Before I start, I should mention that I recently discovered I am trans, and I haven't come out to anyone. Anyways, I can't stand my body hair. I have always hated it. I've tried shaving a bit, but I tend to get a lot of cuts and irritation if I do. So I decided to go to a nearby drugstore and get some hair remover. I found the shelf with the hair removal products, but they all showed pictures of women, et cetra on them and look kinda girly. When I was looked through them I pretended to look at the men's razors which were conveniently located right next to the hair removers. I was too afraid to let anyone see me looking at them, much less bring them up front. I think I spent 40 minutes trying to work up the courage to buy it. I never did though; I just left. On the way home I wanted to cry. I couldn't even work up the courage to do something as innocent as that. I feel pathetic.
There are plenty of men without trans issues who want to get rid of hair. And anyway, the cashier and other customers couldnt care less what you buy. if it makes you feel better, buy some other stuff too, and it will get jumbled in with the rest. :)
Honey, unless you're at the store fully attired in feminine apparel, most sales staff will assume you're buying it for someone else: your mother, girlfriend, sister, aunt etc.
And besides which, with the volume of traffic through most stores, it's highly unlikely they'll do anything other than scan it and take your money. There are, in my experience, very few clerks who see working at a cash register as anything more than a job, much less have a desire to pry into the private lives of the people they serve.
Just be polite, smile, and don't act as though you have something to hide. :)
Awww hunny
seriously if you let it fear you in a store it will show, like the others have said people dont bat an eye these days, way before i transitioned i was busy buying oil of olay, cosmetics and general pampering products. No-one ever looked at me let alone questioned. If in doubt go to a supermarket half the time they dont even look at products and just scan them, your just a number and another product in a basket.
Its a real confidence builder that way and your soon be hanging with the best of them...honestly
Thank You... I feel a little better now. Maybe I'll go back tomorrow. I'm so sorry that I had to come here and make such a big deal about nothing. I wish I wasn't such a weak person.
Quote from: Aelita_Lynn on November 28, 2008, 05:04:17 PM
Thank You... I feel a little better now. Maybe I'll go back tomorrow. I'm so sorry that I had to come here and make such a big deal about nothing. I wish I wasn't such a weak person.
Honey, if it's a big deal to you then it's a big deal. Period. *hugs*
You're not a weak person, sweetie. Just admitting who you are to yourself is a major sign of inner strength. :) And besides, that's what we're here for, to offer support and understanding to girls like yourself, and guys, who are just finding their feet. Don't apologise at all, sweetie. Come on in and look around a little, stay and get to know people. You're very welcome here.
It can be a scary thing if you want something for yourself that you think other people will find 'girly' or 'feminine'. There's the weight of "what will they think?" And "They're gonna know it's for me!" running through your mind. It's perfectly natural, honey.
Hopefully we can help you overcome that, and give you a little bit of support and confidence to take those next steps to becoming yourself. :) So you don't have to be reluctant about posting your concerns and worries, because by helping each other through things, we can all grow as people. *hugs again*
Quote from: Aelita_Lynn on November 28, 2008, 05:04:17 PM
Thank You... I feel a little better now. Maybe I'll go back tomorrow. I'm so sorry that I had to come here and make such a big deal about nothing. I wish I wasn't such a weak person.
A big deal about nothing? well if its a big deal to you then its not nothing hunny, you just finding your feet is all we all started somewhere. I'm darn sure no-one in these forums would think of it as weak.
I don't want to sound redundant; but thank you. I feel much better. I knew there were people out there, but I think I was scared that no one would care. I just needed to talk to someone about it since it affected me so much. I don't think I have been so strongly affected by anything in a long time. Thank you for helping me see that I'm worth something. (Edit: Hmm.. that sounds a little too dramatic but I don't know how else to put it.)
Though I am a guy, I'm a Genetic female, and understand. Circumstances are different but I get the same feeling when I walk into the store hoping am passing as a guy but then grab several packs of feminine pads.
Same time I have noticed a lot of them don;t really care what your buying at the register, unless I get nervious and stutter about it lol
Quote from: Emme on November 28, 2008, 06:29:48 PM
This is a drugstore. At any given time, people are buying althlete's foot spray, enemas, yeast infection cream, wart removers, laxitives, etc. I'd think they'd barely remember something like hair remover. If it helps, just tell yourself "They see worse."
Haha, that's a really good point. I agree with everyone else, too. The cashier will most likely think nothing of it. And think, after the 20 seconds it takes to pay and get your receipt you'll be out of there, and happily on your way home. That's what got me through the first little while when I first started buying those types of things. After a while you'll get more and more comfortable since you'll find that you'll barely ever, if even ever once, get any sort of meaningful reaction. Remember, as much as you are into yourself and your own life, so are they. People don't pay nearly as much attention to us as we make ourselves believe.
Aelita_Lynn,
There are also hair removers for men. Nair makes one, but after 8 months on HRT, the regular Nair works just as well, if not better. As a cashier, don't worry about what they are thinking, most are wondering when their break is, or about their SO. They could care less about your purchase other than if that is all.
Like everyone else said the cashiers really dont care. But Your story reminded me of a time when I was in the same boat. As someone who has been there ad done that (Like all the other fine folks here). Be brave and go for it. Just relax and pretend it's for the misses, which it is ina way.
Best of luck to you
Beni
I'm not sure about the stores in your area but at our local Walmart and other stores they have the self check out lanes. No need to even make eye contact with any one. I've bought panties, bras, skirts, cosmetics.... never even got a second look.
There was one time several years ago that I went to Walmart late at night and bought some panties and a top or some such then took them to the regular check out. The cashier at the counter says, "awww! I wish my guy would buy this stuff for me"! I just smiled and said yeah she's worth it.
Chin up girl, your going be just fine. :)
It happens...as time will go on you will eventually become more and more confident and you will be able to buy things with ease......
Bless you
It's okay Aelita_Lynn, I think most of us started off in similar fashion.
As mentioned they do make it for men, and in a drug store, hair remover is really nothing to them compared to what they see and deal with.
Just go one step at a time.
AND RELAX. The fear is not only the biggest thing to fear, but also the one thing that will trip you up. Head up and act like you belong, no one will be the wiser.
So sorry you are having this problem. It is so hard to begin. I agree with going to places with self checkout. It is a great way to start buying the things you need.
As far as hair remover, that kind for men scalded the CRAP out of me. So be careful if you use it.
Oh, and if it is really important for you to buy something, and you just need a little bit of encouragement, you can do what I have done. Just take out your cell phone and act like you are talking to someone and picking her stuff out. It is very common to see, and now I wonder how many are acting.
Whatever, remember that the store wants you money, honey. There will come a time when you are looked at funny, but that is, unfortunately, part of life. It is a strange truism that as our skin softens we must have a hide like a rhinoceros.
Hang in, sweetie. You'll be amazed in a little bit how this is no big deal at all.
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Quote from: Aelita_Lynn on November 28, 2008, 05:04:17 PM
Thank You... I feel a little better now. Maybe I'll go back tomorrow. I'm so sorry that I had to come here and make such a big deal about nothing. I wish I wasn't such a weak person.
Aelita!
We've all been there, honey! The first time I went to buy something my hands were shaking like a leaf! :D And to mask the fact that I was in fact buying pantyhose, I bought about thirty dollars of other stuff.
Really, hon, you are not weak. This terrible blessing drives us. You are quite strong. You'll be fine, hon, you'll be fine!
The first step is the hardest. The first step is coming out to yourself. You've done that. The hard part is over. No more denial, no more self doubts.
Really, it gets easier from here.
Take care, lov. And keep us posted on how you are doing. We are all family here and we care about you.
-Sandy
First, dear, I certainly understand your fears! God knows, I've been there too. And I survived -- much to my surprise.
I agree with most of the responses: From my experience, very few clerks care. That said, you could run into one of the bozos who get their jollies by hassling customers. It has happened to me once or twice. In that case, look at them like they're an idiot, snort, and say that it's for your mother/wife/sister/daughter -- "Of course!"
A bigger risk is running into someone you know while waiting in line. Someone who's nosey and will ask why you're getting that stuff. I don't mean to scare you, but it can happen. The best defense is to pick a distant store, and/or go when the store isn't crowded. Or, if you don't want to see that person ever again, tell them you have lice. >:-)
It's important that you don't act scared or fearful. But it's okay to act frazzled or overwhelmed or confused. For example, I often adopt an attitude like, Good God! I had no idea there was so much STUFF! She just told me to get hair remover. Why didn't she tell me what brand, blast it! Clerks respond well to that.
However, I have to warn you about one thing: pacing around a store for 40 minutes could be a problem. That behavior might put store security on alert. If you have to do that, better leave and come back another day. Or first surf the web to figure out what to get.
Maybe its just me, but I've never had good results with the removers, you were looking at the razors, still the best simple way of doing it.
if you dont feel comfortablebuying hair removal for women they have nair for men
Aletta,
I agree with all the others, you are not weak at all. it takes a ton of courage to admit and accept that you are trans and then to actually do something about it is amazing.
I remember the first time I went to the store to buy not only hair remover, but panties, jeans, a bra and makeup I was terrified that someone one notice me or someone I knew would see me. It took me walking around Walmart for about 20-30 minutes before I finally decided to go into the necessary sections to purchase those items. All my fear was for nothing, I picked up evrything I needed and went to the checkout line and the cashier just smiled and asked If I found everything I needed.
I still sometime get nervous when shopping for female clothing, makeup, but I am learing to get over it and now I will even ask a clerk what is the best color match of foundation to use. I have now built up enough confidence and courage to go to the major dept stores, get fiited for a bra, have full makeup put on, in fact Ijust had a full makeup consult done the other day at sephora and they were absolutley wonderful and even said come back as many times I would like for help.
I guuess that in a nutsheell, what I am trying to say is the more you do these things the easier it becomes. You can't let fear run your life, we have to be able to take risks in this life, and you have already started by accepting that you are trans.
That is an awesome first step, and you will be amazed as you continue on this journey what you are capable of doing without even realizing it.
This is an awesome site and the women/girls and even the men are awesome and have been a great support to me. They have helped me have the courage to accept who I truly am and begin to start the journey of becoming that person.
I hope you will stay around, and please plaes don't be afraid to talk about anything that is bothering you here, you will find nothing but love and support.
Hugz,
Ariana
I have not told you, but I still pretty new to transitioning myself, have only been doing so for about year.
The hard moment came for me at about 18 years old, when I was leaving the house to go to college. I now had the freedom to do as a wished, not totally, but more than at home (or so I thought at the time). But that meant I had to face myself squarely and admit to myself what was going on in my life, and thus taking the responsible steps to deal with it in at least a legally approved - even if highly awkward - manner. I knew from researching ->-bleeped-<-s that many were so embarrassed to be seen buying women's clothing that they would steal it from stores or from other people just to keep it a secret, and I confess to shoplifting a thing or two myself. However when they got caught - and you always get caught - they were really in for problems, as few things in life are more public than being busted. So I resolved for myself to go ahead and buy it myself, after all, it had to at least be far less nerve racking that trying to seal it and certainly less risky.
Allowing even that little bit out in the open by making such a candid and obvious public acknowledgment (it really wasn't, but it sure seemed like it to me), began to change the texture and detail of my dressing. To begin with, I could finally look for stuff I really liked. At first, I would only shop in towns far removed from where I lived, usually hitting the stores on the fly as I passed through so there was zero possibility of ever being recognized, at the time, or at any later point. I have often thought that it was ever so nice of them to build shopping centers right on top of the off ramps of the interstate highway system.
Even at that though, I constantly worried about "getting caught" at the beginning- back in my college years. Now though I'm not even sure exactly what I would have been caught at. At root I'm just being a consumer and, at any rate, what would the punishment have been? "All right young man! Extra football games and no more hanging out on the girls dorm floor for you!" Gradually I came to understand that most sales people don't care or don't notice, despite how incredibly self-conscious you feel at the time. Which is true about most things in life, dancing in particular - which also explains why I'm such a dancing fool.
As it turns out, it's not like you have a neon sign over you that announces that you are a crossdresser and are buying this stuff for yourself - regardless of how much you feel that's exactly the case. The easiest place to shop is Lane Bryant, where I never found their staff to be the least bit rude or inattentive, or even look me strangely. A few have been very nice to me and several have been extremely helpful. Lingerie is really the only "raised eyebrow" item, and really only bras and panties, the fancier stuff they always assume is some sort of a gift I think. In retail stores, business people are only interested in the bottom line and so I've found that if you're spending real cash they're are always willing to sell. And, as time went on, I came to the realization that I didn't even really care what some clerk making minimum wage in K-Mart or Target thinks in the first place. I've gradually come to accept a philosophy that if you're willing to take it to the dry cleaners without being embarrassed, you should be able to buy it in the first place.
I know alot of men who use hair remover. Trust me its not like pile cream or vagisil now is it. Just go in then hun get some hair remover and get out. If anyone was anything you could always say its for your girlfriend!
Look on the bright side; eventually you'll feel completely normal buying pantyhose
but as embarrassed as heck to have to buy men's razors.
Pretty much the only difference between men's razors and women's razors is the color.
We know where your at....we all have done it. And it does get easier. Why dont you do this....
Go right now, get the hair remover...have blinders on..it only lasts a few minutes. Just do it.
Then get home and remove your hair and relish in how good it feels. (and it DOES feel awesome) Then come back to this thread and tell us "I did IT!!!! and it feels great.
You may as well buy two, cuz youll be needing it again soon!
Dont let it beat you down
I know that when I go back, I'm going to do it this time. But what kind should I get? Last time I was completely unprepared for the amount of choice I had. I somehow expected that there would be be only one brand in the store, with one variety (stupid, I know... :laugh: ) I really don't want to go back until I know what I'm going to get. I need some advice on this.
yes...dont get it near the ...um...tackle box :-\
Quote from: Renate on November 30, 2008, 07:06:25 AM
Look on the bright side; eventually you'll feel completely normal buying pantyhose
but as embarrassed as heck to have to buy men's razors.
Smiles ... ;) ...
I buy bargain packs of mens' razors as they do the underarm & leg job perfectly well at 25 cents a blade. And yes I do feel a teeny bit embarassed taking them to the checkout !
But I refuse to pay the 100% extra to get a pretty colour, or go for the new fangled multi-blade, vibrating, battery operated types which seem to have appeared in both men and women's styles.
As my hair has thinned so much on HRT (arm, chest, abdominal and back hair totally gone) I find razors give a good enough "non prickly" result.
Before that I found that the only way to get a long lasting smooth result was to wax with DIY waxing strips (which I still use summertime and party frock season !). I then used an epilator to control regrowth. I just found Nair so messy, time consuming, and less effective than shaving.
P.S. if you get nicks and cuts use an electric razor first and just use a blade to finish the job and get extra smoothness.
Laura x
I somehow expected that there would be be only one brand in the store, with one variety
Da, that was way in old Soviet Union. Our way is to create tons of packaging to basically sell the same product over and over. Or put some new gimick on it. Myself I'm waiting for a ten blade razor that will require both arms to lift it.
Everyone else has already adequately answered this, but I wanna put my 2 cents in...
JUST DO IT! Who cares what anyone thinks. And besides, most clerks won't notice, and there's ALWAYS the excuse of someone else needs it.
Also, I didn't KNOW there was such a thing as hair remover! :o If I had know that, I would have started using it a LONG time ago...I have a fear of razors.
Every cashier in the world sees you as money to be collected, unless you have transitioned, and are one of their girlfriends, like me :)
I remember too. It was a gut-wrenching thing to do. You felt the weight of all gazes ON YOU.
But, you could buy bras and panties, foundation, eyeliner.....the works, and the most that would happen, is that they would TAKE YOUR MONEY. The worst they would do is smile, and say nothing.
BUT.....about the nair and other removers.....try in on a small patch of skin first. When I tried it, I got very nasty burns that took some time to heal. I'm glad it was only a small area. Do a google search on using nair.
Bev
Quote from: Aelita_Lynn on November 28, 2008, 05:04:17 PMI wish I wasn't such a weak person.
You're not weak honey. We all go through this kinda thing. It took me a week worth of mis-starts to buy my first girl razor.
~Simone.
Quote from: Laura Eva B on November 30, 2008, 11:40:21 AM
Quote from: Renate on November 30, 2008, 07:06:25 AM
Look on the bright side; eventually you'll feel completely normal buying pantyhose
but as embarrassed as heck to have to buy men's razors.
Smiles ... ;) ...
I buy bargain packs of mens' razors as they do the underarm & leg job perfectly well at 25 cents a blade. And yes I do feel a teeny bit embarassed taking them to the checkout !
But I refuse to pay the 100% extra to get a pretty colour, or go for the new fangled multi-blade, vibrating, battery operated types which seem to have appeared in both men and women's styles.
Maybe some are just different in color, but I have ridiculously sensitive skin and have had much better results with women's razors. The Venus 5-bladed monstrosity thing causes half the irritation the men's one does (which I can't recall the name of right now). I don't know why exactly, but the base is about twice as wide, so maybe that's something.
But yeah, something about vibrating sharp things really gets me uneasy though, so I've always just steered clear of those...
Oh...on topic :P
If you think you feel awful with the anxiety of buying the stuff, just wait till you feel it working. Or maybe that's just my skin hating me again... Ouch. I've used it on my legs and it worked, but it smells absolutely foul and burned a bit. For some reason I decided that the burn wasn't that bad on my legs, so I could use it on my chest. I don't want to scare you from using it entirely, they work for some people for sure, but it took me nearly 3 months to completely heal from the damage it did. I had no problems on my legs, but got a bad reaction on my chest. The rash made all the hairs ingrown when they started to come back. The ingrown hairs were gross and did a number on my skin...
If you're prone to that at all, just be careful!
Don't worry too much about what cashiers think, in all likelihood they're not even thinking. That wasn't an insult, but I've done plenty of mindless work myself. You aren't a weak person, some of us have fought against this all our lives, hiding it became my normal, so stepping outside my comfort zone of hiding has been incredibly scary and takes a lot of self-encouragement. What helps me the most is to just get myself in the mindset that "why shouldn't I be able to ..." We have every right to go into a store and buy whatever we go in to buy. If anyone gives you a problem, and they probably won't, just remember it's their own hang up and not yours.
I finally did it! I walked right in and picked out some stuff, bought it and left! It's true, the cashier really didn't care at all, barely even looking at what I was buying. I just got home, and I want to try it out right away! Thank you everyone, I don't think I could have done it without your encouragement. :)
CONGRATULATIONS! :eusa_clap: :eusa_dance:
Go get 'em girl! The hair must die!
Congratulations! Next step is makeup! ;D
-Sandy
Well, I got two kinds of hair remover. One is for arms + legs + etc ( Nad's, Sensitive Hair Removal Creme). The other is designed for the face (Nair Hair Remover - Sensitive Formula. I just tried the regular one on a spot, and it doesn't seem like it does much. It wasn't at all uncomfortable, just smelly. I waited the full ten minutes and took it off, but found that it didn't really seem to take much off. I'm rather disappointed. I'm trying the other one next.
It tired the other one and it's similarly weak. Maybe I should have gotten the regular kinds instead of the sensitive ones? I'm going to try it again and see if it works any better.
the nair for the face only works on fine hair sadly. Now the nair for body... that works really well for me and I have very dark, coarse hair.
Now ya need to buy wax....
wax on.......wax off...
Bev
The hair remover had a little bit of an effect. Just not that much. It did make my skin feel soft though. :)
When I get some more money maybe I can try the wax. Were would I get that though? How do you use it? Is it difficult to use? Most importantly; is it quick? I desperately want the hair to go away RIGHT NOW. It was very difficult for me to wait the 10 minutes for the hair remover to presumably do the job. It wasn't uncomfortable, I just didn't want to wait any length of time for it to be done.
Quote from: Aelita_Lynn on December 01, 2008, 03:01:23 PM
I desperately want the hair to go away RIGHT NOW.
*snicker* Oh don't worry, hon. When you use wax the hair is gone RIGHT NOW!
Along with the top layer of your epidermis too. Be prepared to muffle the scream. It will sting a bit.
There are sites both here and on the web that will describe the best use of wax and sugaring. You might want to have a look at those so you can decide how to proceed.
-Sandy (been there, done that)
Great job!
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Oh, and do be careful about waxing or sugaring the face. I found out the hard way that it can be very unpleasant.
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Quote from: Kristi on December 01, 2008, 05:37:44 PM
Great job!
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Oh, and do be careful about waxing or sugaring the face. I found out the hard way that it can be very unpleasant.
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YEEOUCH!!! SON-UF-A!
I hope it wasn't something like the mustache.
It was bad enough to wax the arms. I am not going any where near the face with wax. Tweezers maybe wax no way!
Janet
I've waxed my chest... my only advise, watch the nips! :icon_yikes:
I had my legs waxed last week. On the way out the guy at the counter says "Come back a lot sooner next time, and enjoy your riding". I looked at him rather funny wonder why he said that, I relised I had a triathlon shirt on and I think he though I was getting my legs done for when I am on my bike. I saw him and the beaty therapst two days later in full Alice mode and they did recognise me so I had to laugh. My disguse worked really well.
So guys go in for leg waxing all the time. It hurts at first but you soon get use to it.
Alice
Oh Lord! Don't wax your face!
I started plucking my mustache years before transitioning, and now I still have to do it.....about 20 hairs persist, weakly. They take 2 weeks to show just under the skin, and ease out very easily.
Don't wax your face!
Much better shaving face. Shave face whenever poshible.
Bev
If you wax or epilate (wax before epilating!), it will sting the first time, but it does not last long and is worth it!
If you do it regularly, it will get less and less painful, (3rd time was nothing for me) but if you wait the pain meter starts to rise again so stay on top of it. I have noticed though after doing it for a few months, that the hair on my legs is growing a bit slower (woohoo!).
I use an epilator everywhere except my chest and face. my chest doesn't react well and breaks out, so I just shave. I tried epilating my face one time, and vowed never again! I'll stick with the razor until laser/electrolysis thankyouverymuch. :)
I also use Aveeno Smooth lotion that is supposed to slow the regrowth of the hair. I think I can get an extra couple days at most from it, but the lotion is really nice. my legs feel silky smooth after using this lotion.
Epilating is dually as painful as the waxing, I tried both in my early transition. It was Wing Walker put me on to using Vaniqa to slow down and thin out hair grownth on my face. Vaniqua is a cream in a tube, just a dab on the tip of your finger of about the sise of an asperin and just rub it in vigorously to get itno the pores.
I shave my legs and epilate my arms and chest, With HRT 6 years later I had no body hair growing anymore and verry little facial hair, what still grows is very fine hairs and I shave only every second or third day.
I guess the combination vaniqa, epilator and good old estrogen has done it's job. I alo swear by Mary Kay products. Been using it for 8 years and it has done wonders keeping my facial skin soft and supple and the desired result is hardly any wrinkles.
Cindy
Quote from: cindybc on December 02, 2008, 01:25:57 AM
Epilating is dually as painful as the waxing,
But the waxing does not drag on for as long.
Waxing = YIKES!
Epilating = Yikes, OWWW, YIKES, OWWW... for quite a while :laugh:
Quote from: Ellieka on December 01, 2008, 06:56:53 PM
YEEOUCH!!! SON-UF-A!
I hope it wasn't something like the mustache.
Yep, don't do that. I had a "cold sore" that took a long time to go away. Oh the things we do when we are desperate.
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Quote from: Ellieka on December 01, 2008, 07:09:45 PM
I've waxed my chest... my only advise, watch the nips! :icon_yikes:
Ah ... did any of you see the chest waxing scene in
The 40 Year Old Virgin?Talk about major "OUCH!" ....
*glowers at Emme* :icon_boxing:
It wasn't my nips, after all. LOL
Humor is never as funny as when its at someone elses' expense.
Every time i've used the hair removal cream it never gets all of the hair, and after a few applications it will eventually burn my skin and raise bumps and welts. Not worth it.
Buddy of mine tried nair and burned himself really badly, to the point of bleeding.
If you still want to try it, like others have said - just go buy it and smile when you are checking out. The checkout person probably will not even look at what they are passing in front of the scanner.
Quote from: tekla on December 02, 2008, 11:50:27 AM
It wasn't my nips, after all. LOL
Humor is never as funny as when its at someone elses' expense.
That's because humor usually is at someone else's expense. Isn't that practically the definition of humor?
Incidentally, I haven't tried waxing, because I'm even hairier than that actor in The 40 Year Old Virgin. I've tried shaving, but it itches like crazy unless I shave twice a day -- and it's nearly impossible to shave my back by myself. I've also tried hair-removal creams. They did remove the hair, but I was afraid they were damaging my skin, so I stopped. That was 30 years ago; I don't remember what I used.
And no, I'm not transitioning, at least partly because if I wandered into the woods naked, there'd be a rash of "big foot" sightings. Well, "baby big foot" sightings; I have small feet. :)
"Hee, hee" yep I often wondered if the ouch, ouch dance was related to the pee, pee dance. :D Well one certainly is more painful. But as far as epilating the body and arms goes after the first half dozen epilations it doesn't hurt any more, maybe all those little red spots where the hairs got plucked out might itch some for a bit. But truly after about 3 years on HRT and epilating the hair stopped growing. Now the nips can come out and play. ;D
Cindy
I dont condone shoplifting or do it anymore but I stole mine.
Quote from: Emme on November 28, 2008, 06:29:48 PM
This is a drugstore. At any given time, people are buying althlete's foot spray, enemas, yeast infection cream, wart removers, laxitives, etc. I'd think they'd barely remember something like hair remover. If it helps, just tell yourself "They see worse."
heck, I had to buy pepto bismol, imodium, toilet paper, and I bought my gf a box of chocolates once. I just said "guess which one is the impulse buy". The clerk laughed.
But I know how you feel. the first time I bought boxers, I thought they were going to call security. My gf told me much later that she used to go in and buy them for her husband all the time. And guys buy stuff for women. You might want to go in with a list and look at it as you buy it, so it looks like someone else sent you if that makes you feel more comfortable.
Dennis
Quote from: cindybc on December 02, 2008, 01:25:57 AM
Epilating is dually as painful as the waxing, I tried both in my early transition. It was Wing Walker put me on to using Vaniqa to slow down and thin out hair growth on my face. Vaniqa is a cream in a tube, just a dab on the tip of your finger of about the size of an aspirin and just rub it in vigorously to get itno the pores.
I guess the combination vaniqa, epilator and good old estrogen has done it's job. I alo swear by Mary Kay products. Been using it for 8 years and it has done wonders keeping my facial skin soft and supple and the desired result is hardly any wrinkles.
I used tons of epilating, and still do so today, as well as Nair and waxing, just almost everywhere (except genital areas)--I know it worked for my mother.
The only down side to Vaniqa is the price of the prescription.
There are tons of hair removal products in the market.
Hi Aelita! Been there too, like everyone else. When I go out shopping I throw in a bottle of Nair with everything else. Cashiers never really pay attention to every single item. I've never received a second look. I do still get a bit nervous when shopping, so I carry a list with the items I'm looking for. Sometimes, if I feel the eyes of a sales person on me, I just walk up to that person, show her my list and ask her "can you tell me where to find this?" Works like a charm, they become so helpful! They assume I'm shopping for someone else.
Yea, as many have said, we share the same stories, been there, didn't do it then did, lol. Vaniqua cream is good for the facial hair, never used on the body though. Epilation might be a way forward and wouldn't use anything else. It has reduced my body hair by about 80% +
Someone once said, "fear is the only thing to fear."
Stardust
Some great advice you've given here, gals. Just love reading your input. You're all awesome. Leiandra, global moderator, your comments are espcially incisive and well-articulated. You're all very cool.