finally give me a future I can look forward to"
I was nervous. You know that weird smile that some dogs do when they misbehaved and know their owner is mad at them? I was doing something similar to that after I sent it. I sent him a text apologizing for being distant lately and I said that I was stressed and that I sent him an email about what I've been going through lately. I knew he was concerned about all my doctor visits so I mentioned that the email explained that. He responded an hour later. I seriously thought he was going to scream and yell at me and that today might be the last time we ever talk. Well, thankfully I really underestimated him!! He accepts me!
This was his response:
"You have my support. Let me know when you want to discuss things further. I love you".
I was so overwhelmed with emotion, this made me so happy! I told him I would call him tomorrow night. A little while later I got a text from my step mom saying that my dad showed her the email and she supports me 100%
I've had a terrible week, and this has made it all better!!
I'll report back later when I tell my mom
MADDIE!! I am so happy for you! And wow, what an excellent letter you wrote.
Way to go Maddie! So happy Dad is on your team. Good luck with Mom. You are doing a great job standing up for you!
Maddie, your email just made my day! I'm sitting here with happy tears from reading this. I'm so happy for you!
Hugs,
Chelsea
Ditto on the happy tears, wonderful for you hun, great news! X
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Maddie, there are some more happy tears here. I am so happy for you that your Dad is supportive. What a relief that must be! Fingers crossed for your Mom!
Maddie,
Great! Fantastic! Marvelous! I am so happy for you. I hope things with Mom go as well.
Stevi
Great news Maddie! I loved your first paragraph for its honesty and for how it set the stage for future conversations.
Well done Maddie, thats great news, I'm happy for you, well done on being so brave! Big Hug!
Sonja.
Congratulations, I am so happy your Dad and Step Mom 100% support you.
Thank you so much everyone!!
My mom and sister just left, and overall I'd say that things went pretty well! My mom definitely looked pretty judgey when I was talking to her and I get the impression that she didn't suspect this at all but she did tell me that she loves me and that I'm still her baby and that she supports me and she gave me a hug, which is the most affectionate thing she's said and done to me in years. She said she's going to have a hard time calling me Maddie and I told her I know and that it's going to take time but she needs to try.
Overall it went pretty well. As she and my sister were leaving my mom said "so are you going to have to get all new clothes?" and then I said "uhhhh I kinda have them already" and then my sister said to my mom "yeah, didn't you notice any of yours missing?" :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: I yelled at her and told her that I never took any of my mom's clothes and she said she was just joking lol
So awesome!!! Glad that went well! :)
Maddie, mark this on your calendar. You will always remember today.
Congratulations!!
Wow! Congratulations! So happy for you!
You will always keep this day in your memory. I am so glad, they are understanding and loving!
My sisters first comment was something to the tune of "Now you decide you want to be a girl? I always wanted a big sister to share clothes!" (We did discover that we have the same pant size but we do live almost 5,000 miles apart now)
Quote from: Maddie86 on April 29, 2018, 08:11:55 PM
Thank you so much everyone!!
My mom and sister just left, and overall I'd say that things went pretty well! My mom definitely looked pretty judgey when I was talking to her and I get the impression that she didn't suspect this at all but she did tell me that she loves me and that I'm still her baby and that she supports me and she gave me a hug, which is the most affectionate thing she's said and done to me in years. She said she's going to have a hard time calling me Maddie and I told her I know and that it's going to take time but she needs to try.
Overall it went pretty well. As she and my sister were leaving my mom said "so are you going to have to get all new clothes?" and then I said "uhhhh I kinda have them already" and then my sister said to my mom "yeah, didn't you notice any of yours missing?" :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: I yelled at her and told her that I never took any of my mom's clothes and she said she was just joking lol
Thanks everyone! I added yesterday to the list of milestones in my signature :)
<3
Hi Maddie, I hope you don't mind me replying. I am totally new to the forum and currently in a questioning phase of FtM, but I was reading posts and your one that linked to this thread and when I read this post about how things have gone, it made me a little teary and put a huge smile on my face.
I'm so pleased for you that it's gone well.
I hope this can be a good grounding and support for you feeling more comfortable and confident as you embark upon the next steps in your path with your new home and beginning to live as the woman you are. Just really happy for you here :)
Okay okay Maddie so I'm a day late to the party but I did say things would get better didn't I? Did you doubt me?
I am so happy for you Hun. You cannot ask for a better reception to your news. Both Mom and Dad!! and others too. That is just wonderful! Congratulations on this very scary undertaking. I am overjoyed it went well for you.
Reading your letter to your Dad did bring some tears to my eyes. Darn that makes 4 times in two days. sigh And here I thought I had a handle on that again. Well done, Hun.
Hugs,
Laurie
I'm a bit late too! This is wonderful news! You can't ask for better support from a parent!
Damn Maddie, your making me cry. That is so beautiful that he accepted you. I wish my dad was still here to see the changes in me but this all started for me at his funeral. Strange but that's the way it happened. My mom was absolutely accepting of number one son becoming big sister to all my siblings.
I'm so glad you are happy and supported
awwww, thanks everyone!!!
I'm coming out on Facebook and Instagram later today!
Seriously though, thanks so so much to everyone on here for the support, this is such a wonderful community!
Maddie, thank you so much for sharing your coming-out experience. I know the time leading up to this can be very stressful - in my case, something I debated internally for quite awhile.
Others sharing their experience is what gave me the courage to come out to my parents last summer.
Go Maddie! Everything seems to be going great for you. Congratulations and smiles all around!
Stephanie
Very happy for you and very proud of you. Sounds like you knocked it out of the park! Look at the love coming your way from Susan's. You are awesome!
Moni
Quote from: Maddie86 on May 01, 2018, 04:42:51 AM
awwww, thanks everyone!!!
I'm coming out on Facebook and Instagram later today!
Seriously though, thanks so so much to everyone on here for the support, this is such a wonderful community!
That letter to your dad was awesome and took a lot of courage, so glad it's turned out well [emoji4].
Please let us know how the social media thing goes, sending best wishes.
Sophie
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Thanks everyone!!!
So I came out on Facebook and Instagram yesterday and it went great! Not one mean comment and so many people have given me their love and support, it's a bit overwhelming! My post on Instagram got 59 likes so far, which is actually the most I've ever gotten on a post! and Facebook, omg, over 200 likes!!! 209 so far and so far I got 203 friends on my new page! I've gotten a few messages and this one group of girls I know even added me to their secret facebook page!
If anyone wants to add me on my new page here's the link https://www.facebook.com/maddie.novak.501
Thanks so much for the support, the community really means a lot to me!
So my mom seems to be taking this a little harder than I thought. She usually doesn't seem to care about anything and usually she's a huge gossip, but so far she hasn't told anyone about my transition yet, and I was counting on her to tell my uncle and my younger sister. Last night my older sister and I took my mom out for an early mother's day dinner and she kept dead naming me all night and then she went to the bathroom and my sister made a comment about it to me, i told her it was going to take time. I signed her mother's day card as Maddie and she said it's going to be hard for her to call me that. Then she was going on about how I was always into boy stuff as a kid and how I wanted a truck cake for my 3rd birthday and she seemed to be getting all sentimental, which isn't like her at all. A few days before I came out to her I actually left her house and started crying in my car because I felt like she didn't love me, but last night she had me hug her and she told me she loves me. This whole thing has been kind of weird
My dad is taking things a million times better than I thought he would, he seems to be calling more often to check up on me and he still kinda stumbles with the name but at least it seems like he's trying
Some of my family members know now but not all of them. I have one uncle who got divorced a few years back and I got texts from both his new wife and he ex and they were both really really sweet, they made me feel great.
So overall things have been going pretty well since I came out :) tonight I'm going out with a few girlfriends to celebrate, yay!
Quote from: Maddie86 on May 10, 2018, 07:11:00 AM
So my mom seems to be taking this a little harder than I thought. She usually doesn't seem to care about anything and usually she's a huge gossip, but so far she hasn't told anyone about my transition yet, and I was counting on her to tell my uncle and my younger sister. Last night my older sister and I took my mom out for an early mother's day dinner and she kept dead naming me all night and then she went to the bathroom and my sister made a comment about it to me, i told her it was going to take time. I signed her mother's day card as Maddie and she said it's going to be hard for her to call me that. Then she was going on about how I was always into boy stuff as a kid and how I wanted a truck cake for my 3rd birthday and she seemed to be getting all sentimental, which isn't like her at all. A few days before I came out to her I actually left her house and started crying in my car because I felt like she didn't love me, but last night she had me hug her and she told me she loves me. This whole thing has been kind of weird
My dad is taking things a million times better than I thought he would, he seems to be calling more often to check up on me and he still kinda stumbles with the name but at least it seems like he's trying
Some of my family members know now but not all of them. I have one uncle who got divorced a few years back and I got texts from both his new wife and he ex and they were both really really sweet, they made me feel great.
So overall things have been going pretty well since I came out :) tonight I'm going out with a few girlfriends to celebrate, yay!
Dear Maddie: Thanks for your update. All in all, that is a pretty good-news posting... your mother willl hopefully come around but you have to know that all of this is very hard for a parent I would think. It is very good news that your dad seems to have his head wrapped around the fact that you are now "Maddie" .... you can't really blame him for stumbling on your name... not this soon after your coming out.
Rest assured, as you know from reading the various postings by others here that you are not alone with what you are dealing with in your transition journey.
I have mentioned my own family problems in my thread and other replies that I have posted in various threads here on the Forums. Over 3 years ago since I came out to my family and started HRT... and even a year before I started HRT...
my parents have all but disowned me. In almost 4 years I think that I have exchanged only a few very short but tense conversations with my dad and he has never called me by any name, old or new since then. My mom was the same way until at this Christmas time I called her on the phone... it was a brief and stressful conversation for her but when we were about to end the call, she said "Goodbye Danielle, I love you" Wow-whee, that is a first in 4 years, calling me by my
new name and telling me that she loved me.
Family issues and my old male job issues were the catalyst for me to finally come out full-time 19 months ago, then immediately quit my mid-level executive and good paying job and relocating over 1000 miles away to my current small town, as a woman, and starting my own business.
There is an old but true saying....
"If life doesn't deal you enough problems, you can always count on our own family"I am so happy for you that your transition is progressing well and you also have your new place now... much easier and much better way to be your "new you".
Please keep your updates coming... and I love seeing your pictures when you post them.
Hugs, and well wishes,
Danielle
Quote from: Alaskan Danielle on May 10, 2018, 09:10:14 AM
Dear Maddie: Thanks for your update. All in all, that is a pretty good-news posting... your mother willl hopefully come around but you have to know that all of this is very hard for a parent I would think. It is very good news that your dad seems to have his head wrapped around the fact that you are now "Maddie" .... you can't really blame him for stumbling on your name... not this soon after your coming out.
Rest assured, as you know from reading the various postings by others here that you are not alone with what you are dealing with in your transition journey.
I have mentioned my own family problems in my thread and other replies that I have posted in various threads here on the Forums. Over 3 years ago since I came out to my family and started HRT... and even a year before I started HRT... my parents have all but disowned me. In almost 4 years I think that I have exchanged only a few very short but tense conversations with my dad and he has never called me by any name, old or new since then. My mom was the same way until at this Christmas time I called her on the phone... it was a brief and stressful conversation for her but when we were about to end the call, she said "Goodbye Danielle, I love you" Wow-whee, that is a first in 4 years, calling me by my new name and telling me that she loved me.
Family issues and my old male job issues were the catalyst for me to finally come out full-time 19 months ago, then immediately quit my mid-level executive and good paying job and relocating over 1000 miles away to my current small town, as a woman, and starting my own business.
There is an old but true saying....
"If life doesn't deal you enough problems, you can always count on our own family"
I am so happy for you that your transition is progressing well and you also have your new place now... much easier and much better way to be your "new you".
Please keep your updates coming... and I love seeing your pictures when you post them.
Hugs, and well wishes,
Danielle
yes, I remember reading about your family issues in the other thread and it made me feel so bad for you, you're really one of the sweetest people I've seen on here, you deserve to be happy, you're a great person! sending hugs from afar :)
Hey Maddie,
I think you might be right, that your mom is a person who takes a bit more time to adjust. It's really great and touching to hear that she hugged you and told you she loves you. That sounds like a really positive foundation.
I can't speak with any experience or authority, I've not had any kids, but I recall on a few documentaries that I've watched about transpeople, that sometimes a parent can go through a period of almost bereavement, of grief or a sense of loss. Your mom getting sentimental about your childhood make me think of that. Not as a type of rejection, but that they struggle a bit and feel sad at no longer having the "son/daughter" that they thought they had all those years. The title rather than the person, I guess. Letting go of the overall general concept they had of their child. I guess it must be a big mental adjustment for some people to get their heads around, but the ones that I saw on the docus generally had a great love for their child and ultimately were more concerned that their child was happy and well.
Hopefully in time your mom will see that you are much happier and better off living as your true self.
I think maybe sometimes name changes can be tricky, even cis-gender name changes. I changed my name (in my case to something more gender-neutral) and I've known a couple of cis-people who changed their names and...yeah.. it varies. Sometimes parents can find it tricky, one of the first things they ever did was choose a name for this little bundle of wonder that they created, so self-naming as an adult can throw up confused feelings sometimes.
Just my random thinking out loud there, may or may not have any basis.
It's great to hear about your journey in this part of your life :) Hope you have a good night out with the gals!!
<3! Sorry that your mom is struggling, but it sounds like she definitely just needs to process it a bit longer. I saw someone mention before it's like the stages of grief, almost as if a child died.
Thanks everyone. I guess I never really thought about it like that before, but yeah, in a way my parents' son is gone forever. I told them that it doesn't change my past, this is just giving me a better future, hopefully in time they can see that. it's weird with my mom though, I really never felt that she cared about me, which I've been discussing with my sister too. Maybe I'm just in shock that my mom is showing any kind of sign of emotion haha.
Maybe she feels she knows you better and is grieving time lost with her daughter? I mean I'm speculating at this point but lately I try to think of more positive scenarios... I'm probably a bit delusional at times, I'll admit.
It's great hearing all your updates Maddie! Really inspiring to me [emoji4]
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Hey Maddie!
Congratulations, having one's family support our journey makes everything so much easier. You also came out on Facebook and Instagram, if you don't mind can you share your coming out post? I'm gathering ideas for when it's my time to do it (which will be in a few weeks).
Quote from: Allison S on May 13, 2018, 08:58:02 PM
Maybe she feels she knows you better and is grieving time lost with her daughter? I mean I'm speculating at this point but lately I try to think of more positive scenarios... I'm probably a bit delusional at times, I'll admit.
It's great hearing all your updates Maddie! Really inspiring to me [emoji4]
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Aw, I like your positive spin on it but I don't think it's the case, so far she hasn't been making a big attempt to see me too often, I think she needs time to adjust. She and I were never really close, which is why it seems odd to me that she feels so weird about this, maybe she feels bad that she didn't notice? I saw my friend's parents last week and they apologized for not noticing anything lol
And I'm glad you like my updates! I know I have them scattered all over the place but I think soon I'm going to start an official Maddie thread so I can keep everything in one place, but idk yet if I wanna post it in the transgender talk section or the MTF transsexual section
Quote from: Charlie Nicki on May 14, 2018, 11:18:09 AM
Hey Maddie!
Congratulations, having one's family support our journey makes everything so much easier. You also came out on Facebook and Instagram, if you don't mind can you share your coming out post? I'm gathering ideas for when it's my time to do it (which will be in a few weeks).
Thanks! Here's my post, it got over 225 likes, I forget the official count because it was posted from my old male account and I've taken that page down already (a friend posted pics with me as maddie and it fb auto tagged me with my old profile, I took it down as soon as that happened). It's the most likes I've ever gotten on any of my posts! I had a feeling it would go well but I didn't think I would have as many responses as I got! People must be talking because I got some requests from people that I've known for a while but was never friends with on my old page, so someone must have told them about my new one. I even just got a request this morning from someone I went to school with. ew. no.
anyways! I wrote like 3 different coming out posts but I chose this one because it was the most direct one. I had one where I was poetic and used a lot of metaphors, I enjoy being creative lol, but I think a post like this should be to the point, which is why I opened with it in the first sentence. Here's screen shots of it:
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I love that you didn't beat around the bush and just came out with it. I feel like it comes across more self-assured.
I'm happy for you Maddie.
I think your mom just needs some time to process and to grieve. It was a surprise to her, but she'll be back to normal.
Tony
Quote from: Maddie86 on May 14, 2018, 01:07:17 PM
Thanks! Here's my post, it got over 225 likes, I forget the official count because it was posted from my old male account and I've taken that page down already (a friend posted pics with me as maddie and it fb auto tagged me with my old profile, I took it down as soon as that happened). It's the most likes I've ever gotten on any of my posts! I had a feeling it would go well but I didn't think I would have as many responses as I got! People must be talking because I got some requests from people that I've known for a while but was never friends with on my old page, so someone must have told them about my new one. I even just got a request this morning from someone I went to school with. ew. no.
anyways! I wrote like 3 different coming out posts but I chose this one because it was the most direct one. I had one where I was poetic and used a lot of metaphors, I enjoy being creative lol, but I think a post like this should be to the point, which is why I opened with it in the first sentence. Here's screen shots of it:
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Great post! Thanks for sharing.
Quote from: Daisy Jane on May 14, 2018, 06:26:20 PM
I love that you didn't beat around the bush and just came out with it. I feel like it comes across more self-assured.
yeah, I agree, I feel like more people were going to read it if I just came right out with it in the first sentence lol
Quote from: MeTony on May 15, 2018, 12:03:53 AM
I'm happy for you Maddie.
I think your mom just needs some time to process and to grieve. It was a surprise to her, but she'll be back to normal.
Tony
thanks! Yeah, I think she will be fine, time heals all wounds
Quote from: Charlie Nicki on May 15, 2018, 08:55:31 AM
Great post! Thanks for sharing.
no prob!