Hello y'all,

I have been looking at threads on google and here and there, and have found very few threads exclusively on people transitioning in their 40's. I have found threads of people transitioning in their 20's, 30's and even 50's, but oddly they skipped 40's...hmmmm. So I figure after much research and hunting around, with no avail of finding a thread of people transitioning in their 40's, to start one, so here I go...

I started hrt in November, 27, 2012 at the eve of my 44th birthday, and well, I"m technically in my mid-40's and will turn 45 in March 24. I just wanted to know of other people who transitioned and how has it gone for you? I will post here and see where others are at in their transitioning. I was on hrt in my mid-20's for two years on and off, but that was 20 years ago more or less exactly, I had some development but I feel it got reversed to a great extent. My Testosterone levels were on 11/20/2012 524 pg/nl and on 12/12 they went down to 124 pg/nl. My estradoil levels went up from 11/20/2012 of 18.7 to 12/12/2012 of 200.3. So it seems to be working the hrt, and I do have greater sensitivity in my chest area and I have had three crying spells with fights with my girlfriend.


Lucia,
P.S., If somebody else started a thread of people transitiong in their 40's, MTF's, please let me know so I won't reinvent the wheel per se.

Forgot to add, I made up with my girlfriend after the fights, which has become a whole lot easier since I started hrt.

Lucia,

I started just before my 41st birthday and I turn 50 this March 25th. I've only done hrt and some laser to date, but been fulltime for over 6 years. Its had its ups and downs, but overall, I suppose its gone well enough. I lost some friends, but my immediate family accepted it, some quicker than others. I don't have kids and haven't been married since I was 30, so I didn't have any of those complications.

I'm just starting my transition and I turn 40 in March.  Can I assume this 40's club applies to me? 

So far things are a mixed bag.  I've come out to nearly all my family and friends and have been accepted though no one seems to believe I'll really follow through with it.  I've got two teenage daughters and two little boys and a spouse that is divorcing me after I came out to her.

Physically... no hormonal changes yet as I don't start HRT until mid-January-ish.  But I'm growing my hair out and have cleaned up my appearance - and have started dressing a bit more feminine - or at least less masculine.  I want the face and body to go with the clothes before I go out in public.

I don't know if there's another thread on transitioners in their 40s.

This is a good thread...I'm in my late 40's, started HRT about 10 months ago, have nice "A" cups already (c'mon, rolling the dice for a "C"...)...feel much better, but also much the same...?

Separated on good terms with the ex, am ready to move on with the divorce. One child accepts me totally, the other 2...not so much.

Work accepts me totally. Came out in May, went FT in June with the legal name change.

Most of my body hair is gone, lasered whiskers 12x, but still shave everyday (I can skip it once in a while, but it's not regular) Razors last much longer now, before was about 4 days, now it's almost 2 weeks/cartridge. (using quattro)

*hugs*

I'm 43 now and have been on HRT for nearly 19 months. So far, I've got AA-cup breasts and people tell me my face looks rounder.

Hi, Lucia,

I'm 44 as of early Dec. and have been on the stuff for a little over 4 months, with dosage increased from the starting regimen 2 weeks ago. I've been pleased with my progress so far in terms of the major indicators. Most importantly, I feel authentic and congruent for the first time in my life and am hopeful about going full-time over the summer, if things continue to progress. I'm sure experiences vary, but the forties are clearly not too late for significant physical and mental feminization.

I have young children who do not yet know the whole story, but who have responded well to the changes so far.

Best,

Jane

I am 43 and I have been on hrt for a little over three months. No great changes, yet except for no more oily skin, regrowth of scalp hair, tiny breasts which poke thru clothes and are hard to hide. Wife goes up and down with this: one moment she hates it,  one moment she is OK with it. She says she misses my rugged facial features and my body and facial hair. She says I used to be handsome and now I have a soft, round feminine face. The loss of hair through laser and electrolysis really makes the difference, I think.

I am not as emotional as others describe themselves but I am way more scattered brained than usual, which my wife attributes to hormones.

My children are little, wonderful and happy.:-)


My hips are definitely wider and people say I am totally different than 6 months ago. On the phone they always think I am a woman which means I am maybe acting differently without noticing

Good luck,
Andrea

Great idea for a thread:).  I'm 49 so I barely make the thread lol, and just starting the process.  1st electrolysis this week, see the endo for the 1st time the end of Jan.  Hopefully starting HRT by Feb.  While I regret not starting the process much earlier in life, my responsibilities are fewer now.  Divorced for several years, kid is grown and on his own, 1st career is finished (retired) preparing for the next one.  Only a couple close people know I'm transitioning (GFriend & Dad both supportive) and the biggest challenge at the moment is dropping the weight/muscle.

I started at 41. I beat my self up every day that I didn't start the day after I turned 18 though! 

@DaniStarr

Judging from your avatar you have had pretty amazing results. :-) What is your secret? :-)

But I know what you mean: I am a late starter myself and I wish I could turn back the clock to my teenage Yeats so that I could start back then...

Love,
Andrea

I turned 41 in July 2012 and started HRT 2 weeks later. I am very pleased with my progress so for. A full B cup breast and no sign of them slowing down because they are so sore I just about cant stand it. And I have a butt now. I'm not full time yet but recently I have been getting ma'am'd just about all the time no matter how I'm dressed. My wife said it's because my face looks more female than male now. 

Quote from: NotThereYet on January 02, 2013, 01:17:19 PM
@DaniStarr

Judging from your avatar you have had pretty amazing results. :-) What is your secret? :-)

But I know what you mean: I am a late starter myself and I wish I could turn back the clock to my teenage Yeats so that I could start back then...

Love,
Andrea

Sorry, thats not me in my avatar. Its Victoria from Twilight. I should put a disclaimer in there

Well im 44 in April. Been on HRT for a month now. I noticed a rapid reduction in body hair growth almost straight away although that which is growing is still male hair...not fine vellus type hair.
Just this week ive noticed major sensitivity behind my nipples so hetes hoping that something is going on there!

Now i need to crack the diet and exercise and do away with this old Rugby player type physique lol!

I hope no one minds a 50+ joining in. I started HRT 5 weeks ago at age 56, am already feeling a lot of sensitivity in the breasts. Last week I had a couple of instances where I started crying and couldn't stop, so I guess the E is working  . Also started electrolysis two months ago.

Z

49.  There's never a "good time" IMHO after you've gotten married if you're still married.

I have had a ton of conflicts.  I was working for a company for a looooong time who finally added gender identity to their EEOC statement last year as I was finally going through therapy, starting HRT and transition.  But, even as they added that to their benefits, the work environment became so bad (overall...not just for me), I was forced to leave and go to another company who does NOT have those protections in place.  This has caused me to suspend HRT until I establish myself there better and get a better feeling for their policies.

Again, it's never easy but if you are determined to do it, you will find your way through the maze.  Many of us have gone/going through the same/similar thing...you will find plenty of people here to support and lean on.   

Quote from: Zythyra on January 05, 2013, 06:12:42 PM
I hope no one minds a 50+ joining in. I started HRT 5 weeks ago at age 56, am already feeling a lot of sensitivity in the breasts. Last week I had a couple of instances where I started crying and couldn't stop, so I guess the E is working  . Also started electrolysis two months ago.

Z

You know, it's weird.  My thought process has definitely started changing...I find myself wanting to handle some situations completely different than before....but, I have not had the emotional crying attacks.  I am concerned for myself, as I have been finding it very hard to completely let myself go and cry...real crying...in the past year.  I was actually more prone to cry BEFORE last year.  Weird.   

I will be starting when I am 41, so I will let you know how it goes (I turn 41 April)

I'm 42 and really excited about the future.  I can see and feel results, but the road will be long. That's ok.

Good luck to you.

I started HRT in May 2012 and turned 48 in August.  I was on a stating dose for 2 months and then increased the doseage in July.  My bloodwork hs been good and the only problem was slightly low soium at my last doctor's visit that caued me to reduce my spiro a litle bit.  I am on patches for E. I go into more details on all my effects in my blog.

I sarted taking spiro back in March 2012 and had lowered anxiety almost right away.  When we added estrogen my long term depression went away quickly.  Breast growth started right away for me but has been slow and steady and I am now a 36 A.  My butt and hips have gotten bigger and my face has definately become softer and more feminine as has my skin.  The only negative has been weight gain in the last few months and I need to get wih it as far as diet and excesise. HRT has lowered my metabolism and I need to start eating like a fit female.

I went full time on December 21, 2012, 5 days after my wife left me due to my transition.   I had a few emotional incidents with crying before then but her leaving has sent me into a month long tear jerker, I am just starting to come out of it now. 

I have a lot of electrolysis left to go and being full time and having to grow out facial hair sucks.  Take care of this before transition if you have a chance.

Of course I wish I knew I coud do this 30 years ago but I had come to a place in my life where this was not really a choice but I have no regrets and this is the best decision I have ever made.