I hate having to tread on eggshells on this site. It seems like if I say one normal thing I'm gonna have about ten people correct me on my political correctness. I come here to be comfortable talking about this sort of thing but I honestly feel more comfortable with my friends. Which doesn't give me much for options, considering barely anyone knows I'm trans let alone what trans even is. I'm honestly pretty pissed off that the one place I come to be myself (i.e., the internet, in particular this forum) is the one place I have to hide being who I truly am. That kinda goes against everything Susan's stands for, don't it?

Oh well, maybe I'm just being overly sensitive. Whatever.

"Treading on eggshells"
<shaking head slowly>
Should have been in my Cliche thread.
Hugs, Devlyn

If it's of any consolation to you Seb, I feel that way sometimes.

But We need to remember, this site is for more than one purpose, it is intended to cater for a wide range of people, around a similar, but never identical issue.

One of the biggest frustration I have here is the tendency to view transision as the most ideal objective, while I'm sure, for many, that isn't a reality, not matter how much it hurts and it does.

But you, I and others, we need to be patient. Patient for conversations to work their way, that way. Patience, for openings in conversations and ways for us to express ourselves without hurting others.

And I'm pretty certain, nay, absolutely certain that Devlyn, Susan and everyone will agree, that that last point is what really counts. However frustrating it is, and it is.

First, I am sorry you feel that way. That is a crappy feeling to have.

Second, every once in a while I feel like that too. I try and keep in mind that everyone here comes from a different culture and will inevitably take things different than I mean them. I just try and only post responses that I think are semi important.

I've felt that way at times and have left due to it. But I came back too. You just have to try to avoid some things except in private messages with people who are willing to listen/discuss certain things. Just be glad most don't just outright ignore you, that's a worse feeling in my book.

Thank you guys for the kind words. Devlyn, you made me laugh. And thank you Jill and Brooke as well. I guess there is no way to make everyone happy, that's for sure.  And yeah, you're right. I've been on that end too. It seems like the only times I get heard sometimes are when I'm mad.

If you could make everyone happy, hon, you'd either be a very wealthy gentleman, or some sort of deity.

Sometimes it's not the walking that's the hard part. It's keeping your balance. We all go through it at some times. Even I have to bite my tongue sometimes, or take a deep breath and count to ten (or infinity). What's important is that you remember that you're valued here, even if it doesn't feel like it. And what you have to say is no less important than anyone else. Just different, perhaps. The differences in opinion are what keep this site running. If everyone thought the same, about everything, it would get boring real fast. *big hugs*

Hah!  Eggshells!  Try visiting the "Religion" sub-forums and see what we regularly do to each others' ideas!

(just kidding) 

Someone once said that "God placed the tongue behind the jail-bars of the teeth, chained in the muscles of the lips" in order to contain such an unruly device!

Quote from: Seb on December 06, 2012, 12:00:17 PM
It seems like the only times I get heard sometimes are when I'm mad.

Oh yes! Oh so yes!

Thanks so much, Seph, you made a lot of sense and that means a lot to me.

Haha what a great quote, Inc! But there's no way I'm stopping into that sub-forum I've already had enough problems with religion on the internet. I'm a Christian living with an agnostic partner, too!

Just talking with you guys gave me a little more hope, I think I was exaggerating it wanting to leave...I do like a lot of you guys, it's just sometimes I get a bit down in the dumps and dramatic. I've gotta just calm down I suppose.

Quote from: Seb on December 06, 2012, 12:40:44 PM
I think I was exaggerating it wanting to leave...I do like a lot of you guys, it's just sometimes I get a bit down in the dumps and dramatic. I've gotta just calm down I suppose.

It happens to most people, hon. It's part of being human. I would say that learning to calm down is sometimes harder than it sounds. Emotions are powerful creatures. One thing I used to do was just find an outlet for it, to get it out of my system. Once it's gone, it's gone.

Here's something to try - when you're feeling down in the dumps, open a blank document in a word processor, or get a blank sheet of paper and a pen, and just let it all out onto there. Everything you feel. If you want to swear and totally give it both barrels... do it. Get it out of your system. No one has to see it. Once you've vented your spleen and the anger you're feeling has dissipated... either close the document without saving, or screw up the sheet of paper and throw it in the bin. Call it a symbolic act of closure. You'd be surprised how often that worked for me during some very dark times in my life.

That's a very good idea, Seph! I think I'll do that next time, just to get out my aggressions. Usually I just whine to my boyfriend who is pretty good at handling me, but he's sleeping right now and I just boiled over.

Thanks all of you guys.

I kind of agree with you.  On one hand I can see where people urging everyone to be politically correct are coming from.  Most of us deal with being treated badly or as less than others in real life, and this forum is meant to be a safe space for everyone.  But there have been times when I've vented on certain topics and then been told that I shouldn't say things like that.  If this is a safe space, it should also be a safe space to speak one's mind.