Hi,
Something that has just really scared me just happened.
I was just reading through the forums and my mum came in and i went for the x button but I missed it and I think she got got a glimpse of this site. She made three small screams, but it could be the fact that she saw I was on the internet and wanted to use it, then she left. I'm panicking like mad now. :o
Sarah
she screamed?
Not really loud but it definitely wasnt word, I have no idea why really.
Hope for the best is all I can say. It is stuff like this that makes me appreciate the privacy I have.
If she did see the room, it might open a door for the two of you to talk about this.
Sarah L.
Hi,
I agree but I am scared. That's why I'm still panicking.
Wish me luck for getting to sleep tonight, that's what it feels like.
Sarah
Aww, heh...
Really, you might wish for her to ask you about it. I certainly wouldn't mind my parent's taking the first step in that way.
If she saw the site name, she might investigate. Investigation might lead her here, and she'd be able to get some information. If she's a smart mum, that is.
Just hope she is.
And if she is, I hope you're ready to talk to her about it.
~Moi
foreversarah, I do hope it goes well. Look at the bright side, it could go very well and she will accept it. I do know your fear, as I almost had a similar run-in today with my mother, fortunately I found the X button in time. I know she'd go completely nuts if she saw it on my screen :-\.
I wish you the best! :icon_hug:
Hi,
Yeah, it's annoying. You kind of look strange just looking at the desktop.
Unfortuantly I'm too smart because I dlete the history on the control panel, and I use Internet Explorer while my mum uses our ISP, so it sucks.
Sarah
I have the opposite problem...that my kids will walk in when I'm looking at pics of surgeries, or prosthetics...
I'm not sure what's worse, them thinking I'm looking at prosthetics, or them thinking I'm looking at porn!! :icon_eek: (well I look at that too but not until very, very late...)
I do wish these sites had different display names. Having Transsexual Talk as a huge header isn't very discreet...
Jay
Alt-tab is your friend. Have two browser windows open and use alt-tab to switch... much faster than the mouse and you
instantly look like your looking at something.... lol... not just the desktop.
You could also use Firefox or Opera and delete all your history every time you exit. No one should be forced to
use Internet Explorer. :)
Good luck with your mom.
QuoteI do wish these sites had different display names. Having Transsexual Talk as a huge header isn't very discreet...
Are you talking about the name of the window? If so there is a shareware program that will let you change that. I'm not
sure what it's called... I've not used in a long time.
Amanda
Quote from: foreversarah on May 29, 2008, 06:00:57 PM
Hi,
Yeah, it's annoying. You kind of look strange just looking at the desktop.
Unfortuantly I'm too smart because I dlete the history on the control panel, and I use Internet Explorer while my mum uses our ISP, so it sucks.
Sarah
Yeah, that's true, I also have another window open most of the time to fall back too, so at least it isn't the desktop ::).
I recommend Mozilla Firefox to use with this website if your trying to remain stealth, as it is MUCH easier to clear your trail than it is with Internet Explorer. IE leaves nine kinds of crap on your hard drive to find.
QuoteI recommend Mozilla Firefox
That is just about the only browser I ever use. Everyone else in my family is attached to internet explorer.
Quote from: polymorphic on May 29, 2008, 06:31:42 PM
QuoteI recommend Mozilla Firefox
That is just about the only browser I ever use. Everyone else in my family is attached to internet explorer.
Same here. Aw, that makes it even better to hide if everyone is on IE :D
QuoteAre you talking about the name of the window? If so there is a shareware program that will let you change that. I'm not
sure what it's called... I've not used in a long time.
Amanda
Yes. I think you mentioned that before (or someone did). I don't need it at home, I'm out to my kids, and I'm close to telling my brother anyway (we share a house), but occasionally it's dead at work and I can surf...but I'm not out there. I probably couldn't download stuff onto the work computers.
Jay
We all use Opera at my parents' house...
And...there have been times where I've forgotten to close down an incriminationg tab after a session.
One time, I remember, I had simply closed down Opera with this site still on the tab row. Luckily, I remembered, and stealthed to the work-PC (that was before I got my own) at 3am to close down the tab.
I don't worry about it too much now, but when I still lived at home, I made -sure- to have another tab than susan's open whenever I'd leave the computer for more than a minute.
~Moi
Foreversarah, even though it was an uneasy event that took place sometimes it could help out the situation in some way. Remember silence is also a very uneasy feeling and never talking about it will not make the event go away. If your mom makes no mention of it, it does not erase it, you still may have to talk about it. I wish you luck, and stay strong.. :icon_hug:
gina
Be up front and honest with her. Maybe you will get lucky and she will send you to a therapist.
Oh, I'm sorry to hear that...
My parents disallow me to be on sites like this where transpeople talk about their lives and such...
They think transpeople have "converted" me into a transsexual. Every time I come on here is a huge risk, as if they find out, I'll be in serious trouble.
I just don't see how not talking about it would "fix" it.
Quote from: Elwood on May 29, 2008, 09:03:57 PM
Oh, I'm sorry to hear that...
My parents disallow me to be on sites like this where transpeople talk about their lives and such...
They think transpeople have "converted" me into a transsexual. Every time I come on here is a huge risk, as if they find out, I'll be in serious trouble.
I just don't see how not talking about it would "fix" it.
I spent 47 years trying very hard to be a 'good woman' and was unsuccessful at it. Yes, I've lived a terrific life, but you can only ignore your gender issues for so long before you can't any more. And trust me, I'm the last person that anyone that has ever known me would think was transsexual. I'm so glad I have parented my kids differently than mine did me (which sounds similar to yours!)
Jay
Quote from: sneakersjay on May 29, 2008, 09:25:40 PM
Quote from: Elwood on May 29, 2008, 09:03:57 PM
Oh, I'm sorry to hear that...
My parents disallow me to be on sites like this where transpeople talk about their lives and such...
They think transpeople have "converted" me into a transsexual. Every time I come on here is a huge risk, as if they find out, I'll be in serious trouble.
I just don't see how not talking about it would "fix" it.
I spent 47 years trying very hard to be a 'good woman' and was unsuccessful at it. Yes, I've lived a terrific life, but you can only ignore your gender issues for so long before you can't any more. And trust me, I'm the last person that anyone that has ever known me would think was transsexual. I'm so glad I have parented my kids differently than mine did me (which sounds similar to yours!)
Jay
Yeah... I hope I can break out of this and follow the path that works for me. I may have to leave my parents for that to happen. It will be tough if it comes to that. But I need to be who I am. I'm sure most of the ladies here had to fight hard against misogynists and sexists and even feminists to reach their comfortable place... I really only have to fight my parents. Society seems a lot more accepting of transmen. All the kids at school say, "Yeah, you were supposed to be a boy anyway." And a lot of these kids are homophobes and transphobic against transwomen. It's really interesting that they just let me through. It really does help confirm that this is the right path for me; that Catholic women have told me that I should follow my feelings. People who I would expect to stand in my way open the doors for me.
what could your mom have seen? ive had this window open in front of my parents... unless theyre reading over my shoulder, it doesnt really seem all that incriminating.
Hi, ForeverSarah,
Now that you've had a panic incident, how are you doing? Everything OK with your mom? Not knowing what she might have seen creates a most untenable position for you.
So how are things with you tonight?
Wing Walker
Quote from: lisagurl on May 29, 2008, 07:27:15 PM
Be up front and honest with her. Maybe you will get lucky and she will send you to a therapist.
This should not be about someone trying to be sent to a therapist. That is entirely up to the person needing help. No luck needed. Honesty I advocate!
Aeron
I understand how apprehensive Sarah feels. Even though I'm out to my "serious other", she would much rather think I'm into ogling naked women on a porn site than logging into this forum! Then I'd be "normal" in her eyes. So I too always have another Window ready to click back to if I think she's going to come in the room. Am I sad, or what?
Louise
you know- it's so much easier when you just have a good enough mobile and 'opera mini'.
then you can just minimize and lock. so much less stress. (*^.^*) although- having a computer would be awesome. then i can listen to music too. Hehe.
BUT anyhow- so how are you sarah? ok i hope. *huggles*