I don't know what to do.
I was just reading some online newspaper about transsexuals in denmark and I found out of hopelessly my situation is.
As I said in another topic I am vary close to suicide and the only thing that keeps me from it is the fact that I might get T in 2-3 mounts. Even that seems to much, but I can make it!
What? The only way to get diagnosed GED is in the sexology clinic in the capital? That okay I guess.
They focus really much on the sexual bit and you have to answer a lot of personal sexual questions? That really stupid, but I can make it.
They use a vary out-dated gender system thing? I think my hair and my sexuality (asexual panromantic) might be a problem here!
Only 20% get the diagnosis GED? You can't be serious!

Let me say it a little more detailed: I have to wait 2-3 mounts to talk to wired people that will focus my sexuality a hell a lot (and keep in mind I'm young) in least 6 mounts. Then if I'm lucky I can get diagnosed GED, but only if I fit the norm (and I know I don't do that.) and after that as far as I know I have to be observed in a year before I can get on T (not sure if that's true thought).

I'm really desperate to get T (and top surgery too) and with this now information I'm ready to commit suicide. The only reason I'm not doing that is because that would be unfair for my friends.
Should I move to a different country or something? 2-3 mounts is nearly too much to wait for me. I don't think I can handle to wait a year just to hear them say no. Can you get legal HRT online or something? The other reason why I want to commit suicide is because if I don't die then maybe I could get some help and not just have to wait what seems like a million years. 

I am so sorry you are going through such a difficult situation. I don't have any advice for you, but I do hope things will get better for you.

take a breath, and prepare to fight.  Suicide is never an answer, and sometimes you sorta have to do what you needa do if your country is against you.  Just not suicide, there are other ways!  Even if they are often discouraged for good reason.

But until then, you don't know what will happen.  You may very well be passed ^.^

I know that your pain is unbearable, and you have the right to be desperate. However, killing yourself will be just a victory to those who hate you. What ever you do do not kill yourself. Find a person you trust, and share your feelings.

know that across cyberspace you are love and care. Maake plans, get busy finding what you need to do to get your way, do not dwell in despair,

Courage, XXOO

Peky

Quote from: Sparrowhawke on October 05, 2012, 02:43:22 PM
I don't know what to do.
I was just reading some online newspaper about transsexuals in denmark and I found out of hopelessly my situation is.
As I said in another topic I am vary close to suicide and the only thing that keeps me from it is the fact that I might get T in 2-3 mounts. Even that seems to much, but I can make it!
What? The only way to get diagnosed GED is in the sexology clinic in the capital? That okay I guess.
They focus really much on the sexual bit and you have to answer a lot of personal sexual questions? That really stupid, but I can make it.
They use a vary out-dated gender system thing? I think my hair and my sexuality (asexual panromantic) might be a problem here!
Only 20% get the diagnosis GED? You can't be serious!

Let me say it a little more detailed: I have to wait 2-3 mounts to talk to wired people that will focus my sexuality a hell a lot (and keep in mind I'm young) in least 6 mounts. Then if I'm lucky I can get diagnosed GED, but only if I fit the norm (and I know I don't do that.) and after that as far as I know I have to be observed in a year before I can get on T (not sure if that's true thought).

I'm really desperate to get T (and top surgery too) and with this now information I'm ready to commit suicide. The only reason I'm not doing that is because that would be unfair for my friends.
Should I move to a different country or something? 2-3 mounts is nearly too much to wait for me. I don't think I can handle to wait a year just to hear them say no. Can you get legal HRT online or something? The other reason why I want to commit suicide is because if I don't die then maybe I could get some help and not just have to wait what seems like a million years.

Hi I know how you feel, I was in your situation a couple of year ago.
Things are pretty messy in Scandinavia but at least there is some political movements going on in Denmark who might could change somethines alittle by little.

Please send me an PM, with the articla and your name, then I will put up some advice from you or hook you up with the right kind of people or places,
im not a profecional, but I have helped some people before so I will try and see if I can do something.
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p.s. actually the artical isnt nessesarry but im curious I hope its okay =)

Wow! That sucks! Hang in there, man!  Think about how much you will miss out on if you cut your life short.  You've waited so long to start T and move your transition to the next stage.  Don't cheat yourself out of that!  Seems like there are a lot of people here that have already gone through what you are experiencing.  Keep on reaching out to them!  I am a cis guy, so I can't relate as well to what you are going through, but I'm a good listener. 

I'm from Sweden and I can say that I know that feeling. The waiting sucks majorly, yeah, and I advise you to start following some TV series or something that has a new episode every week, that way you will always have something to look forward to and it doesn't seem like such a long waiting time because you've chopped it up into individual weeks.

It took about 6 months to reach the therapy team (utredningsteam, I don't know how to say that in English, hope it's similar to the Danish word for it), and then they waited 2-3 months between each visit. I managed to speed the process up a bit by calling the lead doctor daily for two weeks; in Sweden transsexuals essentially have to nag the doctors until they get the healthcare they need.

If you're worried about them judging you badly, try to lie to them. Small lies. Don't mention certain things. If they ask you if you played with toy cars or dolls when you were little and you played with both, just mention the cars. Try to dress as gender-conformingly as you can whenever you visit them.

You can PM me if you want my MSN or Facebook so we can talk some more. I'm ready to listen.

A message from my heart: PLEASE STAY ALIVE
*BIG HUGS*

Thank you everyone for your surport. I just pm'ed Natkat and Pixieboy. I'm going to a trans thingy tomorrow and I hope that they can share some advise or something on how it is in denmark.

Pixieboy The tv thing might be a good thing. And yes I did understand the 'udrednings team' thing (yes I just translated it to danish.)

Just take things one day at a time and let your brain process this and soon those individual days will accumulate into larger amounts of time and soon you'll be on T and hopefully in a happier place.  Never make drastic decisions when you're so emotional.  Just take a deep breath and try and problem solve things and you'll get through this!