I tried being a lesbian once. It didn't work.

And by that, I tried to pretend I was just a really, really, really butch woman for a girl I was interested in, as she was exclusively lesbian. In the end, we had to cut it off because I couldn't pretend I was a woman anymore. It really sucked because I really liked her, but you can't help who you're attracted to, so.... -Shrug.-

Quote from: Siege on December 28, 2012, 10:04:13 PM
I tried being a lesbian once. It didn't work.

And by that, I tried to pretend I was just a really, really, really butch woman for a girl I was interested in, as she was exclusively lesbian. In the end, we had to cut it off because I couldn't pretend I was a woman anymore. It really sucked because I really liked her, but you can't help who you're attracted to, so.... -Shrug.-

Are you trying to say lesbians can't take being "Under Siege"? 

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Are you trying to say lesbians can't take being "Under Siege"? 

I laughed way too hard.
And also choked on my food.
Now my roommate's worried I'm dying.

[/Wheezes]

I definitely know how you feel, guys. My attraction to girls never felt gay: it just felt like how a regular hetero guy should feel about women, and the term "lesbian" always felt really wrong because of that.

Likewise, I feel really gay when I catch myself looking at men.

It has never been a word I identified with... I don't mind being called, butch, boi, dyke, queer or trans - I am gender-flexible with my pronouns, though I prefer sir over ma'am.... but the term "lesbian" has never felt right to me... I think I kind of shocked some of the women at Church when I shared that - it never occurred to some of them that not identifying as a "lesbian" was an option.

For a long time I was confused and uncomfortable being attracted to girls. Being gay (I also couldn't say lesbian) doesn't bothered me, just the fact that I was born a girl.

Quote from: Simon on December 28, 2012, 01:29:45 PM
This.

I would leave the locker room and change in a bathroom stall.

That.
One time, I was waiting in the locker room because we were forced to stay until the bell rang and I was already done changing. I started daydreaming while facing in the general of this girl who was still changing and it was VERY awkward when she noticed me and quickly covered up, and the abrupt motion snapped me out of the daydream and I accidentally made eye contact with her as I was figuring out what the heck happened....-awkward turtle-

I hate being associated with the term lesbian, and I also disliked people referring to my ex as a "partner" instead of a "girlfriend." Maybe it's just me, but the meaning of partner sort of invalidates the relationship (I don't mean to offend anyone who refers to their romantic interests as partner). I'm a straight guy...so why should the ladies I'm in relationships with be referred to differently than they would be if they were in relationships with bio males? (she's straight btw)

Quote from: bballshorty on December 30, 2012, 02:57:54 AM
I hate being associated with the term lesbian, and I also disliked people referring to my ex as a "partner" instead of a "girlfriend." Maybe it's just me, but the meaning of partner sort of invalidates the relationship (I don't mean to offend anyone who refers to their romantic interests as partner). I'm a straight guy...so why should the ladies I'm in relationships with be referred to differently than they would be if they were in relationships with bio males? (she's straight btw)

The term "partner" always makes me think of a business relationship instead of anything romantic.

The term lesbian frustrated me for some reason- I just hated using it and refused to call myself one. That was one of the things that helped me realise I was trans.

It's been good to hear all of your replies guys. Very interesting, thank you
Joey

When I was around 13 I didn't know anything about being trans or being gay.  I had never heard the term transgender and didn't really know what I was into, but I wondered if I was a lesbian because I felt so much like a guy.  Later on I realized that I couldn't be a lesbian because I wasn't into girls...