Im a straight guy who plans on transitioning to a female. But I was curious as to who you guys are more accepting in the dating world women or men? Im also 21 years old so it maybe different depending on the generation. But thanks for the help!

Hi Ali and welcome,

Do read the rules in the announcement section.

Gender and sexual preferences concepts are a bit strange sometimes.

Not sure what you mean that you are straight guy transitioning to female. Does that mean you prefer guys? Because the 'normal' reference point for females is that straight females prefer guys as sexual partners. Nothing wrong with any combination but your question is odd.

Please clarify

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Cindy

Your gender and your sexual preference are two different things. Meaning that even if you transition to female, you can still like girls, guys, or both. There are no rules or restrictions. Find someone you like and who likes you. That's about it.

Haha ya my bad. Since I havent officially gone Full time I sadly still consider myself a guy until im comfortable being a girl full time so when I say im straight I mean I only like women. I was just curious which gender is more comfortable in dating a trans person from everyone elses view point

I don't think sexual orientation has anything to do with gender. Therefore, I could not give a solid answer as to what gender(s) have less issues with trans people.

I know there is a HUGE difference between gender and sexuality. Im just asking a simple question of since you have transitioned have men shown more interest in you or have women? Cause i feel most men will not like it cause of the social aspect of it while lesbian or bi women might not like the idea of dating what used to be a guy. And let me say again im not saying gender and sexuality are the same thing

I can only relate my experience girl.

So,  before transition and hormone replacement therapy(HRT). I was just interested in females. After a year or so on HRT  I found myself attracted to both. So, but because of jobs and kids I did not chase after anybody but what you know, I have been 'hit' by both dudes and girls; I dated them both, but as I said, my life is to busy for a gf or bf.

Gender and sexuality. Still almost impossible to separate the two in my mind, even though they are distinctly different. I've always identified as liking women to myself and the world. And identified as male to the world and female to myself. I'm pre-HRT and pre-transition and looking back on my dating history, realizing that I was never really into women, but I'm not really into men either. I don't enjoy being with women because of the penetration... it's in the wrong direction. So I'm at a point where I'm wondering if I'm really into guys and attraction is on a different level than I'm used to, or if I'm really a lesbian unable to express those feelings because of this darn body.

For being hit on, it depends on what sex I'm portraying. I've never been hit on by a man when in male mode, it's always women, but I've been hit on by men while in girl mode. I think it really depends on where you're going to meet people more than the point in your transition.

Quote from: Ali83 on December 07, 2012, 12:36:28 PM
Haha ya my bad. Since I havent officially gone Full time I sadly still consider myself a guy until im comfortable being a girl full time so when I say im straight I mean I only like women. I was just curious which gender is more comfortable in dating a trans person from everyone elses view point

I don't think anyone can give a real answer for that lol.
I'm a cis woman who's boyfriend is FtM (pre-everything), and when he still identified as lesbian (masculine though), he was hit on by everyone. Guys, girly girls (such as myself), and even other masculine lesbians. I mean, I guess it's different for us because we started dating before he came out as FtM, but I'm pretty sure it'll be the same once he transitions lol.

It's just a matter of finding a person you connect with. And obviously your sexual preference, no matter what it is. If you like girls, then go for girls, cause trust me, there are a lot of different people out there. And you won't know till you try right?

Well tbh... it won't really make any difference. there are different people with different sexual preferences and each person would react differently to us be transgendered.

So it really makes no difference and sexuality and sexual preferences can change over time. So you need to do whatever makes you happy.