I'm not really angry right now. I just want to get this out and this seems to be the best place.
My therapist recommended that I try to make friends with people with the same interests. (Disclaimer: these are just people I've met. Although some groups of people make me wary, I am aware that I shouldn't judge people I haven't met.)
Which reminded me of goths. I like goth clothes, I like some of their music, I really like Creature Feature and the Addams Family amuses me. I dislike most of the goths I've met. Even before the crap hit the fan, their attitudes were... not the best. They spent half their time complaining about how other people treated them so badly for being different. (This is despite the fact that they dressed like all their friends and I rarely saw anyone treating them badly. Personally, I only experienced one person asking if I was a devil worshipper and one person who told me it wasn't halloween and the latter was a goth.) They spent the rest of their time treating everyone who wasn't like them like crap. Hypocrisy much? They didn't treat each other very well either. There was some talking about people behind their backs which made me uncomfortable. It also turned out that they were pretty darn sexist towards women (even and maybe especially the women) in a "women belong in the bedroom" way. It's almost not surprising that both people who raped me were goths. It was after the second guy that I found that, when some people say they hate rapists, what they really mean is they hate the person their friend raped. While I acknowledge that not all goths are like that or aren't as bad at least, I'm still wary.
I like metal. Not the same metal as other metalheads I've met. The ones ones I've met tend to look down on me for that. I look down on them for arguing about things like sub genres and who's a "real" metalhead instead of just enjoying the music. The anti-christian sentiment that is common is metal makes me uncomfortable. I'm not Christian, but... I don't know. Maybe it's a knee jerk reaction to hanging around people who cheered the burning of cathedrals (cathedrals are beautiful, dick head) and wore shirts with a picture of a masturbating nun and the words "Jesus is a c---" (except spelled out). It annoyed me that the people I knew claimed to like Norse mythology, but they had clearly never read any myths or even bothered to google them apparently. The metalheads I knew were racist and anti-semites as well. Oh joy.
Yeah, I'd like to meet other people who like metal that aren't like the people I've met, but I'd also like to meet metal heads who listen to the same metal as me. I've only met one other person who listens to medieval metal, but his recent swearing and insults towards me were the last I took from him.
I like faeries. I like fairy tales and folk tales. I have trouble not being frustrated while talking to other self proclaimed faery fans. Why? Because most of the ones I've talked to have never cracked open these things called books and actually read some folk tales. When we talk about them, we're talking about very different things. So I get frustrated because I really don't like the softened and disneyfied versions of fairies. They get frustrated because they don't like the darker and wilder faeries. We both get frustrated because they don't consider trolls faeries, don't know what a phooka is, etc. I get frustrated when they try to use wikipedia to say that my view is wrong. Yes, wikipedia vs actual folklore. Frustration all around.
On top of that, I get frustrated that when I say I like faeries, people tend to think I mean the nicer, modern versions. I don't. Or when they think liking unicorns means I won't be uncomfortable if they treat me like I'm effeminate. I have some effeminate traits. It rubs me the wrong way when people treat me like it.
I think I've digressed. I'm not even sure why I'm ranting. "Make friends with people with the same interests as you" seems like very unhelpful advice though. It's a little more complicated.
