I don't know if anyone else has experienced this or if it's just me being overly sensitive.  I am currently living with my good friend and her little boy since I was laid off 3 months ago.  Over all it has been pretty good, sometimes we argue but she's like a sister so I think that's normal.  The first thing that bothers me a little is her little boy is 4, I am his godparent.  I love him to death, but sometimes he slips when addressing me.  Before I started my transition he always called me 'uncle' and it was hard in the beginning to try to get him to start calling me 'aunt becca'.  Since I moved in he hasn't slipped up too much, but the other day I had taken him to the playground, and he made the slip (he was excited to show me something he had found & I realize it was unintentional) but it embarassed me in front of everyone else their.  Has this happened to anyone else while in public? And how do you deal with it? At home I just gently remind him, remember I'm aunt becca now. 

The second thing that bothers me are pictures of me before I began my transition.  I almost want to cry when I see them.  My friend removed most of the pictures that included me in them pre transition when I moved in.  But on one of the walls is a framed collage of photos of her son, one of which is at his baptism 4 years ago.  Of course I was pre everything then, anyway seeing it there every day is really starting to bother me.  Am I being overly sensitive? 

It is normal, I have it also so I have no more informations 

I think you are being overly sensitive, but it is understandable. We all tend to suffer from it to some degree. As for the playground incident I just would have laughed and then corrected him saying "I cannot be Uncle Rebecca - I am an Aunty" - particularly if you have a feminine speaking voice. People will just assume that it is a small child slow to sort out his words.

I agree with Bev.  Children make mistakes at that age.  It is normal.  As far as the picture is concerned, that isn't you now.  Just let it slip into the darkest places of you memory.  It is someone else.  And it is about the boy, not really you.

Most kids that age, I've noticed, confuse their gender pronouns quite a bit, especially when they're excited or upset. I have step-children, seven and eight, that still get switched up on calling their mom, dad and dad, mom - both cis-persons. Most people won't consider it a transgender slip, but just a 'normal' slip of tongue.

This is a tough one. I transitioned in place and many people knew me as a guy for decades so they do slip. Some don't even try that hard and it's hurts, but I try to just ignore it. The people who don't even try, I tend to just avoid. I figure if I plainly explain it to them and they ignore my wishes, no reason to be friends with people like that. As you said, I mainly have a problem when they do it around other people who don't know me. I'm talking about adults, I'm not sure how I would deal with a child.

I didn't throw away all old pictures of myself but I sure don't look at them or have them displayed.

And as others have said, people do switch gender pronouns simply by mistake, mainly calling women by male ones, so I wouldn't stress too much.

I am pre-everything and present about as manly as possible, and my OWN young children occasionally call me "mommy" when they're in a hurry or excited about something.  It's not unusual. 

You shouldn't let it bother you. Your godson didn't call you uncle on purpose to hurt your feeling, he just slipped. I may feel a tad embarrassed in your situation but I wouldn't think about it much 5 minutes later.

It's natural to be sensitive, but I don't think you need to worry that your godson will accidentally out you.  Kids that age often get their words mixed up and people expect it.

Thank you EVERYONE for all of your thoughts and advice.  I think I was being a tad sensitive, no one probably even noticed my godsons slip of words but me.  I need to focus on the person I am now, and be happy with how far I've come.

Quote from: Becca L on December 06, 2012, 03:10:51 PM
Thank you EVERYONE for all of your thoughts and advice.  I think I was being a tad sensitive, no one probably even noticed my godsons slip of words but me.  I need to focus on the person I am now, and be happy with how far I've come.

Exactly! For example, I was at my old workplace and my boss was talking to some customer. I joined in and my ex-boss referred to me as "he" and the customer just gave me a short -O.o- look as the customer continued to say she etc towards me. I really don't think a wrong pronoun here or there is going to out you to anyone.

You're right Stephe, I don't think so either.....normally if it's a slip by someone who did it unintentionally I can look past it, I for some reason was just very embarassed by the accidental slip that day for whatever reason.  Emotional day I guess.....sorry your ex boss said that in front of your customer! Hopefully you're no longer in that situation.

Quote from: Becca L on December 06, 2012, 07:38:55 AM
Am I being overly sensitive?

No.