I posted something kinda similar to this a while ago...I know the pregnant girl thing was really stupid in my part and I sort of got my head together soon after.
But I am definitely starting to develop feelings for someone else at work. And those feelings had been there a while before I even liked the pregnant girl, but I figured I had ZERO chance so why even think about it you know?

Lately though, I just get the feeling that maybe I wasn't wrong. My problem is that I was never good at telling the difference between flirting and just being friendly. But I swear there is more to it...But again, I might be blind. I really like this girl though. I had feelings for her a while but I was in a two year relationship and felt so guilty about dreaming of her. I thought my relationship was great and it would just pass. Needless to say that relationship is over and feelings haven't passed.
Here's what's been going on. When I would joke and talk to the other girl, she'd try to separate us and I would honestly sense some jealousy. But I thought, eh maybe i'm just wrong and she just wants me to get back to work lol but then she would stop me and start talking to me. And I gave the other girl a cardboard hoop thingy which she wrote my name on and I noticed she actually spelled my name right. Well she was so proud and quickly the girl I have had feelings for jumps in and says "I've always spelled your name right. I always write it correctly on the schedule". Anyway, she's always teasing me and smiling at me a certain way.
Now the new thing is calling me "My love". She did that multiple times yesterday and when she had to leave she said "goodbye my love" as she walked past me. I had the goofiest smile on my face and she turned back to smile at me again in that way that makes me question so many things. Yesterday she was putting her head on my shoulder and stuff. And I feel like she's always trying to brush up against me. But some women are very touchy feely so I'm trying to ignore that.
Another thing is she has fixed my collar more than once now. I don't know, that just seems like a nice thing to do...It makes me happy but obviously it doesn't take much to make me happy.

My problem is she might have a boyfriend. I am almost certain of it. But I was in my relationship for two years and obviously being in a relationship doesn't necessarily mean that things are set in stone forever. I would never want to ruin a relationship. And I don't plan on doing anything inappropriate. But I want to find out more about her. I want to just hang out with her so I plan on asking her to hang out this week. Do you guys think I'm stupid for doing this? Am I just seeing things where they aren't?

OH! And she knows I hate this dude that comes into work just because he's a creep and some idiots had stocked things that weren't supposed to be out yet and this dude was grabbing them. Well she came to me holding the things and said something along the lines of "I took them away from him just for you".

Can't advise you on relationships as I don't really do those myself, but what you're describing sounds pretty normal to me if you don't mind me saying.

Have fun.

Normal in what sense? In the friendship sense?

She could just be really friendly or she could be flirting; it's hard to tell with some people until they actually say something.  If it is flirting, I'd be wary of anyone who flirts that much while currently in a relationship.  To me it means that they have commitment issues and/or may be likely to cheat or at least appear as if it has crossed their mind.  Personally, even if I had feelings for a girl who did all of that, I wouldn't go for her.  I don't like the idea that I could start dating her and she would probably keep flirting with other people, but I'm not exactly the type of person who likes to share unless it's within a stable polyamorous relationship.  (See:  they had better not go around fixing other people's clothing, saying 'my love', giving other touches, etc.  Hugs are fine and dandy, but not much else.)

But the girl could also just be rather friendly.  I've known people who have acted like with other people (not with me because I won't allow someone to do that with me out of a general desire not to be touched and called things like 'my love') because they were just naturally friendly and touchy-feely.

Bull->-bleeped-<-, of course she's flirting. The question is with what intentions is she flirting with. Some girls just like to have fun, some girls want something to come from it. If you want to know for sure, ask if she has a bf. If she's dating somebody, don't get involved and enjoy the fun times on the job. If she doesn't, invite her to go do something you both enjoy and try to pay for her or something and see how she responds. Unless she's a bitch, she'll only let you pay for her if she's interested, but make sure it's not a trivial amount that can be brushed aside as a generous friend move.

I'd say she's flirting. The real question, as JBC points out, is whether she is flirting for fun or for "profit."

Quote from: Jayboicurtis on November 25, 2012, 02:41:12 PM
Bull->-bleeped-<-, of course she's flirting. The question is with what intentions is she flirting with. Some girls just like to have fun, some girls want something to come from it. If you want to know for sure, ask if she has a bf. If she's dating somebody, don't get involved and enjoy the fun times on the job. If she doesn't, invite her to go do something you both enjoy and try to pay for her or something and see how she responds. Unless she's a bitch, she'll only let you pay for her if she's interested, but make sure it's not a trivial amount that can be brushed aside as a generous friend move.

Dude thanks so much. Honestly, it feels like I'm going crazy sometimes and that I'm just completely clueless. The "my loves" haven't stopped today either. So yeah...Maybe tomorrow or the next day I'll ask her to hang out.

Quote from: Stewie on November 25, 2012, 07:29:30 PM
Dude thanks so much. Honestly, it feels like I'm going crazy sometimes and that I'm just completely clueless. The "my loves" haven't stopped today either. So yeah...Maybe tomorrow or the next day I'll ask her to hang out.

Fo sho. Let us know how it goes.