I been a good long time since i have created thread on this site and figure this is a good topic to use.

So i start uni soon and well i have been on HRT for a year and a half I dont really pass because i still have short hair and a few other reasons.(went to a Catholic school (worst place to send anyone in my postion ever!) ) anyways i was just wondering think it would be best i just go in saying yea I am girl believe it or maybe rather hide for a bit and observe if I could be happy doing so.

I know this is something best decided by yourself but hey a little extra advice never hurts(possibly).

I would imagine it would be easier if you went there and stuck with a single presentation. Rather than go there obviously as a guy and then be all like hey I am actually a girl now?

Like you said though best decided by yourself and I do not exactly have any major experience myself so do not listen to me too much!

My advice having just left uni..

If you feel you are atleast 80-90% passable, go in as a girl. Some people will clock you but heaps won't. But the main reason I think you should go in as who you are, is because you won't waste time making friendships and getting to know people as a male.

I really wish I started my transition a few years ago at the start of uni, I missed out on so many opportunities and most of the friendships I had didn't work out because I wasn't very social as a male.

Personally, I would take the risk, you might be surprised who you meet and how they treat you.

I am pretty sure with a simply eye brows waxing and growing out of my hair i could pass 50% to 60% of the time XD but yea its a risky thing. Thank you for replying btw.

I went near full time for my final semester of graduate school.  You can guage my passably from my avatar cause that pic was taken at the time.

If you feel ready, I say plan out what you need to do in order to make it happen and go to school as a girl because:

Quote from: aleah on January 01, 2013, 08:11:50 AM
But the main reason I think you should go in as who you are, is because you won't waste time making friendships and getting to know people as a male.

I really wish I started my transition a few years ago at the start of uni, I missed out on so many opportunities and most of the friendships I had didn't work out because I wasn't very social as a male.

Personally, I would take the risk, you might be surprised who you meet and how they treat you.

I was joyously surprised by my classmates and professors when I started to present as female.  There is also the matter of it takes energy better spent on your papers and exams to stay in male mode!

But do it only if you feel you are ready.  It's ok if you are not.  Just if you rush too soon, that's where you can easily get into trouble making it best to err on the side of caution.

Good luck with your studies, and don't forget to enjoy yourself too!

my therapist dd not like the idea when I told her I would go to Seminary as a boy and then a year later, I will switch over.

My therapist told me, while my professors and students will be supportive, it would be confusing. Boy one year, girl the next.

So I just went in as a girl and thought who the hell cares if I pass or not,

I've recently gone back to uni, still in guy mode, but I don't have much choice. I was already a student there, and I'm well known in my city. It will be confusing for people regardless of how I proceed, so I'm waiting to go full time until I can pass.

 Well, presenting as female from the start is advisable if you wanted to switch halfway through. Cis people don't handle the "switch" very well. Additionally, you would end up with more respect from your peers by the end of your education, because you had the courage to be true to yourself even when it wasn't easy. People in universities are a bit more open-minded, on average, so it's a decent place for it.

Quote from: Kelly J. P. on January 01, 2013, 10:32:31 PM
Well, presenting as female from the start is advisable if you wanted to switch halfway through. Cis people don't handle the "switch" very well. Additionally, you would end up with more respect from your peers by the end of your education, because you had the courage to be true to yourself even when it wasn't easy. People in universities are a bit more open-minded, on average, so it's a decent place for it.

I agree

Among other things I teach at a Uni, I also transitioned 'on the job' and went from an apparent 'male' lecturer to a female one during a lecture series. Good way to get the students attention  .

I would go as you, the real you. Uni as others have said is a very accepting place and many people are getting to terms with their sexuality and their feeling of who and what they are. It is part og the 'growing up' that young people go through at that age and in what is usually a liberal environment.

Uni's also (at least in Australia) have very strict rules for gender discrimination and for tolerance of minorities in any aspect be it race, colour, religion or sexuality. So if you do have a problem you can expect good support from both the teaching staff and from the various agencies at the Uni.

And by the time you have your degree you will be comfortable in your life and ready to go forward as you.

Hugs

Cindy

Quote from: Cindy James on January 02, 2013, 01:40:15 AM
Among other things I teach at a Uni, I also transitioned 'on the job' and went from an apparent 'male' lecturer to a female one during a lecture series. Good way to get the students attention  .

I would go as you, the real you. Uni as others have said is a very accepting place and many people are getting to terms with their sexuality and their feeling of who and what they are. It is part og the 'growing up' that young people go through at that age and in what is usually a liberal environment.

Uni's also (at least in Australia) have very strict rules for gender discrimination and for tolerance of minorities in any aspect be it race, colour, religion or sexuality. So if you do have a problem you can expect good support from both the teaching staff and from the various agencies at the Uni.

And by the time you have your degree you will be comfortable in your life and ready to go forward as you.

Hugs

Cindy

I am from South Africa and we have major laws against people being open racist sexist etc so i should be fine.

Quote from: Annah on January 01, 2013, 09:14:13 PM
my therapist dd not like the idea when I told her I would go to Seminary as a boy and then a year later, I will switch over.

My therapist told me, while my professors and students will be supportive, it would be confusing. Boy one year, girl the next.

So I just went in as a girl and thought who the hell cares if I pass or not,

Yay for Annah :3 youve helped me over the years thanks and then well ya i was gonna discuss this with my therapist soon but he's on holiday so I gotta wait ><.


Thank you for all the replies and from them i am about 80% go as me 20% go as male so thanks.