I'm going to play devils advocate...I couldn't imagine what they'd do to me in the male side of Orleans Parish Prison, which is one of the most dangerous places to be jailed in the USA
Well I'll play devil's advocate and basically agree with michelle and tell you that I'm sure you would not fare much better on the female side. There was a long running individual in here with a prison fixation and they were constantly bringing up the issue and frequently singled out California and I kept trying to tell them that going to a female prison in Cali ain't no walk in the park. Between the outright psychos (most of the people in custody have mental health and substance abuse issues), and the people who choose to live a criminal lifestyle, particularly the urban gang members, there are lots of extremely violent females in US prisons. There is a tendency in criminal courts to try to avoid putting women in prison, so those that make it there are there for some pretty bad stuff.
In a female prison I may be ridiculed for having male body parts
My guess is that you would fare no better in a female prison than in a male one. It's highly likely that you'd be getting the broomstick rape on a constant basis and most likely the rusty razor SRS too. After all, lots (perhaps a majority) of the women in jail have a history of psychical, mental and sexual abuse by males and now you show up and present an opportunity to revenge all that. And the other women in there who don't have a real hate toward men are not going to like you any better and are far more likely to go along with the group than to try to protect you.
To be one of the guys they would have to be as tough as any of the other guys.
Most likely that would be impossible, as some of those people have been working on being tough 24/7 since the day they were born. They were born to, and raised in violence. They like violence, they practice it, they are highly skilled at it and they have had 20+ years to do little but work to develop it. Many are cold-blooded killers. Many are psychopathic/sociopath. You're not going to be able to catch up with them.