I have to wear a dress for prom and while it's a beautiful dress, it just makes me feel so dysphoric in it. My chest is exposed and the slit makes my legs feel so feminine. I tried it on bc my mom wanted to make sure it fits and as I looked in the mirror all I saw was something I'm not. I felt like all the soul-searching I did to figure out who I was didn't mean anything because at the end of the day I'm female to everyone around me. Even just writing about it and reliving it makes me feel dysphoric. I just need some help on how to feel like myself even just a little bit on prom night.
That is a dilemma. Forget about the dress and focus on what you can do. Don't wear makeup or jewelry. If your hair is long enough, pull it back into a ponytail or bun. Many members have said they get by through "underdressing" or wearing something underneath that suits them. You could wear a pair of boxers or boy briefs under the dress.
The key is to remember that they don't know your secret. They think you are a girl, but you fooled them. You are just another guy in a dress! It will be hard when they are treating you like a girl. Just smile because you know the truth. Do try to have fun with it. :)
My mom's forcing me to wear heels and jewelry and have my hair and makeup done for the event as well. But I'll try your advice
Well it's prom night. I am wearing a dress and getting my hair and makeup done. I already got my nails done. I feel an odd calm. It's kinda funny to me that imma be a guy in a dress. I'll just enjoy myself and internally laugh that my guy friend is gonna be drooling over a dude in a dress
Quote from: Adrian26 on April 26, 2025, 10:13:42 AMWell it's prom night. I am wearing a dress and getting my hair and makeup done. I already got my nails done. I feel an odd calm. It's kinda funny to me that imma be a guy in a dress. I'll just enjoy myself and internally laugh that my guy friend is gonna be drooling over a dude in a dress
That's the spirit! Have fun with it. I never went to prom, so enjoy yourself.
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 26, 2025, 12:57:23 PMThat's the spirit! Have fun with it. I never went to prom, so enjoy yourself.
I will! Update on how it goes
Have a fun time.
Chrissy
Omg, last night was awesome. I danced a lot and my date was really chill. Only not great part was that my ex was trying to hit on me the whole time and I kept internally howling with laughter at him, but other than that I had a super fun night.
Quote from: Adrian26 on April 27, 2025, 08:26:20 AMOmg, last night was awesome. I danced a lot and my date was really chill. Only not great part was that my ex was trying to hit on me the whole time and I kept internally howling with laughter at him, but other than that I had a super fun night.
That sounds like you enjoyed your prom. Good for you!
Chrissy
Quote from: Adrian26 on April 27, 2025, 08:26:20 AMOmg, last night was awesome. I danced a lot and my date was really chill. Only not great part was that my ex was trying to hit on me the whole time and I kept internally howling with laughter at him, but other than that I had a super fun night.
I am glad you had a good time. 😊 It is good to enjoy the moment knowing that you are being yourself inside. Even if no-one else knows. I'm glad you had an opportunity to do this and give yourself the opportunity to be able to get through this with out falling apart.🤗
Quote from: Annaliese on April 27, 2025, 08:38:21 AMI am glad you had a good time. 😊 It is good to enjoy the moment knowing that you are being yourself inside. Even if no-one else knows. I'm glad you had an opportunity to do this and give yourself the opportunity to be able to get through this with out falling apart.🤗
Yeah, it was a really great night
That is wonderful, Adrian! I am glad you had a good time.
Remember how worried you were? Look at how strong you are! You did it and the world did not end.
I'm so proud of you.
Hugs!
Quote from: Lori Dee on April 27, 2025, 11:36:34 AMThat is wonderful, Adrian! I am glad you had a good time.
Remember how worried you were? Look at how strong you are! You did it and the world did not end.
I'm so proud of you.
Hugs!
Haha I guess you're right. Thanks!! I feel great, minus the feet pain
Quote from: Adrian26 on April 27, 2025, 11:45:56 AMHaha I guess you're right. Thanks!! I feel great, minus the feet pain
How are you doing Adrian. Hope you are doing well now that the pressure from the prom is gone. 🤗
Annaliese
Quote from: Annaliese on Yesterday at 10:18:05 AMHow are you doing Adrian. Hope you are doing well now that the pressure from the prom is gone. 🤗
Annaliese
Been better, but I'm still here and that's all I can ask for
Quote from: Adrian26 on Yesterday at 10:24:16 AMBeen better, but I'm still here and that's all I can ask for
I agree, just know we are here. 🫂 🤗
Annaliese
Quote from: Annaliese on Yesterday at 10:26:09 AMI agree, just know we are here. 🫂 🤗
Annaliese
Thanks
Just ditch the prom. I've never been to one and don't feel I've missed anything
Quote from: Tig58072 on Yesterday at 10:12:43 PMJust ditch the prom. I've never been to one and don't feel I've missed anything
Might do that next year or show up in jeans and a button up