I can't begin transitioning. Four months ago, shortly after my birthday I told my mom that I wanted to be a girl, but only because I got her to force this "secret" out of me. I can't tell her again or anyone else because I am too scared to tell anybody (I was shaking and my heart was beating really fast when I told her). She has no understanding of what being trans is and said she will not let me begin transitioning. She said she would find a therapist for me but never did. I have been wanting to tell a few classmates, my guidance counselor and my school's GSA since the school year began, but have also been scared to tell them, but not as much.

There really isn't any other way, than to find the strength and courage to tell somebody how you feel. Your mom actually from your short message sounds quite nice, in that she was willing to ask what is "wrong" with you and was willing to find a therapist for you. I would discuss the matter again and ask that she would find a therapist, which is specialized to gender issues. Discuss the matter in a calm way and explain how you feel. She might not understand immediately, but I do think it will at least give something to think about for her.

I can't really comment the school counselors or GSA as I have no experiences from those, living in a different country. But I do wish you luck and above all, courage to be who you are and find somebody to talk to in person.

Hi and welcome to the site.

Just a suggestion, talk to your family Dr and ask for a referral to a gender therapist.

If you wish, and it may help your Mum as well, download the WPATH documents for the SOC for people with gender identity disorders. You can Google WPATH and get to that information. You may want to give a copy to your Dr as well and ask for medication to block androgens to prevent you from having the masculisation effects of puberty. They are reversible but will delay 'male' changes until you and your medical team have decided how to proceed.

This is also a recommendation in the WPATH care standards.

Hugs and Welcome

Cindy

What Cindy said.

Welcome to the fora! Congrats on coming out. It does get easier over time. In some cases coming out to loved ones is not a momentary event but actually takes place over weeks, months or even years. You will see that over time they will come to accept the real you more and more and remember that you are still their child, just now brave to be herself.

Good luck!

I dig where you're coming from.

But, no matter what, you can transition! It may take a while for things to come into focus and fall into place; for the means and opportunity to come to be...

But it *can* happen. And if you need it, it will happen.