Suitable Partner for M2F Relationship

[stephmar]

 ???I am wondering,what is the best partner for M2F?My own opinion is a F2M male.What are your opinions?

[cynthialee]

I like the idea.
But then I am with a FTA so of course I might find a transman attractive enough to mate with.

[tekla]

find someone who like you for who you are

[Nero]

Yeah, I don't think there's any one kind of suitable partner for anyone. An ftm may share a similar journey and understand on a personal level. But there are cis males and people of all stripes who could be understanding too. Depends on what you're looking for.

[Just Kate]

Is there something.... 'non-op' related in this thread?

[Lisbeth]

find someone who like you for who you are

I believe that is an important factor, but it is not enough. So far in my life I don't have a very good track record for picking partners. I think you have to make a list of what you want and need from a relationship, and try to figure out what the characteristics of the person who meets those wants and needs are.

[tekla]

Yeah, but its a starting point.  I recommend someone with a job too.

[stephmar]

I like the idea.
But then I am with a FTA so of course I might find a transman attractive enough to mate with.

I like the idea of F2M because this male will still retain what most men don't have:empathy.

[stephmar]

Is there something.... 'non-op' related in this thread?

I originally intended my question as 'non-op.'Although there is nothing wrong with post-op.

[stephmar]

I believe that is an important factor, but it is not enough. So far in my life I don't have a very good track record for picking partners. I think you have to make a list of what you want and need from a relationship, and try to figure out what the characteristics of the person who meets those wants and needs are.

I agree Liz.Most relationships are doomed before they even begin?

[stephmar]

Yeah, but its a starting point.  I recommend someone with a job too.

Absolutely! Plus an empathetic mind!

[stephmar]

Thank You,everyone for your opinions.
One more question:ARE there any safe sources to contact F2M?
Steph.

[Nero]

I like the idea of F2M because this male will still retain what most men don't have:empathy.

Unless you're speaking specifically about trans issues, that's a false assumption. It's a given that trans men will have empathy for your journey and struggles as a trans person by virtue of having gone through it themselves. But other than that, trans men are not more empathetic or more 'anything' than cis men.

[cynthialee]

Absolutely! Plus an empathetic mind!

...yeah right
Men are men.
T took away allot of my spouses empathy and give a damn.

[Renate]

Sexual orientation should be taken into consideration.

A man would not be a good partner for a lesbian.

[LordKAT]

Sexual orientation should be taken into consideration.

A man would not be a good partner for a lesbian.

Funny, I thought breathing and wanting to reciprocate were worthwhile qualities, too.

[Amazon D]

Try here for a potential soulmate = http://myfreepersonals.com

It has mostly Trans people there


and while your at it tell them FTM's about me and my place = http://myfreepersonals.com/pg/photos/album/15619/my-country-home-farm-6-acres-in-central-pa

[Just Kate]

I like the idea of F2M because this male will still retain what most men don't have:empathy.

Gag me.

It's like saying, "I'd like to be with a M2F so I can have a female who retains what most females don't - a sense of direction".  That's just as dumb.

I'd be willing to bet empathy is a genderless characteristic - any sex differences would be related to what culture decides it is ok for that sex to be empathetic toward.

I understand wanting to be with a transgendered partner because they would have more empathy for your unique situation, but don't cast men in such a poor light.

[MasonM]

Unless you're speaking specifically about trans issues, that's a false assumption. It's a given that trans men will have empathy for your journey and struggles as a trans person by virtue of having gone through it themselves. But other than that, trans men are not more empathetic or more 'anything' than cis men.

Yeah...I'm not the most empathetic person and I haven't even undergone HRT. 

Sure, I'm moreso toward my female friends than like...uh...their exes, but that's because I've seen some of the ways that they've been treated on a first-hand basis.  So yeah, if they're suffering sexual harassment at work, I can empathize, because I've been there, done that.  If they were treated like an idiot by a mechanic because they have breasts, I can empathize, because I've gotten that treatment until I made it very clear that I knew what the hell I was talking about, etc.

But if it's not a situation that I've seen personally?  Nope.  No more empathy than any other guy.

[tekla]

I'd be willing to bet empathy is a genderless characteristic - any sex differences would be related to what culture decides it is ok for that sex to be empathetic toward.

I'd go further and since I think that empathy is a learned behavior, and that it can be, and is, taught and cultivated, that the real differences tend to fall along lines of education (how much and what kind), and that tends to speak to social as well as cultural distinctions, class distinctions enter into it too.