I went to IP and found a girl that is going through the same thing as me. We talked about what we are going through and spent all Saturday together. OMG it is about time if only you new the relief that I have.  I have needed this for years.

Thats awesome! I know exactly what you mean. It's how I felt when I met Serena Lynn!

Go Girl!  It's a fantastic feeling, right up there with the first time someone says they see you as a woman.   

funny thing about it is my feelings changed. I started feeling more like I loved her. so now what? Love even feels different on hormones. sudden burst of care for her that feels the need to be there. It hit her also. we been talking about how we feel about each other. Is love fixable? can it be a friend when it needs to be at the time and become more in the future? we both have things that are working against how we feel for each other. I am an emotional mess but I like it OMG I like it!!!

Sounds sweet, take it slow with each other, the best long term relationships start out as a good friendship, too many folks jump right in the sack and find out afterward that the other person isn't exactly what you want.

I'd just go with the flow Jainie, and not rush anything.  When it is time to become intimate you will both know. 
I have met someone on-line lately and we have spoken on the phone a couple of times.  We have a lot of mutual friends who all think she is wonderful, so I don't have to worry about a lot of my trust issues getting in the way.  We will probably talk again this week and plan on meeting up for a coffee on Sunday.  I have a good feeling about this. 

Karen.

I cannot say that how I view love is the gold-sandard so I may not be the best for advice (and feel free to ignore me. lol) but here goes.

Love is a developing relationship that involves caring and understanding. The two of you are alike and so you feel that sudden understanding for what you have gone through, but true understanding is what I believe constitutes love for a person. This means that you have been around them for so long that you have picked up on their habits and and the little things about them they they probably dont even notice. and you like those things. The caring involved in love is much the same as the caring that you already feel but exists on a level past the self. If your willing to put yourself in harms way to help someone else (not intentionaly harm yourself mind you) then you are almost there. but the caring comes along with being with this person for a long time. looking after them when they are sick and loving them just the same even when you are mad or sad or hurt because of them. Im not saying that you arent experiencing a form of love, but for now remember that everyone goes through a honeymoon phase and that the true strngth of love will come when you have been together for awhile.

Im not bashing love at first sight, im just saying that by jumping in emotionally to quickly you could be hurt. be yourself, just be carefull.

(sorry if that was depressing, i tend to look at things in a practical light)

Quote from: jacqueline_rose on October 14, 2012, 05:11:47 PM
I cannot say that how I view love is the gold-sandard so I may not be the best for advice (and feel free to ignore me. lol) but here goes.

Love is a developing relationship that involves caring and understanding. The two of you are alike and so you feel that sudden understanding for what you have gone through, but true understanding is what I believe constitutes love for a person. This means that you have been around them for so long that you have picked up on their habits and and the little things about them they they probably dont even notice. and you like those things. The caring involved in love is much the same as the caring that you already feel but exists on a level past the self. If your willing to put yourself in harms way to help someone else (not intentionaly harm yourself mind you) then you are almost there. but the caring comes along with being with this person for a long time. looking after them when they are sick and loving them just the same even when you are mad or sad or hurt because of them. Im not saying that you arent experiencing a form of love, but for now remember that everyone goes through a honeymoon phase and that the true strngth of love will come when you have been together for awhile.

Im not bashing love at first sight, im just saying that by jumping in emotionally to quickly you could be hurt. be yourself, just be carefull.

(sorry if that was depressing, i tend to look at things in a practical light)

This true I know this in my ownself. I'm emotional about a lot of things it seems these days. Many new feelings have come my way I'm not used to them. The feelings hit me hard when i met her and hard when i realised she is moving away. just found out the moving away part. I think my loneliness is getting better part of me at this time.

Thanks for the advise I needed to hear it.

I know that I am new here, but I think that I am correct in saying "anytime sister. We are here for you!"