yes i want to, ever since i can remember... .
I feel like i have nothing to do as a male. i once had long hair, smooth,straightened,and nice smelling too! and i always was told i looked like a passable girl...who had no boobs sadly :P i knew everything, EVERYTHING about acting like a girl! ( no exaggerations ofcourse :] )
So i had been thinking of actually going through this process for a long time, and it hit me harder when i cut it i started acting more masculine and i hated it, i didnt feel natural. many of you have gone through transition already, and i envy YOU AND GENETIC females..
i want to be like YOU but i have no clue of what to do first. I know my orgasms wont be the same, and i will be sterile..but i still want it bad. i already told close friends and they accepted it. <3
So now im here... asking for advice. what am i to do? im only 18, and i dont want to miss out doing this later in my life but i dont have the money :[
--i am also looking forward to making friends here! :]
Hi Alessandra,
First:
Welcome to our little family. Just by being here you have friends now. And a bunch of Big Sisters. We will help you on your jouerney. Ask anything and we will try to answer it. OK?
Second:
Get a Gender Identity therapist. And begin there. I know it isn't cheap so contact your local GLBT support group in your hometown.
Best of luck in your journey.
Thank You Janet For Warm Welcome!
i will follow advice given by big sisters! :]
Many say that because i am young to think over...but how can i think over what i already know? your support helps me. I will do these steps as soon as i can. I already know people in support groups and i am also glad to have them too, because i have told them sooo much.
Today i searched for this site because it was recommended to me by one of them and i see why :]
i hope to learn more from this community!
Welcome to the site, Alessandra (beautiful name, btw). *hugs*
Janet is a wise lady, I would echo what she's already said. And also, have a look around the boards here, as well as the Wiki for insight on anything specifically you might want to know.
You're among friends here, honey. :)
Heya. It's nice to see other teens here I hope you enjoy it here Alessandra ;D
Edit: removed personal information - Tink
Hi And yes a gorgeous name!
I came out to my parents at 13. Strict catholics, not a good day! I came out because puberty was starting and I really didn't what was going to happen. I'd had already asked my Mum when my periods would start and my breasts grow ( I had a sister) I was ignorant but I knew I was a girl. I now live in a different country (far far away). If you are TS/TG, feelings don't change, seek a therapist, sometimes local TG groups can help, they do in my city (far far away!). You are 18, do some thinking, without getting depressed. Where do you want to be physically and socially in ten years. I don't want to be rude but decide if you are gay or TG, follow your instincts, you are young but older than I was. I'm not gay, I have gay friends that I deeply love but don't desire physical intimacy with them, but I enjoy their love. You have an opportunity and lots of friends. Welcome to a new world and life :).Oh and by the way be careful of depression, seek help from your GP, there are very simple drugs that can help and in times of acute stress be carefull.
XXX
Cindy James
At 18 there are two things you need in short order if you want to keep the best chance for success.
First is a therapist, someone with a little knowledge in the field so they can get you referred to an endocrinologist for androgen blockers A.S.A.P. The sooner you can block the effects of testosterone, the easier transition will be and once on blockers, you have more time to sort things out.
(Fortunately a lot more is known and understood these days than when I was young and you don't need to follow the reckless path we did back then.)
You should also consider (maybe with the help of the therapist) how and when to bring up the subject with your parents. Their support would make the path a lot easier.
*HUUUGSS*
This advice is apreciated! i love this site! i have started by telling few friends... surprisingly they were very enthusiastic! i did not expect it :P but it felt great...one said they were looking forward to bra shopping ;D support is looking strong...
Quote from: Northern Jane on November 15, 2008, 09:37:40 PM
At 18 there are two things you need in short order if you want to keep the best chance for success.
First is a therapist, someone with a little knowledge in the field so they can get you referred to an endocrinologist for androgen blockers A.S.A.P. The sooner you can block the effects of testosterone, the easier transition will be and once on blockers, you have more time to sort things out.
(Fortunately a lot more is known and understood these days than when I was young and you don't need to follow the reckless path we did back then.)
You should also consider (maybe with the help of the therapist) how and when to bring up the subject with your parents. Their support would make the path a lot easier.
soon i will look for a therapist, i love my parents, they are important to me and must tell the sooner or later.. but with advice here i know i will find a good way to tell them. :)
Quote from: Alessandra on November 17, 2008, 05:50:58 AM
...one said they were looking forward to bra shopping ;D support is looking strong...
heh, you do see what you did there don't you?
sorry, i just couldn't help it.
Allessandra!
Welcome to our happy home! Relax, take your heels off (or put them on!), and have a cup of tea.
Please look through our site rules and the other areas of Susan's site.
This journey is not for the faint of heart, but I think you may have already figured that out. It's wonderful that your friends support you. That can be so important.
Have you thought about coming out to your family and what that may entail? That could be a rocky road, so prepare for that.
As some of the others here have already mentioned, getting into a support group and finding a therapist is probably your best first steps. Also, you may want to start shopping for clothes and makeup if you haven't already. And shopping for clothes at a thrift shop is a great place to start building your wardrobe.
And if you have any questions, feel free to ask us. Many of us have been through the transition and may have already answered the question you have.
Welcome sister, to your new home!
-Sandy
Quote from: Kelleygurl on November 17, 2008, 06:01:17 AM
Quote from: Alessandra on November 17, 2008, 05:50:58 AM
...one said they were looking forward to bra shopping ;D support is looking strong...
heh, you do see what you did there don't you?
sorry, i just couldn't help it.
What you did there
I see it
(I couldn't help it either)
Quote from: Godot on November 17, 2008, 12:18:15 PM
Quote from: Kelleygurl on November 17, 2008, 06:01:17 AM
Quote from: Alessandra on November 17, 2008, 05:50:58 AM
...one said they were looking forward to bra shopping ;D support is looking strong...
heh, you do see what you did there don't you?
sorry, i just couldn't help it.
What you did there
I see it
(I couldn't help it either)
i do not see it!! :laugh: sorry still not good with english! i have been learning for 5 years. spanish was my first language and i know few italian from my father.
Quote from: Kassandra on November 17, 2008, 09:10:45 AM
Allessandra!
Welcome to our happy home! Relax, take your heels off (or put them on!), and have a cup of tea.
Please look through our site rules and the other areas of Susan's site.
This journey is not for the faint of heart, but I think you may have already figured that out. It's wonderful that your friends support you. That can be so important.
Have you thought about coming out to your family and what that may entail? That could be a rocky road, so prepare for that.
As some of the others here have already mentioned, getting into a support group and finding a therapist is probably your best first steps. Also, you may want to start shopping for clothes and makeup if you haven't already. And shopping for clothes at a thrift shop is a great place to start building your wardrobe.
And if you have any questions, feel free to ask us. Many of us have been through the transition and may have already answered the question you have.
Welcome sister, to your new home!
-Sandy
i have tried telling parents but i didnt, i was too scared. i hope with more support i build to it and tell them.
i have not bout clothes but first friend i tell bout me a box of make up, well it was gift to her but she said she did not need, she has so much!
You made a pun by using "support" in the same sentence as "bra". Your
English is fine, it's my first language but I do it all the time...and we all laugh about it
Posted on: November 17, 2008, 10:22:07 pm
Quote from: Godot on November 17, 2008, 12:18:15 PM
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What you did there
I see it
(I couldn't help it either)
Hehe, niiiiiiice.
hi and welcome to susan's. from your profile i cant where you are, but if you are in the states my biggest piece of advice to you, is to stay out of being employed in a retail environment, especially walmart, if you decide to transition, they make it a proverbial pain in the ass to change anything.
Warrior Princess Mickie
I'm 18 as well and am in college. I am seeking therapy as my first step. I am seeking this primarily because I'm not confident with myself, but you seem to be. There's defiantly something to be gained regardless if you ask me. But its nice to see people my age too, Welcome to Susan's, its a pleasure to meet you.
Sarrah M.
Sorry i have not responded in a while -_-.
Quote from: Sarrah M. on November 20, 2008, 12:09:30 AM
I'm 18 as well and am in college. I am seeking therapy as my first step. I am seeking this primarily because I'm not confident with myself, but you seem to be. There's defiantly something to be gained regardless if you ask me. But its nice to see people my age too, Welcome to Susan's, its a pleasure to meet you.
Sarrah M.
hi there! it is nice to see other of my age here too! i have seen so many stories of success and i am happy that one day i will be like this. ;D
i have been wondering if anyone in California knows of any health insurance that will cover some cost, also what kind of jobs/companies do not discriminate?
i heard Aetna is good insurance?
QuoteI know my orgasms wont be the same, and i will be sterile..but i still want it bad.
Just to note one thing: although you'll be sterile after vaginoplasty, you won't necessarily be unable to have genetic children. Banking your sperm is a very good idea!
Quote from: Alessandra on November 26, 2008, 04:24:09 PM
Sorry i have not responded in a while -_-.
Quote from: Sarrah M. on November 20, 2008, 12:09:30 AM
I'm 18 as well and am in college. I am seeking therapy as my first step. I am seeking this primarily because I'm not confident with myself, but you seem to be. There's defiantly something to be gained regardless if you ask me. But its nice to see people my age too, Welcome to Susan's, its a pleasure to meet you.
Sarrah M.
hi there! it is nice to see other of my age here too! i have seen so many stories of success and i am happy that one day i will be like this. ;D
i have been wondering if anyone in California knows of any health insurance that will cover some cost, also what kind of jobs/companies do not discriminate?
i heard Aetna is good insurance?
Where in CA are you?
right now i am in Ventura, California.
according to this site (http://www.thetaskforce.org/reports_and_research/nondiscrimination_laws) all of California has non discrimination laws for GLBT people.
Quote from: Ellieka on November 27, 2008, 02:24:12 PM
according to this site (http://www.thetaskforce.org/reports_and_research/nondiscrimination_laws) all of California has non discrimination laws for GLBT people.
Just because there are laws, doesn't mean health insurance companies follow them! :)
Medi-CAL covers transition related expenses, if you're qualified.
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Just because there are laws, doesn't mean health insurance companies follow them! :)
sad but true.