???I am wondering,what is the best partner for M2F?My own opinion is a F2M male.What are your opinions?
I like the idea.
But then I am with a FTA so of course I might find a transman attractive enough to mate with.
find someone who like you for who you are
Yeah, I don't think there's any one kind of suitable partner for anyone. An ftm may share a similar journey and understand on a personal level. But there are cis males and people of all stripes who could be understanding too. Depends on what you're looking for.
Is there something.... 'non-op' related in this thread? ;)
Quote from: tekla on June 05, 2011, 01:15:07 PM
find someone who like you for who you are
I believe that is an important factor, but it is not enough. So far in my life I don't have a very good track record for picking partners. I think you have to make a list of what you want and need from a relationship, and try to figure out what the characteristics of the person who meets those wants and needs are.
Yeah, but its a starting point. I recommend someone with a job too.
Quote from: cynthialee on June 05, 2011, 01:12:40 PM
I like the idea.
But then I am with a FTA so of course I might find a transman attractive enough to mate with.
I like the idea of F2M because this male will still retain what most men don't have:empathy.
Quote from: interalia on June 05, 2011, 06:01:30 PM
Is there something.... 'non-op' related in this thread? ;)
I originally intended my question as 'non-op.'Although there is nothing wrong with post-op.
Quote from: Lisbeth on June 05, 2011, 07:10:31 PM
I believe that is an important factor, but it is not enough. So far in my life I don't have a very good track record for picking partners. I think you have to make a list of what you want and need from a relationship, and try to figure out what the characteristics of the person who meets those wants and needs are.
I agree Liz.Most relationships are doomed before they even begin? :embarrassed:
Quote from: tekla on June 05, 2011, 07:31:23 PM
Yeah, but its a starting point. I recommend someone with a job too.
Absolutely! Plus an empathetic mind! :angel:
Thank You,everyone for your opinions.
One more question:ARE there any safe sources to contact F2M? ???
Steph.
Quote from: stephmar on June 06, 2011, 05:56:29 AM
I like the idea of F2M because this male will still retain what most men don't have:empathy.
Unless you're speaking specifically about trans issues, that's a false assumption. It's a given that trans men will have empathy for your journey and struggles as a trans person by virtue of having gone through it themselves. But other than that, trans men are not more empathetic or more 'anything' than cis men.
Quote from: stephmar on June 06, 2011, 06:03:00 AM
Absolutely! Plus an empathetic mind! :angel:
...yeah right
Men are men.
T took away allot of my spouses empathy and give a damn.
Sexual orientation should be taken into consideration.
A man would not be a good partner for a lesbian.
Quote from: Renate on June 06, 2011, 11:30:37 AM
Sexual orientation should be taken into consideration.
A man would not be a good partner for a lesbian.
Funny, I thought breathing and wanting to reciprocate were worthwhile qualities, too.
Try here for a potential soulmate = http://myfreepersonals.com (http://myfreepersonals.com)
It has mostly Trans people there
and while your at it tell them FTM's about me and my place = http://myfreepersonals.com/pg/photos/album/15619/my-country-home-farm-6-acres-in-central-pa (http://myfreepersonals.com/pg/photos/album/15619/my-country-home-farm-6-acres-in-central-pa)
Quote from: stephmar on June 06, 2011, 05:56:29 AM
I like the idea of F2M because this male will still retain what most men don't have:empathy.
Gag me.
It's like saying, "I'd like to be with a M2F so I can have a female who retains what most females don't - a sense of direction". That's just as dumb.
I'd be willing to bet empathy is a genderless characteristic - any sex differences would be related to what culture decides it is ok for that sex to be empathetic toward.
I understand wanting to be with a transgendered partner because they would have more empathy for your unique situation, but don't cast men in such a poor light.
Quote from: Forum Admin on June 06, 2011, 08:57:33 AM
Unless you're speaking specifically about trans issues, that's a false assumption. It's a given that trans men will have empathy for your journey and struggles as a trans person by virtue of having gone through it themselves. But other than that, trans men are not more empathetic or more 'anything' than cis men.
Yeah...I'm not the most empathetic person and I haven't even undergone HRT.
Sure, I'm moreso toward my female friends than like...uh...their exes, but that's because I've seen some of the ways that they've been treated on a first-hand basis. So yeah, if they're suffering sexual harassment at work, I can empathize, because I've been there, done that. If they were treated like an idiot by a mechanic because they have breasts, I can empathize, because I've gotten that treatment until I made it very clear that I knew what the hell I was talking about, etc.
But if it's not a situation that I've seen personally? Nope. No more empathy than any other guy.
I'd be willing to bet empathy is a genderless characteristic - any sex differences would be related to what culture decides it is ok for that sex to be empathetic toward.
I'd go further and since I think that empathy is a learned behavior, and that it can be, and is, taught and cultivated, that the real differences tend to fall along lines of education (how much and what kind), and that tends to speak to social as well as cultural distinctions, class distinctions enter into it too.
It may be suitable idea for people who live in countries that refuse transgender or consider them gay and prevents same sex marriage where they both can express their feelings and live together without the need to be hiden from the society. It may help in the matter of marriage legal issues.
I have been with cisgirls in the past, and right now I am dating an mtf.
Emotionally I would say the experience feels about the same, but then I do tend to date girls who are very similar in personality.
For me, a suitable partner is someone I can emotionally bond with on the deepest level possible to where we feel like we are one being. Such people are so rare...
A cismale.
No offense to the FtMs. I can't get over them previously presenting as a "woman".
But I'd never date another transperson either.
Quote from: stephmar on June 06, 2011, 05:56:29 AM
I like the idea of F2M because this male will still retain what most men don't have:empathy.
only if true transsexualism is a fallacy. a FtM is supposed to have the brain set of males?
a FtM who retains empathy may be a confused TG/Lesbian.
sorry about that.
Quote from: stephmar on June 05, 2011, 01:06:06 PM
???I am wondering,what is the best partner for M2F?My own opinion is a F2M male.What are your opinions?
the best partner for a M2F is anybody who fully accept and love the person just the way she is.
Quote from: Natkat on December 22, 2011, 05:39:47 PM
the best partner for a M2F is anybody who fully accept and love the person just the way she is.
And who is lookin for more than "hitting that ass"
Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on December 23, 2011, 01:27:09 AM
And who is lookin for more than "hitting that ass"
Plenty of people are.
Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on December 22, 2011, 02:29:57 PM
A cismale.
No offense to the FtMs. I can't get over them previously presenting as a "woman".
But I'd never date another transperson either.
Why? I thought you were into big, butch lesbians anyway.
Quote from: ~RoadToTrista~ on December 23, 2011, 03:40:08 AM
Why? I thought you were into big, butch lesbians anyway.
Andro lesbians mainly.
Never butch lesbians... Butch gay guys though.
But you know what I like so much better? cisMEN!