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Title: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: lisagurl on June 11, 2008, 02:38:25 PM
With all the talk about I.Q. no one has mentioned that Emotional Intelligence is a big factor in being successful. No mater how many puzzles you can figure out if you can not work with others it just is valueless. Understanding and using your emotions wisely can make a person with less than average I.Q. soar over others. Too bad our educational system is more interested in producing workers instead of humans.

http://www.queendom.com/tests/access_page/index.htm?idRegTest=1121
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: Chaunte on June 11, 2008, 08:58:34 PM

Snapshot Report
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 126
Subscale percentile = 96 


According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is good. People who score like you do feel that they have little trouble understanding and dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They generally are able to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are able to control their moods in all but the most trying of times. It's easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; this is likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice. 


Quote from: lisagurl on June 11, 2008, 02:38:25 PM
Too bad our educational system is more interested in producing workers instead of humans.

You can blame No Child Moves Ahead (aka No Child Left Behind) legislation.  NCLB has destroyed our educational system here in the US.

Chaunte
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: Kimberly on June 11, 2008, 10:48:38 PM
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 91
Subscale percentile = 27

Heh, shame they don't understand but static tests are like that. But um, yeah.
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: Ell on June 11, 2008, 10:51:04 PM
Quote from: lisagurl on June 11, 2008, 02:38:25 PM
Too bad our educational system is more interested in producing workers instead of humans.

We are Borg. You will be assimilated. Resistance is futile.
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: sd on June 12, 2008, 12:12:30 AM
Nothing I didn't expect.

QuoteSubscale IQ score = 96
Subscale percentile = 39    


According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is slightly below average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is just barely acceptable.
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: NicholeW. on June 12, 2008, 01:09:28 AM
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 143
Subscale percentile = 99.79   

   


143
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is excellent. People who score like you do feel that they have almost no trouble understanding and dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are able to control their moods. It's easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; this is likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice.
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: Jaycie on June 12, 2008, 01:15:59 AM
Snapshot Report
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 55
Subscale percentile = 0.13    


55
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is very poor. People who score like you do feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They struggle to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are unable to control their moods. It's hard for them to understand how best to motivate themselves and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions quite difficult, for several reasons. They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having trouble offering support to others, likely due to the fact that they do not understand where others are coming from or they lack ideas about how best to help. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.

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LOL,  quite impressive if i do say so myself.  XD
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: sd on June 12, 2008, 01:29:36 AM
Nichole I can understand, in fact I would have expected that, but Poly?
What the heck?
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: const on June 12, 2008, 05:34:42 AM
QuoteNichole I can understand, in fact I would have expected that, but Poly?
What the heck?

Do I sense a hint of envy coming from the same person who told me not to take these tests too seriously?  :eusa_naughty:  :P

Edit: My conscience says I better come clean while I can. I cheated. I'll take my post down now...Honestly through, I'm beginning to really take to heart what you told me.



Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: michael 19 jones on June 12, 2008, 09:06:45 AM
Quote from: ell on June 11, 2008, 10:51:04 PM
Quote from: lisagurl on June 11, 2008, 02:38:25 PM
Too bad our educational system is more interested in producing workers instead of humans.

We are Borg. You will be assimilated. Resistance is futile.

LOL :eusa_clap:

You sure hit the school system on the nose with that one.
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: sd on June 12, 2008, 02:34:30 PM
Quote from: polymorphic on June 12, 2008, 05:34:42 AM
Do I sense a hint of envy coming from the same person who told me not to take these tests too seriously?  :eusa_naughty:  :P

Edit: My conscience says I better come clean while I can. I cheated. I'll take my post down now...Honestly through, I'm beginning to really take to heart what you told me.
Not envy, curiosity.

I am glad you are seeing that they are just numbers.
Life is not about what you know, but what you do that makes you a success.
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: Chaunte on June 12, 2008, 10:07:42 PM
Quote from: ell on June 11, 2008, 10:51:04 PM

We are Borg. You will be assimilated. Resistance is futile.

Of couse, if you were an electrical engineer, you could say its futile to be a resistor...

Chaunte
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: Sephirah on June 12, 2008, 11:44:08 PM
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 117
Subscale percentile = 84

According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is acceptable but could still use some improvement. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It's easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.


That's... a lot of questions. Wow. ;D It's interesting to see how the emotional intelligence differs from academic intelligence.
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: tekla on June 13, 2008, 09:00:56 AM
It's interesting to see how the emotional intelligence differs from academic intelligence.

If you like this, you will love Grad School where everyday is an adventure between these two things. 

The trouble with this, or any such test begins with the notions of who wrote the thing to begin with.  How do they weigh the factors?  Is Emotional Intelligence more a matter of 'compassion' or is it 'composure'?  (Just to take one set of values.) 
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: Sephirah on June 13, 2008, 09:15:32 AM
Quote from: tekla on June 13, 2008, 09:00:56 AM
It's interesting to see how the emotional intelligence differs from academic intelligence.

If you like this, you will love Grad School where everyday is an adventure between these two things. 

The trouble with this, or any such test begins with the notions of who wrote the thing to begin with.  How do they weigh the factors?  Is Emotional Intelligence more a matter of 'compassion' or is it 'composure'?  (Just to take one set of values.) 

Yeah, that's true. And, how did they know what the 'right' answer to some of the questions was? With those people in the pictures, for example. Were they asked beforehand?

Emotions aren't as black and white as equations and algorithms. And they certainly aren't so obvious. When you take an IQ test, you either get the answer right or wrong. I took a MENSA one once and scored 139. But they're like school exams; you could easily be taught how to do very well on them.

It's a little arbitrary to say that the way someone's feeling is right or wrong. It'd be fun to be able to say:

"Maybe she was terrified, you don't know. For all you know she could have just bolted out of the house because her partner wouldn't stop throwing rabid gerbils at her. Only she hides it really well. And she wouldn't want to tell her friends about her diseased rodent abuse because they wouldn't believe her, or would think she was crazy.

So maybe she just looks bored, but is secretly scared witless of the airborne furry death that's waiting for her when she goes home.

In which case I'm right, you're wrong, and this test is too superficial to be of value.

Nyah! :P"
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: tekla on June 13, 2008, 09:28:18 AM
I read a MENSA tests once (I swore an oath to myself that I'd never take another test after my phd exams were over that wasn't a wine taste test) and I was kind of amused at the number of trivia questions, one had to do with who Yogi Bear's bud was (Correct answer: Boo Boo) but there was no question about where Yogi Bear's name came from, a play upon Yogi Berra, who played on the great Yankees teams of the early 60s with M&M.  By that, I guess that if you want to get into MENSA watching old cartoons is OK, being a baseball fan is not.
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: Just Mandy on June 13, 2008, 09:55:56 AM
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 128
Subscale percentile = 97

According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is good. People who score like you do feel that they have little trouble understanding and dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They generally are able to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are able to control their moods in all but the most trying of times. It's easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; this is likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice.


I guess that kinda fits me... and I've had a lot of practice(and tests) the last few months controlling my moods. :)

I don't think I would have scored as well at say age 20. Does emotional intelligence become higher with more life experience?

Amanda
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: je on November 17, 2008, 12:59:15 AM
I know I shouldn't revive a long dead topic, but I wanted to show the real result that I just got.

QuoteSelf-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 55
Subscale percentile = 0.13    


55
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is very poor. People who score like you do feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They struggle to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are unable to control their moods. It's hard for them to understand how best to motivate themselves and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions quite difficult, for several reasons. They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having trouble offering support to others, likely due to the fact that they do not understand where others are coming from or they lack ideas about how best to help. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: Kelley Jo on November 17, 2008, 01:33:42 AM
Awesome post. But I think the term "emotional intelligence" is a bit of an oxymoron; the concepts conradict each other. You can be a rocket scientist yet get your feelings hurt over the most mundane things, or be incapable of basic math while manipulating the hell out of everyone because you are so perceptive of others feelings.

The best description would be Maturity.
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: whatsername on November 17, 2008, 03:47:02 AM
I think this test is flawed, it gave me slightly below average but the descriptors don't apply to me at all. :P
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: lisagurl on November 17, 2008, 08:12:24 AM
QuoteAwesome post. But I think the term "emotional intelligence" is a bit of an oxymoron; the concepts conradict each other. You can be a rocket scientist yet get your feelings hurt over the most mundane things, or be incapable of basic math while manipulating the hell out of everyone because you are so perceptive of others feelings.

Actually the ability to focus attention over rides emotion. We can be distracted by emotions they are always in our head. But it takes practice to put the distraction in a low profiles so our intellect can control our actions. Just the opposite is used in pain control, if you can distract the mind with  a game or something you fell pain less.
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: Mr. Fox on November 17, 2008, 12:51:39 PM
Why assume that everybody wants to be controlled by intellect?



Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 135
Subscale percentile = 99 


35

According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is excellent. People who score like you do feel that they have almost no trouble understanding and dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are able to control their moods. It's easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; this is likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: lisagurl on November 17, 2008, 02:10:48 PM
QuoteWhy assume that everybody wants to be controlled by intellect

I did not say that your whole life is controlled by the intellect. But you can navigate in a rational reasoned world and enjoy your emotions too.
The emotional intelligence lets you use your emotions intelligently.
Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: JennMW on November 17, 2008, 02:13:56 PM
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 138
Subscale percentile = 99

According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is excellent. People who score like you do feel that they have almost no trouble understanding and dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are able to control their moods. It's easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; this is likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice.

The test basically told me what I already knew... Why did I take it? Curiosity!
Jennifer

Title: Re: Emotional Intelligence
Post by: mickie88 on November 17, 2008, 07:50:06 PM
Snapshot Report
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 117
Subscale percentile = 87 
 



117

According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is acceptable but could still use some improvement. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It's easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.