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My friend is having problems with his identity

Started by Glubert, October 13, 2012, 02:05:11 PM

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Glubert

My friend is sexually male and identifies as such, but he doesn't like being so masculine and wants to take something that will make him more feminine or keep him from becoming more masculine. What should I tell him to do? He's 15 so he might have problems going through his parents and I don't want him to do this illegally because I'm afraid of him getting hurt.
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RedFox

He should probably see a therapist who can help him sort out exactly what he wants/needs and get him on the right track, whether it be hormones or whatever else he might need, if anything.  At 15 your body is a mess of hormones that messes with your brain, he should be very very careful about self-medicating as what he decides to do now may not be what he wants long term, but he could be stuck with undesirable side-effects.


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ativan

It's not a matter of just taking something.
You have to know what you want, who you are.
Sounds like he wants a shortcut to something.
There aren't any.

Without specific goals in mind, there is nothing to take.
Never self medicate.
If it means a lot to him, he is going to need support before anything else.
Send him here. There is a ton of information, and many people who will help.

A therapist who understands or better yet specializes in Trans* people would be a start.
He needs to take that first step, that and support of friends and family if he can get it, is what he can take.

Anything else will put him at risk of being hurt.

Ativan
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Glubert

He actually lives with his grandparents and has talked to his grandmother about this and she is very supportive, he has told me he doesn't intend to self medicate. He's very sure this is what he wants and I support him too, I don't think there's anyone who cares about him that doesn't want him to be happy.
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Taka

it is possible to suspend puberty. he should look into the possibilities of getting help with that, so that his body won't be masculinized while he's trying to figure out what he really wants. doing anything more extreme than that would probably not be advisable yet


something to think about? (from http://nwhn.org/transgender-youth-providing-medical-treatment-misunderstood-population)
QuoteMedical suspension of puberty

Some of puberty's changes are later reversible through surgery and medication. Others are not, however, and may permanently mark the transgender individual. For this reason, hormone blockers are now being used to suspend the natural development of puberty by inhibiting the pituitary's release of gonadatropins. The medications are called "GnRh agonists" and are fully reversible. Within six months of discontinuing GnRh agonists, the patient's body resumes puberty at the point it left off.
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ativan

Quote from: Taka on October 13, 2012, 06:14:42 PM
it is possible to suspend puberty. he should look into the possibilities of getting help with that, so that his body won't be masculinized while he's trying to figure out what he really wants. doing anything more extreme than that would probably not be advisable yet


something to think about? (from http://nwhn.org/transgender-youth-providing-medical-treatment-misunderstood-population)
This too
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Glubert

Quote from: Taka on October 13, 2012, 06:14:42 PM
it is possible to suspend puberty. he should look into the possibilities of getting help with that, so that his body won't be masculinized while he's trying to figure out what he really wants. doing anything more extreme than that would probably not be advisable yet


something to think about? (from http://nwhn.org/transgender-youth-providing-medical-treatment-misunderstood-population)

I was wondering if there was something that could simply prevent him from becoming more masculine, as he has told me that he doesn't want the effects of estrogen like breasts. Thanks for the information.
I love my Monoprice 8323 headphones. 8)
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