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Suddenly become very impatient with incorrect pronouns

Started by malinkibear, October 26, 2012, 06:06:47 PM

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malinkibear

Hey y'all.
So, I finally started the process of getting my hormones yesterday. I'm in the GIC, and it should only be a few more months until I can start T, yay!

Maybe it's in light of this, but I've just been so grouchy when get my pronouns wrong. People I know well are all fine, but new acquaintances make mistakes. While most have been polite and apologised, it still really bugs me. But before I was always able to just laugh it off and forget about it, providing they weren't doing it to be mean.

The other night at a bar I tried to get a beer, and the chick on the bar asked for my ID, looked at it, loudly said it was a girl and that she wasn't going to serve me. I explained I was transgendered and showed her my other ID with the same name on, and she went to get her manager to debate whether she could give me the damn beer, taking my ID with her so I couldn't leave. In front of everyone on a crowded bar. It sucked. Maybe it's since that incident, but now any mistake really, really bothers me! I've even snapped at one of my lecturers because she kept using the wrong verb form in language classes to me. I was rude, and I felt bad, but I told her a year ago.

Did anyone else get increasingly frustrated by incorrect pronouns as they got closer to treatment? Obviously they're to be expected since I'm pre-T, but coming from people who I know know just drives me up the wall and really ruins my day, when it didn't used to :(
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Jeatyn

I'm getting the same way. I've been extremely lenient with some people in the past but now I'm just like...SERIOUSLY?  >:/

Especially now I'm on T, I'm stealth at college and despite a small amount of misgendering at the beginning after one correction nobody has done it since and all totally see me as a guy...so I know for a fact my appearance isn't SO female that it's impossible to see past it.

That's such an awkward situation to be in at a bar but look on the bright side...you passed so well she couldn't believe you were female even after an explanation! If I were you I would get the gender marker changed ASAP to stop that happening.
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Snowman77

Quote from: Jeatyn on October 26, 2012, 06:14:06 PM
I'm getting the same way. I've been extremely lenient with some people in the past but now I'm just like...SERIOUSLY?  >:/

Especially now I'm on T, I'm stealth at college and despite a small amount of misgendering at the beginning after one correction nobody has done it since and all totally see me as a guy...so I know for a fact my appearance isn't SO female that it's impossible to see past it.

That's such an awkward situation to be in at a bar but look on the bright side...you passed so well she couldn't believe you were female even after an explanation! If I were you I would get the gender marker changed ASAP to stop that happening.
Go get 'em tiger!  :police:
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