Men are attracted to us for a variety of reasons. Say you met a guy who wasn't aware you were trans. You get to know each other, date, have a good time enjoying each others company. After time goes on you make him aware of your history and he accepts you. When you get to know a guy before he's had the chance to judge you solely off you being trans, he get's to know you for YOU and NOT you as a transwomen, which can make things easier.

Sometimes it's best to not wonder so much, unless they have questionable motives in his attractions to you.

Quote from: Giselle on October 17, 2012, 04:59:50 PM
Men are attracted to us for a variety of reasons. Say you met a guy who wasn't aware you were trans. You get to know each other, date, have a good time enjoying each others company. After time goes on you make him aware of your history and he accepts you. When you get to know a guy before he's had the chance to judge you solely off you being trans, he get's to know you for YOU and NOT you as a transwomen, which can make things easier.

Sometimes it's best to not wonder so much, unless they have questionable motives in his attractions to you.

This is actually very dangerous and hardly ever works out. Most men will see this as deception and it could lead to violence.

I would always prefer to be up front with every guy regardless. I wouldn't want anything starting out with a lie even if you don't see it that way, he most likely will.

Quote from: Giselle on October 17, 2012, 04:59:50 PM
Men are attracted to us for a variety of reasons. Say you met a guy who wasn't aware you were trans. You get to know each other, date, have a good time enjoying each others company. After time goes on you make him aware of your history and he accepts you. When you get to know a guy before he's had the chance to judge you solely off you being trans, he get's to know you for YOU and NOT you as a transwomen, which can make things easier.

Thats exactly what happen me, you took the words right out of my mouth, my boyfriend got to know me as a woman, he now knows my history and he is now my husband, being trans is not an issue just a bit of history in my past.
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Quote from: Padma on October 17, 2012, 08:14:52 AM
that'd be straight men you're talking about, then, as opposed to the millions of bi men who like both, and the millions of gay men who don't like pussy?

even gay men can like pussy and straight guys dicks. the world isnt so simple again.
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Speaking of myself I had a couple of transgirls I been interesteed in.
For me the personalety is a very big matter in who im attracted too or not, whatever it a guy or girl,
If a girl looks like a milion but is boring or ignorant then I probabbly wont give her much thoughts.

the type of girls I usunally feel interesteed are some girls with some interesting personalety and experience, maybe a bit nerdy or tomboyish, and if they are wellknown and cool of my trans status sure this also is a great plus. its not nessesarry the popular girl or the girl with the perfect body.

I think many transgirls have this values I am attracted to, I also been told I had this myself for guys who been interesteed in me, bi or gay they have said I had some interesting points and was somehow inspirering for there life, I guess being trans gives you some life experience who make you grow emotionally to be stronger and maybe in some parts more understand?

sociaty usunally just focus on 1 type girl everyone expected to be attractive, the poster girl with perfect body and smile, but realety is we all focus on diffrent points in what girls we are attracted to.

Quote from: Natkat on October 18, 2012, 11:42:10 AM
even gay men can like pussy and straight guys dicks. the world isnt so simple again.

Well sure, that's why I was careful to say "millions of" instead of "all of" .

I'm a guy, so I'll give my two cents.

Some of us want more than a sex object, more than the stereotype of the "ideal" woman (as if there is such a thing).

I'm glad my wife was up front with her history with me.  It showed a trust and faith in me that I found very attractive.  But what most attracted me to her was her personality, intellect, humor, etc.  I wasn't looking for sex.  That said, I had no idea how good sex could be when you have a deep, pretty much spiritual, intimate, connection to someone.  It was way more than just physical.  For the same reason, I wasn't looking for a trans person either - that would be objectifying and insulting to them in my eyes.  Open, yes.  Seeking, no.

I would have married my wife no matter what parts she did or didn't have, or whether or not we could have any specific kind of sex.  I typically consider myself straight, but I suppose since I'm less interested in parts than person, I could probably be called bi.  That said, I have a hard time imagining myself in a gay relationship, and I would have been shocked if I fell in love with someone other than a woman.  But I've learned it's probably better to listen to your heart and figure out the label later rather than constrain the heart to a label.

I don't think I'm the only guy like myself by any means, and I'm sure there are better guys than I am.  I also believe there are absolute jerks who hate trans people (and, as another poster mentioned, likely women in general).  So do be careful.  But a good guy will recognize the trust and faith you have in him as a relationship progresses and will cherish that trust and faith.  You probably aren't going to find that guy at a loud party where he's trying to impress his friends with how much testosterone he has, since a trans person won't help him convey the image he wants to convey.  But he's probably not going to treat women with very much respect either.

Sorry for the rambling post, I hope something in here makes sense or helps.