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Ladies, my heart bleeds tonight.
Jeanie and I are still together, so that is not the reason. I'm still getting my book published. Calm down, I'll tell you. Now that that is cleared up, here it is. I was flipping through channels the other night, or Jeanie was, I don't remember now, but she or I stopped on the MTV station, and I heard them mention something about a transgender women. Now, I want to be quite clear that in my book transgender and transsexual are two different variations. If you need me to expound, I'll spell it out for you.
Needless to say I was intrigued and this guy was going to meet her for the first time, which was the trailer they played for the show. I don't know whether any of you have seen or watched Catfish (there's a movie and a TV show), but that's what this was. Since I'm trying to fix other things, I recorded it so I could watch it later with Jeanie when I got off work. It started off with the guy knew up front that she was TG using her real pictures and she was "dating" this guy online for four years. She was in the hospital the first year with cancer so they couldn't really meet. He lived Mississipi and she lived in Atlanta, when she got out of the hospital, she was supposedly just looking for a gay boyfriend I guess on a gay website. During this time, the guy she was talking to, was using his cousin's photos and using his name the entire time.
That's not even the worst of it. He was searching himself to come to terms with the fact that his alleged girlfriend was transgender, the guys that run the tv show knew it, and he finally during a friendly basketball game told his friend of her status. His friend had no idea what transgender meant, but if that was what his friend wanted, then he was happy for him. Still, worse, they finally meet, after he and the boys running the show search the internet and find out from another website that she has an eleven year old daughter she didn't tell him about. She told him in a previous phone conversation that she was her niece.
Don't get me wrong, I'm all for protecting your kids especially with people online, but when he was having it rough, she supported him financially even though they had never met in person. That says a lot about how a person cares for another. Anyway, he tells her about his photos and his name and she completely blows up on him, and as the show progresses, the feeling inside keeps eating away at me there's no way that she's TG, because her actions definitely mimicked those of every black girl I've ever had the pleasure I've grown up with.
I kept my mouth shut in the hopes I was wrong. However, after she had calmed down a bit, because if she was really TG, she would completely understand why a person hides who they really are, (and I feel we hide so much deeper than everyone else for fear of so much hatred and rejection from everyone else, even inside the 'community'), she returned to talk to him. That was when she dropped the bombshell on him that she was NOT TG, and that she had been a lesbian for the last 15 years, and now she wanted to try out a relationship with a man. She wasn't expecting to fall in love with him at all. Surprisingly to the showrunners, he was disappointed that his girl was in actuality a non-TG woman. I think they were both in the wrong here and a relationship should not be founded on lies.
I think he was a sweetheart to look past the fact that she was TG in the first place and still attempt to have a 'normal' relationship with her. She felt he was more in the wrong because she didn't know him because he wasn't honest about his name and his photos. Sadly, she was infinitely in the wrong and here's why. You ALL know me and the HELL I went through trying to be an out and proud Transsexual lesbian at Wal-mart. I thought if I was honest and open about it, people wouldn't be so afraid to accept me for who I am. I love everyone who supports me, and there just are no words to convey how much I do. I really wish I had better terms to describe this, but when girls like us identify also as bi, lesbian, or straight it sets up a whole new set of ground rules when it comes to dating.
It's been very common as most of you know, that guys get completely freaked out about it enough that they won't hesitate to think twice before bashing our skull in or slitting our throat. And this saddens a lot of TS ladies that are only into men because of this fear. It's a common dilemma of whether or not to tell a potential mate to see if they have an objection to it. Just like everyone else, we are our own little creatures with our own set of sad little feelings. For some of us, we don't give a crap what anyone else thinks of us, and for others we will go to the grave one way or the other in hiding because of such hatred and rejection.
It irks me as a TS woman, that this bitch would use such a ploy to connect with a man, just so she could have someone call her phone after she got out of the hospital. It's obvious to me that she's one of those people that thinks TG/TS people are nothing but a joke and she can utilize that to her advantage whenever she pleases. I completely understand exploring your gender and sexuality(those are 2 different things for those of you that don't major in Psychology), but doing something like this is what gets girls/guys like me killed. I find it intrusive, offensive, and a whole slew of other words I can't even type. For once, I was hoping, just once, I could see, a story, even if it was fake where someone TG/TS wasn't raped, murdered, or played by someone that isn't TG/TS; that could have a happy ending. She even screwed it up even worse when she dropped the bombshell on him when she said she wasn't a TG male.
It's a good thing my meds help with my blood pressure because my girl's parents might have been minus a TV tonight. The bitch had it backwards. She would have been a TG female, if she had been a TG male, she would be calling herself HE, not the other way around. If you're going to lie about it, in the famous words of Ru Paul--DON'T SCREW IT UP!! I'm sorry ladies for this being so long, but you all have been my guiding lights throughout my journey, most of you since high school. I'm going to try to go to bed now and not break anything. Good night/morning--whatever! Thanks for listening. ;/
My friends say that I should write the show and complain that they aired something like this. I need definite opinions from the trans community specifically to see if I or we should pursue this. I feel this woman treated our status as a joke.
