Ask Matt: Does My Body Determine My Support and Social Groups?

October 29, 2012 by Matt Kailey

http://tranifesto.com/2012/10/29/ask-matt-does-my-body-determine-my-support-and-social-groups/?utm_medium=twitter&utm_source=twitterfeed

A reader writes: "I am an FAAB (female-assigned at birth) genderqueer individual who is also gay. I never pretend to understand being trans, transitioning, and all of those experiences that I will never have.

"However, I got a kick in the gut tonight from very good friends (four lesbians, one gay guy) who completely slammed the whole trans umbrella.

"They essentially said that they do not believe that trans women belong in spaces such as the women's group at the LGBT center, and same for trans men with the men's group. I asked where I fit, and they were like, 'You have a vagina, don't you? With the women, duh.' I felt like my entire identity was invalidated in that moment by the last people who should be doing that.