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Title: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: soldierjane on December 31, 2008, 12:00:40 PM
...I can change my name? mebbe?
...I get two more certifications, or at least one more
...I read a lot more books
...I find a better job


What about you? :)
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Diane on December 31, 2008, 12:19:10 PM
I will be changing my name and having whats left of my facial hair removed. I will also be starting hormones
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: AlwaysLauren on December 31, 2008, 05:25:43 PM
I apply to grad school
I (hopefully) get my gender changed on my driver's license
I start facial hair removal
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Chaunte on December 31, 2008, 09:35:56 PM
1) My transition book gets launched.
2) Now that I am banished from my ex's, buy a home of my own.
3) I help get the ministry program for the LGBT community here in my county underway.
4) I continue to live, and never again just exist.
5) I again go to Lobby Day in Albany.
6) I start saving so I can do the NCTE lobby day in Washington next year.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: lizbeth on December 31, 2008, 09:47:21 PM
definate:
start therapy (saturday!)
get solar on the house (first couple weeks)
start going out more as me
go to coachella!

hopefully:
(re)start HRT
come out to friends and remaining family
start laser

if all goes really good:
go full time
come out at work
Title: 2009 is the year where....
Post by: Hana on December 31, 2008, 10:16:36 PM
I will...
- Figure out what i want. :-\
- See a therapist (perferable one experience in this sort of thing)
- Get better grades at college (otherwise my parents will hate me).
- Be more social
- Get a new job (as the company i was working for just went bust, it was only part time though).

But i'm so indecisive, cowardly and stupid i probably won't achieve them though :'(
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Chrissty on December 31, 2008, 10:20:27 PM
Therapy....

..nothin' more...

..nothin' less...

.........Hey!.....It's a start ?.... ::)

Chrissty
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Constance on December 31, 2008, 11:04:53 PM
...I begin to build a wardrobe based on what I want, rather than what society expects me to wear as a bio-male.

...I will hopefully finish my first book and try to get it published.

...I plan to play my guitar and keyboard more, and hopefully do some recording.
Title: Re: 2009 is the year where....
Post by: RebeccaFog on December 31, 2008, 11:59:43 PM
Quote from: Hana on December 31, 2008, 10:16:36 PM
I will...
- Figure out what i want. :-\
- See a therapist (perferable one experience in this sort of thing)
- Get better grades at college (otherwise my parents will hate me).
- Be more social
- Get a new job (as the company i was working for just went bust, it was only part time though).

But i'm so indecisive, cowardly and stupid i probably won't achieve them though :'(

Not with that attitude.  You have to be positive. You are perfectly capable of accomplishing your goals.  If it doesn't turn out the way you expect, it should never be because you didn't believe in yourself.

I wish you the best and the happiest year of your life.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Janet_Girl on January 01, 2009, 01:00:08 AM
Try to get my financial house in order.
Finish laser
Get recommendations for SRS
Possibly get an Orchie.

Janet

Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: kae m on January 01, 2009, 01:39:04 AM
I kick a bunch of bad habits, and pick up a bunch of good ones.

Ok for real...
1) Go to the gym regularly, again.  At least I already got a jump start a little over a week ago, and I'm still at it!
2) Stop eating junk, again.
3) Come out to my dad and my guy friends.
4) Start HRT.
5) Try to double up my hours per month of electrolysis so my face isn't so disgusting for a whole extra year.

And the one that's going to feel the best of all:
6) Bury my boy-mode persona for good.

Tonight I went to a friend's new years party, and I let the real me come out, not physically but socially.  It was great!  I've never felt like I could actually talk to other people and relate in any kind of normal way, but tonight I wasn't the quiet one in the corner for a change.  It's going to take a lot of work to fully come out of my shell.  But every time I do peek out from behind that shell, I end up feeling more and more like a real person.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Cindy on January 01, 2009, 01:51:19 AM
Start Laser beard remove ( is this the best way)

Go out as Cindy more

Take care of people more

Respect and Love those I dislike

Laugh
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Mia Kitten on January 01, 2009, 02:11:06 AM
----I explore who I really am.  ???
----I find a support group.  :D
----I introduce Mia to the world (Hi!)  :icon_wave:

Happy New Year everyone!
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Christo on January 01, 2009, 03:47:53 AM
I ask her to marry me :laugh: ;) ;)
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: SakuraPrincess on January 01, 2009, 06:22:43 AM
catch up with credits for school. (starting my transition interferred with shcool) umm i'm looking forward to my new school year, which is gonna be around Sep-Oct this year.Start on modeling, hopefully. i wuv taking pictures n.n umm  this month im gonna legally change my name to Sakura.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: mina.magpie on January 01, 2009, 06:23:52 AM
... I finally do take over the world.

Mina.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Mika N. on January 01, 2009, 06:55:36 AM
-start gender identity therapy

-start hrt (I hope)

-come out to my family

-already started laser hair removal, so maybe also do some electrolysis to get rid of the determined facial hairs.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: vanna on January 01, 2009, 07:00:48 AM

1. Get more education

2. Get Girlfriend (pm offers :P)

3. Avoid credit crunch and book with Brassard.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: mina.magpie on January 01, 2009, 07:32:56 AM
Quote from: Vanna on January 01, 2009, 07:00:48 AM2. Get Girlfriend (pm offers :P)

You'll be beating them off with a stick sweetie! ;D

Mina.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Chrissty on January 01, 2009, 01:27:59 PM
Quote from: mina.m->-bleeped-<-ie link=topic=52758.msg325915#msg325915 date=1230812632
... I finally do take over the world.

Mina.

....gettin' worried about these "achievable" goals you're settin' Mina...  ;D

Chrissty
Title: Re: 2009 is the year where....
Post by: KarenLyn on January 01, 2009, 01:33:44 PM
Quote from: Hana on December 31, 2008, 10:16:36 PM
I will...
- Figure out what i want. :-\
- See a therapist (perferable one experience in this sort of thing)
- Get better grades at college (otherwise my parents will hate me).
- Be more social
- Get a new job (as the company i was working for just went bust, it was only part time though).

But i'm so indecisive, cowardly and stupid i probably won't achieve them though :'(


Me too. Don't sell yourself short. You can accomplish anything.

Karen
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Shana A on January 01, 2009, 01:43:13 PM
I get healthier; need to get more exercise, drink more water and lose a little weight.

I spend less unproductive time online, and spend more time writing my book, blog, and playing/composing more music.

I continue on the journey of being more outwardly myself, whatever gender that might (or might not) be.

Z
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: KarenLyn on January 01, 2009, 01:46:54 PM
I find a new job I like.

I continue to stand by my SO in his fight with cancer.

Karen
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Alyssa M. on January 01, 2009, 02:50:48 PM
I will:
- finish classes,
- start hrt+electro/laser,
- make progress on research,
- figure out plans for going full time,
- get my finances together -- stop blowing $25 for no good reason on bar food (which will be esaier after #1 is done),
- get that tick of the north face of, you know, that one, in all the postcards, and the other one on all those other post cards ... yeah, that one ... and also, that sweet line I saw last June,
- and not be stupid and die while I pursue the previous goal.

2008 was great -- I'm expecting 2009 to be better. :)

~Alyssa
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: GnomeKid on January 01, 2009, 08:45:01 PM
Name change...
Possibly hormones... if not at least stop the bleeding
go on at least two multi-day hikes
get my gf back
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Buffy on January 01, 2009, 10:36:43 PM
I go on a Safari

Always been a dream,gonna make it come true.

Buffy
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: HHSamanthaJB on January 01, 2009, 10:43:27 PM
Well, I post on this forum for the first time ;) Hi everyone! I'll go find an introductions thread in a mo, if you have one...?

And tomorrow, I'm coming out to my dad. In the manliest of places, a pub. Ironic :)

I don't plan ahead too much, but I hope to set the whole thing in motion this year and be myself :)
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Cindy on January 01, 2009, 10:48:49 PM
Hon
That sounds awesome. Good luck and let us know how it went
Love
Cindy James
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: soldierjane on January 02, 2009, 08:31:03 AM
Quote from: mina.m->-bleeped-<-ie link=topic=52758.msg325915#msg325915 date=1230812632
... I finally do take over the world.

Mina.

Taking applications for that Novus Ordo Seclorum of yours, Mina dear? :P

Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Selene on January 02, 2009, 08:47:34 AM
I will
Start HRT
Transfer Colleges
Tell my family
Be rid of my male disguise, and be me all the time.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: soldierjane on January 02, 2009, 08:58:30 AM
Quote from: Selene on January 02, 2009, 08:47:34 AM
I will
Start HRT
Transfer Colleges
Tell my family
Be rid of my male disguise, and be me all the time.

There's one thing you can do now though, which is to change that silly boy sign you have on your profile. Embrace the truth!  ;D
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Hana on January 02, 2009, 09:02:08 AM
Selene, if that picture is you and you haven't started HRT, i am super jealous, i doubt i'd ever look anywhere near as good even with HRT.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Selene on January 02, 2009, 09:05:53 AM
Done! soldierjane I wasn't sure if it was appropriate since I am not technically female yet since I haven't had SRS
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: HHSamanthaJB on January 02, 2009, 09:13:01 AM
I must admit the male/female signs on profiles, I have been wondering whether they are for sex or gender...
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Jeatyn on January 02, 2009, 09:14:50 AM
oh wow Selene, I saw you before with the male marker, I assumed you were a female to male who hadn't started trying to look more masculine yet. You're gorgeous hun  ;D
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: soldierjane on January 02, 2009, 09:19:52 AM
Quote from: Selene on January 02, 2009, 09:05:53 AM
Done! soldierjane I wasn't sure if it was appropriate since I am not technically female yet since I haven't had SRS

Yeah I thought that was your intent, but don't worry: there's a lot of us preops here and we're not less who we are for that pesky fact ;)
Welcome to the forum by the way, and congratulations on finding yourself :)
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Selene on January 02, 2009, 09:20:15 AM
Really!? I'm flattered...I dunno I always think my nose, and chin are a dead give away. Thanks soldierjane I'm enjoying the forum and its info.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Hana on January 02, 2009, 09:26:49 AM
Really, you look pretty much perfect to me, i know for a fact that i will probably need to have a rhinoplasty if i transition, my nose is just to big and ugly to be feminine, even then it probably wouldn't help, and i just have too many things i dislike about myself to care to list. :'(
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: soldierjane on January 02, 2009, 09:56:24 AM
Quote from: Hana on January 02, 2009, 09:26:49 AM
Really, you look pretty much perfect to me, i know for a fact that i will probably need to have a rhinoplasty if i transition, my nose is just to big and ugly to be feminine, even then it probably wouldn't help, and i just have too many things i dislike about myself to care to list. :'(

We all feel that way hon, even those we deem "perfect" have hangups about their appearance
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Janet_Girl on January 02, 2009, 10:29:25 AM
Selene,

Personally I think you, Gracie, and Starbuck are all spies for the Bios.  You 'girls' can't be TS.  All of you are simple just too pretty to be any thing but GG.  And I mean that is the nicest way.  8)

Janet

Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Constance on January 02, 2009, 10:48:05 AM
Quote from: Selene on January 02, 2009, 09:20:15 AM
Really!? I'm flattered...I dunno I always think my nose, and chin are a dead give away. Thanks soldierjane I'm enjoying the forum and its info.
Don't worry about your nose. I was extremely surprised to see the mentioning of the boy disguise in your post. Your pic made me think you were already post-op.

My nose is so big, that I can apply just about all of the 101 Big D__k jokes from Drew Carrey's book Dirty Jokes and Beer and they're still funny (and nearly true).
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: RebeccaFog on January 02, 2009, 11:00:16 AM
Hey everyone. I'm later than I intended to be because I made the mistake of trying to circumvent Shade's nose while driving to my computer.

2009 will be the year I excel.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Constance on January 02, 2009, 11:04:38 AM
Sorry about that Rebis. I'll tuck the thing.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: RebeccaFog on January 02, 2009, 11:07:52 AM
It's okay. I got to see some country side that I haven't seen in a while.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Selene on January 02, 2009, 11:10:46 AM
Well thank you all...I guess I just need to convince myself that I'm attractive as a girl. I've always been told by girls that I was cute, and had a lot of openly gay guys hit on me but that was as a boy. Thats was what I always got ridiculed for the most in high school was how me the "Weird Kid" was always getting asked out and was friends with all the girls.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: RebeccaFog on January 02, 2009, 11:12:44 AM

Why can't I be weird like you instead of weird the way I am?
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Pica Pica on January 02, 2009, 11:16:41 AM
I want to finish my second book and get one of them published, I want this to be the year I do something.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Alyssa M. on January 02, 2009, 11:17:44 AM
Quote from: Selene on January 02, 2009, 11:10:46 AM
Well thank you all...I guess I just need to convince myself that I'm attractive as a girl. I've always been told by girls that I was cute, and had a lot of openly gay guys hit on me but that was as a boy. Thats was what I always got ridiculed for the most in high school was how me the "Weird Kid" was always getting asked out and was friends with all the girls.

It might help to remember that what's attractive in men's and women's faces is often the same.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: mina.magpie on January 02, 2009, 11:24:28 AM
Quote from: Alyssa M. on January 02, 2009, 11:17:44 AMIt might help to remember that what's attractive in men's and women's faces is often the same.

Yeah. Attractiveness carries a certain level of androgyny along with it.

Mina.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: fae_reborn on January 02, 2009, 11:33:55 AM
I will...

1. Get my finances in order.
2. Start an actual career instead of having just another job.
3. Relocate somewhere where I have more opportunities.
4. Feel more comfortable with and accept my body the way it is, now that I've done all I can in my physical transition (although I might start laser if I can afford it somehow).
5. Hopefully find a partner (who is also ok with me the way I am), I know she's out there...
6. Get out and enjoy nature more.
7. Be more sociable.
8. Continue working with my therapist on #4, #5, and #7.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Wendy C on January 02, 2009, 01:03:55 PM
Have my name changed next month
Start RLE
Come out at work finally
Start looking seriouly at the SRS surgeons
And just plain be myself :)

Happy New Year to you all and hope all your wishes come true. ((((HUGS))))

Wendy
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: RebeccaFog on January 02, 2009, 01:59:45 PM
Quote from: Pica Pica on January 02, 2009, 11:16:41 AM
I want to finish my second book and get one of them published, I want this to be the year I do something.

Same here. Except, screenplay instead of book.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Mr. Fox on January 02, 2009, 06:35:57 PM
Quote from: Selene on January 02, 2009, 09:20:15 AM
Really!? I'm flattered...I dunno I always think my nose, and chin are a dead give away. Thanks soldierjane I'm enjoying the forum and its info.

Your chin is more feminine than mine, and I am completely female in the biological sense.  You look a lot like my best friend (note: girl), especially the hair.
Adrian
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Vexing on January 02, 2009, 06:39:33 PM
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: HHSamanthaJB on January 02, 2009, 09:24:09 PM
Quote from: HHSamanthaJB on January 01, 2009, 10:43:27 PM
Well, I post on this forum for the first time ;) Hi everyone! I'll go find an introductions thread in a mo, if you have one...?

And tomorrow, I'm coming out to my dad. In the manliest of places, a pub. Ironic :)

I don't plan ahead too much, but I hope to set the whole thing in motion this year and be myself :)

OK, update: so, I basically was a little tipsy, but I told him that I needed to tell him something, but not in the way I was. And I told him not to worry too mucha bout it, but I'd say later. Eep?
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Cindy on January 03, 2009, 02:12:14 AM
I remember one of the the australian Les Girls, girls going for her op, and the nurses asking her. " Why do want an operation to be a boy?"
Selene I would love to hear that first therapists report. " Know dear why do you want to transition to a boy? Testosterone will have all sorts of effects on you,you know"
DUHH

Love it

Cindy James
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: vanna on January 03, 2009, 03:26:33 PM
Quote from: mina.m->-bleeped-<-ie link=topic=52758.msg325944#msg325944 date=1230816776
Quote from: Vanna on January 01, 2009, 07:00:48 AM2. Get Girlfriend (pm offers :P)

You'll be beating them off with a stick sweetie! ;D

Mina.

Thank you hunny :)

so does your world domination involve food gardens for all?? :)
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Kim6 on January 03, 2009, 03:35:09 PM
I'm not sure but it is going to be nice :) !
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: vanna on January 03, 2009, 03:40:39 PM
Quote from: Caprica-6 on January 03, 2009, 03:35:09 PM
I'm not sure but it is going to be nice :) !

And you deserve that too :)
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Jamie_B on January 03, 2009, 08:49:43 PM
1. Get a therapist (Monday I hope)
2. Start hormones (dependent on #1)
3. Come out to my sister
4. Stop the horrible unhealthy eating habits I have and eat and drink correctly
5. Phase boy mode out, phase girl mode in
6. Learn some sort of marketable skill and gain some kind of employment
7. Buy clothes!!!
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: mina.magpie on January 03, 2009, 10:11:58 PM
Quote from: Vanna on January 03, 2009, 03:26:33 PMso does your world domination involve food gardens for all?? :)

LOL. You know me too well! I'll also be scrapping all military budgets and reallocating the funds to education and healthcare instad. ;D

Mina.
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: cindybc on January 03, 2009, 10:21:02 PM
Hi Chris, that is wonderful news, can I come to the weding  ;D

Cindy
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: Fer on January 03, 2009, 11:50:41 PM
I made my last year's resolution.  I had GRS.  This year I resolve never to make an income off other people's misery and waste people's time by putting garbage on television and calling it "entertainment". ;)
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: milliontoone on January 04, 2009, 12:06:28 AM
Start T
Start studying for my degree in history
Get a flat in London and move out of these crappy rooms I'm living in!
Take up running
Lose weight
Title: Re: 2009 will be the year where...
Post by: cindybc on January 04, 2009, 12:07:22 AM
Congratulations on the GRS and I don't watch TV to hard on the stomach with all that garbage.

My new years resolution is to bug people more.

Cindy