I haven't posted on Susan's for awhile. It seems like weeks but I think It's only been a couple of days. Because of recent events (being outed on Susan's) I thought I had to go an see everybody that is close to me and tell them about myself, before someone else did. So here is how it went...
Thursday night, Portland. On a trip to Seattle for fun and to visit with relatives. Heard the news. I was outed on Susan's and that everyone in my family was upset.
Friday, canceled our trip and headed home (220 miles)
Saturday, Packed and got ready for a trip to California to try to explain things to family.
Sunday, drove to Cali. (800 miles ow) Called two of my daughters to ask if they will see me tomorrow with there husbands.
Monday morning, Called Mormon brother , no answer, left message saying would like to meet Wednesday. Called JW brother same thing on answer , left message.
Monday, went to LA, (150 miles rt) met with daughter #1 and husband. It went very well. In fact after everything was said ,she and her husband (she is pregnant BTW, will be our first grandchild) said that they are going to welcome the diversity that this will bring to our family. WOW!! what a great kid.
Monday, night met with daughter #2 and husband. It went very well. They were very understanding and had no problem with it.
Monday night Called both brothers again , still no answer, left another message saying "please call me back". Later that night I get text message from JW brother say "I don't want to talk with you , at this time" . Mormon brother called and said he's busy and can't make time. Called sister who lives in Arizona to ask if I could see her and that I could be there Thursday. No answer left message.
Tuesday went to see parents. (600 miles rt) Meeting got off to a bad start but I think it went very well, I think much better than I imagined. Although allot of damage had been done, by them having heard the news the way that they did, and from some not-so-nice people. I am very hopeful we will get through this and our relationship will continue as it was.
Wednesday, My sister (whom means allot to me) still won't take my calls and will not return them either. I am exhausted. And emotionally drained. I have to take the day off.
Although I drove all this way to meet personally with everyone , one family at a time. I feel I should not waste anymore time here. I need to be with my wife. I will leave tomorrow for Oregon. I will be there soon Mrs Erocse, I LOVE YOU !!!
Anyways that's what I've been up to.
PS. To whoever Outed me. F__K THE HELL OUT OF YOU!!! And the same goes for those who ,can make plenty of time to maliciously run and tell my parents and everyone else, but not have the decency to meet with me.
Oh and thank you, I can now get my ears pierced (asap). I finally am going to get my eyebrows shaped. I have wanted bangs (fringe) for a long time, now I going to get'em, and I can finally stop wearing that f---ing uncomfortable , hot binder
This is the end of my hiatus from Susan's. I will be back posting soon. I just need a little time to get my head clear.
Yours truly Erocse
Ps, to my friends only, Sorry about the language.
Welcome back! We've missed you.
Love
Jamie
Not a problem at all ercose. It's great to hear from you and
QuoteI feel I should not waste anymore time here. I need to be with my wife. I will leave tomorrow for Oregon. I will be there soon Mrs Erocse, I LOVE YOU !!!
even better that you've got your priorities straightened out.
For your family to judge you in this way is totally wrong. Who are they to judge you?
Lets face it, if you can't trust your own family to give you a decent break, who can you rely upon?
Wives rule.
You can't pick your family, but you sure as hell can tell them where to go.
Quote from: erocse on November 10, 2010, 11:49:59 AM
Tuesday went to see parents. (600 miles rt) Meeting got off to a bad start but I think it went very well, I think much better than I imagined. Although allot of damage had been done, by them having heard the news the way that they did, and from some not-so-nice people. I am very hopeful we will get through this and our relationship will continue as it was.
My father in law is truly a great man. My mother in law is a loving person too. My father in law confided in me that the stress can cause my mother in law to pass out for an hour. So WHO THE Hell thinks how they handled this "seemed right at the time. " should visit OZ and get a brain, a heart and some courage too. Obviously church hasn't done it for anyone. LEAVE our parents alone now. Let them have peace.
My Dear, dear friends,
Rant, rave, scream, swear, cuss. Whatever you wish. You are here among family now. You two are the nicest people I have met and I gladly count you as my friends.
You have weathered this storm and you relationship with you Mom and Dad will be stronger.
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To the low life:
Who that thought this would be funny or just wanted to be hurtful. You did not hurt this couple, instead you just hurt Erocse family. What kind of person are you.
And if you are lurking here, why? Are you just a ->-bleeped-<- who think they can get their 'jollies' by being here. If you are trans, then you have a real bad self image.
If we ever find out who you are you will be banned for life. And we do have ways of finding you.
I am sorry, Erocse and Mrs. but I have been holding my tongue on this, because you two are so close to my heart. and now I feel a little better.
Yeah.
And please remember, we all share your anger and fears. If others, who you should be able to count on, can treat you like that, we certinly won't.
No judgement here.
I am also especially sorry that your mother (in law) and father (in law) should have had to suffer so. I can undrstand your feelings. My own inlaws were the best.
*Hugs*
I am glad to see you are back Erocse! We've missed you!
It is amazing that you were able to see your daughters and parents. It's a shame that others in your family weren't willing to put in even a minimal effort in comparison to the love and effort you were putting out.
I hope that making amends with your parents takes some weight off of your shoulders. As I've said, along with so many others, the two of you are beautiful and inspiring! Welcome back! :D
I am very pleased to see you back.
Now you can fast track your transition. "Damn the torpedos!...."
I'm glad to see that even though some awful person could do that, that you and Mrs. Erocse are still on the site. I am glad things with half of your family went well. I think you handled this all incredibly well. As everyone else said, now you are out and free to begin transition ;D
My heart breaks for for you that your brothers and sister have been stubborn and possibly hateful. I find it hard to believe that it is the JW or Mormon way to hold such spitefulness and false pride in their heart. It certainly is not the true Christian way.
I am so happy for you that your own children have been so accepting and that you can now accelerate your transition!
I would like to know who that person who outed you was spineless scumbag.
I cannot think of anything more to say than has already been said, except Welcome Back!!!
You are a very strong woman!
-Sandy
Yes, Welcome Back! I admire the way you've handled the situation. You put everything on hold to attempt to heal the rift. You have done the right thing and your conscience should be clear. The ignorant will always attempt to justify their actions at the expense of the innocent and their refusal to even speak to you is pitiful-no courage there and an intense lack of concern not only for you two but for the whole family. I too have a brother and sister similar to this. I pray that their hearts will be softened and a solid relationship may still be salvaged soon.
Randi
Erosce I am waiting for you to get back. I miss you and can't wait to have you home. I LOVE YOU TOO! :-*
Good to hear from you Erosce... That is allot of travel in short time... Welcome back :)
I echo your sentiments toward the :icon_censored: :icon_censored: & :icon_censored: outer
I hope they do get found and get :icon_censored: in their :icon_censored: and hung up by their :icon_censored:
I'm just wondering how someone here at the site was able to access your personal info ???
I just read this post and your wife's post, back-to-back...and *snif*... got a bit dusty in here...
...I hope my marriage ends up being as rock-solid as yours...
We may argue an awful lot, usually about money, but...I love my wife too.
Y'all are probably too private for this, but your story would make a really great documentary...not that I know anybody who makes documentaries...
Quote from: rite_of_inversion on November 10, 2010, 08:26:57 PM
Y'all are probably too private for this, but your story would make a really great documentary...not that I know anybody who makes documentaries...
I concur.
I FEEL GREAT !!!! Got a little rest today. Then met my daughter #1 and her husband for lunch . After that we did a little shopping for the grandson we all are expecting soon ( and yes I was En femme) This will both our first grandchild and there first child. We are very excited !
I spoke to my parents today. We both had allot of nice things to say to each other. It's going to be OK.
I can't tell you enough how much it means to Mrs Erocse and I to have the friends and family here on Susan's. Along the drive from place to place when things looked kinda dismal, I thought of things like. Why couldn't I have had a brother like, Michael or Kyril or a sister like Janet , Spacial, Lacy, Cindy , Pebbles, and so many more. And then I imagined what that would be like.... OMG we would have such a BLAST !!! But really I think of all you here and some of the decisions I have made and have to make are a direct result of the encouragement I have received here. For that I thank you.
Love an Hugs, Erocse :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-*
Welcome back! I'm glad things are going decently, except for the brothers.
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I am glad that you and your parents are working this time together. You have proved that love can overcome all.
And Soon the grandson will be totally spoil by his Grandmothers Erocse. He will grow with a love very rare on this earth.
Hugs, My Sister.
Welcome home. It's good to hear from you. I can only imagine how stressful this week has been for you, but, as you have said, this looks like it may be a blessing in disguise. I do think that you've earned yourself some girly time. Go make yourself beautiful and enjoy the rest of the week.
Oh, and congrats on the soon-to-be grandchild!
GIRL POWER!!!!!!!!!!
Ok Unsympathetic Dom here :-*
You have bought Mrs Erocse something cute to wear? You have bought something cute to wear yourself? If not why not? Are you overcome with emotions? Why? Just because we all love you both? Goddess some people have no idea what love is. You have shown it to the most important people, each other.
Been a tough week for all of you. Love.
We are always here for family
Cindy
So glad to have you back.
You handle the situation very well.
Hugs,
Jillieann
Hey Erocse,
So glad to have you back!
Hugs,
Madelyn
It is good to hear from you again Erocse! You are very blessed with your wife and daughters and like many here we hope you can get back into a healthy relationship with the rest of your family after such a bad and horribly inconsiderate start. It is so great that things are looking up for you now again.
Please take good care of your wife, you to make a dream couple and are one of those few gems that prove true love does exist and can cross the gender boundaries.
Please give them all the warm regards of Rose and I.