Quote from: peky on October 27, 2012, 11:07:02 AM
Bad luck with your search!

Why would you say something like that?
Doesn't sound like no-offense-taken to me.


Now that that's out of the way... To the OP:
My advice is to be yourself, be honest, be realistic. Don't be shocked, hurt or disappointed if a woman doesn't want to date you because you're trans (or something having to do with that). Everyone wants what they want, and it's better to just find someone who's cool with you the way you are. There's plenty of nice women out there who are straight and happy to date a transguy. Meet ladies through things that you enjoy, and don't necessarily angle for a relationship right off the bat.

Honestly, it is very important to me also that whoever I choose to date - whether it's a man or a woman - sees me as a man. So I get why you want to date heterosexual women.

Good luck and stuff. Also, it'll prob be easier after transition. First impressions mean a lot, and if someone sees you immediately as a guy before you even introduce yourself, I think it'll be easier for them to see you as such even knowing you're trans.

While I am looking at this from the Les side of the fence, I found that by just blurting out my feelings I let someone know how I truly felt and they responded the same way.  By taking a risk I broke the ice for both of us, and we were able to avoid a lot of stuffing around and missteps.  I now have found someone I could happily spend the rest of my life with.

You are unique and have shown immense amounts of quiet courage and resilience, qualities women want in a partner, regardless of orientation.  You will find her, and she will be worth the wait and the effort.

Karen.