This is something I struggle with greatly. Aside from having male genitalia (fixable,) the main things I dislike about my body are my height and weight. I am 6' tall and about 240 pounds. It's mostly genetic as my father was tall and my mother was always a plus sized heavier set kind of woman.
I do have lots of beautiful features that I would keep if I could just be something more like 5'8 and 120 pounds. Keep dreaming, right?
It's very toxic and just plain bad for my health to be comparing myself to these supermodels who's bodies I wish I posessed, but the reality is, probably not in this lifetime.
I do realize that I should probably just worry about my character and who I am as a person, but does anyone else here have these same kind of body insecurities and just physical things they don't like/wish they could change?
Ever since I was a kid, I wanted to be 5'10"/177cm. Unfortunately, I stopped growing at 5'7&1/3"/171cm. It seems like I inherited my Mom's short genes (she's 5'3"/160cm.) All of my other siblings are taller than me.
That's the one thing I would change that I know I can't. I can have a penis made (which I may do at a later date), but my height can't be changed.
Ryuichi
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Quote from: CosmicJoke on June 02, 2018, 12:16:34 PM
This is something I struggle with greatly. Aside from having male genitalia (fixable,) the main things I dislike about my body are my height and weight. I am 6' tall and about 240 pounds. It's mostly genetic as my father was tall and my mother was always a plus sized heavier set kind of woman.
I do have lots of beautiful features that I would keep if I could just be something more like 5'8 and 120 pounds. Keep dreaming, right?
It's very toxic and just plain bad for my health to be comparing myself to these supermodels who's bodies I wish I posessed, but the reality is, probably not in this lifetime.
I do realize that I should probably just worry about my character and who I am as a person, but does anyone else here have these same kind of body insecurities and just physical things they don't like/wish they could change?
The thing that always burned me up about models and fashion shows is what they normally show is one off. Models are selected to be tall because a tall woman will appear more attractive on the runaway. This means clothing is normally cut taller that what they sell in the store just to fit the model. In addition, they do alterations in order to properly mold the clothing to fit the model. I don't really mind being 6'2" that much but what bugs me is I can't find any of that stuff in the store in my size. >:( Be careful about wanting to be a model because you may already be one.
As for weight, maybe you will never be 120 pounds, but you might reach 150 or 160 which could still give you a very attractive figure. I am currently just under 170 and at my height, my figure has been envied by women even though I don't have a rear end and only wear a B cup.
Much of it is just how you look at it. For many CIS women, being tall is something they desire because they are aware that many models are taller than they are.
I'm 6'2 and fluctuate from 165 to 185 pounds. Right now I'm 181. I am 6'2" tall, and would've liked to stop growing around 5'7 or so. There are a lot of 'inconsistencies' about my body.. One can look at it as being born both genders.. (genderfluid). I see it as really born not enough of either. I'd have loved to have been completely female.. periods & all.. but I was 'given' what I have, so will make do the best I can with it.
On that 6'2 note I understand many models are tall. I wanted to 'blend in' but since I'm substantially incapable of it, I'll dress nice and make my tall girl look..look good :) I do get compliments alot because of my figure & height. I'll live with it.
How do I do that? I try to avoid scarring (stupid dextrous blunders mostly), exercise regularly, eat well. My body is the only temple I have, so its not gonna have cobwebs in the tummy :) I wish my hips were a bit bigger and waist smaller, ribs less...ribby. Teeth straight, white, not permanently stained like they are now. Not missing 3 that just broke because of thin bones fractures.
Screw it lets just say I wish I had the body of the goddess Aphrodite, goddess of love & beauty.. Barring that, I'll make do with what I'm given.
I wish I were taller and more "traditionally" handsome. I'm 5'8". It helps that my girlfriend is 5'3" and my brother and father are only 5'9" or so. My kid brother is 6'1" but he's a freak in our short family lol. I wish my hands and feet would change and grow with hormones but from what I've seen that isn't a thing.
Yes and no. Remove the ball(s) and chain and i would be happy as heck. I am 5'9 or so and quite chubby, but nothing a balanced diet and expercise can't fix. Either or the height for me is fine and I'm not too self conscious of my weight.
I would however love to have a female reproductive system tho
Yeah I don't like being under 6', although I am fairly well built in the shoulders naturally, there's just something I do not like about being shorter than other people. I'd be happy to be almost freakishly tall. It's not even related to the trans thing. I always liked being taller than other kids too and hoped I would outgrow them all in school.
But since there's not much I can do without having my legs broken, no point worrying about it. I don't compare myself to other people much, doesn't help. Just concentrate on fixing what I can, and feeling satisfied when something is sorted. It doesn't bother me standing next to tall guys either, it's some kind of personal ideal I have, not some issue with trying to compete with them.
Quote from: CosmicJoke on June 02, 2018, 12:16:34 PM
It's very toxic and just plain bad for my health to be comparing myself to these supermodels who's bodies I wish I posessed, but the reality is, probably not in this lifetime.
Welcome to womanhood, sweetie. Women since probably the dawn of time have been doing that, and it likely won't change any time in the next millennia. You sound like almost all of my female friends. They do exactly the same thing. Even going so far as to criticise said supermodels for being "too perfect". That's kinda how it is.
I think pretty much everyone has trouble accepting things about themselves and wishing they were different. Beauty is subjective, and very much in the eye of the beholder. I'm sure even these supermodels get jealous of other people.
Focus on what you can change, sweetie. And work towards that. It helps. Seriously. *big hugs*
Quote from: Sephirah on June 02, 2018, 04:47:57 PM
Welcome to womanhood, sweetie. Women since probably the dawn of time have been doing that, and it likely won't change any time in the next millennia. You sound like almost all of my female friends. They do exactly the same thing. Even going so far as to criticise said supermodels for being "too perfect". That's kinda how it is.
I think pretty much everyone has trouble accepting things about themselves and wishing they were different. Beauty is subjective, and very much in the eye of the beholder. I'm sure even these supermodels get jealous of other people.
Focus on what you can change, sweetie. And work towards that. It helps. Seriously. *big hugs*
Don't forget sucking in your waistline, jutting out your boobs, enhancing your skin constantly with dermabrasion, injecting fillers in the cheeks, etc... takes money, time, energy.. also its not real. Its completely fabricated. Show me a woman that wakes up, no makeup, messy hair, and STILL is gorgeous... that's the look I want to go for. Not the Kim Kardashian makeup, botox, and filler queen.
Quote from: Sephirah on June 02, 2018, 04:47:57 PM
Welcome to womanhood, sweetie. Women since probably the dawn of time have been doing that, and it likely won't change any time in the next millennia. You sound like almost all of my female friends. They do exactly the same thing. Even going so far as to criticise said supermodels for being "too perfect". That's kinda how it is.
I think pretty much everyone has trouble accepting things about themselves and wishing they were different. Beauty is subjective, and very much in the eye of the beholder. I'm sure even these supermodels get jealous of other people.
Focus on what you can change, sweetie. And work towards that. It helps. Seriously. *big hugs*
Well I have dropped an inch+ height and 1.5 in UK shoe sizes in 1.5 years through loosing weight and HRT (I hope) so under 6 foot now but still need to loose another (yes lost that a year ago pre HRT/AA) 40 LBs (OMG..)
I think weight loss is currently being balanced by redistribution and chest growth..
Keep hope alive for that miracle girls, or just keep working at it or both which is what I am doing, ;D
And I am and always will me a model for anyone who appreciates me :P
Loving you all
Hugz
All things considered, I am not too unhappy with my body, other than the obvious surplus parts.
I am taller than average for women, but not excessively so. Enough to look good in clothes, but not so much as to draw unwanted attention. I have always kept in good shape so my weight is healthy. It was up a bit in recent years due to appreciating my wife's cooking too much, but I have brought it down to a better weight. I don't have six-pack abs, but there is some definition there.
My shoulders are broader than I like, as is my rib cage. I don't moan about them because they are not fixable. They make fitting clothes tricky. But if everything fit perfectly, I'd be broke, so it's okay. :D
"If you can't be the one you love, love the one you're with." I can't nit pik since it's taken so long to be where I am. I'm just happy after all these years to have begun the process. Do what I can to feel right. Especially between the ears. My brain is so relieved, everything else is just icing on the cake. I am coming out of my shell and that is probably the hardest part as I have been closeted for so long and I just closed up to the outside world. I can't for the life of me see what my wife sees in me. But hey, you have to take your blessings any way you can.
I am right there with you. I am 230 in weight, a few inches shorter. My shoulders are broad which make putting on clothes tricky. You are 240. Try to get down to 195 and you will see noticeable differences. :o
It is funny that this came today. Just this morning I was having breakfast with friends and we were talking about height. 🙂 To a woman they all agreed that growing up they either wanted to be model tall, 5'10" or more, or very petite. Every one complained of being average, 5'4". To have cis women, attractive cis women, say that they envied my height and curves was mind blowing. I can't understand anyone envying me for anything in any way.
Maybe we conceptualize the perfect woman differently than most women do.
I don't like my body and never have. However, it is the only one I've got and the only one I'll ever have. While I may not like my body, it's all I've got to work with. I just play the hand I'm dealt. Now I can make alterations through transitioning or I can stay the way I was physically born. Either way I have to live with it whether I want to or not.
I think we all have this problem to a greater or lesser degree. After all being trans in nutshell is really about two main things:
1. Dissatisfied with your body as it not aligned to your mind. Physical dysphoria.
2. Unable to live your true life with others properly. Social dysphoria.
I am of reasonable height and weight but for me my main problem is body hair - I seek its total elimination!
Hugs
Pamela
I can't complain too much. I'm 6'1", about 170-ish, which is skinny enough to look ok from the neck down with a lot of thngs. I do hate my beard and body hair, the adams apple is unfortunate, but for a 64-yo male it could be much worse. Really, the things I hate the most about my body now have nothing to do with gender and everything to do with age -- jowly face, parchment skin, lots of age spots and long-term sun damage. Ladies (and gents), I beg of you, do not neglect your skin regime, and sunblock, sunblock, sunblock. The mirror will thank you for it as you move through life.
I think most people have issues with how they look. Dysphoria aside, I've consistently been told I'm a 8-10 for a guy (it depends on whether the person is into goth/punk guys or not), and I've yet to believe someone when they say I'm attractive. Compliments like that also don't help my self-esteem as much as you'd think, since they're essentially saying I look good as a guy when I'm wanting to transition and be a less-attractive Amazonian girl.
Talking specifically about dysphoria-related stuff I can't fix, I hate my shoulders (they're stupidly broad), my hands (way too big), and my face (far too long/tall).
I also still have face and neck acne at 25. I manage it well, so no one else ever comments on it, but I see it every evening before I shower. Really really hoping hormones might help with that.
Most part that I hate about my body is that my voice is quite deep and I'm only 15 and another thing I hate is having a penis of which I know is fixable and also body hair my leg hair and arm hair and armpit hair grows quite quickly which I hate but my weight and height I'm alright with my weight I'm not sure how much I weigh but it is probably a slight bit less than the regular amount for 15 year olds and my height which I'm not sure of as well is shorter than the regular amount for 15 year olds and my friends tower me in height.
Quote from: CosmicJoke on June 02, 2018, 12:16:34 PM
This is something I struggle with greatly. Aside from having male genitalia (fixable,) the main things I dislike about my body are my height and weight. I am 6' tall and about 240 pounds. It's mostly genetic as my father was tall and my mother was always a plus sized heavier set kind of woman.
I do have lots of beautiful features that I would keep if I could just be something more like 5'8 and 120 pounds. Keep dreaming, right?
It's very toxic and just plain bad for my health to be comparing myself to these supermodels who's bodies I wish I posessed, but the reality is, probably not in this lifetime.
I do realize that I should probably just worry about my character and who I am as a person, but does anyone else here have these same kind of body insecurities and just physical things they don't like/wish they could change?
That's just natural....Whether female or male, I always feel unattractive and unhappy.
As a female I wanted to be shorter, smaller waist, bigger boobs, no tummy pudge, better face...
As a guy I'm too short and too curvy and my face is too round and I just don't look good either way. It's one of those, you have to learn to love yourself regardless scenarios, but we're our own worst critics.
Mope for a little if you feel like you need it, then pull yourself back up and find something you DO like about your appearance, like your eyes, or your smile, something like that.
Hi
As many have said already body dysphoria is all around trans women. I'm 5'11" and 175 pounds so I'm quite slender. When I'm in bra and dresses I look quite good until you see the chest hair. Try not to let it get you down though or compare yourself to women that most cis women would never be. Concentrate on the things that you can change or work on and you will feel the difference.
You can be proud that you have started the journey and you will one day be happy with who you are. I have had a lot of down days over the past week with things not developing as they should but I try to stay positive in the knowledge that soon I'll be truly me
Megan x
No I made my peace years ago. I got use to having a micro penis, 6'5" torso, Until I hit my 30's I was between 140 - 160 lbs. Now 220 Size 15 feet, emotional reactions, tears, inability to do a pull up, no muscle. But I also had a very small amount of hair on my body. In fact my legs are hairless and my chest might have 10 hairs but that's all. It seems my hair went to my head and butt crack. But I always knew the wiring was off. I saw my male friends excell at sports, feel free to talk about sex and their latest conquests. aggression, privilege. I have one sport that I excelled, and that was baseball. The thing I regret most is ignoring my body's plea to understand that all was not well. I just thought I was a perv. so I closed myself off. Yes I could operate in the business sense but, I was a social mess.
I am very happy with my body now. At 5'7" and 150 lbs (down from 5'8 1/4 and 170 lbs) I can fit just about anything on the rack. I am usually size 8, 10, or 12–occasionally 14 on dresses because of my shoulders and 16 at Brooks Brothers because their clothes run very small. But my shoulders are a lot smaller than they used to be—my receptionist says my upper arms look sculpted and feminine.
I wish my feet were smaller. Women's size 11 and 12 shoes can be hard to find, and since I am out at work I need to maintain an extensive dress wardrobe.
Quote from: CosmicJoke on June 02, 2018, 12:16:34 PM
This is something I struggle with greatly. Aside from having male genitalia (fixable,) the main things I dislike about my body are my height and weight. I am 6' tall and about 240 pounds. It's mostly genetic as my father was tall and my mother was always a plus sized heavier set kind of woman.
I do have lots of beautiful features that I would keep if I could just be something more like 5'8 and 120 pounds. Keep dreaming, right?
It's very toxic and just plain bad for my health to be comparing myself to these supermodels who's bodies I wish I posessed, but the reality is, probably not in this lifetime.
I do realize that I should probably just worry about my character and who I am as a person, but does anyone else here have these same kind of body insecurities and just physical things they don't like/wish they could change?
This is one of the reason why I find it difficult to enjoy social media....how pretty, gifted, 'lucky' transgirls/crossdressers/etc have the girliest of figures without even trying. honestly, it triggers me big time..pure jealousy and rage hence i skip social media. to this day i have yet to solve my jealousy/rage issue but bit by bit it is getting better.
this also drove me to blame whoever made me into what i am, manly figure, manly body, manly facial hairs. even on hrt i know it's not a cure all miracle regimen.
in retrospect this also led me to have a tungsten, iron clad motivation to keep slimming down (reasonably) and not go crazy about it (going underweight for the sake of being 'small/sexy/slim/toned?)
honestly, sweety, as far as i know what to think, do, react, and to feel..i still get stung by jealousy whenever i see/remember but now i simply talk to people about it. i simply have to get it out of my system ASAP coz i'm the type of person that lingers/magnify problems and that makes myself my own worst enemy
i always keep in mind, ' jealousy is always about whether to react to it or not ' 'jealousy isn't a bad thing...it's what you do afterwards that may be considered bad'
gl in your journey
I have had a lot of issues with accepting my body as well. Mostly about the general shape of my body. Being a trans man, I've had a lot of anger and self-hate directed at the extra width of my hips and thigh area cause nature cursed me with an extreme pear-shape. With testosterone and weight loss (but no exercise) my body is now more hour-glass in shape. That is the only aspect of my body that I now, post-transition, still have issues with accepting and trying to find non-surgical ways to change.
Otherwise I'm pleased with the ways testosterone changed my appearance, my chest post top surgery, my voice, face, etc. I'm fine with my height (5'6") and don't have dysphoria about my genitals although I used to before. My perspective changed on that without me having lower surgery. Now I just really want to get enough motivation to start building muscle to get a more fit and masculine body shape in general. And yeah, I have dysphoria about my female reproductive system still existing, but that isn't something that's noticable for others.
I've been told many times by other men that I'm very attractive and often get flirted with as well. Like no issue finding hookups. I've noticed apparently I have a lot sex appeal going on, but I'm also confused about like how and why. But regardless, it's something I'm very pleased to hear from others and it definitely boosts my confidence. I've been starting to feel attractive as well. So at this point maybe I'm just a vain guy who wants to look even hotter.