I've been thinking a lot about what I'm going to tell my parents when it comes time to come out to them about being transgender. At the beginning of this week, I decided that this weekend could be a good time to tell them. I'm hoping that I will get a good opportunity to say something and that nerves won't get in the way of me saying it.

I just got done writing a letter to my parents telling them about my feelings. The letter is really more for my sake since I felt it would be easier to know what I'm going to say by having it written down. Basically, I explained in the letter that I have always hidden feelings of being a girl from them. I acknowledged that I think they may have already suspected something when they found my stashes of clothing back in high school and that I was sorry about having lied to them about these feelings. I went on to explain that I am currently seeing a therapist and that we have decided that in order for me to be happy with myself, I must become a woman.

I'm hoping that all will go well for me. My parents have never seemed like the fundamentalist Christian type that would stop loving their child for coming out, but I can't say for sure how they will react. I'm hoping that I can at least help them to understand how I've always felt and that they will still love me after this.

Your plan sounds good. If your letter sounds as reasonable as this post and your parents are open and accepting, you should have no worries. Let us know, but remember that it can be a slow process. How long has it taken you to accept this? They need time as well. Good luck, hugs, Devlyn

Good luck, not with your parents I mean with your courage. 

your idea is good. i wish you the best of luck. 

I managed to tell them. Things went well for me. My mom doubts I will go through with becoming a woman, but other than that I didn't get any sort of negative reaction. I'm also going to need to sit down some time with my parents and answer some of their questions about this, but my mom said we can wait until I'm ready. I assured them that I'm taking things slow right now to make sure I don't end up doing something I will regret.

Good news! We're really proud of you! Hopefully as it sinks in they will grow and learn with you. Keep us posted, hugs, Devlyn

congrats. we are happy for you   

Sounds like a good result.  As a parent it is natural to be concerned that our children are doing well.  Sometimes we are the ones who need reassurance.

Karen.